First let me say this is very long but I think 9/ 10 of the
males of Funnyjunk will benefit from reading it all,
opening their mind and being true to their self. Ask
yourself before you automatically disagree if this might
actually apply to you. It doesn' t make you a bad person
and it' s not your fault. We are instinctively meant to be
Leaders, Alpha Males, Warriors, and Hunters but the
society we are brought up in today teaches us that
being sexual is bad and Disney loves to show us, when
we' re young, how the girl always falls for the "nice",
shy guy. This DOES happen and nothing below applies
100% of the time, but you should be well aware by now
that the attractive girls almost never go for the "nice"
guy, and here' s why:
Stop lying to yourself. Are you "nice" or do you Just not
have enough confidence to tell the girl what you really
want. Do you define "nice" as having no values and
compromising your goals to please others for no reason
other than low self esteem and a desperate outreach
for love, friendship, and acceptance? It' s time to take
charge of your goals and passions in life. You are a train
traveling towards those goals and any women you' re
interested in is welcome to come along for the ride but
they will never knock you off course.
Nice guys" and "Jerks" have one thing in common:
They both believe that women are only tricked into
having sex. The "jerk" does the tricking and the "nice"
guy deliberately avoids sex to prove that they are "nice"
and then proceed to do a bunch of favors for the girl
until she wants to have sex with the "nice" guy.
It' s dishonest and frankly so many nice guys expect that
a girl will fall for them after they drive them around and
buy them stuff. Basically it' s like they see women as
Subconsciously they want the same thing as the "jerk"
yet they rationalize their low self esteem and insecurity
about sex with the term "Nice Guy".
Jerks get laid because they' re confident and assertive.
Nice guys do not because they are not masculine. They
let themselves be walked all over and it demonstrates
to the girl that they will take anyones' shit. How are you
supposed to protect her if you can' t even stand up to her
Another thing to remember is girls like sex Just as much
as men. Sex and wanting sex is not a bad thing. It' s
human nature. The bad thing is thinking of sex as a
reward or ulterior motive. If you start acting a little
selfish, and a lot more assertive, polite and confident,
you' ll be surprised by how much better women respond
Start carrying yourself proudly, like you' re a
leader, and people look up to you. Stand up for what
YOU want to do and try to take the lead in social
in social situations. Validate yourself, don' t let your
esteem be driven by some outside source like a friend
or girlfriend. If you think it' s funny, say it. If you think
it' s fun, do it. You know that voice in your head that
always says "I wish I would have done that!" "I wish
I would have said that!" That' s your conscience/ ego
talking and he wants to come out. Start letting him
out and listening to him. He will get you into
trouble, no doubt, but he will make you better for
If you ask women about this they' ll tell you they want
the nice guy and they' re right. The thing they don' t
tell you is that that' s what they want once they are
ALREADY IN the relationship. They won' t tell you what
INITIALLY ATTRACTS them, which is why Jerks get into
relationships, and they usually don' t last.
If you ask them about all of the stuffy said you' ll be
surprised to hear how much they agree.