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#113 - thedumbledore
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Yes, because being nice is everything needed in a relationship.

I am ******* bored of hearing that I should be like a gum-ball machine, put in kindness and pussy comes out, otherwise I am a 'Friend zoning whore'.

You need to be attracted to one another, you need chemistry, you need so much MORE than just kindness to have a good relationship with some one.

Plus, you aren't that 'Nice guy' you think you are if you are only nice to women in an attempt to get sex, then generalise all of them. Lots of us are actually decent people who want to be pals with you.

Red thumbs incoming.
#125 to #113 - ktulu
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People who get friend-zoned usually go into it way over their heads.
They go for this Babezilla and think that just being nice is going to work.
Then she figures them out in three minutes, because she's been hit on since forever ,and turns them into companion pets.
After that they sob over the fact that they are nothing more than dogs to her.
Now here's a message to the kids... If you are going to hit on a really hot girl, try a different strategy, because they've seen it all.
#116 to #113 - reginleif
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No red thumb from me, but I take offense at your assertion that we think of women as gum ball machines... no whores are gum ball machines. For they have the decency to dispense product after a set amount of currency has been put in.

No women are closer to slot machines. :P

hue hue hue

#118 to #116 - thedumbledore
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I meant people who think like OP think of women as gumball machines. Not all people.

#120 to #118 - reginleif
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Well if OP thinks that being nice ought to be counted for something then I don't see how that thinking is wrong.

I see it more of a question along the lines like

"Why do good things happen to bad people"?
"Why did Terry get that promotion, he is always late, and putting off work to others"?

;/ I see it less as a question of "why won't that bitch put out"? and more of one "why did she put out to that guy"?

And in that respect OP makes an excellent point. I'm pretty sure you yourself have wondered why seemingly unworthy people get something you wanted.
#123 to #120 - thedumbledore
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Of course being nice is part of it. OP is counting it as the only part. That's the huge thing about the 'Nice guy but I get friendzoned' crowd, they believe being kind will instantly entitles you to a girlfriend.

I was not only addressing OP in this, but that whole idea.

I get what you are saying in regards to the view, but people don't go on the internet and make multiple pictures saying how idiotic Terry is then get incredibly bitter towards all people called Terry in the future. It's the anger/entitlement I take issue with mostly.
#124 to #123 - reginleif
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Well I agree partially with what OP in that someone who is "nice" (which here we could define as a non cheating, remembers birthdays, is always on call to listen to problems) is probably more worthy of a relationship than someone who isn't.

Let's test the dismissal of OP's idea: Do you consider niceness as only "a part"? If so, then would you consider another attribute to be equal or of greater importance? I sure wouldn't, but maybe you or some other female would consider a "sixpack" or a six figure income another deciding factor? Chemistry as you mentioned earlier tells me nothing of your opinions concerning how big a part "niceness" plays in relationship worthiness. It only tells me you need a physical attraction

>I get what you are saying in regards to the view, but people don't go on the internet and make multiple pictures saying how idiotic Terry is then get incredibly bitter towards all people called Terry in the future.<

Bush, the guy who got elected to the presidency on family name alone and made sure that nobody named Bush could step foot in a White house again. xD But less famous examples can be found EVERYWHERE there is working people, they gripe about their companies and employers just as often as men gripe about women on the internet.

>It's the anger/entitlement I take issue with mostly<
I also take issue with calling this frustration "entitlement", to feel entitled to something is to believe you have a legal right to something. No one here I believe feels they have a legal right to pussy. But more importantly, if we WERE to use the fem's definition of entitlement , which for simplicity we could call the belief that one deserves something..... those nice guys still wouldn't be entitled.

When is the last time you ever saw someone work so hard as some of these so called nice guys to get something they felt "entitled" to?
#128 to #124 - thedumbledore
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I am not sure you are getting my point. I was addressing ONLY this particular crowd of people who get bitter when women won't date them then call them whores for dating anyone else (I really lack what to call them). This is not genuine niceness, it's feigned to get tits.

Niceness is a larger part, but you can't base a relationship solely on it. Generally, 'Chemistry' changes from person to person. It's just a spark that can be between two people, I can't entirely explain it as it is differing and personal thing to each person. Perhaps he/she likes funny guys, intelligence, who knows. I am tired and trying to explain this the best I can.

These people DO feel entitled, they feel that the world owes them a girlfriend just for being a 'Nice guy'. I am not, as previously stated, addressing all men. Just this minority that constantly make these pictures, that constantly comment that women are ridiculous for not dating them due to their 'kindness'.

Some of these particular people may work hard, but they still feel that sense of entitlement.
#131 to #128 - reginleif
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>I am not sure you are getting my point. <

I think I am actually, and I am well aware you are directing this toward "nice guys". The subject never left them, save to make a small joke about women being "slot machines".

>This is not genuine niceness, it's feigned to get tits. <

I agree, in the same way that I also agree that altruism isn't real, or that women may be attracted to less "nice" guys in favor of some other attribute they find attractive. If you believe in "genuine" niceness it means you believe in a form of altruism, and we disagree there and I disagree with you setting a false standard of niceness. :P

> Niceness is a larger part, but you can't base a relationship solely on it. Generally, 'Chemistry' changes from person to person. It's just a spark that can be between two people, I can't entirely explain it as it is differing and personal thing to each person. Perhaps he/she likes funny guys, intelligence, who knows<

Maybe she prefers a large cock, a ferrari or a guy who can rock a fedora, the question is.....do YOU consider any of the qualities you or I listed more important than niceness? Would you approve of dating someone who had the attributes you said but treated you like ****? ^^

>Some of these particular people may work hard, but they still feel that sense of entitlement. <

It's not entitlement when you expect to get some parity in the input-output of the distribution of life's pleasures. Using that definition men or women who want equal opportunities in the workplace based on just their work ethic or productivity feel entitled, those who turn in extra credit and expect a higher grade are "entitled" "(remember that I defined "nice" as engaging in certain positive behaviors that "nonnice" guys do not) and the thing is, the nice guys don't even try to put their beliefs into law like the former two groups! They basically just whine and complain, AFTER doing whatever "nice" deeds they just did. ;/ Not entitlement imo.
#133 to #131 - thedumbledore
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Actually, it's not 'nice guys' I am addressing. In the same way that believing there is a god doesn't make you a Christian, being friendzoned or being someone nice does not make you part of this 'If you don't date me for being nice you are an evil demoness' crew that obsess on the internet that I am addressing.

''Maybe she prefers a large cock, a ferrari or a guy who can rock a fedora, the question is.....do YOU consider any of the qualities you or I listed more important than niceness? Would you approve of dating someone who had the attributes you said but treated you like ****? ^^ ''
Once again, you are twisting what I mean. Hell, maybe she does get off on that, it's her choice, but my point was that you can not base a relationship on NICENESS ALONE. I never said anything else was more important, I simply stated that it's not a good thing to base a relationship on.

I disagree with your 'Entitlement' comparison. Personal and professional issues are different. When you do something nice, you should not expect a reward. When you do the work you are paid to do, you should eventually expect recognition. In my opinion, bitching constantly that you should instantly get a girlfriend for being nice is entitlement. We will agree to disagree.

I am really tired and going to sleep now, so I probably won't reply further. Sorry man, I just got off a heavy shift.
#134 to #133 - reginleif
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>... 'If you don't date me for being nice you are an evil demoness' crew that obsess on the internet that I am addressing. <

I find you speaking about this very narrow group odd, since even the OP doesn't try to make this point. He only mentions the tendecy of Women as a group to chose mates who are not "nice".

> I simply stated that it's not a good thing to base a relationship on.<

Then pray tell what SHOULD we base relationships on? All I have heard from you is "chemistry" "laughter" or "intelligence", is it not possible these griping guys have these traits?

>I disagree with your 'Entitlement' comparison. Personal and professional issues are different.<

I disagree, people will feel disappointed when their efforts, time or money are not getting them where they think it will. Whether it be at the office or in the game of love. To say once is entitled by law to get an proportional return on effort on one side, and is being "entitled" for complaining on the other is the pinnacle of selective logic.

> When you do something nice, you should not expect a reward.<

Once again altruism, you do realize that this is like quoting the Bible to an atheist right? No act is truly selfless.

And btw, when you say you are bored of people telling you to "put out" are you not feeling entitled to niceness? With the added bonus of you not doing ANYTHING to deserve it other than being a human, while the "nice guy" at least has illusions that he is worthy due to acts? ^.-

>When you do the work you are paid to do, you should eventually expect recognition<

Do you not see the contradiction, do you truly believe that those "bitter" men do not in fact devote hours of their time, spend money, and pretty much do everything a boyfriend does? If they were to put in just as much time as the office workers, should they be allowed to expect recognition?
#127 to #123 - reginleif
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(03/24/2013) [-]
www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9XDb0nxSO4
Anyways here's what I think is an interesting take on the "friendzone".
#114 - GhandisPimpCane
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Get a hobby, be busy, workout, become independent, dont become a girl's slave, show you can have fun with out girls. Bammm you find a girl you like. Pic related for OP.
#97 - cptnbarbrosa
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Aight FunnyJunk I gotta be honest.   
Ive been dating my best friend for four months now and I'm gonna lay it out for ya.   
It started at my friends grad party. My friend and my current GF were currently talking at the time (they ended it shortly after i did not break the bro code)   
A few months after that I got the balls to talk to her. We started to talk for a good amount of time. Her and I both had issues in High School. I was mocked and made fun of because people thought i was gay, and at her school they thought she was lez. No big Deal. So because of that we connected. Shortly after that I started college. She asked me to her prom (she's a year under me) and I said yes.    
Blah blah blah   
The day after her prom i took a small step and called her Babe. She retracted from this and put me in the friend-zone. which is not bad.   
She stopped talking to me for a little bit. I knew she was afraid of something, not sure what, she never let anyone in to her world. She was rather scared. So i took it slow.    
Several months passed and I was house sitting a house for my neighbors down the road. I invited her over. We had a lot of fun and did some other things.    
the next morning again she panicked and pushed herself away from me.    
Again. Two months later, i talked to her again. This time she was at college as well, but her college is an hour and a half away from me. I do enjoy going to other colleges and having a good time so i mentioned coming down and partying. She mentioned she had been talking to a guy.    
I loved her, but i was ok, since she was happy. But then.... she called me a whore. I don't have the greatest past with women, but by no means am I a whore. And to be called a whore by someone you love... truly hurts.   
So I told her how i felt and... I told i won't speak to her again. She seemed ok with it.   
Several months later, i received a 6 page text saying how much she missed me.    
we dated 2 weeks later.   
Moral: I tried to get her for 3 years.. and succeeded.. TRY YOU NEVER KNOW
Aight FunnyJunk I gotta be honest.
Ive been dating my best friend for four months now and I'm gonna lay it out for ya.
It started at my friends grad party. My friend and my current GF were currently talking at the time (they ended it shortly after i did not break the bro code)
A few months after that I got the balls to talk to her. We started to talk for a good amount of time. Her and I both had issues in High School. I was mocked and made fun of because people thought i was gay, and at her school they thought she was lez. No big Deal. So because of that we connected. Shortly after that I started college. She asked me to her prom (she's a year under me) and I said yes.
Blah blah blah
The day after her prom i took a small step and called her Babe. She retracted from this and put me in the friend-zone. which is not bad.
She stopped talking to me for a little bit. I knew she was afraid of something, not sure what, she never let anyone in to her world. She was rather scared. So i took it slow.
Several months passed and I was house sitting a house for my neighbors down the road. I invited her over. We had a lot of fun and did some other things.
the next morning again she panicked and pushed herself away from me.
Again. Two months later, i talked to her again. This time she was at college as well, but her college is an hour and a half away from me. I do enjoy going to other colleges and having a good time so i mentioned coming down and partying. She mentioned she had been talking to a guy.
I loved her, but i was ok, since she was happy. But then.... she called me a whore. I don't have the greatest past with women, but by no means am I a whore. And to be called a whore by someone you love... truly hurts.
So I told her how i felt and... I told i won't speak to her again. She seemed ok with it.
Several months later, i received a 6 page text saying how much she missed me.
we dated 2 weeks later.
Moral: I tried to get her for 3 years.. and succeeded.. TRY YOU NEVER KNOW
#96 - envinite
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(03/24/2013) [-]
OR maybe, you are just ugly and act like ****, OP
#57 - snakefire
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Although I've never been given a shot by girls I'm nice to, I still have seen it happen to plenty of other people.
#53 - reginleif
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(03/24/2013) [-]
I may not get many women, but you won't hear me complaining about the friend zone. Because I ask, and if i get a "no" I move the **** on....

It's simple, if you are giving boyfriend level attention to someone who isn't your girlfriend.... then there's really no incentive to upgrade.

That's like a girl asking you to be her boyfriend, while your actively ******* her.
#54 to #53 - reginleif
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you're*
#58 to #53 - animalsgreenberet
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most girls do ask the guys who actively **** them to be their boyfriends.
#37 - allennis
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#28 - smokedmeatlog
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Guys keep themselves in the friendzone by expecting the girl to change. Because you are so nice and comforting, they see you as a friend and not someone who they want to ****. If the guy realizes hes not getting anywhere and doesnt try to do anything to change it or even leave, than he is inadvertently preventing himself from moving on, thus he stays where he is.

Solution? Use those 2 dangling things in between your legs and stop being a pushover.
#121 - bitchplzzz
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(03/24/2013) [-]
I have no experience in this
>tfw got spaghetti talking to girls
#43 - discardedslinky
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Guys, as a female, I'm telling you that if you aren't forward with girls they won't get it. Ask them out, be a man. Girls like confidence.
#46 to #43 - curtkobain
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Why can't girls be forward about it? One minute you think they like you' the next minute you're not so sure.
#48 to #46 - discardedslinky
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(03/24/2013) [-]
I understand what you mean. I am guilty of this. I was really just trying to be nice, and play around but I ended up giving him the wrong idea, and I ****** it all up.

I guess the best way to say it is that girls are bitches that like to be wanted even if they don't want the other person back. Which is why I say to be forward, if you get it out there you'll know. It might suck, but It's better knowing in my opinion.
#47 to #46 - PartyPanda
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Because it's not the girl's job to grow balls.
But maybe, some guys are into girls with balls.
#56 to #47 - curtkobain
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I don't think you understand what I'm saying. I'm saying if a girl just wants to be friends, she shouldn't flirt. Its confusing.
#70 to #56 - PartyPanda
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Oh I see what you are saying now, and believe me I know how that feels.
I think there are quite a few possible answers to that predicamente, but it is late and I have lost the function to think.
#35 - chickenmonkey
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(03/24/2013) [-]
********, my ex is with a nice guy
#34 - methead
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(03/24/2013) [-]
its much cheaper to just pay for a prostitute

-common sense
#22 - hudis
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(03/24/2013) [-]
******* stop it already. The friendzone exists more in your head than in reality.
******* stop it already. The friendzone exists more in your head than in reality.
#26 to #22 - lordgeneral
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The friendzone exists in reality.

the only problem is that people see it as this giant hole in the ground when it's really just a waiting room.
#135 to #26 - hudis
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Of course it exists, I'm just saying it's more of a mental barrier. If you keep going around thinking you will wind up in the friendzone, you probably will. I'm saying this as someone who has "been in the friendzone" multiple times and for good reason.
#139 to #135 - lordgeneral
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(03/24/2013) [-]
It's honestly not as complex as the "you're like a brother" zone. though, if she's kinky...
#142 to #139 - hudis
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Hah. I got brotherzoned a few years ago. It was heartbreaking then but now I don't really mind it - it just means that I know she'll stick around forever, which is a good thing. I wish other guys would realise the bright side of the friendzone (when it's actually -because- they don't want to lose you as a friend). It's a very valuable friendship if the feeling is mutual.
#132 - trojandetected
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**trojandetected rolled a random image posted in comment #23 at g**gle on anime **
Being nice does not mean you have coincident or are romantic or even decently good looking stop blaming freindzone and being nice she just does not like you -.- im going to sound like a dick but the sooner you learn this the sooner you will get a girl/boy/whatever the **** it is/ there is probably a girl who is nice to you who adores you but you are to blind to see. or maybe you do see you just dont like her. this is how the girl you like will fell about you either she does not know or does not want to be with you.
#129 - europe
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Yes, girls usually want you to be nice to them, but most of all they want you to be confident.

having lots of money works too.
#115 - chuckbillrow
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conversation i once had
girl "why are you so much nice to me? no one else is"
me "well everyone else thinks you are a bitch"
girl *shocked look*
me while holding back laughter "sorry it was just to perfect"
girl "**** you!" *walks away*
#45 - iamkagji
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Not always true. The friend zone exists, but not as much as people like to delude themselves into believing .
#27 - cierrayooo
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(03/24/2013) [-]
...i actually said something like that to my last boyfriend

he cheated on me
#13 - seleniyxoxo
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Actually, the first guy that was was really nice to me and asked me out got me, and we are still together. Not all girls are the same guys.
#6 - quazyjash
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(03/23/2013) [-]
This literally happened to me yesterday, girl telling me about all the crap every guy has done to her, tells me I'm the only guy she trusts...

"There is just no way we could be together" -.-
#10 to #6 - quazyjash
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Wow, all you guys are ******* pricks.
#11 to #10 - quazyjash
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You know it's not even just that. You guys are following the new trend of funnyjunk. Bash on people that are upset about being in the friendzone. You think that your enlightened and that your way above them, but you're really not. Just a month or two ago, you were agreeing with people that told their stories about being friendzoned. You are just a bunch of douchebag lemmings.
#33 to #11 - anon
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(03/24/2013) [-]
how about you stop being a betafag and tell her tits or gtfo.
#122 to #33 - quazyjash
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(03/24/2013) [-]
Because I actually respect women you piece of **** cunt. All you ******* are getting pissed because you know I'm right. Go suck the new trends dick, and the new trend after that. **** all of you. I was just posting something relevant to the post. (Something that comments were made for)
#140 to #122 - anon
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go be a pussy somewhere else, faget.