Introverts can relate. .. Huh, you know, this post is actually really accurate. Especially the things people say towards you for being introverted.
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#30 - shampu **User deleted account** has deleted their comment [-]
#297 to #30 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
"You should drink more"
That's how i cured my shyness 4EVA
#3 - thype (06/29/2013) [-]
#60 to #3 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
does anyone have the /g/ version?
#1 - aesis (06/29/2013) [-]
Huh, you know, this post is actually really accurate.

Especially the things people say towards you for being introverted.
#182 to #1 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
My personality type is INFJ. Less that 1% of the population is like that. It makes me really happy when someone actually understands that I need a couple hours a day away from everything on earth to be in my own solitude.
#246 to #182 - rancidhyena (06/29/2013) [-]
Not sure why the red thumbs, but in case anybody's interested in these particular personality types: here's a small, simple group of questions.

Favorite world: Do you prefer to focus on the outer world or on your own inner world? This is called Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I).

Information: Do you prefer to focus on the basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? This is called Sensing (S) or Intuition (N).

Decisions: When making decisions, do you prefer to first look at logic and consistency or first look at the people and special circumstances? This is called Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).

Structure: In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).


Here's a link to a chart of them:
www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/

Famous people with these types: You need to login to view this link

Pic related, a chart of corresponding Avatar: The Last Airbender characters.
User avatar #351 to #246 - ifuhq ONLINE (07/03/2013) [-]
Hmm. INTP. Thanks for the chart.
User avatar #261 to #246 - skaffanl (06/29/2013) [-]
Is it possible to be a mix? Because I am both INFP as ENFP. I am driven by values and I seek peace and I have a constant desire for a meaningful path (not just any path though). On the other hand I am a warm person who keeps friends close to the heart. Once my friend always my friend even if I haven't seen you for years. I also believe that life is for living but you can't fully live without a purpose of course (IMO).
User avatar #272 to #261 - rancidhyena (06/29/2013) [-]
I don't think so, but perhaps. If it comes down to the two, I'd just pick who I think I'm more like in the celebrities and characters. Perhaps a choice between saving 100 people or saving 1 person you love very dearly would be appropriate for that question?
#281 to #272 - skorchy ONLINE (06/29/2013) [-]
Anon here, logged in to post links.
www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
Here's a free test that is more in depth. Once you find your type, google it. Personally it helped me understand myself more.
#341 to #281 - skaffanl (06/30/2013) [-]
I did the test and I'm an INFP. I read all the stuff and it really makes sense. Thank you for posting the link, you did me a great favour.  Here, have this gif as a token of my gratitude.
I did the test and I'm an INFP. I read all the stuff and it really makes sense. Thank you for posting the link, you did me a great favour. Here, have this gif as a token of my gratitude.
#347 to #341 - skorchy ONLINE (07/01/2013) [-]
No problem man, glad I could help.
User avatar #349 to #341 - fuzzypickles (07/01/2013) [-]
im infp here too.
so true about me
#306 to #182 - lolibear (06/29/2013) [-]
I just took the mbti test, and apparently I am also INFJ.
User avatar #144 to #1 - kesolukt (06/29/2013) [-]
An extrovert can be socially awkward or have social anxiety too

Just putting that out there
#181 to #144 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
there, I saved you from your red thumbs
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User avatar #352 to #25 - firstresponder (08/04/2013) [-]
that is so accurate
#5 - jakatackka (06/29/2013) [-]
As a socially awkward introvert, this touched me very deeply. I don't like socializing in large groups or with strangers - I've just created a social shell of sorts, an exterior personality that reflects a sliver of what's within, that goes through all the motions and rituals of socialization without getting anything from it.

Wow, I just realized how sad that sounds.

But it's true, and it's usually just fine. It becomes a problem, though, when I want to get to know someone better and have nothing more than my shallow external personality to show. There's plenty more to me, a lot more, but I don't know how to show it.

Honest admissions like these usually garner red thumbs, but oh well. I'll just post it and see if there are many like-minded people out there.
#305 to #5 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
I'm sorry, but I just had to point out how alike our writing styles are. It was rather distracting, to be honest, but it made me smile.
#71 to #5 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
i've got this quote from an episode of scrubs: "don't rush them with your insanity, give them a piece of it, let them grow comfortable around that piece and then add some more, until they know all of it and feel comfortable."

this is pretty much what i use to get to know people
User avatar #126 to #5 - theghostrider (06/29/2013) [-]
It's okay, buddy. I understand you completely.
User avatar #18 to #5 - commontroll (06/29/2013) [-]
Here's my advice.

Don't care about society. At least not on this subject. When introverts aren't afraid of being introverted, the world will see that it's okay and healthy. Also, if you're "socially awkward" and you stop caring what others think, it actually can help make you super funny. Personal experience.
User avatar #66 to #5 - accolgate (06/29/2013) [-]
I personally like introverts.

2 of my friends are introverts... They're both quite hard to interact with because they rather stay home than go outside

They tend to be less loud and bombastic than others, and generally calm people to be around.
#12 to #5 - crashbandicunt (06/29/2013) [-]
Don't go assuming red thumbs, introvert buddy.
#92 - conordalymcr (06/29/2013) [-]
Does anybody else find it damn-near impossible to make eye contact with someone while speaking to them?
User avatar #93 to #92 - natanhiel (06/29/2013) [-]
I can make eye-contact, but don't bother usually
I don't even look at faces much

I don't see the point, when it's not that hard to listen to someone while not looking at someone

but everyone takes offence and assumes I'm ignoring them
User avatar #96 to #93 - conordalymcr (06/29/2013) [-]
People I know don't generally take offense to it because they know I'm pretty bad in social situations but I just get asked why I look at the floor and not at the person when speaking
User avatar #97 to #96 - natanhiel (06/29/2013) [-]
When I'm walking I always look at the floor when I'm talking

I only have 2-3 friends, so they're the only people who know I don't enjoy eye contact
User avatar #165 to #92 - killerliquid (06/29/2013) [-]
For some reason I can do it well with teachers and such but not really toward my friends.
#231 to #92 - curlyhairedgoddess (06/29/2013) [-]
It used to be, but now I love making eye contact. It intimidates people.
User avatar #294 to #92 - thefatmanster (06/29/2013) [-]
I have the same problem, it's hard as **** to keep eye contact even with my best friends, and always when a look at someone that i don't know or i have never met, i feel like they are watching me with anger and hate, every ******* time, i don't know why, but i feel it, it's horrible, my brain it's a ******* . (also sorry if bad grammar)
User avatar #321 to #92 - TheJaypee (06/29/2013) [-]
Yeah, normally when they've got their cleavage on show..
User avatar #273 to #92 - novren (06/29/2013) [-]
Small piece of advice: instead of looking at them in the eye, look at their nose bridge (is it called like that? like, the place the nose starts, right between the eyes). That way, you won't be uncomfortable and the other person will think you are looking at them in the eye and, in case it shows, it will show in a way that the other person will think "maybe he's got a slight sight problem or something".
#130 to #92 - beefking (06/29/2013) [-]
**beefking rolled a random image posted in comment #4946026 at My Little Pony fanfiction, backgrounds, songs, lyrics, and GIFs. ** ME!!!! It gives me a weird feeling after a few seconds,
User avatar #99 to #92 - HeartOfTheDL (06/29/2013) [-]
It's hard to keep eye contact for me. I look around them and such and then try and look back at them to let them know I am still listening.
User avatar #100 to #99 - conordalymcr (06/29/2013) [-]
Haha, exactly the same for me
User avatar #112 to #92 - friendlyanonymous (06/29/2013) [-]
I move my hands a bit whenever I talk, and I am way too socially awkward for eye contact. So I spend my time looking at my hands and awkwardly attempting to look at the person a few times while talking.
User avatar #51 - fuzzypickles (06/29/2013) [-]
This was ******* beautiful and ******* relatable.
Why the **** would you risk your life and physical/mental well being going to some ****** rave when you can stay at home all cosy reading a book or having a friend over for a good snes session. I think there is more wrong with extroversion than introversion.
#84 - defectivetoast (06/29/2013) [-]
<I don't mind when someone is socially awkward at a party or something, but I hate it when they act like this.
#11 - seveer (06/29/2013) [-]
I often used to wonder why I would feel so tired whenever I got home. The other day I think I figured it out.

I'm naturally an awkward introverted person, but I put up this facade for people in my daily life. I'm still "the quiet guy" but I manage to force myself to be personable so that people will like me. It's sad, but society is built for extroverts and there isn't a whole lot else that I can do about it.

This just takes so much unconscious effort, that I'm emotionally drained almost all the time. I also lash out more easily at my family because I'm not capable of putting up the act 24-7. I feel like the person that most people see me as is fake. He isn't even a real person, and yet I still wind up living as him.
User avatar #265 to #11 - zepi (06/29/2013) [-]
I don't think I even put up a facade, I just show to each set of people what they want to see of me; I end up having different behaviours to different sets of friends and family...and even if you mixed up or added up those different parts of myself, you wouldn't have me as a whole, cause there are still things I won't share with anybody.
I think that if I died my funeral would be the most awkward one, because each person would talk about a different me, that isn't actualy ...me.
User avatar #150 to #11 - ZakisBak (06/29/2013) [-]
Wow, you put me into words like I never realized myself before...especially the lashing out at the family part for not being able to do it 24/7.
User avatar #55 to #11 - hingerbinger (06/29/2013) [-]
Oh dude, I am on the same boat!
#153 to #11 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
It's called society, man. No man is an island, and we can't survive alone.

So despite stupid things people say, WE have to deal with THEM. WE aren't part of their "world". We're just stuck in it.

Sucks.
#2 - Pixelator (06/29/2013) [-]
I like how everyone always says, &quot;Oh it's easy, just go up and talk to people.&quot;   
What they forgot to include is, &quot;even though you have nothing interesting or relative to say and in some rare working try not to make them look at you like a zombie while trying to do so.&quot;   
   
I.....I think I'll not.
I like how everyone always says, "Oh it's easy, just go up and talk to people."
What they forgot to include is, "even though you have nothing interesting or relative to say and in some rare working try not to make them look at you like a zombie while trying to do so."

I.....I think I'll not.
User avatar #9 to #2 - srskate ONLINE (06/29/2013) [-]
"It's easy to go up and talk to people...

that you know well and know many subjects that you can discuss."


You see, the quote just wasn't finished.
User avatar #17 to #9 - lolollo (06/29/2013) [-]
They always expect you to do it to strangers though. I'm always told to go up to random people and just spark conversation. HOW? Whenever I ask for a demonstration, they always walk up to someone they already know. You can't duplicate that for strangers. There needs to be an icebreaker, of which there is no unawkward combination of words in the english language to do that.
User avatar #124 to #17 - HeartOfTheDL (06/29/2013) [-]
It's not that hard to talk to a random stranger. It doesn't always work but you can just start saying "hi I'm <insert name>". From there pick a topic, movies, games, music, news etc. if it's a party and it is your friend ask them how they know your friend.
It's not easy but it's not impossible either. You just have to go with it. Though not sure how well it goes with picking up girls never tried too scared. I can do it when I don't find the girl attractive or talking to a random guy.
User avatar #331 to #124 - lolollo (06/29/2013) [-]
I know how to have a conversation. I even know how to start a conversation. The main problem is that "Hi, my name is..." is a pretty weak ice breaker. It begs several questions, like why you're talking to them, or why they should care. With a more tangible ice breaker, that isn't there. It's especially hard for trying to spark conversations with girls because their first thought is "this creep is just trying to hit on me!" Point is that dri nking games and other competition/cooperation based activities are much better for providing a more social setting, yet all I see anyone doing is sitting and talking, and they play it out like it's oh so easy to spark a random conversation wih a complete stranger and have it delve into some deep discussion.
User avatar #333 to #331 - HeartOfTheDL (06/30/2013) [-]
Well for me my intention is just making friends like there was a Melbourne youtube gathering and I went there with intentions to just network ended up making friends. It was the setting and the reason you went in the first place. If they ask just say you wanted to meet new people. Be earnest and they won't care.

Sometimes not knowing anyone forces you to just talk and try and meet people.
You may also be over thinking what people think. I just talk just cause I want to or I find them interesting or they said something interesting. Don't mind what others think.

If the girl thinks you are trying to hit on her let her think that. If you know your goal is just to make friends shrug it off and laugh. It is not a big deal if you don't make it one. If your intentions is to hook up then don't make it creepy clear but let her know you think she is attractive. If she's a total bitch then **** her and move on she isn't worth your time.

TL;DR If you know your own intensions and be earnest then people won't give a **** .
User avatar #336 to #333 - lolollo (06/30/2013) [-]
You're oversimplifying it. I'm not alking aout any one specific social situation, I'm talking about social situations in general, and what I'm saying is that you may be in tuned to that sort of thing, but not everyone is. It seems like the simplest thing in the world to you, but I garuntee there's someone out there, antisocial to hell, who can work miracles with something you absolutely cannot understand to save your life. I'm not saying I can't figure it out (in fact, I said the exact opposite), I'm saying this is what's going through our heads when you can't figure out what we're thinking.

If that's something that seems silly to you, well...then that's just lacking perspective.
User avatar #339 to #336 - HeartOfTheDL (06/30/2013) [-]
I don't find it silly. I am also antisocial, I may not be as antisocial as you and I never said it was easy. I've had years of practice, forced practice. I had to make friends over and over again due to the lifestyle I lived/live. I much prefer being at home and not talking to anyone. That or talking to my close friends. Talking to a random person is not the easiest thing in the world, I'm more comfortable with it because I've had practice.
I'm not perfect at it and I do just not talk at all even at a parties. I like watching and listening more then talking. If you want practice then join an activity or try youtube. You can build your confidence and get over the shyness. It may not be 100% effective but it is a start.
If you want to change then make it happen, if you are fine being the way you are then it's all good. Being antisocial is not bad and nor is being an introvert.
#61 to #17 - learned (06/29/2013) [-]
I'm somewhat insecure and so, and sometimes not the most social person. But I find talking to strangers much easier. I mean complete random strangers from the street, not a stranger that your buddy brings along.   
I usually start with &quot;hi&quot;, usually follow up with &quot;how you doing?&quot; and then ask about some related subject. If I'm abroad in another country or place, then I ask &quot; are you from around here?&quot; Then introduce myself abit, find out a little more about them. Good conversation topics are the things you seen or experienced lately, especially in the new place and ask their opinion about it also.   
Ohh, and I usually start talking to random women like that. They usually are more social and more talkative so therefore much easier to get a conversation going.   
To enlighten the mood you could offer to go get a drink or take a few drinks more for the extra courage. I know I did that at first.   
But with guys it's a different story.   
Alot realy depends in what kind of enviroment you are in and what situation you are in.
I'm somewhat insecure and so, and sometimes not the most social person. But I find talking to strangers much easier. I mean complete random strangers from the street, not a stranger that your buddy brings along.
I usually start with "hi", usually follow up with "how you doing?" and then ask about some related subject. If I'm abroad in another country or place, then I ask " are you from around here?" Then introduce myself abit, find out a little more about them. Good conversation topics are the things you seen or experienced lately, especially in the new place and ask their opinion about it also.
Ohh, and I usually start talking to random women like that. They usually are more social and more talkative so therefore much easier to get a conversation going.
To enlighten the mood you could offer to go get a drink or take a few drinks more for the extra courage. I know I did that at first.
But with guys it's a different story.
Alot realy depends in what kind of enviroment you are in and what situation you are in.
#201 to #9 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
Then the problems arise when you don't know anybody well.
#65 - sphinxe (06/29/2013) [-]
In my experiences I've found people just suck.   
I'm happy finding one or two people who also believe everyone else sucks.
In my experiences I've found people just suck.
I'm happy finding one or two people who also believe everyone else sucks.
User avatar #10 - iliekcereal ONLINE (06/29/2013) [-]
this. i hate going out sometimes. i wouldn't necessarily classify myself as an introvert anymore, but sometimes i really dread the idea of going out. i've gotten to the point where i can at least somewhat enjoy being in the company of a large group, but after a party that i attend for two hours i generally feel like sleeping for two days. luckily i found a large group of friends who i can act like a dumbass around and be accepted for it. but... sometimes it's a lot worse than it used to be. when i was strictly an introvert, being alone never bothered me. now i just get lonely as **** despite the fact that i know that if i go out i'll have a ****** time because i won't be able to focus on anything except how much i want to be home. which is basically the worst feeling ever. i can spend all day with every friend i have and when i get home at midnight, i'll feel lonely and hated because no one's talking to me. even though i know damn well that i'm too tired to hang out with them or even talk to them. as a result, my emotions are just generally confused as **** 90% of the time.
User avatar #20 to #10 - lolollo (06/29/2013) [-]
It's because you take more note that society thinks you shouldn't enjoy yourself when you're alone. I used to be perfectly fine by myself for days on end. Now, I notice subtle things that hint I shouldn't, and it eats at you. It eventually convinces you that you NEED to go do social **** otherwise something bad will happen.
#101 - aerr (06/29/2013) [-]
Ash Ketchum, the later years.
#211 - BeefSoup (06/29/2013) [-]
Yo is that Misty, Ash, and Brock, 20 years later?
#49 - matralith (06/29/2013) [-]
Pretty solid advice.
#282 to #49 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
I usually just get drunk as **** takes off my shirt and dance like a ************ because I'm really shy when I'm sober
#132 to #49 - anon (06/29/2013) [-]
works for me
User avatar #33 - xtwinblade (06/29/2013) [-]
This is very accurate towards me, but im not an introvert as i dont get exhausted around people. i tend to like attention, but only if it starts out positive and people show and interest in who i am. This is why i dont like hanging out with mutal friends since they dont care who i am, they are only there for Our mutal friend.

i like people, as long as they dont ignore me. So i can be a very social person, but only to those close to me.
User avatar #45 to #33 - escapedfromkitchen (06/29/2013) [-]
That's exactly how I feel! I tought I was the only one, all of my friends are very social and don't understand me when I'm trying to explain it to them. I'm very glad I know I'm not alone, thank you
#53 to #45 - xtwinblade (06/29/2013) [-]
its always good to know you are not alone
its always good to know you are not alone
#4 - darkoblivion (06/29/2013) [-]
i admit i don't even try sometimes but this is how i feel when i do, I hate it when a conversation seems forced.
#292 - blastblood (06/29/2013) [-]
I wanna be the very best..
User avatar #14 - sdeco (06/29/2013) [-]
Wow, i can really see myself in this story. Everybody is allways telling me that i'm asocial because i don't go out to bars or nightclubs. I only have a couple of friends because of this but i don't care. Their my real friends who take me for who i am, not for how many litres of beer i can drink or have cool i can dance. So i don't mind being called or tought of a being introvert cause the people who know me don't mind.
User avatar #21 to #14 - commontroll (06/29/2013) [-]
Introvert means nothing negative. It just means you prefer internal reflection, either of yourself or others (ie a deep, personal relationship with somebody) and being energized by being alone or with small groups, while it takes a lot of energy out of you to be among large groups.

Also, you can still be very social while being an introvert. I'm able to hang out with lots of people at a time and all, but I don't like it and will stick to mostly a few people for the majority of the time, and will be pretty tired afterward. But if I'm with just a few people and hanging out and being relaxed with everything, I can go on for hours.
User avatar #68 to #21 - sdeco (06/29/2013) [-]
I don't take it as a negative thing, cause im comfortable with it. Also, i'm can be real fun in both small and large groups, both for schoolwork or fun. I just prefer being alone or with those real close to me.

I also very glad to see it's not a rare chase at all, judging from the comments and your reaction.
User avatar #338 to #68 - commontroll (06/30/2013) [-]
Indeed, basically half of the population is introverted, it's why not everybody can go party all the time, and the reality is that everybody desires a deep relationship with at least a few people. I think most extreme extroverts are usually hiding from something.
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