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User avatar #2415 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
This is a serious post so if you want to make jokes...go ahead and make them, it might cheer me up.

Four years ago I had my first girlfriend (I was 16). Four months later we split up because she was becoming incredibly clingy and possessive. She then continued to stalk me for over a year, literally following me everywhere and trying to get others to spy on me for her.

Skip ahead two years and she'd calmed down and hadn't stalked me for around six months. She was moving to Bristol so I'd never have to see her again, so obviously I was happy. She then called me and asked if I could come round because she wanted to tell me something. I thought she wanted to apologise for stalking me, or just say good-bye or something so I agreed.

I got there, went into her house, and she locked the door behind me. She then pinned me down and started..doing things to me. I tried to throw her off but I suffer from chronic fatigue syndrome so I couldn't get her off. I had sit there and take it as a girl was forcing me to have sex. I lost my virginity to her that day..

It turned out she was still obsessed with me and wanted to trap me with her by making me get her pregnant. Luckily she never did get pregnant and I stayed right the hell away from her until she left to Bristol.

Fast forward to today and what I want to ask is this:
Can a guy be raped by a girl, and how do I deal with this? I'm still haunted by what happened and I've been too scared to have sex again. I know FJ isn't the best place to ask, but I can't trust my friends (nobody knows what happened) and some of you guys are truly amazing.
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#2461 to #2415 - anon (06/11/2012) [-]
Yes it is considered rape but it wouldn't be taken as seriously as a woman getting raped. Sorry bro but pussy is pussy though. Hell, that's actually kind of hot (the whole rape thing). Lol this sounds weird.
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User avatar #2421 to #2420 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
It's been two years, too much time has passed hasn't it? And besides, I don't think I'd be able to vocally repeat what happened. It's a struggle just to type it on here.
#2444 to #2421 - sozmonkey (06/11/2012) [-]
I don't think too much time has passed to do turn her in. In fact it would probably be the most responsible thing to do. I'm sure that your experience with the being unable to talk about it, or maybe ashamed (not saying you are, but I understand that's normal) is what a lot of rape victims go through. I wish you luck with whatever you chose to do
User avatar #2446 to #2444 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
I just don't know how to even bring up the subject.

"Hey mum, two years ago I got raped by my first girlfriend. Cool story huh?"

And yeah, I am ashamed. I could have avoided the whole thing if I'd just said "no" and not gone over to see her...
#2449 to #2446 - sozmonkey (06/11/2012) [-]
You shouldn't be ashamed, you didn't ask for it to happen, and you obviously didn't know it would happen or you wouldn't have put yourself in that situation. It's never going to be a comfortable conversation, so you need to be prepared for it, whether it goes well or not. I would start by sitting her down and tell her you have something to tell her, and why you didn't tell her before. Just make sure she's prepared for some bad news, rather than just blurting it out.
User avatar #2450 to #2449 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
I guess.

I can give it a try...

#2452 to #2450 - sozmonkey (06/11/2012) [-]
I hope you do. If not I hope you find some other support and tell someone you trust
User avatar #2454 to #2452 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
Thank you. This'll be tough but I guess it has to be done someday...
#2457 to #2454 - sozmonkey (06/11/2012) [-]
Feel free to get in touch if you need someone to talk to :)
User avatar #2459 to #2457 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
Thanks dude :)
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User avatar #2424 to #2423 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
My parents and/or friends would find out if I did either. I'm actually in a wheelchair right now so getting around is an issue.
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User avatar #2428 to #2426 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
They still think I'm a virgin. I don't even know how they'd react and I'm terrified of what they'd say.
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User avatar #2435 to #2432 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
Sex is less of a shock, yes. But imagine discovering that your 20 year old disabled son was raped two years ago and is only just telling you now that he's not a virgin.

How would you react to that being brought up out of nowhere?
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User avatar #2437 to #2436 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
I'd be embarassed as hell to tell any of my friends, and my parents even more so. i'm not used to opening up to people at all, especially my parents.
User avatar #2441 to #2437 - ewilz (06/11/2012) [-]
Was she hot at least?
User avatar #2445 to #2441 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
Not really no. She was cute when I first dated her, but then she started going crazy and obsessive. She stopped washing her hair regularly and gave up on hygene in general. She'd been comfort-eating a lot too.
User avatar #2455 to #2445 - ewilz (06/11/2012) [-]
Sounds like my soulmate!
User avatar #2456 to #2455 - hargleblarg (06/11/2012) [-]
Have fun with that. Enjoy being stalked for the next year.
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