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fit .,.-.,--a'' -2,' i Today, three months before our wedding, my Fiance left me. ()
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I' d say I' m shocked, but I' m really not shocked at all, Ijust don' t know where to go or how to proceed with my life.
We Figured out very quickly into it that we had differing opinions on religion. We figured out that if we were going to
make it work, it would take both of us being truly committed to one another and maintaining open lines of
communication. But in the end, that' s exactly how and why it all fell apart.
She was raised Southern Baptist in Texas, grant you it is Austin, arguably the Berkeley of Texas, but Southern Baptist
none the less. I have, however, through the course of our relationship come to realize that I am not religious at all. I
wouldn' t call myselfe straight up Atheist, more of a Humanist, not thati know enough ofa difference between it all to
really try and label it. There are many more factors that play in to our relationship, understandably, but this difference
in particular became, this morning, the straw that broke the camels back.
Ijust don' t understand how someone can go through 4 years of their life pretending to feel this connection, to share
their most intimate thoughts, Fears, and desires with them, only to turn around and say that it can' t work because of
our difference in religion, This topic has been particularly on my mind as we recently thought she was pregnant. Well,
two separate tests, the second nearly 3 weeks after her initial missed cycle, came back negative, but the
conversations and planning about parenthood continued. This is where it really got ugly. She told me, outright told
me, that she was taking our kid/ s to church. Not a church, not every church, but her church. I tried reasoning with
her - okay, so long as you expose them equally to all religions so they have the most inclusive view before they make
up their own mind. She said she is too biased and that she wants her kids to go to the same type of church she grew
up in - so that option was out. I told her that she could take them, but that she should not ever make them go. That
too was unacceptable.
Ijust can' t wrap my head around how someone can be so completely oblivious to the source of their own pain, so
much so as to be beyond convinced that it is the only way to raise a child, to put them through the same trials and
corruptions that she experienced, and to give up on an otherwise loving and caring long term relationship.
I have no more words. Only the pain fam left to push through as I begin my life anew.
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