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#168052 - anonymous (18 minutes ago) [-]
My friend gave me a switchblade for Christmas. It's a cute little knife. The sharpest knife I've probably ever owned.
What he doesn't know is I'm pretty suicidal.

My question is... How would you guys feel if you gifted a knife and found out the person used it to hurt themself? Shitty/Indifferent? I don't know if I want to ruin his life. It's just an opportune moment. No therapy plz. Just the question at hand.
User avatar #168053 to #168052 - makotoitou ONLINE (4 minutes ago) [-]
>suicidial
if you really were, you would've done it already. attentionwhore pls go
#168054 to #168053 - anonymous (3 minutes ago) [-]
>Can't spell worth a shit
>Needing internet validation through edgy remarks.
Worthless person pls go.
User avatar #168055 to #168054 - makotoitou ONLINE (1 minute ago) [-]
>being anon
#168040 - trainverse (3 hours ago) [-]
Hello! i have no idea who to turn to so here it goes.

so there was this party at a newly opened bar on this island resort where I work at. The owner allowed us to get a few drinks. long story short things got a little wild. Long story short, my friend drunk too much and he passed out. found out the dumbass is allergic to alcohol and is asthmatic. we got work tomorrow and we're pretty sure he's gonna get fired if we dont do shit. what do?
User avatar #168041 to #168040 - advicedude (2 hours ago) [-]
Help the guy out. It's the right thing to do.
User avatar #168037 - bobvonbobby (4 hours ago) [-]
I met a chick on omelge. She's awesome. She lives in PA. I live in IL. She wants to bang. i'm 19 years old. I'm a virgin. Should I take a trip to go have sex?
User avatar #168050 to #168037 - makotoitou ONLINE (1 hour ago) [-]
yolo it
User avatar #168042 to #168037 - advicedude (2 hours ago) [-]
Take it from me. I've been in this situation many times. The answer is no.
User avatar #168046 to #168042 - bobvonbobby (2 hours ago) [-]
This isn't what I want to hear. I want you guys to tell me to go for it and have a YOLO moment for once in my life. Like, I'm looking at it like... it's christmas break. I want to do something. And like, I was in a relationship for three years... And then she dumped me this summer to... "find herself". Then she goes off and starts dating another dude. So for me, looking for find love, I'm honestly not searching right now. And me and this girl, we've skyped, we've been talking, dirty/clean. And yeah, she's alright. I've never done anything... "crazy" in my life.
User avatar #168047 to #168046 - advicedude (2 hours ago) [-]
>asking advice
>rejecting advice
I used to be that guy who'd go on omegle and chatroulette and anything to talk to girls. In the end, it isn't worth it. Focus on yourself, be succesfull, let out a good wank and just let it alone.
User avatar #168048 to #168047 - bobvonbobby (2 hours ago) [-]
Yeah, I know. I'm terrible. I wasn't intentionally looking for girls, though. I got on with my friends to dick around.

I'll think about it some more.
User avatar #168049 to #168048 - advicedude (1 hour ago) [-]
Just saying any thoughts like that go away after a good wank, deep breaths, and a good nights sleep.
User avatar #168039 to #168037 - teoberry (3 hours ago) [-]
awesomerninjathing this is right up your alley
#168030 - anonymous (8 hours ago) [-]
I need major advice. So I told my mom I was going on a college sponsered trip to australia (with professors and students) when really I'm going alone to meet a guy I've been dating for 3 years. A ticket cost 2000 dollars and he split the price with me. Now I'm worried about my mom finding out the lie and I know if she did she'd never forgive me and our relationship would be crippled forever (it's not all that good now).

Also getting back to my college campus will be a huge hassle and I have to ask my friends of huge favors. I'm afraid I'll regret this or I'll slip up on the lie or something.... please should I cancel? Or what should I do? I leave January 1st.
User avatar #168034 to #168030 - sugoi (7 hours ago) [-]
WELP YOU'RE PAST THE POINT OF NO RETURN.
So just do it cause you know what fuck it you're still young enough to pull this kind of crap and just brush it off as "I wanted to see the world."

Just make sure you can get back to college on time, leaving on January 1st is kinda pushing it but I don't exactly know when your semester starts so whatever.
Also Australia summer is a clusterfuck, so good luck with that bwahahaha.
#168027 - anonymous (9 hours ago) [-]
I'm a recovering anorexic and I need advice on how to work out and what to do to work out and keep myself from losing weight if anything
User avatar #168028 to #168027 - sugoi (9 hours ago) [-]
I feel like this question is better suited to the fitness board.
#168029 to #168028 - anonymous (9 hours ago) [-]
I felt that too, but I felt kind a wrong to post on Fitness "and weightloss"
I was kinda confused
User avatar #168031 to #168029 - sugoi (8 hours ago) [-]
Fair enough but they help with fitness and health. Weight loss is just there since that's what most people are after. The guys over there are still far more knowledgeable on the subject than the people lurking on this board.
#168017 - anonymous (12 hours ago) [-]
So my mother told me to fuck off and not go home for christmas and angrily ended our phone call.

Should I still go home for christmas or let her be alone?
User avatar #168044 to #168017 - advicedude (2 hours ago) [-]
Depends on the situation. If you fucked up, don't go. If she's crazy, don't go. If she's emotionally stressed, go.
User avatar #168023 to #168017 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx ONLINE (10 hours ago) [-]
Still show up for Christmas, man.
User avatar #168022 to #168017 - scratchpadmaster (10 hours ago) [-]
What did you do to her that made her so mad?
#168018 to #168017 - saltybanana (11 hours ago) [-]
let her burn in hell   
   
just call her man, first give her some space, let her think about the stupid argument you guys had. and call her back calmly, and just talk to her becarefull with your words shes still might be in heat
let her burn in hell

just call her man, first give her some space, let her think about the stupid argument you guys had. and call her back calmly, and just talk to her becarefull with your words shes still might be in heat
#168016 - dvmaster (12 hours ago) [-]
Guys I think I need some dating advice

So last Tuesday i asked a girl out and she seemed pretty excited about it, we went out on Sunday to the movies and it was really fun, no awkward silences or anything like that.

How long do you guys think I should wait before I ask to see if she wants to hang out again?

The reason I ask is because I'm being forced to leave the city for four days to spend some time with my family and I don't want her to think I lost interest or something.
User avatar #168045 to #168016 - advicedude (2 hours ago) [-]
literally in quotes what saltybanana said
#168019 to #168016 - saltybanana (11 hours ago) [-]
tell her you likes her, and you wants her   
   
just hit her up again and say "hey i had so much fun last night, are you available to go out next friday to get something to eat?" be positive when you talk to her again, tell her you wanna see her again before you leave with your folks.
tell her you likes her, and you wants her

just hit her up again and say "hey i had so much fun last night, are you available to go out next friday to get something to eat?" be positive when you talk to her again, tell her you wanna see her again before you leave with your folks.
#168003 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
so my ex gf's best friend and i was talking and he told me that she and her boyfriend (yes she found a new guy after i broke up with her like a month ago) was already sleeping the day they met. (he's literally a fat neckbeard cosplayer studying jap. teaching im not even kidding) im in a mad/sad mood. i mean, i should be over that already but the fact that she's going way too fast with him is making me mad. the reason why she found another guy this fast and get intimate is because she still couldn't get over with her ex (the guy before me) and apparently she's sleeping with guys to forget him. i broke up with her because she just couldn't love me. and i really wasn't feeling for her.
anyway, the reason why im excited is because im planning to fuck her about chrismas time. she's a virgin and suddenly it fucked my whole brain like why in the name of shit i didn't fuck her earlier. this is why im mad/sad.
should i fuck the stupid bitch or just forget about it and move on?
#168013 to #168003 - anonymous (14 hours ago) [-]
>he's literally a fat neckbeard cosplayer studying jap.

Her standards are that low. I wouldn't even waste my time talking to her.
User avatar #168009 to #168003 - sugoi (14 hours ago) [-]
>She and her boyfriend was already sleeping the day they met.
>She's a virgin

Nigga what?
#168011 to #168009 - anonymous (14 hours ago) [-]
i mean, he's not putting it in there its like rubbing or some werid shit dunno
User avatar #168026 to #168011 - sugoi (9 hours ago) [-]
And you believe that shit?
Cmon man they're fucking and saying that shit to save face.
User avatar #168008 to #168003 - delphine (15 hours ago) [-]
move on.
if you were the one who broke up with her, because it wasn't working out, then just move on.
User avatar #168012 to #168008 - rokkai ONLINE (14 hours ago) [-]
that was my best solution actually. thank you
#168024 to #168012 - anonymous (9 hours ago) [-]
you sound whiny and angsty. Let her live her life and you live yours. You had a window to sleep with her and you missed it, plus don't fuck with unstable people. They're unstable.
#168002 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
This is half me venting, and half me needing some second opinions on what I should do.

There is this girl (there always is) that I've known for like a year and a half after she and my best friend were friends with benefits, that ended around a year ago when he got a GF, but they remained friends, so I'd meet her from time to time when hanging with him. Then this summer I met her quite a lot and I'd say we became friends during the holiday.

She then moved into a collective with my best female friend (who is now the GF of my best friend), and when I'm back in my home town I usually spend most my nights sleeping in that collective (I study in another city, but go home when I can). So I started to see more of her whenever I was home, and we became good friends, and often cuddling when watching movies and so on.

Will continue.
#168004 to #168002 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
OP here
Then some months ago when pretty drunk, she asked me if I wanted to come sleep with her in her bed instead of sleeping on a sofa like I usually do when sleeping over at their place (sleeping as in actual sleep, not sex). I were almost completely sober as I was late because I had flown in that day, so I thought if something happened it'd feel iffy and turned it down and didn't think much of it until around a month at a party when one of her friends told me that she likes me while drunk. Because of the drunkenness I didn't take it to seriously, and guessed that she had just misinterpreted the girl being happy that i come visiting because we're friends, not because she like me. And nothing really pointed m to believe that there were anything there. And everyone else at that party wanted to hook me up with another girl, so I figured that'd put her off if there was something there.

Will continue
#168005 to #168004 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
Then earlier this week when we had both been drinking, then gotten back to the collective, things started happening. When the others had gone to bed, me and her were laying on the sofa talking, and I were cuddling with her. Slowly sexual tension built until she kissed me and said "tomorrow, this haven't happened". We started making out, hands going everywhere. While it was going on she said "I guess this was bound to happen at some point", "I don't want to ruin anything", "the others (my best friend and his GF) will be pissed", "I've been thinking of you, haven't you been thinking of me?". But in the end, she drove it back to cuddling before things got really serious. And I figured that was that, and was ready to just ignore that it had happened as she had asked.

Will continue (damn char limit)
#168006 to #168005 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
But last night, after we had been drinking, we again ended up on the sofa fooling around. Which leaves me to wonder what will happen. Not sure when I will see her again because of christmas things, but she snapped me saying "sorry for yesteday", I replied "sorry for what?", "ok, nothing I guess". Not completely sure why she said she were sorry, maybe because we didn't have sex?

But anyway, got any advice on how to aproach this? I think she is very araid of what our friends will say, I'm mostly worried what my best friend will say as it's someone he have had as a fuckbuddy before. (that being said, he did invite me to a threesome with her while the two of them had a thing, not that I think she knew about it).

I could really need some advice here, as I'm kinda lost.
User avatar #168025 to #168006 - hoponthefeelstrain (9 hours ago) [-]
she's probably been wanting to do stuff with you a lot but hasn't done it. When she's drunk she does it cause drunk people do stupid stuff and don't care. She apologized because she probably figures you're not into her, when she said sorry she expected you to say " no I enjoyed it ect ect." but instead you said "about what" which to her translates as nothing important happened between you two. So the act you did was "nothing" to you and again she feels like you don't like her. Try talking to her while she's sober and go from there.
#168032 to #168025 - anonymous (7 hours ago) [-]
Thank you, that does make a lot of sense.. that bad thing is that it means I might have failed completely here. I have told her I'm completely retarded when it comes to understanding signals from girls, but still.

I am tempted to do the stupid ting of sending a long thing on FB withch basically boils down to "no I enjoyed it ect ect", but I won't. Been there, done that. That simply fucks up stuff even more. I guess the only thing I can really do is to meet with her and talk about it, probably when sober and ask shy she's saying sorry when she got nothing to be sorry for, and it's rather the opposite.

I'm quite terrible at reading what girls mean when they're fishing for things, so thank you a lot.
#168021 to #168006 - saltybanana (10 hours ago) [-]
if you love her just say it to her, and hopefully your friends will understand   
   
well ive been in this situation once too, i went out with this girl in our group of friends. i was very nervous cause i met her friends thru her, and it fel like i was taking her away from them if we went out.  tl: dr we ended up not going out anymore cause i had other things in my way, such as medical school    
   
just do it, your guys friends arent her or your parents, the fuck you care what they think man. just gwet your nut in bruhh!! who gives
if you love her just say it to her, and hopefully your friends will understand

well ive been in this situation once too, i went out with this girl in our group of friends. i was very nervous cause i met her friends thru her, and it fel like i was taking her away from them if we went out. tl: dr we ended up not going out anymore cause i had other things in my way, such as medical school

just do it, your guys friends arent her or your parents, the fuck you care what they think man. just gwet your nut in bruhh!! who gives
#168033 to #168021 - anonymous (7 hours ago) [-]
If it was just because my friends wold think it's weird, I wouldn't care. My best friend and my female friend got together and were super awkward because of the fear of it being awkward that they got back together. It's much better to just say it straight.

The problem is that it kinda goes against the brocode to go for an ex of a friend. but then again, she's not really an ex, just fuckbuddies who both had sex with others at that time.

As for loving her.. I'm not sure if I'm at that level.. not yet at least.
#168001 - minibeep (16 hours ago) [-]
never trust a jew because he will take advantage of anything and let you down
never trust a nigger because he is to stupid to remember what he promised
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User avatar #167968 - jellyman (18 hours ago) [-]
I want to buy an anti-virus/internet security program for my Lenovo G50 laptop. Which one do you guys think would be the best optioin?
User avatar #167987 to #167968 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
Nothing is really worth buying, tbh.
Just go with Avast and Malbytes and you're set.
User avatar #167984 to #167968 - makotoitou ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
norton tho
User avatar #167977 to #167968 - maybelline (17 hours ago) [-]
norton 100%
User avatar #167962 - gunatyoface (19 hours ago) [-]
Examples of de facto and de jure? Can ya explain how the example applies, even something trivial to help understand better?
#167960 - dalokan (19 hours ago) [-]
I was drinking Monster and it fell on the ground and while i went to get a washcloth to clean it my cat licked it all up.   
   
The fuck do I do now? I mean she seems more energetic and shit. Should i take her to the vet?   
   
Can I still finish my drink?
I was drinking Monster and it fell on the ground and while i went to get a washcloth to clean it my cat licked it all up.

The fuck do I do now? I mean she seems more energetic and shit. Should i take her to the vet?

Can I still finish my drink?
User avatar #167985 to #167960 - makotoitou ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
ENERGY CAT
User avatar #167982 to #167960 - delphine (17 hours ago) [-]
Call your vet, and ask them. They will give you free advice. That's what we did when our dog ate fireworks.
#167998 to #167982 - anonymous (16 hours ago) [-]
your dog ate fireworks?
#168000 to #167998 - delphine (16 hours ago) [-]
Nestor is not the height of intelligence. People think afghan hounds are so majestic, they've never been around one long enough to know that they're pretty derpy. His favorite thing to try and eat is tape.
User avatar #167980 to #167960 - hourlyb (17 hours ago) [-]
Probably, yeah.
Monster is terrible for people, its gotta be fucking apocalyptic for pets.
User avatar #167978 to #167960 - maybelline (17 hours ago) [-]
give her a joint
#167959 - anonymous (19 hours ago) [-]
I have a question for you guys!

So i have this friend who lives about an hour away from me. She is really hot, and im pretty sure she is a little into me. I dont know for sure doe. She snapped me today and told me to let her know the next time I was going to a party. I asked if she really would come, and she said "yes, ofc"! I then told her she could sleep at my place, because it is a little bit far, and she is probably going to.

My question for you is; how do i seduce her? We are probably a little drunk and all, so i guess it might be a little bit easier then. But when we are "going to bed", what should i do and say? Im a little new to this.. Never had a girl i kinda know over!
User avatar #167966 to #167959 - Virt (18 hours ago) [-]
ok ive had the whole drunk hook up with a friend thing happen
best bet is when youre both drunk just tell her
be up front an honest girls dig that, throughout the night just have fun and dont worry about it but your best bet is to just be up front and say you like her

its the hardest thing to do but the most sure way
however it goes good luck and just have fun, dont try too hard
#167956 - UNIQUELOL (20 hours ago) [-]
I want to get some graphic tees.

Anyone have any reccomendations to clothing sites that relate to Boomslank and o
omocat?
#167958 to #167956 - anonymous (19 hours ago) [-]
threadless, they might have some.
User avatar #167957 to #167956 - UNIQUELOL (20 hours ago) [-]
Omocat*
User avatar #167947 - brownskin ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
tried this as a content, but nobody in newest uploads can roll dubs apparently.
Just got Skyrim off Steam for like $5. First person to roll dubs gets to pick my name and race in the game. Two rolls per person. Don't forget the new rolling format.
It'll go (roll 2, 1-99) with asterisks instead of parenthesis.
Doing it on this board because it gets a good amount of traffic.
If nobody gets it in an hour, I'll just use the RPG name roll to determine the name, and develop a character around it.
Now please guys, be gentle.
User avatar #167970 to #167947 - confusedasian (18 hours ago) [-]
FIVE DOLLARS OH SHIT THE ONE DAY I LEVE MY HOuSE I GOTTA GET DAT LEGENDARY EDITION THANKS FOR HEADS UP
User avatar #167953 to #167947 - beatmasterz ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
**beatmasterz used "*roll 2, 1-99*"**
**beatmasterz rolls 37**
**beatmasterz rolls 77** An argonian named lusty maid
User avatar #167954 to #167953 - sugoi (20 hours ago) [-]
ggnore
User avatar #167991 to #167954 - brownskin ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
Are we talking a male or female argonian?
User avatar #167992 to #167991 - sugoi (16 hours ago) [-]
I believe males would be "Lusty Butler."
Since he has specified Lusty Maid I believe she will be a female Argonian.
User avatar #167994 to #167992 - brownskin ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
played the game numerous times on Xbox. Not only is this my first PC play-through, but my first female play-through. Any other details you wish to add (marriage, civil war quest line, etc.)? you do have the reigns here
User avatar #167995 to #167994 - sugoi (16 hours ago) [-]
No I do not.
Since I did not roll the dubs lel.
User avatar #167997 to #167995 - brownskin ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
whoops, sorry about that, thought i was opening up a conversation with the roller of dubs. beatmasterz, if you would kindly answer my previous questions?
User avatar #168036 to #167997 - beatmasterz ONLINE (6 hours ago) [-]
Female argonian.
User avatar #167915 - peanutbraddle (23 hours ago) [-]
Alright so a few days ago, I got a cashier's check from my dad, and never having had a bank account before I have no idea what to do with it. Does anyone know a way for me to cash it without opening a bank account? It's only for a hundred dollars, so I'd rather not open a bank account if I can avoid it.

Or, if I can open a bank account with nothing but a money order in it?
#167935 to #167915 - saltybanana (22 hours ago) [-]
ayy man go to the liquor store, just like mah pappy

well i would recommend you to open a bank account honestly. if you do try a credit union. i have one never had any problems with them at all. i have premier america good bank, good bank

if not just ask a friend todo it for you you have friends right?

last one is the liquor store method, never knoew how to do it, risky honestly
User avatar #167936 to #167935 - peanutbraddle (22 hours ago) [-]
thanks man, I guess I have to find a decent bank near me
Or go to the liquor store but I'm not 21 so that would probably be suspicious
User avatar #167937 to #167936 - saltybanana (22 hours ago) [-]
well atleast are you of 18 years of age? if so i know theres those check n cash places letg you do it
User avatar #167938 to #167937 - peanutbraddle (22 hours ago) [-]
yeah, I am
#167913 - fffffffuuuuuuuuuuu (23 hours ago) [-]
It's Christmas. I see people being happy with their friends, girlfriends etc.
And I'm just spectating alone from the sideline.

Don't really know what to feel now. Am I supposed to be happy because it's Christmas, because I feel pretty damn bad and lonely about it all.
User avatar #167976 to #167913 - hanakoikezawa ONLINE (17 hours ago) [-]
same here, i'm not really bummed about it though. i'll be a bit happier on christmas when it can be just my immediate family and opening presents.
User avatar #168035 to #167976 - fffffffuuuuuuuuuuu (7 hours ago) [-]
Yeah I love being with my immediate family, but opening presents probably isn't gonna be a thing this year because of financial stuff unfortunately.
User avatar #167949 to #167913 - delphine (21 hours ago) [-]
Find a group to join. There are always groups of people meeting up to go bowling or ice skating or going out for happy hours.
#167939 to #167913 - anonymous (22 hours ago) [-]
Problem with going to bars is that the alcohol is overpriced as fuck, you need to further pay for a ride home, and people never want to do it because they have shit to do the next day.
#167931 to #167913 - anonymous (22 hours ago) [-]
Christmas is optional. no one is making you celebrate it, only do it if you want to.   
   
invite friends round if you feel lonely or if they're having a party, go to it. as for Christmas day, just do what makes you happy. play vidya games, listen to music, browse the interent, go to a rave, fart on all the electric appliances whatever I dunno what floats your boat.    
   
save money, have fun.
Christmas is optional. no one is making you celebrate it, only do it if you want to.

invite friends round if you feel lonely or if they're having a party, go to it. as for Christmas day, just do what makes you happy. play vidya games, listen to music, browse the interent, go to a rave, fart on all the electric appliances whatever I dunno what floats your boat.

save money, have fun.
User avatar #167952 to #167931 - fffffffuuuuuuuuuuu (20 hours ago) [-]
Good call, thanks anon
#167927 to #167913 - youregaylol (23 hours ago) [-]
stop being a sad cunt and enjoy the merriment and joy

you have an entire year ahead of you to reinvent yourself, if anything you should be happy
User avatar #167951 to #167927 - fffffffuuuuuuuuuuu (20 hours ago) [-]
Yea, 2014 wasn't really the year for me so that makes sense. Thanks.
#167896 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
I'm feeling really deflated and shitty right now...
Basically I've been going out with my boyfriend (we'll call him John) for 2 months. We've known eachother for longer, about a year.
John and myself met online through gaming and have similar interests in gaming, we're planning on meeting in March.
John has a very busy lifestyle (army) however he always made time for me, we'd always say goodnight, goodmorning and spend time together on skype or w/e everyday.
Over the past month that started to not happen so much, his enthusiasm in our relationship started to drain a bit. I am a virgin and John is not so often if John would want to do certain things with me I'd be too shy to, he would understand and always say to take my time in being comfortable, however I worry that this may have led to less enthusiasm. Upon questioning him about this because we started not talking so much and then eventually sometimes not at all some days, he said he was very busy with work (carry on in comment 2)
User avatar #168051 to #167896 - advicedude (1 hour ago) [-]
Whatever you do, don't back off. Even if you can feel him growing distant. This may sound dick-ish but maybe be more intimate?
#167903 to #167896 - dehumanizer (23 hours ago) [-]
>my boyfriend


get the fuck out
User avatar #167911 to #167903 - womanexplain ONLINE (23 hours ago) [-]
There's no need to be a dick to people for no good reason. Grow up.
User avatar #167955 to #167911 - sugoi (20 hours ago) [-]
Lol it's dehumanizer give him a break.
He was never the same after the breakup...
jks it was just a plain ole rejection.
#167929 to #167911 - dehumanizer (23 hours ago) [-]
im here to deliver justice
User avatar #167964 to #167929 - womanexplain ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
>Implying I'm a femtard because I'm female
top kek.
User avatar #167973 to #167964 - confusedasian (18 hours ago) [-]
No, you're misunderstanding. dehuman is just normally like this.

There's so many explains now. Hey actually since you're here, is there any reason why girls eat a lot of chocolate during periods? Or is that just some stereotype? I wouldn't know. I don't really talk to women, or anyone, and I've never dated one, or anyone.
User avatar #167975 to #167973 - womanexplain ONLINE (18 hours ago) [-]
I do understand what he's doing, which is why I'm merely just going along with it without properly objecting nor considering it.
Anyway, to answer your question, when women feel shitty (i.e. hormonal, stressed and generally sad, which can be linked to periods sometimes), we often tend to turn to indulgence. It's just that for women it's commonly through sweet foods like ice cream and chocolate, whilst for men it's through alcohol etc. Every person on this planet has a preferred form of indulgence, it's just that many women take the path of food/beauty treatments etc. for stuff like this. We also like the thought of 'treating ourselves' and tend to do so when we feel more deserving of it (so again feeling shitty/overworked/sad/tired etc.).
I've been an explain here for a while so yeah I realise there are a lot of us now.
User avatar #167981 to #167975 - confusedasian (17 hours ago) [-]
Have you? I'm trying to keep track of everyone. I'm a pretty confusedasian so I like summoning explains whenever I remember.

This might be out of your circle, but what about feminine males? Like the girly boys? The girly gay guys, the tranie people, and stuff like that. Do you do explains of them too? Or are they completely different than an actual woman?

I don't want to sound rude or homophobic or transphobic, if that is a word, they just interest me and I'd like to meet one in real life. But I think they would be annoyed with me always asking them questions or trying to touch them. I like touching things. I'm that guy that always runs his hands on the walls as I walk past them. Or that guy that always touches the different fabrics when clothes shopping. I'm also that guy that, when I re-read everything I said, is creepy apparently.
User avatar #167983 to #167981 - womanexplain ONLINE (17 hours ago) [-]
I could probably offer insight, I hate to toot my own horn but I am very good at sensing people, I used to be very active on /advice/ which is probably why you haven't heard of me until now. I used to deal more with psych. issues rather than girl issues, I have a good insight into people and how they individually work. You don't sound homophobic or whatever, you sound normal. As children upon discovering something new, we tend to look at it and feel it to make sense of it, as adults we do the same just sans touch when not appropriate (i.e. looking at a painting in a museum, though many still do touch a painting with a 'do not touch' sign for what seems no apparent reason). If you want an insight into these kinds of people I can try, however as I am not apart of said community my insight will be limited to my experience of said people.
User avatar #167986 to #167983 - confusedasian (16 hours ago) [-]
Noted.

Last questions. How would you think I should go about asking a gay/trans/*insert whatever label they want to go by* out? Is it the same as a woman? How would I even go about asking a woman out? How bothered/weirded out/mad would they get if I keep trying to touch their hair?

My favorite thing to touch are hands and hair. I'm guessing touching and holding hands is normal on first dates or what not, but i think hair touching might be a bit too far.
User avatar #167988 to #167986 - womanexplain ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
The sex of the person you ask out is mostly unimportant when asking someone out, more so when dealing with a non binary individual. My advice to you is to get close to that person, ask them to lunch or just to do something one on one, and just let it naturally flow. There is no guideline or rule book, let the chemistry between you sort itself out. If nerves get in the way of that though, then try and take initiative. Perhaps if you're unable to ask this person out face to face, drop hints like adding them as a friend on facebook, or liking ONE (more than one is creepy when you don't know someone well, one shows you looked at their profile and took an interest) profile picture.
I would also say that holding hands isn't normally first date stuff, first date stuff (depending on the person it's with) is pretty non contact, hand holding and other forms of contact are things established later in relationships.
Just find someone you're interested in and strike a conversation about a similar interest. Remember there are plenty of fish in the sea and that looks are great and all but they wear off pretty quickly if the personal connection isn't there. Not saying go for someone who doesn't tickle your pickle, but don't fuck yourself over.
#167989 to #167988 - confusedasian (16 hours ago) [-]
Now, if only I would leave my house.

I don't care about looks much to be honest. I'd rather date someone that likes talking. Like a lot. I'm more of a listener, so they can talk as much as they want and I don't have to.

Thanks mate.
User avatar #167990 to #167989 - womanexplain ONLINE (16 hours ago) [-]
Leaving the house can be hard (I was pretty much a shut in for 4 years), but once you find something that drives you (for me it was education) you'll get out.
#168007 to #167990 - confusedasian (15 hours ago) [-]
Oddly enough, this is the fortune I got from my fortune cookie.

I also got another that says "All things come to him who goes after them."
User avatar #168010 to #168007 - womanexplain ONLINE (14 hours ago) [-]
Then you have nothing to be confused about, asian.










hue
#167916 to #167911 - fistfireace (23 hours ago) [-]
Isn't this site full of people who are dicks for no reason? Not saying everyone is, but most are.
User avatar #167918 to #167916 - womanexplain ONLINE (23 hours ago) [-]
Still, this person is obviously upset, it's just not needed.
User avatar #167920 to #167918 - fistfireace (23 hours ago) [-]
Well, dehumanizer does this all the time. You're not supposed to take him seriously. Although, if the anon doesn't come to advice often, then I suppose it's understandable that she wouldn't know.
User avatar #167922 to #167920 - womanexplain ONLINE (23 hours ago) [-]
I don't know dehumanizer nor anon so idk, I just don't like people being assholes is all.
User avatar #167923 to #167922 - fistfireace (23 hours ago) [-]
Fair enough.
#167906 to #167903 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
What?
#167908 to #167907 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
I don't know why you're being mean to me...
User avatar #167950 to #167908 - delphine (21 hours ago) [-]
Just read his name... "dehumanizer". He's here to be an asshole troll. That's his self-proclaimed duty.
#167928 to #167908 - dehumanizer (23 hours ago) [-]
serves you right
User avatar #167921 to #167908 - fistfireace (23 hours ago) [-]
He's the advice shitposter, don't take him seriously.
#167909 to #167908 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
He's my first boyfriend... I'm a 19 year old female, I'm not a washed up whore nor am I trying to initiate a fight with you... Please leave my post alone.
#167930 to #167909 - dehumanizer (23 hours ago) [-]
stop fucking complaining i've never had a girlfriend so shut the fuck up you dont know what true suffering is now get out!
#167897 to #167896 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
I meant in my last comment upon questioning him about why he didn't talk to me so much, not about the sexual stuff.
He said he was very busy with work and stressed by those around him, that when he got back to his room he just wanted to chill out from everyone and play his games and w/e. He also stated that he was 'sorry I wasn't his number 1 priority'. I never wanted to be his first priority, only a priority. I also felt like he was saying I was one of the things that stress him and that he wants to avoid...
We have now gotten into a routine of barely speaking for a week and then speaking on a Friday for a long period of time, this is supposedly due to the fact that he's been so busy as it's close to Christmas, however with every passing thought I have of him and every moment of feeling shitty and wanting to text him, however not wanting to initiate a conversation and see for myself that it's only me who cares enough to speak I just feel shittier and shittier.
(carries on in 3)
#167899 to #167897 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
I know he's been really busy and stressed, however I see him posting on facebook and so I know he has free time to just send me a text and let me know how he is, he chooses not to.
I feel like I should be one of the closest people in his life and he's pushing me away. I also noticed he still has an old picture of him and his ex on his profile that I had taken issue with before, he either forgot to remove it or couldn't be bothered.
He can be very loving and when we speak he does say 'I love you' etc. We also used to text during the day whilst I was at school, another thing that no longer happens...
I love him to death and I really want this to work out, but I can't hold on when I'm the only one who feels like they care...
I already feel like he's out of my league and I have issues with overthinking things and so I doubt a lot of things I think which is why I'm posting here to confirm I'm not being crazy... I just want him to show me love...
I just don't know what to do...
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#167901 to #167899 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
I haven't spoken to him since Thursday and I'm waiting for him to initiate a conversation to see how long it takes him to give a fuck, however with each passing day I'm getting angrier and angrier, and when he does talk to me I plan on showing that I'm upset. I just don't know how...
He has pet peeves that he demands to be recognised, however I can't point out anything or it leads to a tiff... I have no proper outlet in my life and so along with other things in my life this just makes me so unhappy...
I don't know how to make him see that I can't deal with this, that I need him to love me and be there for me like I am for him...
For instance, I've recently been ill, I posted about this on facebook and he didn't ask me anything about it, if he had done the same I would have very quickly asked. Infact this morning he posted a picture of a broken glass and I decided to delete a comment I asked to see if he was okay, because I figured I care too much...
I don't want to be obsessive...
#167902 to #167901 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
He can be so loving, caring and kind... I'm utterly in love with him, but I'm also so hurt and scared at the thought of losing him or that he's bored of me... But looking at the pic of his ex it also doesn't surprise me... I compare myself to other girls often and I just...
I can understand why he'd get bored of someone like me, maybe I was just there to fill his boredom for a bit... I'm surprised he even liked me in the first place, I should be happy just for that right? Maybe I'm just being selfish again...
Sorry FJ, I'm not normally such a downer... I just don't know anymore...
User avatar #167919 to #167902 - fffffffuuuuuuuuuuu (23 hours ago) [-]
First of all never doubt yourself, you've tried to do good. My point is, whatever you did, it came from the heart. The place of love, and I believe everything done from the heart can never be a bad thing. So don't doubt yourself.

Second, there are some possible reasons why he isn't contacting you that much anymore. Either there's someone else or he's genuinely busy. Ask him directly, you want an answer right? You want this out of your head? Well to answer your questions, ask him and tell him how you feel. I think that there should be more people like you that appreciate care and love, nowadays it's not that common anymore. Or at least that's how I feel. Good luck and carry on!
#167924 to #167919 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
I tried to tell him how I felt but he got mad and said he was busy and kind of went on about how I couldn't always be the first priority and stuff which wasn't what I was asking... And I know there's no one else because he is dead set against cheating and he hasn't had the chance to meet someone else, and I can't ask him if he has because he will say I don't trust him, to be honest though, I trust him not to cheat.
Thank you for your advice and comments, it did make me feel a bit better, I just need to back off maybe...
I'll talk to him in a few days if it continues.
Thank you.
User avatar #167926 to #167924 - fffffffuuuuuuuuuuu (23 hours ago) [-]
Yea you could back off a bit. It's what I'm doing with my crush of 2,5 years now too. She got a boyfriend after 1,5 but I just loved her so much, I couldn't let go. Backing off can be hard as shit, especially if you're backing off from someone you love so much. So stay strong.
#167965 to #167926 - anonymous (18 hours ago) [-]
I'm not going to leave him, but backing off may be an idea...
#167917 to #167902 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
shh shh no more red thumbs anon.

sounds like you're 19 and overthinking everything. so i'll just give you the cliff notes

Don't know what being a virgin has to do with this.

just wait till the first week of January, for all you know he could be stressed about giving you a present, his family, work etc etc.
A guy shouldn't be texting you 24/7.
A guy needs his space
Stop thinking too much. Guys aren't that complicated and certainly aren't that passive aggressive.
#167925 to #167917 - anonymous (23 hours ago) [-]
Thank you, I understand what you're saying but I also worry that because I want to contact him more means that I care more... Then again I know he is a different person than I am... I just don't feel like I know him that well sometimes when it's like this...
Anyway, thanks. I'll wait until January.
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