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haw many "" guys times it take be change a light bulb? New
they' ll just it and get pissed when it rtyn' t screw.
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User avatar #28 - kousei ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
Honestly, I'm getting real tired of both sides of this **** .

"Friend-Zoners": If you don't want to date this guy then don't ask him to hold your emotional baggage, it's unfair. Also, a note, that lame excuse "I don't want to risk our friendship" is ******** ! The friendship is now out the window, don't bother trying to put it nicely, you're crushing his dreams already just tell him the truth.

"Friend-zoned": No amount of pissing and moaning will fix this, it's ****** . Now, you have 2 options. Either turn yourself into a god damned door mat hoping she realizes how great you are, or stop hanging out with her. I have been there before, truly speaking from the friend zone, twice. I have tested both of these and you know what, walking away felt a hell of a lot better. However, which ever path you choose don't go bitching about it, it happened, it's done, sure say you got friend zoned but don't make that the only thing.

Both: Guess what, your relationship is now on its head, it will never be the same, it will change. Know what you should do? Control the change, decide how it does, both of you have the power but know one thing, it can't go back.

TLR
****** ****** , no point bitching, do something about it.
User avatar #54 to #28 - roflsaucer (07/16/2013) [-]
The only way out of the friend-zone is to cut all ties for awhile, depending on the person that could be anywhere from a couple weeks to a couple months. The whole "You don't know what you've got til it's gone." type deal. Only works though if the issue was with getting your message across, not your actual personality.
User avatar #60 to #54 - kousei ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
Maybe, Maybe not. Honestly i would not suggest that mental approach to it, I've tried.

Unfortunately there are a couple large flaws in "I'm gonna stop talking to her/him (yes, girls can be friend-zoned too) until they realize how much they miss/care-for me."

A) How does one alienate themselves from a single friend. Yes I grant if she/he isn't friends with the rest of your core group it is pretty easy, but more times than not they are rather integrated into your group so when you start avoiding them (switching to neutrals) eyebrows will raise and you'll have to tell everyone boiling down to the picking of sides and true crumbling of the friendship.

B) Impatience. That simple, but in case this is not as obvious as I believe it is I shall say what i mean by this. We are human, we are impatient, and we live in a society of immediate gratification. This impatience has multiple possible effects but most likely is self torture. Even that aside one may find themselves unable to wait till the object of affection comes to them, thus spoiling it.

This is not to say the action is bad but more to act as a cautionary tale, never attempt to manipulate. Instead act in a manner that best protects you from the pain and damn what the other one feels, I mean it, any marriage counselor worth their wage would tell you not to put yourself through hell over a romantic interest, it spoils it.

TL DR
be careful what mindset you take when you choose your response to the "friend zone"
User avatar #61 to #60 - roflsaucer (07/16/2013) [-]
Well, essentially what I was talking about is getting rid of the label as "friend". In other words, detaching yourself from the original friendship and starting over. Sure, this isn't foolproof and has a number of flaws, but it can work if done properly.

In the end, the only way to NOT be in the friend-zone, is to not be a friend. Now, that isn't to say you stop talking to the person, simply stop talking to them with any type of interest. Of course, people may ask questions, but if you're honest and say "I asked them out and got rejected.", most would understand not talking at the same level anymore.

With the friend zone, as well as any matter of relationships, it all boils down to playing your cards right.
User avatar #63 to #61 - kousei ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
you raise a grand point, and I can't say you're wrong. The only issue i have is in the attitude, please take no offense to this I easily grant improper wording and all that...

But still, when you use the phrase "play your cards right" it makes me cringe. Not because I don't think there isn't any technique in associating with a romantic partner, but instead because it makes it sound more like you are manipulating them, know what I mean? I'd prefer a saying closer to "Roll the dice right" you try to put technique into something that is purely chance.
User avatar #65 to #63 - roflsaucer (07/16/2013) [-]
I guess it can sound like you're manipulating them, but what I mean is do the right thing to get into a relationship with them. I wouldn't really consider it manipulating unless you're telling lies and half-truths.

In other words, I just mean doing the right thing to get your feelings across. In the case of simply not being their friend anymore to get a new start, this would be distancing yourself from them, maintaining closeness with the rest of your friends, and then successfully starting new with the person you want to go out with. It would be "Playing your cards right.", but you aren't manipulating them.
User avatar #66 to #65 - kousei ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
I suppose this just boils down to perspective then, none-the-less you sir have raised a fair point that i am not sure i accurately touched on in my original post so good on ya.
#29 to #28 - bdawg ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
Someone speaks the truth.
Someone speaks the truth.
#32 - greenzeopoweranger **User deleted account** (07/16/2013) [-]
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#48 to #32 - Rascal (07/16/2013) [-]
aaaaaaaaaaand im sad
User avatar #55 to #48 - brokenhalf (07/16/2013) [-]
for once i agree with anon T~T
User avatar #40 - tittentei (07/16/2013) [-]
How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?

12.

One to screw it in,
one to excoriate men for creating the need for illumination,
one to blame men for inventing such a faulty means of illumination,
one to suggest the whole "screwing" bit to be too "rape-like",
one to deconstruct the lightbulb itself as being phallic,
one to blame men for not changing the bulb,
one to blame men for trying to change the bulb instead of letting a woman do it,
one to blame men for creating a society that discourages women from changing light bulbs,
one to blame men for creating a society where women change too many light bulbs,
one to advocate that lightbulb changers should have wage parity with electricians,
one to alert the media that women are now "out-lightbulbing" men,
and one to just sit there taking pictures for her blog for photo-evidence that men are unnecessary.
#45 to #40 - killerblue (07/16/2013) [-]
None because they can't change anything
#47 - TomHamilton ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
Alright guess I'll contribute as well. I'm a guy who's been friend zoned many many times, like it's not even funny. I see people saying that most just bitch and whine and hope they'll come around one day, and yeah I certainly hope some will start to like me too. But you know what I do in the mean time? I be her God damn friend. I do it with the hope she'll come around, but it's not the reason I do it. I do it because I obviously like this person as a person and care about them. What I'm gonna stop liking this person because she won't suck my dick? No! I'm not going to throw away a good friendship over something stupid. And really it's the best thing to do. If she starts liking you romantically fantastic, God speed my brother! If not, you still got a fantastic friend who's there for you, just like you're there for her. (Pic related it's my two cents)
#5 - powerfapping (07/15/2013) [-]
Guys who claim to be in the friendzone aren't mad because they don't get sex. They're mad because their affection isn't returned. They're frustrated because, despite treating their crush with decency, they don't get a return on their efforts, for whatever reason.
#23 to #5 - justthisonepost **User deleted account** (07/16/2013) [-]
You sound like you frequent the "friend-zone"
User avatar #38 to #5 - goodcheese (07/16/2013) [-]
Then they should find somebody else who will appreciate it instead of barking up the wrong tree.
#22 - rummler (07/16/2013) [-]
So this was in my news feed today
User avatar #44 to #22 - yetiyitties (07/16/2013) [-]
His joke wasn't that funny and it seemed like he made it on the spot because her status hit close to home lol. Way to come out defensive bud.
#46 to #22 - Rascal (07/16/2013) [-]
thats mean... yet funny i dont know how to feel about this
#6 - grandtheftkoala **User deleted account** (07/15/2013) [-]
How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?
That's not funny!
#71 to #6 - Rascal (07/16/2013) [-]
It doesn't matter, feminists never change anything.
User avatar #4 - Sockopolis (07/15/2013) [-]
Here's the bottom line, ''nice guys:"

Being nice isn't how you flirt. Im no love guru, but I can tell you that much.
#49 - infinitereaper ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
Women get friend-zoned all the time too, but no one talks about that.

I don't know if I'm guilty of it myself, but men are so ******* dense, we don't speak "subtle hint" or this "body language".

Seriously tired of seeing this **** on FJ, friendzoning happens and we all have to deal with it, but here it's just a " **** all" idiotic friendzoned men attitude on FJ.

It's just sad. This community is sad. You make me sad. Let's go burn down a post office.

User avatar #50 to #49 - areialview (07/16/2013) [-]
Which post office? I would join you if it was nearby
#53 to #49 - clockworkcharizard (07/16/2013) [-]
The reason why I don't complain is because I'm used to it. Granted, I always try to go on a date with said person, I don't care if I were their boyfriend or not. It doesn't matter whether they do or don't want a relationship like that, because if you like her that much, you can always hang out with her, and treat her like a good friend.
User avatar #39 - iliekcereal ONLINE (07/16/2013) [-]
I don't feel she has to date because I was nice to her.

I just really wish she would.
#24 - Rascal (07/16/2013) [-]
The worst part is now you can't genuinely be nice to a girl without her thinking you just want sex
#31 - jinapayne (07/16/2013) [-]
Am I the only one who thinks the Friendzone is a myth? No, literally a myth. I mean I've never hear of someone who actually was put in the friendzone legitimately. Everyone always talks about it but I dont know anyone that has been put into it
And also Id be lucky if I even got into this "friendzone". Im not friends with any girls
#34 to #31 - dontknowmeatall (07/16/2013) [-]
You don't go out much, do you?

And I don't mean dating, I mean leaving your bedroom...
#35 to #34 - jinapayne (07/16/2013) [-]
I dont see why I got thumbed down
But yeah, you're pretty much right :|
#36 to #35 - dontknowmeatall (07/16/2013) [-]
Well... I wasn't expecting an answer... especially not that one...
Friendzone, like most things, used to be unknown until the arrival of the internet, when guys started to realise the same phenomenon was happening all around the world: A girl who claims her perfect man is almost your clone rejects you, but decides to keep you as a "friend", making you watch how she dates dicks and they used and she cries for that. also, she tries to obligate you to do for her everything a boyfriend should do (shopping, buying gifts, paying food, etc) but without any benefits (read SEX). If you say something, she'll find the way to make you feel guilty for "being a bad friend". If you start socializing more, you'll notice it has happened to almost every guy at least once, and even to some girls, possibly in some sort of revenge against the female gender. That's why everybody hates it, and why is such a popular topic.

BTW, you should start going out, it's healthy for your body and your mind.
#37 to #36 - jinapayne (07/16/2013) [-]
The majority of this site, and even the majority of 4chan doesnt leave, most dont admit it. And I have no car or money, so stuck
And also, I've been here long enough to know a WHOLE LOT of the friendzone and the debate. But to me it seems like people complain about it without actually happening it to them, but I kinda changed my mind on that. (I came up with that whole it's a myth theory just then really)
Also, the guys I've talked to throughout school either have girlfriends or dont talk to girls
And there are no girls I've actually truly liked or talk to enough to get friendzoned or even know that they friendzone other guys (Pathetic, I know right?)
I do think complaining about it is stupid, it sucks I bet, however complaining about girls always dating douchebags makes more sense, but I dont think girls ALWAYS date douchebags, sometimes they just seem to be a douchebag because its not how you expect a nice guy to be or how you expect for a perfect match to that girl to be
#70 - lolibear (07/16/2013) [-]
Okay, Firstly, to the guys in the comments saying that you should make your intentions known, to some of us that's just harder sometimes, and many of us genuinely try and fail. Secondly, all relationships have to be based on attraction, first and foremost. If you were "friend-zoned" then there are two possibilities. One, they don't find you attractive and don't know how to say it, or perhaps don't feel you match them well, even if they find you attractive. In this case, shut the **** up, move on, don't mope. two, they really don't want to lose you as a friend. This is rare and if it is true, the best thing to do is find some way to encourage them, or perhaps coax it, because they probably do want to go out with you and are just scared.... but this is so rare I would only consider it if you are absolutely sure this is the case. Finally I would like to mention that you should never obsess over someone. If you are interested in someone and it's not been going anywhere, consider those around you, maybe someone is hoping you would notice them.
#30 - abiku (07/16/2013) [-]
I've honestly never been able to understand how friend-zoning is considered a real thing. If a guy or girl makes their intentions clear, and the person evades/ignores it? they probably don't want it. I also find it hard to believe that many girls would reject a guy she likes even a teeny tiny bit, because its hard to reject people, feels 			******		 as hell, and people like feeling cared about. I wouldn't be surprised if most cheating f both parties is simply not knowing how to say 'no'. Most cases of 'friendzone' seem to be 'she/he has no 			*******		 clue'
I've honestly never been able to understand how friend-zoning is considered a real thing. If a guy or girl makes their intentions clear, and the person evades/ignores it? they probably don't want it. I also find it hard to believe that many girls would reject a guy she likes even a teeny tiny bit, because its hard to reject people, feels ****** as hell, and people like feeling cared about. I wouldn't be surprised if most cheating f both parties is simply not knowing how to say 'no'. Most cases of 'friendzone' seem to be 'she/he has no ******* clue'
User avatar #12 - ireallylikepotatoe (07/15/2013) [-]
actually the best joke ever is: If someone tells a joke and a white girl doesn't get offended, did the joke even happen?
#59 - howtostrokeabook (07/16/2013) [-]
i love stroking books
i love stroking books
User avatar #17 - citruslord ONLINE (07/15/2013) [-]
I can understand having unrequited feelings, but getting butt hurt because someone doesn't return feelings is really dumb. Not everyone will feel the same towards you as you do to them, get over it and move on.
#41 - ddylann (07/16/2013) [-]
holy **** ive seen this joke so many god damned times on this site
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