Introverts can relate. .. Huh, you know, this post is actually really accurate. Especially the things people say towards you for being introverted. Introverts can relate Huh you know this post is actually really accurate Especially the things people say towards for being introverted
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#1 - aesis
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Huh, you know, this post is actually really accurate.

Especially the things people say towards you for being introverted.
#182 to #1 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
My personality type is INFJ. Less that 1% of the population is like that. It makes me really happy when someone actually understands that I need a couple hours a day away from everything on earth to be in my own solitude.
#246 to #182 - rancidhyena
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Not sure why the red thumbs, but in case anybody's interested in these particular personality types: here's a small, simple group of questions.

Favorite world: Do you prefer to focus on the outer world or on your own inner world? This is called Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I).

Information: Do you prefer to focus on the basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? This is called Sensing (S) or Intuition (N).

Decisions: When making decisions, do you prefer to first look at logic and consistency or first look at the people and special circumstances? This is called Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).

Structure: In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).


Here's a link to a chart of them:
www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/

Famous people with these types: You need to login to view this link

Pic related, a chart of corresponding Avatar: The Last Airbender characters.
#351 to #246 - ifuhq
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(07/03/2013) [-]
Hmm. INTP. Thanks for the chart.
#261 to #246 - skaffanl
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Is it possible to be a mix? Because I am both INFP as ENFP. I am driven by values and I seek peace and I have a constant desire for a meaningful path (not just any path though). On the other hand I am a warm person who keeps friends close to the heart. Once my friend always my friend even if I haven't seen you for years. I also believe that life is for living but you can't fully live without a purpose of course (IMO).
#272 to #261 - rancidhyena
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I don't think so, but perhaps. If it comes down to the two, I'd just pick who I think I'm more like in the celebrities and characters. Perhaps a choice between saving 100 people or saving 1 person you love very dearly would be appropriate for that question?
#281 to #272 - skorchy ONLINE
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Anon here, logged in to post links.
www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
Here's a free test that is more in depth. Once you find your type, google it. Personally it helped me understand myself more.
#341 to #281 - skaffanl
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(06/30/2013) [-]
I did the test and I'm an INFP. I read all the stuff and it really makes sense. Thank you for posting the link, you did me a great favour.  Here, have this gif as a token of my gratitude.
I did the test and I'm an INFP. I read all the stuff and it really makes sense. Thank you for posting the link, you did me a great favour. Here, have this gif as a token of my gratitude.
#347 to #341 - skorchy ONLINE
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(07/01/2013) [-]
No problem man, glad I could help.
#349 to #341 - fuzzypickles
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(07/01/2013) [-]
im infp here too.
so true about me
#306 to #182 - lolibear
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I just took the mbti test, and apparently I am also INFJ.
#144 to #1 - kesolukt
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(06/29/2013) [-]
An extrovert can be socially awkward or have social anxiety too

Just putting that out there
#181 to #144 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
there, I saved you from your red thumbs
#5 - jakatackka
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(06/29/2013) [-]
As a socially awkward introvert, this touched me very deeply. I don't like socializing in large groups or with strangers - I've just created a social shell of sorts, an exterior personality that reflects a sliver of what's within, that goes through all the motions and rituals of socialization without getting anything from it.

Wow, I just realized how sad that sounds.

But it's true, and it's usually just fine. It becomes a problem, though, when I want to get to know someone better and have nothing more than my shallow external personality to show. There's plenty more to me, a lot more, but I don't know how to show it.

Honest admissions like these usually garner red thumbs, but oh well. I'll just post it and see if there are many like-minded people out there.
#71 to #5 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
i've got this quote from an episode of scrubs: "don't rush them with your insanity, give them a piece of it, let them grow comfortable around that piece and then add some more, until they know all of it and feel comfortable."

this is pretty much what i use to get to know people
#305 to #5 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I'm sorry, but I just had to point out how alike our writing styles are. It was rather distracting, to be honest, but it made me smile.
#126 to #5 - theghostrider
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(06/29/2013) [-]
It's okay, buddy. I understand you completely.
#66 to #5 - accolgate
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I personally like introverts.

2 of my friends are introverts... They're both quite hard to interact with because they rather stay home than go outside

They tend to be less loud and bombastic than others, and generally calm people to be around.
#18 to #5 - commontroll
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Here's my advice.

Don't care about society. At least not on this subject. When introverts aren't afraid of being introverted, the world will see that it's okay and healthy. Also, if you're "socially awkward" and you stop caring what others think, it actually can help make you super funny. Personal experience.
#12 to #5 - crashbandicunt
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Don't go assuming red thumbs, introvert buddy.
#2 - Pixelator
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I like how everyone always says, "Oh it's easy, just go up and talk to people."   
What they forgot to include is, "even though you have nothing interesting or relative to say and in some rare working try not to make them look at you like a zombie while trying to do so."   
   
I.....I think I'll not.
I like how everyone always says, "Oh it's easy, just go up and talk to people."
What they forgot to include is, "even though you have nothing interesting or relative to say and in some rare working try not to make them look at you like a zombie while trying to do so."

I.....I think I'll not.
#9 to #2 - srskate
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(06/29/2013) [-]
"It's easy to go up and talk to people...

that you know well and know many subjects that you can discuss."


You see, the quote just wasn't finished.
#17 to #9 - lolollo
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(06/29/2013) [-]
They always expect you to do it to strangers though. I'm always told to go up to random people and just spark conversation. HOW? Whenever I ask for a demonstration, they always walk up to someone they already know. You can't duplicate that for strangers. There needs to be an icebreaker, of which there is no unawkward combination of words in the english language to do that.
#124 to #17 - HeartOfTheDL
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(06/29/2013) [-]
It's not that hard to talk to a random stranger. It doesn't always work but you can just start saying "hi I'm <insert name>". From there pick a topic, movies, games, music, news etc. if it's a party and it is your friend ask them how they know your friend.
It's not easy but it's not impossible either. You just have to go with it. Though not sure how well it goes with picking up girls never tried too scared. I can do it when I don't find the girl attractive or talking to a random guy.
#331 to #124 - lolollo
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I know how to have a conversation. I even know how to start a conversation. The main problem is that "Hi, my name is..." is a pretty weak ice breaker. It begs several questions, like why you're talking to them, or why they should care. With a more tangible ice breaker, that isn't there. It's especially hard for trying to spark conversations with girls because their first thought is "this creep is just trying to hit on me!" Point is that dri nking games and other competition/cooperation based activities are much better for providing a more social setting, yet all I see anyone doing is sitting and talking, and they play it out like it's oh so easy to spark a random conversation wih a complete stranger and have it delve into some deep discussion.
#333 to #331 - HeartOfTheDL
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(06/30/2013) [-]
Well for me my intention is just making friends like there was a Melbourne youtube gathering and I went there with intentions to just network ended up making friends. It was the setting and the reason you went in the first place. If they ask just say you wanted to meet new people. Be earnest and they won't care.

Sometimes not knowing anyone forces you to just talk and try and meet people.
You may also be over thinking what people think. I just talk just cause I want to or I find them interesting or they said something interesting. Don't mind what others think.

If the girl thinks you are trying to hit on her let her think that. If you know your goal is just to make friends shrug it off and laugh. It is not a big deal if you don't make it one. If your intentions is to hook up then don't make it creepy clear but let her know you think she is attractive. If she's a total bitch then **** her and move on she isn't worth your time.

TL;DR If you know your own intensions and be earnest then people won't give a ****.
#336 to #333 - lolollo
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(06/30/2013) [-]
You're oversimplifying it. I'm not alking aout any one specific social situation, I'm talking about social situations in general, and what I'm saying is that you may be in tuned to that sort of thing, but not everyone is. It seems like the simplest thing in the world to you, but I garuntee there's someone out there, antisocial to hell, who can work miracles with something you absolutely cannot understand to save your life. I'm not saying I can't figure it out (in fact, I said the exact opposite), I'm saying this is what's going through our heads when you can't figure out what we're thinking.

If that's something that seems silly to you, well...then that's just lacking perspective.
#339 to #336 - HeartOfTheDL
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(06/30/2013) [-]
I don't find it silly. I am also antisocial, I may not be as antisocial as you and I never said it was easy. I've had years of practice, forced practice. I had to make friends over and over again due to the lifestyle I lived/live. I much prefer being at home and not talking to anyone. That or talking to my close friends. Talking to a random person is not the easiest thing in the world, I'm more comfortable with it because I've had practice.
I'm not perfect at it and I do just not talk at all even at a parties. I like watching and listening more then talking. If you want practice then join an activity or try youtube. You can build your confidence and get over the shyness. It may not be 100% effective but it is a start.
If you want to change then make it happen, if you are fine being the way you are then it's all good. Being antisocial is not bad and nor is being an introvert.
#61 to #17 - learned
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I'm somewhat insecure and so, and sometimes not the most social person. But I find talking to strangers much easier. I mean complete random strangers from the street, not a stranger that your buddy brings along.   
I usually start with &quot;hi&quot;, usually follow up with &quot;how you doing?&quot; and then ask about some related subject. If I'm abroad in another country or place, then I ask &quot; are you from around here?&quot; Then introduce myself abit, find out a little more about them. Good conversation topics are the things you seen or experienced lately, especially in the new place and ask their opinion about it also.   
Ohh, and I usually start talking to random women like that. They usually are more social and more talkative so therefore much easier to get a conversation going.   
To enlighten the mood you could offer to go get a drink or take a few drinks more for the extra courage. I know I did that at first.   
But with guys it's a different story.   
Alot realy depends in what kind of enviroment you are in and what situation you are in.
I'm somewhat insecure and so, and sometimes not the most social person. But I find talking to strangers much easier. I mean complete random strangers from the street, not a stranger that your buddy brings along.
I usually start with "hi", usually follow up with "how you doing?" and then ask about some related subject. If I'm abroad in another country or place, then I ask " are you from around here?" Then introduce myself abit, find out a little more about them. Good conversation topics are the things you seen or experienced lately, especially in the new place and ask their opinion about it also.
Ohh, and I usually start talking to random women like that. They usually are more social and more talkative so therefore much easier to get a conversation going.
To enlighten the mood you could offer to go get a drink or take a few drinks more for the extra courage. I know I did that at first.
But with guys it's a different story.
Alot realy depends in what kind of enviroment you are in and what situation you are in.
#201 to #9 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Then the problems arise when you don't know anybody well.
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#297 to #30 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
"You should drink more"
That's how i cured my shyness 4EVA
#11 - seveer
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I often used to wonder why I would feel so tired whenever I got home. The other day I think I figured it out.

I'm naturally an awkward introverted person, but I put up this facade for people in my daily life. I'm still "the quiet guy" but I manage to force myself to be personable so that people will like me. It's sad, but society is built for extroverts and there isn't a whole lot else that I can do about it.

This just takes so much unconscious effort, that I'm emotionally drained almost all the time. I also lash out more easily at my family because I'm not capable of putting up the act 24-7. I feel like the person that most people see me as is fake. He isn't even a real person, and yet I still wind up living as him.
#153 to #11 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
It's called society, man. No man is an island, and we can't survive alone.

So despite stupid things people say, WE have to deal with THEM. WE aren't part of their "world". We're just stuck in it.

Sucks.
#265 to #11 - zepi
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I don't think I even put up a facade, I just show to each set of people what they want to see of me; I end up having different behaviours to different sets of friends and family...and even if you mixed up or added up those different parts of myself, you wouldn't have me as a whole, cause there are still things I won't share with anybody.
I think that if I died my funeral would be the most awkward one, because each person would talk about a different me, that isn't actualy ...me.
#150 to #11 - ZakisBak
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Wow, you put me into words like I never realized myself before...especially the lashing out at the family part for not being able to do it 24/7.
#55 to #11 - hingerbinger
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Oh dude, I am on the same boat!
#3 - thype
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#60 to #3 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
does anyone have the /g/ version?
#84 - defectivetoast
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(06/29/2013) [-]
<I don't mind when someone is socially awkward at a party or something, but I hate it when they act like this.
#49 - matralith
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(06/29/2013) [-]
Pretty solid advice.
#132 to #49 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
works for me
#282 to #49 - anon
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(06/29/2013) [-]
I usually just get drunk as **** takes off my shirt and dance like a ************ because I'm really shy when I'm sober
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#352 to #25 - firstresponder
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(08/04/2013) [-]
that is so accurate
#51 - fuzzypickles
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(06/29/2013) [-]
This was ******* beautiful and ******* relatable.
Why the **** would you risk your life and physical/mental well being going to some ****** rave when you can stay at home all cosy reading a book or having a friend over for a good snes session. I think there is more wrong with extroversion than introversion.