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User avatar #7 - italianrambo (10/08/2013) [-]
Not to be "that guy" who pretending to be deep and thoughtful towards your problem, but in all honesty the phrase: "if you truly love something, you must be able to let it go".

But that aside, I do have to say if she just wants to be friends you do need to respect that. I mean there's really nothing you can do. She gave in after four years to date you, and it didn't do it for her, so she wants to go back to a friendship. I guess from her eyes you two made perfect friends, but not a perfect relationship as you saw it. Maybe the only reason you saw it like that is because you have the same view as her on the friendship, but because you started dating you assumed it was the relationship that was perfect. But don't worry, she still wants to associate with you, so it's not you didn't lose (what i suspect to be) one of your closest friends.

I personally haven't been in this kind of situation, but there's been a few girls I wanted to date that didn't see me that way, and I've had friends go through what you're going through. And despite not dating that girl, they've maintained great friendships.

Truth be told, you'll find that girl that gives you butterflies and you just feel a spark whenever you two hold hands. You'll talk for hours and it'll flow naturally. Nothing will be forced. We all hit hard times in relationships, with and without them. But the only thing we can do is pick up and move on.

Good luck Kyogre, and don't let this ruin your dating life, and don't compare other girls to your friend, cause that's just rude to other girls.
User avatar #8 to #7 - Kyogre (10/08/2013) [-]
Wow, thankyou. That makes alot of sense. Reading this actually made me tear up, it's amazing to see people actually help eachother over the internet without ever meeting in person. You really have no idea how much this helped put things in perspective. Thankyou italianrambo, I'll remember you.
User avatar #9 to #8 - italianrambo (10/08/2013) [-]
People hit hard times. You're not doing what most people on this site do and just bitch and moan about it and say you're the greatest guy and she should **** you because youre such a gentleman.

You're just genuinely sad and wanted some advice. So you deserved some friendly attention.

Godspeed good sir
User avatar #10 to #9 - Kyogre (10/08/2013) [-]
Finally. Someone who isn't a total cunt to me on this matter. Thankyou once again, and may Arceus watch over you.
User avatar #11 to #10 - italianrambo (10/08/2013) [-]
The term friendzone usually makes people instantly be a dick because of all the **** going around about it not existing. Its just a term for anyone not being laid by someone. My male roommate is in my friendzone because we're not gay and we both have girlfriends. Same with every single friend of mine who isn't my girlfriend.

But because the idea of that has been bastardized into fedora wearing fatasses who open doors for shallow cunts and say nice things and expect every girl to start worshiping his cock and begging for him to **** them, using it in a contextual way of purely saying "not gonna get laid" is almost taboo at this point.
User avatar #12 to #11 - Kyogre (10/08/2013) [-]
Noted. I most certainly am not fat, nor do I wear fedoras. I guess that would make me just dumped, not in the friendzone. Which I guess is not as bad as it sounds.
User avatar #13 to #12 - italianrambo (10/08/2013) [-]
I would hardly call it dumped. More like demoted from boyfriend to friend. Because you didn't really lose much in the transaction. You two are still going to talk and be friendly and confide in each other
User avatar #14 to #13 - Kyogre (10/08/2013) [-]
You're right. All I lost was intimacy. She's not out of my life completely, far from. You have great advice, you know that?
User avatar #15 to #14 - italianrambo (10/08/2013) [-]
I try when I can to help out, doesn't always last though. But seeing as you don't have a mental illness you should be fine
User avatar #16 to #15 - Kyogre (10/08/2013) [-]
Thankyou once again
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