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#89 - EdwardNigma (05/18/2013) [-]
I can't pick up on anything like that, I don't pick up on hints or gestures because I don't have good enough social skills to know how AND because I generally assume everyone hates me by default.

Ah, the wonders of incredibly low self esteem and self hatred.
User avatar #196 to #89 - fukkendragonite (05/18/2013) [-]
I understand how that self esteem problem feels, but let me tell you, that in itself is incredibly self centred and egotistical. People have more important things to worry about than hating you. They have no opinion if they don't know you.

Same goes for the self hatred. If you hate yourself, don't focus on it. Try to make other peoples lives better. Help other people and it'll help you forget how much you suck. If you don't think you're worth the effort of doing anything good for yourself, then look after the people who you do think deserve it. Dedicate yourself to helping your family and friends and keep a positive attitude. It really will help you block out your own feelings about yourself.

What ended up happening with me was that I tried to help other people because I didn't value myself as a person at all. I don't think I really did much, but people started to thank me a lot and say nice things about me and I started to feel more confident in my own skin. In return for me being nice to them, they made me feel good about myself. That's what life is about.

Live and let live- and dream big.

Based on my own experiences. Sorry for the lecture.
#249 to #196 - anon (05/18/2013) [-]
You see, I try to help others and be a nice person and people do thank me and say nice things, but at the end of the day no matter how hard I try to befriend these people, they ignore me except to say "thanks" or "you're awesome". It's all just empty compliments. They appreciate me, but don't bother to try and hang out with me or have a complete conversation with me.
#250 to #249 - anon (05/18/2013) [-]
In addition to that, any time I'm visibly upset about something everybody seems to turn a blind eye. Nobody bothers to ask me "Are you okay?" or simply be a friend when I need a shoulder to lean on. These are all feelings that I've never been able to communicate to people in real life because nobody cares.
User avatar #251 to #250 - fukkendragonite (05/18/2013) [-]
Don't do it for the recognition, do it because you don't value yourself. Find at least one person that is worth the effort, whether that's family or friend, and make them feel good about themselves. If you believe you're worthless and a waste of space, then why not try to make someone who is worth something happy
#256 to #251 - anon (05/18/2013) [-]
You don't understand. I DON'T "do it for the recognition". My point is that I already do those things, but I still don't have any friends. There's not much else I can do.
You can be a caring, helpful person all day long but you're still going to feel like **** if you're constantly lonely. It is great to love and help others, but that alone will not bring you happiness. I need a friend, somebody to talk to and do things with, but I can never get that close to people.
User avatar #258 to #256 - fukkendragonite (05/18/2013) [-]
Let me tell you that you're preaching to the converted mate. All I'm trying to say is that you have to find a distraction. You have to find SOMETHING to focus on to take your mind away from feeling ****** but I know that's easier said than done.

The way I do it is by trying to make other people feel good. Seeing people happy makes me kind of happy.

I don't think I have had anyone I could truly call a friend in maybe 7 years or so. People treat me like total **** , and I ******* hate it. But I never give up trying, because all I want to do is create happiness. If I can't be happy then someone else should be. That's a little bit of consolation don't you think?

I just try to count my blessings. At least my family give a **** . My brothers are the closest friends I could ever ask for. My parents always gave me everything they could. Try not to focus on what you don't have, and focus what you do have. When you do that, you at least put a small smile on your face, even if it's forced.

Count your blessings, try to stay positive, and try to make other people happy. What's the alternative? Sit around and feel sorry for yourself? That may seem like the simplest thing to do, but you're worth more than that.

Honest to **** mate, I understand completely. You might think I don't, but I do.
#259 to #258 - anon (05/18/2013) [-]
Yes, you are right there, and I still do keep trying. I only thought you were saying that doing this would completely fix this problem. I try to function normally and appear to most days, but at least one day every month and several nights a weeks I just break down. It seems I can cover up the problem, but it still doesn't go away.
User avatar #260 to #259 - fukkendragonite (05/18/2013) [-]
Sometimes you can't drown your demons if they know how to swim. Sometimes you just have to embrace your flaws and accept them, and learn to live with them. Who knows, you might surprise yourself and rid yourself of the problem altogether. But sometimes you do have to take a step back and accept that certain things make you who you are, and you have to take a deep breath and prepare to deal with it in your own way.
User avatar #205 to #196 - EdwardNigma (05/18/2013) [-]
I do try to help people, but I can't keep a bright attitude being the cynical, angsty **** that I am.

Plus, I take the "Everyone hates me" thing from most people disliking me when they first talk to me, or even when they first see me. More people dislike me than like me at this point, so statistically, people are more likely to dislike me.
User avatar #206 to #205 - fukkendragonite (05/18/2013) [-]
I feel that man. But it'll turn around for you. I swear to you it will. I only ask that you read and understand the advice given, nothing more.
#94 to #89 - champaigne ONLINE (05/18/2013) [-]
No you're pretty normal. Everybody else does, in fact, hate you by default. But that's because they are, in fact, insecure and lacking in social skills.   
Can't help you with the self hatred thing tho. Get over it
No you're pretty normal. Everybody else does, in fact, hate you by default. But that's because they are, in fact, insecure and lacking in social skills.

Can't help you with the self hatred thing tho. Get over it
#97 to #94 - nignacio (05/18/2013) [-]
FINALLY I get to use this.
User avatar #99 to #97 - champaigne ONLINE (05/18/2013) [-]
Don't shoot the messenger
#98 to #96 - champaigne ONLINE (05/18/2013) [-]
Truth hurts man. Butt it's a good hurt. Pic related..?
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