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User avatar #195079 - darkangeloffire (08/25/2015) [-]
So I just got into university and I was wondering if anyone has any first year tips and things of importance.
#195170 to #195079 - maxsexington (08/26/2015) [-]
1> The first two weeks your time table is going to be all over the place cause Teachers are still figuring stuff out themselfs.

2> take handy notes. Only write down whats important

3> Lots of places use Student Discounts look them up

4>In college some of your work can be used in other projects. You can Copy and Past but alter it

5>Explore the place and know where things are, it'll save you from having a heart attack

6> Wear a shirt of a band/movie you like it can be used to start convos

7> Be aware of the real weirdos they usually make themselves known in week 2

8> If you getting under a passing grade take the same test again. If you are still doing poor in it. Request they reevaluate the score. Most teachers will prefer to bump up your grade than actually do the work

Made the most important one big .Ha
User avatar #195238 to #195170 - darkangeloffire (08/27/2015) [-]
thanks a ton
User avatar #195136 to #195079 - kentheman (08/26/2015) [-]
Don't be afraid to make friends in class. Study groups in my experience have always been helpful because everyone there wants to do well in their classes. Knowing people in your class can also help you in the case you can't attend and you need notes for the day, but don't forget to return the favor.

If you were popular / unpopular in high school, it doesn't matter in college. Nobody gives a shit who you were . If there's anything you want to change about yourself, now is a good time to do it.

You got an exam in 3 weeks? Study that shit since day 1. I used to have the habit of studying 5 minutes before class and still doing okay. That was only the first two years of college. When I got into subjects like organic chemistry, you can't study that shit for 5 mins and expect to get an A. You also put a shit ton of stress on yourself if you try and cram the night before. I cannot stress this enough. Study while you still have time and do NOT do it last minute. That way if you do not understand something, you have time to ask for help on whatever you have trouble with.

I don't know if your professors allow "free days" to be absent. Try not to miss class. You / your parents are paying hard earned money, it would be a waste. By missing class I mean "Man, I really don't feel like going.". Emergencies/life/shit happens, try to make those the only days you miss class. For me, I would skip class to study for other classes / work on assignments.

Don't be afraid to ask questions in class. You're only fucking yourself over if you deny yourself the chance to understand what you are learning. People may say things, but some people are just dicks, and just forget them, it's about you and your education.

Take advantage of the resources your school has to offer. Things like job fairs, career services, networking etc. For those kinds of things, dress nicely and have a good resume out. It looks good on you since it shows that you are actively trying to do something for yourself, so to say. What I'm trying to say is that it can open opportunities to you that generally will be beneficial to you in the future. See if you can do internships over the summer, that will give you something to do and it's something to put on your resume.

Keep tabs on your credits! Know what classes you need / don't need for your degree and follow through with it. This is assuming you are already set on what you wanna major in.

Make friends with your professors, they may know people who can or they themselves can hook you up with valuable opportunities. Just introduce yourself and give them a handshake and drop by their office hours from time to time. It shows that you give some sort of a shit about their class and makes it more likely that you can get a letter of recommendation from them. That shit right there can be your one way ticket to a good job.

And lastly, have fun. College is something you don't want to waste. Party a bit, meet some girls / guys, join some clubs, whatever. Try out new things (don't do drugs or get thrown in jail haha).

Enjoy it while you can. People at orientations don't tell you this kind of stuff. I'm about to start my last year of college in a week and I really wish that someone smacked me in the face 4 years ago about all this advice.

You got this. Enjoy the ride.

Anything else you need to ask about, I can, for the most part help you.
User avatar #195165 to #195136 - darkangeloffire (08/26/2015) [-]
Thanks a bunch, will do
#195102 to #195079 - minutes (08/25/2015) [-]
Take every exam on the first try. You will feel overwhelmed and stressed as fuck but afterwards you will feel so much better and so relieved, it's definitly worth it. While everyone has to keep on studying you can just chill and have your vacation.
User avatar #195094 to #195079 - joshlol (08/25/2015) [-]
pay attention to shit
but notepads and write shit down (or take notes on a computer)
make a chart that will make you spend 30-60 minutes a day studying each module you're taking
User avatar #195082 to #195079 - confusedasian (08/25/2015) [-]
It's pretty much high school with grown ups. No big deal.
#195068 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
There's a girl at work I kind of like. We work and talk a lot and she just added me on Facebook so when should I message her I feel like doing it right now would be a little weird
User avatar #195164 to #195068 - justsomechickyo (08/26/2015) [-]
Well I don't think it's weird to chat her up..... but be real careful about dating people you work w/....can get real messy and akward, not to mention could get you into trouble
User avatar #195112 to #195068 - urmothersass (08/25/2015) [-]
Not to sound pompous, but it's pretty clear from your posts that you've got what's called an obsessive personality. Breathe, go about your life, put it out of your mind as best you can, and when it pops back up into your crazy brain just do it and flow with whatever comes. If you go about it in the methodical way you have planned nothing will fall in place the way you want it to, which will only make you more nervous and therefore make you come off more creepy, which you really really don't want, friend.
User avatar #195075 to #195068 - schurftinator (08/25/2015) [-]
don't overthink it, if you added someone would you think it was weird if they would send a 'hey I saw you added me! hi!'-message?
#195077 to #195075 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
I see her a lot at work though so would it really be like a surprise
User avatar #195078 to #195077 - schurftinator (08/25/2015) [-]
well, it's the best way of sending a subtle message that you might be interested and if she doesn't respond, just stop sending messages, easy like that.
User avatar #195073 to #195068 - sugoi ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
Not at all probably.
#195076 to #195073 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
Should I do it friday night?
I like making plans more than just sudden and that's a time I'm sure she's free
User avatar #195113 to #195076 - sugoi ONLINE (08/26/2015) [-]
She's on facebook, just chat when she's online.
What schurftinator said, don't overthink it.
User avatar #195054 - gharshi (08/25/2015) [-]
would you do a 14 year old if it was legal in your country?
User avatar #195115 to #195054 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
No, have trouble getting into anyone more than a year younger than me, tbh(I'm 21).
User avatar #195103 to #195054 - captainduck (08/25/2015) [-]
Yeah, I would, but what force would make her?
User avatar #195086 to #195054 - alexanderburns ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
the only child in the whole universe I would have sex with is princessren
User avatar #195083 to #195054 - confusedasian (08/25/2015) [-]
No. I'd wait until 16.
#195056 to #195054 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
it is legal here

too bad no gf ever tho ;_;
User avatar #195057 to #195056 - gharshi (08/25/2015) [-]
legal here as well, m8. just met a qt 14 year old and she's super into me, but I can't shake the thought of how she is really fucking young. I'm 19, so the age difference isn't completely ridiculous, but idk if I should actually do it.
User avatar #195114 to #195057 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
The age difference is ridiculous, friend. You're not adult, she's not.
User avatar #195116 to #195114 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
*you're an adult
#195058 to #195057 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
do it for me

litteraly what does it matter if she's younger?!?
#195059 to #195058 - gharshi (08/25/2015) [-]
I guess I've been hanging around foreign websites where the age of consent is 18 for so long that it kinda weirds me out to think about shagging a 14 year old. I did say yes to hanging out this weekend though. guess we'll see how it goes.

she's also really short and skinny. she could easily look like a 12 year old. kinda feel pedo-ish
#195060 to #195059 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
whatever, DOO ITTT a free pass for PTP, fucking PTP!!!! by 18 they are already old and used up, ARGH JUST DOO ITTT
#195182 to #195060 - rereviven (08/26/2015) [-]
She is 18 by the way
#195232 to #195182 - dehumanizer (08/27/2015) [-]
too bad
#195069 to #195060 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
Dafuq is PTP?
#195070 to #195069 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
Pre teen pussy
#195071 to #195070 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
>tfw you missed out on PTP
User avatar #195061 to #195060 - gharshi (08/25/2015) [-]
okay, that picture convinced the shit out of me, their hair and body shapes are pretty close. wish me luck on my lolly hunting, breh
#195062 to #195061 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
im already a fucking cuck so you succseeding will please me
User avatar #195050 - epicextreme (08/25/2015) [-]
Why cant I stop dreaming about her FJ? it has been over 6 months since the breakup and we were together for a year and a half. they're different dreams but still focus around her, most of which end up with us sorting it out. I wake up, and its as if we've broken up all over again and its hard. How do I stop these dreams? By day I'm over her, By night I am not.
#195051 to #195050 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
6 months? kek thats nothing kid come back to me in a year or two
User avatar #195117 to #195051 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
Lololololo this guy has the right idea, but a year or two is being incredibly generous. Read "This is How You Lose Her" by Junot Diaz. The half life of love is forever, friend. No getting around it, eventually it just doesn't hurt as much.
#195049 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
should I shave?
User avatar #195080 to #195049 - braveblue ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
Smile some more.
User avatar #195074 to #195049 - sugoi ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
Chin looks fine but for gods sake don't let it get out of hand under near your neck.
User avatar #195065 to #195049 - yourinvisiblegf (08/25/2015) [-]
it's symetrical, seems okay to me
#195048 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
im too sad for this shit, i am already going crazy
#195081 to #195048 - braveblue ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
Hey buddy, what's wrong? The oneitis thing again?
#195084 to #195081 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
The original posts was provoked by another dream i had about her, i woke up miserable ate and went to the gym, on my way back i found out she's here with her bf as evidenced by their laundry, after that i swear i almost had a heartatack as i rode by a couple i thought that was them but it wasnt. Honestly fam i wanna cry, why am i such a cuck !?! Shes never been my gf and its been its been 2 years! I havent seen her in twooooo yearsssss !!! Yet i still sit here sad and alone...

#195085 to #195084 - braveblue ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
You seriously need to start letting that go, It's just gonna bring you down everytime you are reminded of her or even look at her. She doesn't deserve you so you should just keep looking and give up any hope you had for her. Once you find someone then you should be able to get over her. You got to stop thinking about being with her because it's not gonna get you anywhere. It's just gonna hold you back.

You gotta try and get over this.
#195087 to #195085 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
My friends and family tell me that all the time and i deeply disagree so i alianate myself from them because they just cant understand. Yes it brings me great pain to remember. I have yet to see her in person since then, only maybe 1-2 seccond peaks from my window after which i would run away from the window in fear as if i've seen an alien. Then i would feel very bad for the rest of the day.

Finding someone else is the logical but i feel much to dishearted and bitter for it. I despise meeting new people.

Its not really holding me back quite the oposite, shes my hope and motivation.
#195088 to #195087 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
what the fuck i posted as anon?!
#195096 to #195088 - braveblue ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
Well if you aren't willing to find someone else then maybe you should stop wallowing in self doubt or just getting scared in general, every time you see your oneitis.

I mean unless you feel like waiting around for something that isn't going to happen then go ahead. Keep waiting if you are fine with that.

It's not wrong to like multiple people at one time just make sure when you get into a relationship that you only like that one person.
#195097 to #195096 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
I cant really find anyone esle. But just becasue there are other planets out there, doesent mean there is life on them, you know what im saying?

The only time i tried to have affection to another girl was a colossal faliure, its a sign for me. I just cant find someone new.

Shit i feel like this would be my 25th birthday. www.youtube.com/watch?v=MaYd1T782hM
#195098 to #195097 - braveblue ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
Then I wish you good luck with your oneitis.
#195099 to #195098 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
there is no hope but i feel there is no other alternative, ffs im a 21 yo khv, how am i supposed to even get a gf?!?
#195100 to #195099 - braveblue ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
It's alright to feel that way. Just keep going forward and eventually something's bound to happen.

If not, oh well at the least, you tried.
#195101 to #195100 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
yeah, another obsession that would be fatal this time
User avatar #195118 to #195101 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
"This Is How You Lose Her" by Junot Diaz. Shit, this fuckin book is the answer to every other question on this stupid board.
Also, start looking at yourself as part of a whole, rather than the only thing that matters in a world full of nothing. You're self-centered and that's the true problem. The sooner you realize that your feelings don't matter to anyone but yourself the better off you'll be. The easiest way to go about making that happen is realizing that no one else's feelings matter to you. I don't know the whole story, but clearly it's an unrequited love type thing. So this chick isn't entitled to simply not like you? How many people have you not liked in your life? Apparently all of them, from the few posts of your's that I've read. Stop being a hypocrite, stop being a jerk-off and start trying to better yourself. And if all that fails, try being a person that this ho might actually like. Either that or try to kill yourself. I can tell you from first-hand experience, option a and b are far more fun.
#195144 to #195118 - dehumanizer (08/26/2015) [-]
but i've never really had her so i cant technicly lose her...

Whats wrong with caring about myself? As much as i try to become coldhearted it only dehumanizes me. As the thinker said : "I feel therefore i am." -Wojak

Tbh what makes it even cringier is that she had a bf for 3 years then.... still with him now in their 5th year....

I just feel that if i dont have her recognition that means im flawed.

How many people have i not liked? Hmm i cant really say much people actualy liked me.
User avatar #195193 to #195144 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
1.You're taking a book title too literally, it's about learning to let shit go. I'm also beginning to wonder if you aren't trolling, but I'm an optimist at heart, so whatevs.
2.Caring about yourself is great. Necessary, actually. Caring about your feelings above everything else is ridiculous and selfish. I never suggested being coldhearted. Quite the opposite, actually. You are coldhearted and dont see it, and that's the problem.
3.Of course you're flawed shitdick, and that will never change. The idea is to aspire to be something better. Supraman and all that shit.
#195233 to #195193 - dehumanizer (08/27/2015) [-]
1 >me
>troling about feels

ayy lmao

2 whats wrong with caring about my feelings?

3 i dont really think its that, i just belive that if she in particular doesent want me, im not good
User avatar #195329 to #195233 - urmothersass (08/28/2015) [-]
You completely ignored both my points and just kept on with your bullshit, so maybe you are legit. A troll would come up with something clever, you're just Charmin soft.
Beyond that you are a bad person. Self-centered and mind-numbingly stubborn. You dont think youre not good because this girl doesn't like you, you think you're not good because your a dogshit human being and this made up infatuation is a way to avoid that fact and avoid having to better yourself. You only love yourself and your ego, that's why you refuse to acknowledge what a cunt you are. I legitimately jumped into this convo with good intentions, but fuck me are you a selfish ho. Good luck getting your life in order, friend, because I'm super done here.
#195336 to #195329 - dehumanizer (08/28/2015) [-]
nigga i never troll when it comes to feel posts and i aint got time to read books as im reading too much already

Wait what im a bad person? How? Loving my ego? What!? Where did you get that from?

What. The. Fuck. !?
User avatar #195089 to #195088 - joshlol (08/25/2015) [-]
you told your family about your oneitis?
#195090 to #195089 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
yes they know what a faliure i am, they were here when i would drink every day to numb the pain, went like 3 monts straight, drinkin erry day, i just had to passify my emotions somehow
User avatar #195091 to #195090 - joshlol (08/25/2015) [-]
almost feels good having no family kek
I'd hate for them to know how long I spent pining over some girl that doesn't give a fuck about me
#195092 to #195091 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
wait you have no family?
User avatar #195093 to #195092 - joshlol (08/25/2015) [-]
well I haven't seen them for like 3+ years anyways
#195095 to #195093 - dehumanizer (08/25/2015) [-]
well thats a diffrent sort of feel, i wonder what normies think of us
User avatar #195036 - dalokan (08/25/2015) [-]
What was that website that sold cheap books and textbooks?
User avatar #195038 to #195036 - sineztro (08/25/2015) [-]
/For+college+students/funny-pictures/5562377/ one of these? Also albris might be one to buy too
User avatar #195052 to #195038 - dalokan (08/25/2015) [-]
Thanks fam
User avatar #195033 - ishallsmiteyou (08/25/2015) [-]
Need a bit of motivation. Shit keeps going south and there's no sign it's gonna get any better.
User avatar #195072 to #195033 - muchname ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]

you arent some random FJer, man. youre an earth rocker, now pick yourself up and get back in the race, Drugs and self harm wont cure your position - you have to work and eventually itll all be alright, youll have a beautiful partner and a nice house
User avatar #195039 to #195033 - sineztro (08/25/2015) [-]
If you go far enough south you get to meet penguins and eventually you go north
User avatar #195029 - midnighteyes (08/25/2015) [-]
I need some serious advice.
How can I tell someone that I'm close to that I've been having suicidal thoughts without it coming off as a cry for attention? I just want to open up to someone but I don't know a good way to open up that sort of conversation. I don't want attention, I just want to talk to my friends about what's been going through my head.

Any serious advice is truly appreciated.
User avatar #195045 to #195029 - murderdollsqueen (08/25/2015) [-]
I was having suicidal thoughts when I was at university and I struggled with the same thing of opening up to friends/family. So I went to my doctors and I sat and talked with him for like an hour and it really helped. He gave me a list of free counselling services to use too. I don't know what country your in, but that could always be an option for you
User avatar #195030 to #195029 - confusedasian (08/25/2015) [-]
Honestly write in a diary and keep it to yourself. It's much easier, and you still get the feeling of "coming out" and closure. You can also re-read it and reflect on yourself. I've done it about four times now. My last little diary is probably one of the more important ones and helped me come to terms with who I am right now.
User avatar #195031 to #195030 - midnighteyes (08/25/2015) [-]
I've tried relying on diaries, songwriting, various other things for years now to talk about my feelings and thoughts, but now I need an actual person to hear it. I need a close friend to talk to about it with, I need someone to hear these things. I don't want to keep them to myself anymore. It's not working, and it's only making things worse. I just don't know how to strike up the conversation. I don't know if it's nerves or just a lack of a segue into that kind of conversation, but for some reason, I just can't get the words out.
User avatar #195119 to #195031 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
The more info you give the more it seems like attention seeking lol. Why the need to tell someone you are close to? Wouldn't having the convo with a stranger accomplish the same goal? You've idealized this whole thing to the point you dont even know why youre doing it. It exists solely as the saving grace you feel you need to find the courage to grasp at. The true reason you want someone who you know cares about you to hear it so they can share your burden. It's pure selfishness. What you really need is to get out of your own head (obviously easier said than done, but there is no magic shortcut). From personal experience, work on bettering yourself. I know you probably think you have, but if your situation is anything like mine, you havent. Supraman, my friend.
User avatar #195032 to #195031 - confusedasian (08/25/2015) [-]
I don't know what else to say that. In sort of the same position about 5 years ago. I was a junior. I came out, but no one really helped. I'm not good at talking and getting my words right . So it came off, I guess, as attention seeking. Fast forward to now, they haven't talked to me even though I've specifically messaged them a question about I need help in college. I just deleted them all. They obviously were never there for me, they don't care. Fine. I'll just leave.

Try talking to your parents instead, but if you're like me, it's pretty awkward I guess. I have an accepting and loving mom, just can't seem to talk about some stuff.
User avatar #195028 - hoponthefeelstrain (08/25/2015) [-]
hey guys, so I'm potty training my 8 week old husky, He LOVES water, any source of water and he immediately wants to be drinking in it or playing in it, problem is, he pees a lot when he drinks a lot. So how can I keep him hydrated while also not letting him over drink to minimize accidents? I just thought maybe I can take water with us outside and 1/3rd of the way through his play he can drink up and still have time to pee
User avatar #195046 to #195028 - murderdollsqueen (08/25/2015) [-]
How often do you take him outside to pee? When we were training both our yorkies, we took it in turns to take them outside every two hours for a week. It meant no real sleep for a while, but it worked and the dogs both knew to let us know when they wanted out. We had very few accidents at all.
User avatar #195151 to #195046 - hoponthefeelstrain (08/26/2015) [-]
I take him out after every play time and feeding/drinking time, but it rains a lot and he loves the rain gutters. We only have 4-5 accidents a day which is good considering we're both gone for work for during most of the day. He does let us know by barking sometimes, but other times he'll just do his own thing.

Also whenever we bring him up stairs he immediately pees/poops
#195024 - anon (08/24/2015) [-]
GIrl who was crazily into me came from another country to see me. Spent a month here and we got into a couple-like relationship. Anyway we agreed not to have a serious relationship because of distance.

Today I fucked a girl and feel like shit. Couldn't stop thinkin' bout her and how I was "betraying" her. I don't want to tell her because that'd hurt her, but at the same time I cannot stop dating girls just because of her.

When we talk everything is "I miss you" stuff. It's true I miss her, but I can't hold a long distanced relationship at all.

I just don't know what to do.
User avatar #195120 to #195024 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
Long distance relationship is a meaningless term. Don't think for a second your precious flower isn't getting hers too, friend. Don't be so guilty, try to foster an open and honest dynamic, and simply be friends. Maybe it all works out in the end and maybe it doesnt.
If that's too hard for you, just move on. She will too, don't worry.
User avatar #195026 to #195024 - makotoitou (08/24/2015) [-]
Congrats, you're both crazy. This will only end with one of you killing the other. I recommend hitting the gym.
#195025 to #195024 - anon (08/24/2015) [-]
Break it off with her if it's bad for either of you. It hurts you to stay with her and you know you can't.
User avatar #195019 - padorak (08/24/2015) [-]
Dear Advice:
We've been making videos for a while and it's just been for fun.
I however want some editing advice if that's alright.
In adobe premiere, I'm having trouble getting stuff to move. If I wanted words to move across the screen would I have to do that in effect controls?
User avatar #195018 - shieeetposter ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Can anyone teach me homework management for high school? Fresh for two weeks and already got into procrastination habits
User avatar #195020 to #195018 - makotoitou (08/24/2015) [-]
just do it
User avatar #195121 to #195020 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
For high school!!! Shit nigger, advice would be don't go to college. Anyway, if you're anything like me, and you don't pay attention in class, do the homework you get from morning classes the same day in your later classes if at all possible. By the time you get home the pile is cut down and it doesn't seem as intimidating. Do that shit first thing when you get home. Ifor you have half a brain it'll only be an hour of your life and you're in fucking high school, it's not like you've actually got anything better to do.
User avatar #195016 - makotoitou (08/24/2015) [-]
Anybody know good sites to get PDFs of college books?
#195001 - theite (08/24/2015) [-]
Has anyone here made any friends outside of school or work? I find it really hard to make new friends because shit just gets to awkward and I always feel like I don't 'fit in'.

Any stories.
like anyone here has friends let alone a job
User avatar #195023 to #195001 - kegget (08/24/2015) [-]
I have friends i met at gigs and festivals.
Always fit in because we like the same kinda of music, that music happens to be metal so we're all as beta as eachother too.
User avatar #195015 to #195001 - psychadelicace (08/24/2015) [-]
I find the company of anyone to be uncomfortable so no
User avatar #195012 to #195001 - ihaspotato (08/24/2015) [-]
I've had a lot of online friends but i don't know if you would count those.
#195006 to #195001 - minutes (08/24/2015) [-]
You could befriend your neighbours.
Usually you get to know new friends through old friends though. Like you go to a party with your friends, they introduce you to their friends etc.
User avatar #195122 to #195006 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
But where do those magicians conjure all of those friends from???
#194968 - dhremdt (08/24/2015) [-]
Can't get over her...
We had to split up in May, she had to leave the country and we couldn't keep the long distance relationship. I still think about her almost every time, even though we don't talk anymore. Last time I messaged her was on her birthday, ever since I've done stuff to make me forget, started to lift more, to go out more, to meet more with my friends, but I can't forget her. Every time I remember the moments we had together feels like a nail is piercing my heart.
I started to talk with other girl, girls that I had a crush on, other girls I didn't knew but I don't feel anything when I talk with them.
Didn't had anything like this before and I don't know what to do.
Death Grips - No Love (Official Video)
User avatar #194981 to #194968 - captainfuckitall (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm gonna give you the same advice as I gave to another guy:

The problem is you're idolizing it.

Just the way you talk now, it's obvious you want to be back in it and you wish it could have been different, so of course you're going to be unable to get over it. It's like thinking of a chocolate cake, so long as you remember it as delicious, you will want another slice; it's that simple.

Memories are your enemy here. Not because of WHAT you remember, but HOW. You two broke up for a reason, probably had more than a few fights, and a lot of it was most likely awkward and stupid; yet because you are remembering it through rose-tinted glasses, it seems like sunshine and rainbows rather than the crap it probably was.

The way of getting over it is the same way as killing your addiction to chocolate cake. You get out there, make new memories, try new things, discover BETTER things. "But I love chocolate cake!", yeah, but you're forgetting how crappy it was when you ate too much. "But I CAN'T get over my addiction for delicious chocolate cake!" because you're not trying to, and you're not trying to because you constantly think of it as delicious, and you constantly think of it as delicious because you refuse to see it any other way. Dig it?
User avatar #194983 to #194981 - dhremdt (08/24/2015) [-]
We didn't broke up, that's the thing. It wasn't shitty. Yeah we had our arguments, but we never yelled at each other or got mad if we had different opinions.

I understand that chocolate addiction reference, though until I find something better, chocolate is still the best.
User avatar #194985 to #194983 - captainfuckitall (08/24/2015) [-]
Yet you did. 'Splitting up' is breaking up. See? Just by that thought process alone, you are still attaching yourself to her.

You're NOT going to get over her if you do not want to, and it seems like you do NOT want to. "Trying" to get over it and actually getting over it are two different things.
User avatar #194987 to #194985 - dhremdt (08/24/2015) [-]
I see, thanks for the advice...
#194961 - anon (08/24/2015) [-]
there is a difference between thinking you deserve everything and thinking you deserve everything you've been dealt
User avatar #194982 to #194961 - captainfuckitall (08/24/2015) [-]
Good job, anon. Wise word if not completely obvious. Anything else you read in that bathroom stall?
#194993 to #194982 - anon (08/24/2015) [-]
booty number with your mum's name on it. bitch ass waste yute
#194924 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm very concerned, I am a virgin, i am (turning) 18 soon and i am happy with my virgin status and a part of me being virgin is because of religion. Problem is, i'm probably going to move to murrica next year and i'm scared of slipping, it would kill me if i lost my virginity, religious wise and own shame wise i'd never forgive myself, and i know people in america who have lost their virginity at as young as 12 so would it be kinda hard maintaining a relationship without the sexual aspect ? or should i just stay away from them as long as possible ?
User avatar #195123 to #194924 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
Judge judgey. Some human beings like fucking. If you happen to get into a relationship with one of those humans, they probably won't stick it out with you and your god's horseshit. Easiest solution would be to find another beta who practices your religion and feels the same way about pre-marital sex.

I love that this kid thinks pussy is handed out the second you step out of the airport. It's the land of opportunity. If you want to use that opportunity to do exactly what you were doing in whatever shithole you're coming from, so be it.
#195041 to #194924 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
I got you bro, been a virgin since birth and am waiting till marriage also due to religious reasons.
If you're coming from Europe, it's a lot sluttier over there than here.
If you're coming from central america, south america, or asia, it's gonna be a culture shock. It will seem like everyone is doing it except you, partially because they are. So go to church and find like minded people, or else you're gonna get seriously depressed.

Been asked for sex before, many relationships I've been in they have begged for me to fuck them. It's difficult a lot of the time, especially if they are hot, just gotta make sure you're dating someone religious who is also ok with waiting. its like .000000009 percent of people, but they congregate so it aint that bad.

But it's not that hard to turn down sex, just say you have a girlfriend.
or no.
Saying no without an explanation is my favorite, they always look so confused it's great. So wired to believe that guys want sex every living moment of every day. Saying no baffles the shit out of them, it'll be ok lil man you got this.
#195027 to #194924 - confusedasian (08/25/2015) [-]
What are you? Like, you come from Germany? Russia? Mongolia? Some African country with a weird ass name I can't pronounce? Just curious. You don't have to answer.

If you're a boy, no one cares. If you're a girl, just say no or something. It's not that hard, and not everyone gets laid at 12. People will also sometimes lie to seem cool I guess. You're 18 so I'm guessing you're not in school. Yeah you should be fine.

What you should really be worried about are the pickles. Americans have some weird obsession with pickles dude. No joke. Other than that, welcome to liberty and freedom.
User avatar #195013 to #194924 - serhiy (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm just going to be honest and tell you, and not sugar coat it like everyone else has done. Unless you are within a group of similarly minded people, avoiding drinking and men is social suicide.

first of all, It will be highly unlikely that that your social connections with other people will extend outside your classroom / work / whatever, meaning people will avoid inviting you to gatherings outside so they do not upset your beliefs. And if they do invite you, can you even imagine just sitting there awkwardly watching as your friends drink and talk and bring up the extremely likely topics of guys, sex and relationships. we are talking about late teen - early adult americans here after all

And you can just forget about guys, sexual needs exist, and unless you find someone just as religious as you, any relationship with a guy will not go beyond "just friends" .
#195014 to #195013 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
But, im pretty chill, i hang out with people who smoke / drink and i dont but i have just as much fun as them so i don't see that as a problem, i love drunk people, theyre the funniest.
And eh, i guess the guy will have to know the bargain when he asks me out, so he doesn't waste time.
#195007 to #194924 - minutes (08/24/2015) [-]
Not gonna lie to you, it will be really hard for you to find some guy who would be willing to agree to that. Sex is a part of every healthy relationship. I am not saying it's all there is or that it's only about sex, but it's a very important part. You're 18. That means you probably want a guy that is around 18-22 right? These guys do not think that far. You would be missing out on really great guys just because of that. Of course you could say "well if he wasn't willing to wait for it, he was just a jerk anyways" but that's bullshit. If you want someone to limit himself to you, and you only, you actually have to give him something. Sexual needs are a real thing, by saying that you won't do anything before you marry, you're putting a huge burden on your relationship. I love my girlfriend to death and I don't plan on leaving her, but we wouldn't be a couple now if she would share your opinion on that. It's just ... love builds up you know? You don't see one person and instantly love him/her forever. You seem to like each other at first, get to know one another and and fall in love. If she told me that she wants to stay a virgin for marriage, it wouldn't have gone any further than the second step.

I don't want to force you to anything. If you feel really uncomfortable, don't do it. But by being this strict about it you're just making your own life harder. You'll miss out on a lot of great guys, maybe even the love of your life. Why don't you just start slow and try to be a little bit more open minded about it? Like, get closer to each other, get a little bit closer sexually one step at a time, and when the time comes and you feel comfortable enough with him, there really is no good reason to wait anymore.

Anyways, good luck.
User avatar #195008 to #195007 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I get you, I completely understand and agree , and if it weren't for my religion that's exactly how it would've been, but really I can't do anything about it or just don't wanna mess up my faith, and I would never think a guy was a jerk for leaving me because of sex, of course if someone is used to getting something they wouldn't settle for less, I'm hoping to just have someone love me enough to wait, and if not I'd be fine being just friends, I'm not one to want commitment either, like I'd be okay with a nice medium length relationship that just ends peacefully . but I guess when it actually comes to marriage its going to be much harder, I want someone to be as understanding to even stop me if I had a weak moment, I'm fine with kissing/ cuddles , I'm affectionate and if it weren't for my religion I would love giving /receiving pleasure from my partner .
It's just that my religion means alot to me, I'm not the best but I try my hardest, I've never drank, no tattoos, never had pork etc etc, and it would break my parents if they ever found out I wasn't a virgin or I ended up pregnant some day.
Simply put there's alot more on the line than just missing out on the perfect guy, parents , religion, respect , all of these are values I grew up with and its kinda hard to just throw them away for someone I fall in love with.
#195042 to #195008 - anon (08/25/2015) [-]
Literally just go to church there are thousands of guys who would do just that. Like for real, what the fuck. We exist in much higher numbers than females, literally fucking pick and choose.
User avatar #195003 to #194924 - theite (08/24/2015) [-]
people who brag about losing their v card at a young age are usually just trashy in general. trust me, no one is just going to fuck you out of the blue.

but hey if they do, let me know where to find them
User avatar #194998 to #194924 - alexanderburns ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
crazy idea here
how about
you just don't have sex with anyone
User avatar #194999 to #194998 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I won't
and i don't want to
But i'm afraid it might happen, so i was asking for advice to prevent it.
#195002 to #195000 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
are you saying theres no way to prevent it
User avatar #194994 to #194924 - darkbladept (08/24/2015) [-]
Just out of curiosity,why is it encouraged to stay a virgin until marriage?
User avatar #194996 to #194994 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I got dis.
So, logically, people need to remember that religions were created centuries ago, and you can see all the downsides sex before marriage has,
STD's from multiple partners.
getting pregnant with someone who isn't going to marry you.
Having sex with multiple men and not knowing who the father is if you get pregnant etc etc.
Spiritually , my belief of virginity is, don't you think its special ? giving up something to someone and it only being theirs. I feel like it makes me valuable, and it always has been valuable but nowadays people don't care, think of geisha's their virginity would go for 1000's , she would be more valuable than the ones who weren't. same as how i feel right now, And its almost like a gift, if i love someone, im giving them this gift, that is special and only for them, the only person who has it, wouldn't it make you feel special receiving something of so much value just because someone loves you and trusts you so much and when something is more valuable you cherish it more, because, its yours,
User avatar #195010 to #194996 - darkbladept (08/24/2015) [-]
Thanks for the elaborate answer!
User avatar #194984 to #194924 - captainfuckitall (08/24/2015) [-]
On a more serious note:

1. Yes it will be difficult. America and most of North America are not as conservative as wherever you are probably from. Sexuality is made more of a fashion statement than anything significant. Fortunately, so long as you don't make a POINT of being a virgin (or at least, make it obvious that it's a point), nobody would really bug you about it: Social aspect covered.

2. It is quite difficult to maintain a relationship without any form of sexual contact. Kissing/touching/cuddling may be enough until marriage, but as said, since sexuality is so liberal, most guys you get with will want you to lose it sooner rather than later. In this regard, I would highly recommend looking in a place with more 'traditional' guys and girls.

3. IF you find a guy you really like, know well, and understand, I would recommend making love and having your first time as it feels comfortable to you. There's nothing wrong with giving it to someone you're in love with, and so long as you are CERTAIN (however hard that might be) that the guy intends to marry, no personal or religious repercussions should come of it. Still, best to stay on the safe side.

If none of these seem very pleasant to you, I would recommend keeping most guys at an arms distance in general, or just get internet friends for companionship.
User avatar #194989 to #194984 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
You actually gave pretty decent advice thank you <3
1. I don't mind being a virgin at all, i pride myself on it tbh.
2. i don't mind kisses and cuddles it just scares me if it goes further than that.
3. that's not so much an option because marriage is the only way i'd allow myself.
that is starting to look like my only option which is sad, human contact id nice :c
User avatar #194991 to #194989 - captainfuckitall (08/24/2015) [-]
Hm, I'm afraid I cannot help you with issues of your own willpower unless you were to train it. Outside of that, I can only reiterate that you go for a guy with the same values (at least regarding chastity and purity) as you do, someone you KNOW that if it got heated with, you could just end the kiss by cuddling deeply and eating turkey bacon or what-have-you.
User avatar #194962 to #194924 - dreygur ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Are you afraid a girl is gonna sit on your dick while you sleep or what? Unless your standards are shit, you have to actually put effort into losing your virginity.
User avatar #194965 to #194962 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm afraid a GUY is going to take my virginity and i won't know how to deal with telling him no or getting lost in the moment
User avatar #194966 to #194965 - dreygur ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]

you're a grill

I can see how that's more of a concern, then
#194967 to #194966 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
muslim grill at that
User avatar #194960 to #194924 - rereviven (08/24/2015) [-]
95% of the girls here are disgustingly overweight with horrible personalities. Don't worry.
User avatar #194963 to #194960 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I think girls are neat and all but i have a vagina
User avatar #194952 to #194924 - lawuser (08/24/2015) [-]
Just fuck, that way you won't have to worry about losing your virginity.
User avatar #195004 to #194952 - theite (08/24/2015) [-]
that is some quality advice
#194947 to #194924 - Elk (08/24/2015) [-]
Gain 350 pounds, and you'll never have to worry.
User avatar #195035 to #194947 - CrimsonHazrad (08/25/2015) [-]
the way men are, make it 30 and theyll flee like Usain Bolt
User avatar #194933 to #194924 - swigs ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
What relegion are you sorry?
User avatar #194943 to #194942 - swigs ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Well I mean if you're wearing a hijab i'm sure they will know you're religious and believe sex is like forbidden before marriage, also they'll hopefully understand anyway. Jazakallahu Khair.
User avatar #194944 to #194943 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I don't wear hijab, I'm not super religious but i keep the important values like no drinking no sex etc etc, other than im pretty normal.
User avatar #194945 to #194944 - swigs ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Ah I see, well if you try to drop a hint or even say you're muslim most people will understand and i'm pretty sure even if you were not muslim and said you didn't want sex or anything they would understand non the less.
User avatar #194946 to #194945 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
yeah but yknow, like i said im scared I might slip too, sure the person wouldn't straight up say i want sex, but then its just scary how you hear these things just sorta happen
#194927 to #194924 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
>staying a virgin
>beeing hard

ahaha what the fuck am i reading
User avatar #194928 to #194927 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
well, i get asked out a lot, i turn down most tho, i've only had one boyfriend and he was the same religion so we understood, but if i do end up with someone who is used to sex, i wouldn't know what to do to tell him, or avoid it , i can see it as being a big barrier in relationships there
#194929 to #194928 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
you seriously expect me to belive you are an 18 year old virgin girl? ahaha hahaha get lost these things dont exist pls be in london if you are real
#194930 to #194929 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
pretty real. I'm extra virgin tbh.
i've wanted to visit since forever
#194931 to #194930 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
then you are probly like 2 thousaind kilos

srsly tho all women are trash kill yourself fam ;)
User avatar #194932 to #194931 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
i'm 5ft tall and i can fukurshit
I completely agree about women being trash tho, those cunts
#194950 to #194932 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
i cant understand the problem, just dont get a boyfriend its sooo easy
User avatar #194955 to #194950 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
eh, that was kind of the question, it'll be lonely af, but whatever
#194956 to #194955 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
whenever im lonely i just come here to shout at strangers on the internet
User avatar #194957 to #194956 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
strangers on the internet are just lewd with me
#194958 to #194957 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
User avatar #194978 to #194958 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm an ungrateful human being
User avatar #194896 - hotrodman (08/24/2015) [-]
Hey guys, I'm thinking of getting a tattoo but I'm not really sure about it. I think it would be cool to have one but I'm not entirely sure what I would get. Any suggestions? I was thinking of getting the empire logo from Star Wars
User avatar #194986 to #194896 - captainfuckitall (08/24/2015) [-]
I would recommend getting a tattoo of something that shaped you into who you are today, so that way it never really goes out of style for you.
User avatar #194917 to #194896 - schurftinator (08/24/2015) [-]
honestly getting a tattoo 'because you want a tattoo' isn't a very good reason, that usually leads up to stuff that you will regret in a few years (unless you're planning on getting loads of them because you like the artwork and the look of it; then go for it!)
especially if you're asking for random ideas from people you don't even know on a website, you might want to think it over.
and even if you have an idea you like; just think about it for at least a year and if a year later you still really really want it then consider finding an artist (and the waiting times for good artists can be several months, so you get even more time to consider).

If I would have gotten all the ink I wanted at some point, I would have some stuff right now I would really regret. Most of the tattoos I have I had the idea for about 2 years in the back of my head and I love them.
#194914 to #194896 - joshlol (08/24/2015) [-]
if you absolutely must get a tattoo I'd just get something subtle and simple that you can hide easily with clothes
User avatar #194923 to #194914 - dingdongsingsong (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm cringing so hard..
#194905 to #194896 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
>starwars tatoo

cringey as fuck, you'll regret it later
User avatar #194906 to #194905 - hotrodman (08/24/2015) [-]
eh maybe
#194907 to #194906 - dehumanizer (08/24/2015) [-]
tbh i think almost all tatoos suck, people get them for all the wrong reasons
#194901 to #194896 - anon (08/24/2015) [-]
if you aren't sure what you want to get then it's not a good idea to rush into getting one.
pick a design, set it as your screensaver. wait at least a month, if you are still like that image than get it
User avatar #194903 to #194901 - hotrodman (08/24/2015) [-]
im thinking jurassic park. i love that shit.
#194895 - blueninja (08/24/2015) [-]
OK FJ try not to troll this is something I am passionate about. I LARP, im 27 and I larp. Now before you go fllyin off the handle with visions in your head about fat nerds throwing foam balls at each other screaming "lightning bolt, LIGHTNING BOLT" first off let me say its not that kind of larp. its the kind of Larp where you can legally shield bash someone off their feet and bash them into submission. any way a few months ago I broke my third metacarpal on my right hand, like legitimate broken in two like a kit kat bar. anyway didn't need surgery but had to wear a cast for 8 weeks. now almost 3 1/2 months later I still have partial paralysis in two fingers and my grip is only at about half strength. My fighting career may be over which makes me sad. mostly because this was a sport where I could really get my daily exercise in. It essentially kept me from land whale status. what do?? im the one in blue and black
User avatar #194897 to #194895 - confusedasian (08/24/2015) [-]
>Now before you go fllyin off the handle with visions in your head about fat nerds
> im the one in blue and black
> nerdy

Jokes aside, you could have just said that you broke your hand but still want to excercise. If you're self conscious about being called a fat nerd that is. I don't larp, I could never get into it (I can. I'll just take it to far and actually be over excited and actively violent.). If you still want to excercise, like what about it did you like?

I don't know if you're the same as me. It sort of sounds like it, but I don't like excercising unless it's like playing a sport or game. For example, running? Fuck that. Run around playing basketball for 4 hours straight? No problem. I like that. If you are the same, I would just suggest some sport that doesn't require your hands/doesn't use it much. Like soccer.
User avatar #194902 to #194897 - blueninja (08/24/2015) [-]
And yes there are many fat and nerdy peeps in the dagorhir community make no mistake but not as many as you think i think the ratio is around 1 fatty to 3 jock looking motherfuckers. I assure you it's like nothing you could imagine. Standard event consists of battle until 3pm, tournaments of one on one, two on one, four v four, etc. then going back to camp to bullshit around a fire, camping, booze, parties with titty competitions, bardic tourneys(singing, storytelling, stand up, and once even a drunken kazoo medley), then fire dancers/eaters. and then we do it again the next day. Im even in a guild called the poisoners and our job is to run an open bar that only accepts tips.
User avatar #195005 to #194902 - welliguessitsaname (08/24/2015) [-]
That sounds sweet. Can you explain the rules?
User avatar #194900 to #194897 - blueninja (08/24/2015) [-]
I know im chunky friend no doubt but this sport managed to keep my interest, ive tried all kinds of sports growing up Ive done sparring, basketball, football (played free safety and later center) soocer (mid field), all kinds of shit. but I lost interest and slowly became a couch potato until i weighed over 350 lb. Dagorhir (the name of the larp i do) came with it a community and sport unlike any other. I trained and trained and lost over 80 lbs in a matter of under 2 years. after the accident on the field i got benched for over three months and now my doctor is pressuring me into hanging up my gear. I am in crisis mode mode I do not believe I will ever be able to embrace any other sport the way i did Dagorhir. My question really is do I keep fighting and risk serious injury or do i throw in the towel and resign myself to going to the gym to try and keep getting in better shape.
User avatar #195126 to #194900 - urmothersass (08/26/2015) [-]
Jiu jitsu. Same community atmosphere, less risk.
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