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User avatar #32025 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
So guys, story time.
I broke up with my girlfriend of 21 months today.
Were both quite upset, and I still love her, but I couldn't put up with her anymore.
Basically, I'm friends with a girl I was really close with for the last two years of high school, we never went out/dated or anything, but I wanted to. Stood no chance so was happy being friends though.
Fast forward to now ex-gf. She hates this girl with a passion from day one. Friend goes to Uni, all is good.
She came back a few weeks ago, I start speaking to her more than I did while she was away, girlfriend hates it. For the last month we've had a lot more arguments than normal, and every time she's blamed me speaking to this girl she hates.
The other day she started smoking again even though she's trying to quit, her reason? Because I was speaking to this girl she hates. Yesterday she walked past where she works and one of my ex's mates actually started giving her shit at work. Only saying "What the fuck are you looking at?" but it was bang out of order IMO.

Just to add as well, she flips shit about this girl speaking to me, but I make no problems about her speaking to any other male friends or ex's. At first I stopped her being a dick for a week with that reasoning but then she got worse. Since then she's stayed at a male friends house as well but I've made no complaints.

But anyway, after a month of being blamed for arguments that are not my fault I broke up with her today.
I feel pretty shitty about it, and I think it was the best thing to do, but thought I'd ask.
Do you think it was? I mean it was a nearly 2 year long relationship, but after the last month I've slowly began to resent her, don't think I could put up with it for much longer.

Sorry for the wall of text, just need someone to speak to, I made a joke of it earlier with two mates but I've got nobody I can properly speak to about it available, so ranting seemed the best option.
#32152 to #32025 - anon (07/20/2012) [-]
dude she was 21 months
how could you
#32182 to #32152 - ilieksheep (07/20/2012) [-]
Well played anon, well played :L
Well played anon, well played :L
User avatar #32031 to #32025 - torkildsen (07/19/2012) [-]
You did the right thing. She acted way too overprotective and just seems like an extremely jealous person. I'm not an expert on this at all, but I think you'll be better off without her.
User avatar #32034 to #32031 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
I could understand her being jealous if I'd ever cheated but I never did. She was way to protective and controlling overall, I love her but I'm glad I ended it, even if I will miss her.
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User avatar #32029 to #32028 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
To have a chance with the other girl? Are you having a fucking laugh?
I've got no intention of trying anything with my mate, its just that, my issue with it was that my girlfriend was essentially saying, stop speaking to her or we're gonna keep arguing.
And I'm not about to break off contact with a girl I was great friends with for a girl who's a jealous psycho.

At one point last year she actually started having a hissyfit because a mate I'd not seen in 6 months asked me to go for a drink with him, and when I mentioned it to her she went nuts cause she didn't like him. She also stopped me speaking to several friends from school she didn't like, I wasn't about to let her cut one of my best friends out as well.

You might think I'm an idiot and fair enough I did ask, but I know I've done whats best for me at the moment. I'm only 19 anyway, she was my first girlfriend, it was either gonna go great or shit and its gone shit.
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User avatar #32032 to #32030 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
There was me getting ready to add a big rant to me last comment then as well.... :L

I really do love her, spent the last few hours crying in all honesty, but its just for how she's acting she's become insufferable.
It isn't even as if she has anything to worry about either cause I have no intentions of doing anything with my friend and she doesn't have any plans on it either, its just unfounded jealousy/paranoia.

On top of that, its not even that she's just being jealous, she's a bit controlling in all honesty but because she was my first girlfriend I was to naive to see it. She stopped me seeing a lot of my mates within the first 6 months of us being together and had a fit when I said I was gonna go out for a drink with a mate I'd not seen in a while.

Plus for the first three months of our relationship she would give me a drunk phone call every other weekend, but then at a mates 18th when I got drunk and she didn't like it, she told me she'd ignore me for a week if I ever got drunk and called her at all.

Looking back now I realise she was stupidly controlling, but at the time I couldn't see it.
User avatar #32035 to #32032 - eldeeko (07/19/2012) [-]
Yeah that doesn't seem like a nice relationship to be in at all, Just seemed to me that she was very scared about you leaving her, which is why she didn't want you going on nights out etc (so you wouldn't meet new girls and cheat on her).

But it's all about what makes you happy man, if it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't meant to be, just don't rush into a full on relationship when you meet a girl next time, take your time and see how things work out man :)

You're not welsh by any chance are you?
User avatar #32038 to #32035 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
To be fair it was nice with her a lot of the time, just when she decided to be a cunt she was a right cunt. Overall it was good, just when she picked up on something she didn't like then that was it, WW3 was a go.

I am welsh indeed, name should have give it away :P
User avatar #32040 to #32038 - eldeeko (07/19/2012) [-]
Ahh well man, it's over now, don't worry about it, just make sure you explain to her what's going on, why you left her etc etc.

Also just a random question, you did have sex right? cause that could be an epic factor haha.

Shweet, me too, Newport?
User avatar #32043 to #32040 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
We did have sex, baha, first time for us both.

Also holy fuck, I've talked to a few people from Cardiff on here but nobody from Newport.
Whereabouts in Newport you from exactly?
User avatar #32044 to #32043 - eldeeko (07/19/2012) [-]
lols same here.

lol what down Risca way, but i spend most of my time in the port bludd.

lmfao you man?
User avatar #32045 to #32044 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
Fair enough, Ringland for me :L just finished school and trying to get a job at the moment, so far it isn't going well.
User avatar #32046 to #32045 - eldeeko (07/19/2012) [-]
lol what da fok did you go to hartridge?

Also i know ringland pretty well, somerton, beechwood etc etc.

Whats your name man? I probarbly bloody know you haha
User avatar #32048 to #32046 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
Yeah I went to Hartridge :L Just finished 6th form about 2 weeks or so ago.
Baha I might know you, dunno though cause I don't get out much :L
I'm Josh Poole? sound familiar at all?
User avatar #32050 to #32048 - eldeeko (07/19/2012) [-]
lol added you on fb man.

You know my GF's friends bro.

Go to meze much?
User avatar #32051 to #32050 - ilieksheep (07/19/2012) [-]
Jesus christ you found me quick O.o
Anyone specific? I don't get out much so I don't know to many people really :L

I've only been once in all honesty, for my now ex's birthday when she turned 18, was fun and I'd go again but I've only got about £80 and thats got to last me until I can get a job :/
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