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#6 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Are guys honestly that oblivious? I'm just trying to get an idea here.

i'm a girl
#73 to #6 - anon
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(03/18/2013) [-]
The one's you'll find around here whining about being friendzoned and just hating women in general are.
#66 to #6 - sethperson
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Completely. I missed my chance with this girl for two years in high school
#63 to #6 - herpdaki
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Most guys under 18, I find.
#60 to #6 - fedegon
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Either oblivious, or just uncertain, thinking "That might have been, by maybe it wasn't."
#55 to #6 - robtarded
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(03/17/2013) [-]
I would preferably have you come straight out and say "**** me"
#44 to #6 - ohgodwaitimatheist
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(03/17/2013) [-]
#41 to #6 - thisotherdude
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Most men communicate about as straight forwards as a ******* Elcor (from Mass Effect, the alien things that literally say what their expression is), we don't really catch onto subtle cues that well.
Most men communicate about as straight forwards as a ******* Elcor (from Mass Effect, the alien things that literally say what their expression is), we don't really catch onto subtle cues that well.
#40 to #6 - Nullifier
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(03/17/2013) [-]
The way my (now) girlfriend does it is she tells the guy straight up that she kinda likes them and leaves it up to them whether or not anything comes from it. She doesn't like the waiting and stuff.

Guys are pretty damn oblivious. I know I am, at least. Though there's also an element of hope vs false hope going in in their (or at least my) mind in most situations.

To clarify, something like "Man, I hope she likes me. Meh, she probably doesn't. Probably not even worth my time just for more disappointment. I'll still hope for it though."

Then again, i'm beta as **** so I'm probably not the one to ask.
#88 to #40 - RisenLichen
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(03/18/2013) [-]
pretty much the situation I'm in. though I'm fairly certain she doesn't like me
#34 to #6 - zekeon ONLINE
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Men (typically) communicate on one level: Words being spoken & the way they're said.   
   
Women (typically) communicate on several: Words spoken, how, why, and when they're said, Body language (& orientation if you want to be really specific,) all the things that are being avoided (i.e. some embarrassing thing,)  and probably something else I'm forgetting about because I'm a guy.   
   
Read this article: dsc.discovery.com/tv-shows/curiosity/topics/10-ways-men-women-comminucate -differently.htm    
   
Take it with a pinch of salt though on the parts where it talks about men, since the author is a woman. It's still true though that more often than not you need to directly say what you're feeling or wanting, rather than dropping hints or something because we'll probably just see that as frustrating.   
   
Remember, use your words and that's it.
Men (typically) communicate on one level: Words being spoken & the way they're said.

Women (typically) communicate on several: Words spoken, how, why, and when they're said, Body language (& orientation if you want to be really specific,) all the things that are being avoided (i.e. some embarrassing thing,) and probably something else I'm forgetting about because I'm a guy.

Read this article: dsc.discovery.com/tv-shows/curiosity/topics/10-ways-men-women-comminucate -differently.htm

Take it with a pinch of salt though on the parts where it talks about men, since the author is a woman. It's still true though that more often than not you need to directly say what you're feeling or wanting, rather than dropping hints or something because we'll probably just see that as frustrating.

Remember, use your words and that's it.
#80 to #34 - corkscrew
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Based solely on my own experiences, I feel as if what she writes about men is (for the most part) correct. Men are more concerned with information and being direct and that is the gist of what she said.
#74 to #34 - anon
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Human speech is only a small fraction of human interaction.
#33 to #6 - thepalmtoptiger
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(03/17/2013) [-]
I can't answer for all guys, but I certainly am. It isn't so much that I'm completely oblivious, it's that I can't always interpret an expression. It is clear when a girl wants to be with you, but determining whether it is romantic or not is the issue.

Also, just saying, if you as a women like someone then just go for it. Don't wait for them to take notice, ask them out instead. A woman who knows what she wants is pretty hot.
#32 to #6 - covered
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Yes.
There is one exception, if you want the D we almost automatically know.
It's like a sixth sense
#107 to #32 - diverdee
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(03/18/2013) [-]
i never know...
#110 to #107 - covered
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(03/19/2013) [-]
... How?
#111 to #110 - diverdee
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(03/19/2013) [-]
im wondering too..
#30 to #6 - anon
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(03/17/2013) [-]
It depends sometimes you have to make funny faces in order to grab their attention.
#27 to #6 - guiguito
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(03/17/2013) [-]
use a wingman
if it fails it's cool
if it works, you owe him/her a round
simple, effective, clean.
#26 to #6 - luxray
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(03/17/2013) [-]
liked*
#25 to #6 - luxray
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Oh hell yes. My current girlfriend like me for almost a year before I asked her out. I had no idea.
#23 to #6 - DrBobsPatient
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(03/17/2013) [-]
ever hear the saying, "men are simple" ... yeah... we are.
#22 to #6 - bladeboy
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Yes
#7 to #6 - diverdee
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(03/17/2013) [-]
2 things.
1. Yes guys are completly blank when it comes to secret flirting.
2. You're a girl, and you are also Pedobear? things make so little sense now!
#8 to #7 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Yes, I'm a girl haha. There's a cute guy I've seen around school and I look at him a lot and try to smile but I don't want to make it too obvious. Now I feel like I'm not doing enough haha
#48 to #8 - methead
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(03/17/2013) [-]
then make it obvious or it will never work.
#10 to #8 - oceanmist
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(03/17/2013) [-]
You need to be about as subtle as a gun.
#12 to #10 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Oh dear. Really?
#13 to #12 - oceanmist
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(03/17/2013) [-]
My motto when it comes to relationships- girls are crazy, guys are stupid.
#24 to #13 - hardtuner
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(03/17/2013) [-]
**************
#61 to #24 - icameisawilostit
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(03/18/2013) [-]
*I am ******* men.
i'm sorry i'm not good at this whole being funny business...
#62 to #61 - hardtuner
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(03/18/2013) [-]
didn't even realised how i wrote that...
#57 to #24 - anon
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(03/18/2013) [-]
how do you feel about that?
#16 to #13 - diverdee
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(03/17/2013) [-]
this^
#15 to #13 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/17/2013) [-]
I second that statement. Women are crazy bitches.
#9 to #8 - diverdee
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(03/17/2013) [-]
looking and smiling just confuses him.. well maybe not him, but it when it happens to me i wonder the **** out of what the hell is going on, and so do most of my friends..
#11 to #9 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/17/2013) [-]
This is much more complex than I originally had planned.
#18 to #11 - captainfuckitall
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Okay, don't listen to these guys, they have good advice but they don't understand it well enough. Let me explain

Women are VERY tactile creatures, unlike men (Tactile means you speak a lot with your body). Because women are naturally tactile, they can also read a lot into the body language of others (only 30% of conversation is verbal) however, again, men aren't this tactile and women don't understand that (This is why men often "speak their minds" ("Hi" means "Hi", "I'm hungry" means "I'm hungry", "Lets ****" means "Lets ****", so on, so fourth) while women are far more subtle, because they're used to their hints being picked up either by likewise tactile males or other females). As a result, a lot of women think their 'flirting' is going unheeded and as a sign of disinterest, while men were unaware there was any flirting going on in the firstplace. If you want to gain the attention and affections of this male companion of yours, simple say so. The worst that'll happen is that he doesn't accept them (shouldn't be a problem you seem like a fine young lady) and then you can move on, while at best you got yourself a boyfriend. Besides, all people find decisiveness and determination attractive, haven't you noticed that nearly all your favourite characters, despite how different they may be, always share the trait that they know exactly what they want?
#19 to #18 - diverdee
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(03/17/2013) [-]
what i was just about to say! damn you are good!!
#20 to #19 - captainfuckitall
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(03/17/2013) [-]
I better be, I'm writing a novel on it (not girls, I mean. Just life and how to deal with it in general, relationships is the first chapter. It explains all of it there)
#75 to #20 - corkscrew
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(03/18/2013) [-]
when will said book be released?
I fell as if I speak for most people on this site, but I would be interested in said book if it was for a reasonable price
#106 to #75 - captainfuckitall
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Probably this summer. Don't worry, I care more about my work than I do about money, it'll be fairly cheap
#21 to #20 - diverdee
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(03/17/2013) [-]
successful people actually go on this site?
also promote it on here, you are gonna save a lot of lonely guys nonexistence love life :)
#14 to #11 - diverdee
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(03/17/2013) [-]
complex for you? please, the stereotype says that guys have to make the first move, but if the guy is not sure about if the girl likes him, he's afraid its gonna get very awkward. So therefor make it clear the you like him. For the love of god write it on his window at night!!
#17 to #14 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/17/2013) [-]
Well now I know. Thank you haha
#108 to #17 - diverdee
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(03/18/2013) [-]
Okay so i got one for you then.
There is this girl, i flirted with for new years ( i know, ages ago), but we still talk, and i notice her sometimes looking at me while im doing something else, and when i look back she smiles and looks away. problem is, i talked with her and texted a lot after NY, but now she doesn't reply anymore, but still looks at me. What to do?
#112 to #108 - PedoBearFTW
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(03/19/2013) [-]
Sorry for the late reply. I believe she wants you to talk to her. Though I must say I'm guilty of still looking at a guy that broke my heart, honestly because he's attractive. Texting can be an iffy subject, I'd say start talking more to her in person. The smiling and looking away is pretty spot-on girl behavior for her having a crush on you. I'd go for it, dude.
#115 to #112 - diverdee
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(04/02/2013) [-]
another one.. how do you tell her you like her, without it getting awkward if its not mutal?
#116 to #115 - PedoBearFTW
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(04/03/2013) [-]
I'm not sure. I had a guy tell me he liked me, and it was a bit awkward at first, but now we're over it and we're great friends. Just whatever comes naturally to you.