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#121353 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
Alright guys is have some girl troubles that actually are hurting me.

There was this girl that was so nice to me and flirty and we hung out for like 4 hours and talked all the time for about a week long, she texted me and called and talked to me on facebook and she really liked me, i liked her back but then out of nowhere she just stoped talking to me and blocked me on facebook out of nowhere.

I seriously did nothing wrong on my part and she got me to like her then she just fucked off.

I was always 100% nice to her, I never said anything wrong.

Anyone got a clue to why she just cut me off with no reason behind it?

PS: I am not ugly, I have good hobbies like boxing and exercising and she has told me i was attractive, so my looks are not a factor here.
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User avatar #121354 to #121353 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
Usually that kinda shit happens cause they find out you like them and they do not return the feeling. Maybe it's not a physical thing, maybe it's that you smoke or your loud or she's into darker or lighter skinned people.
User avatar #121356 to #121354 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
She liked me, trust me she even implied it.

I do not smoke or drink either.

I don't even care anymore, i just want to know why to prevent it from happening again.
User avatar #121357 to #121356 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
Riiiigghtt and how did she 'imply' it?
User avatar #121358 to #121357 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
She said she likes guys like me and i am her "type".

she told me that she thinks she likes me and tells me to call her/visit all the time.

She is really forward about things and it confuses me that she did not tell me why she just cut me off at random, it doesn't seem like her.
User avatar #121367 to #121358 - alstorp (03/10/2014) [-]
>She said she likes guys like me and i am her "type"

That means nothing. Sorry man.
User avatar #121370 to #121367 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
that sentence tore me apart for a quick second
User avatar #121371 to #121370 - alstorp (03/10/2014) [-]
User avatar #121369 to #121368 - alstorp (03/10/2014) [-]
And it's not like you knew eachother that long. Just forget it.

Or you're actually right and she's just afraid of commitment. It happens, a lot.
User avatar #121407 to #121369 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
You are right.

I mean if she doesn't care enough to give me a reason hten i guess i am better on on my own.

Thanks, i feel better now.
User avatar #121359 to #121358 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
Maybe her parents cut her internet from her, shit like that.
User avatar #121360 to #121359 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
She goes on at school, so no one else would have a say in it.

She blocked me though, like she isn't just not talking to me she purposely cut me off.
User avatar #121373 to #121360 - karlKroenen (03/10/2014) [-]
Oh, if you can. and if you have the balls. Confront her in person, be direct and to the point. If she says something bitchy, keep a straight face and just walk away.
User avatar #121408 to #121373 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
We never see eachother when we do out own thing, I would have to go through extreme lengths to "bump" into her and i think it is not worth it.
User avatar #121479 to #121408 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
In that case it's not worth going after her. There are MANY girls who find joy out of luring boys in and then crushing them, believe me when I say this, there ARE girls who get some kind of sick pleasure out of this. Respect yourself enough to walk away, living well is truly the best revenge.
User avatar #121484 to #121479 - dicknugget (03/11/2014) [-]
Why did you delete your comment?
User avatar #121486 to #121484 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
Feel that it didn't relate to the first post. To boil it down: Find a girl that is happy to see you, not just one that you are happy to see.
Distinguish between whether you want sex or whether you truly like a girl. Then act accordingly, that is all.
User avatar #121489 to #121486 - dicknugget (03/11/2014) [-]
That actually helps out alot.

I was happy to see her and liked her, it was not about fucking her or anything.
She seemed happy to see me, but i am new to all this and pretty much got my heart ripped out lol.

Oh well, you win some and you loose some i guess.
User avatar #121480 to #121479 - dicknugget (03/11/2014) [-]
I won't be talking to her again.

If she is going to do this to me then i don't want her anyways.

Thanks man.
User avatar #121490 to #121480 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
Happens to the best of us. I'm only able to give you this advice because it happened to me.

A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.
User avatar #121491 to #121490 - dicknugget (03/11/2014) [-]
Thanks man, you made me feel alot better.
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#121361 to #121360 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
Then she's a bitch. I'm not getting enough information here to assess the situation properly and it's pissing me off, truth me told. Ask one of her friends what the hell is up if you can't ask her directly.
User avatar #121362 to #121361 - dicknugget (03/10/2014) [-]
She was so nice to me though.

Either way, if she can't tell me what is wrong then maybe she isn't worth my time to pursue her anyways.

And She goes to a different school than me and her only friends are the girls she lives with and they don't use facebook.

Sorry to drive you insane man, it gets me angry too and i don't have much to tell you for help.
User avatar #121349 - xenoquack (03/10/2014) [-]
Does anyone know how I can comment on the Advice board with a question? I'm not sure how.
User avatar #121387 to #121349 - ScottP (03/10/2014) [-]
Well if you do, make sure you take a picture of a common household item with your voluptuous body taking a disproportionately large amount of space in the frame.
User avatar #121425 to #121387 - voluptuous (03/10/2014) [-]
What about my body?
User avatar #121427 to #121425 - ScottP (03/10/2014) [-]
It's voluptuous
#121348 - mistymajr (03/10/2014) [-]
How do I beat this boss?
User avatar #121355 to #121348 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
A really big magnet followed by a water torrent, and finish it off with a group of preps singing rhianna songs.
#121344 - anonymous (03/10/2014) [-]
Lately I've been masturbating.. a lot more than usual.

I don't need advice about it or anything, just wondering if anybody wanted to have a conversation about it.
User avatar #121388 to #121344 - ScottP (03/10/2014) [-]
I used to do that too back when I was in middle school and I just discovered what masturbation was. I sometimes went 6 times a day. Yes I was a very lonely kid.
User avatar #121346 to #121344 - alstorp (03/10/2014) [-]
Well why not. I feels good and it doesn't hurt, more like the opposite. Unless you do it A LOT more than usual
User avatar #121331 - iliekcereal (03/10/2014) [-]
How do I tell someone that I used to be suicidal? This has been me on and off for the past 3 or four years, but honestly, I just can't bring myself to say it. I'm writing a letter to my girlfriend for this thing, and I'm trying to tell her that she's the reason I was able to get my life back together, but I literally can't finish writing this sentence.
User avatar #121432 to #121331 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
You make me want to not die colon colon colon close bracket close bracket
User avatar #121415 to #121331 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
I promise you that if you decide to tell her with poetry, you're going to be one single, lonely, emasculated pussy man.
User avatar #121390 to #121331 - ScottP (03/10/2014) [-]
The days were too dark
And the end was too sweet
But the sweetest day of all
Was when we did meet.

On days that I held
The knife in my hand
To take me away
Into the silent land.

You stole me away
And told me to hope
To struggle and rise
And climb off my rope.

And so to you I now say
You're too good to be true
But I do know one thing
And that's "I love you."
User avatar #121380 to #121331 - gunslayer (03/10/2014) [-]
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I didn't kill myself,
And it's all thanks to you.
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User avatar #121342 to #121331 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
How long have you been together? You may want to consider holding off depending.
User avatar #121522 to #121342 - iliekcereal (03/11/2014) [-]
A few months. But we were talking for a long time before that. I know it doesn't sound like much, but she literally know everything about me. Basically, I've told her all of this, just not directly.
User avatar #121523 to #121522 - alecbaldwinning (03/11/2014) [-]
Few months I wouldn't tell her. Maybe that's just me.
User avatar #121524 to #121523 - iliekcereal (03/11/2014) [-]
What if it's in an appropriate situation? It's hard to explain.
User avatar #121526 to #121524 - alecbaldwinning (03/11/2014) [-]
Like, you're both about to die in a place crash? A few months of a relationship is not a long time. Even if you were "talking" for a while beforehand. I've had a dozen relationships die before the 5 month mark. If I had professed my deep secrets to those chicks, it would've just ended a lot sooner.

It's just my opinion. You shouldn't make your decision based solely on this, but I wouldn't reveal something that personal to a girlfriend unless we were together for like 3 years, or we were going through some major changes. Something like pregnancy, moving out of town/state, tragic death, on the verge of a hard breakup, and even then if would depend on a dozen other circumstances.
#121325 - rambomanthree (03/10/2014) [-]
I am very very depressed   
Like... pretty much everything is dull and boring...   
I cannot afford to see a shrink... i have no insurance   
I am going nowhere with my life, and i greatly fear growing up..   
I was never able to be a kid, and the thought that im adult now makes me feel dead inside because i know i will never ever relive it from the start and have a second chance.   
Every day i am stagnant, i live in a poor family... everything is shitty and breaks down   
the winter is fucking endless   
and nothing brings me joy anymore   
what do i do?
I am very very depressed
Like... pretty much everything is dull and boring...

I cannot afford to see a shrink... i have no insurance
I am going nowhere with my life, and i greatly fear growing up..
I was never able to be a kid, and the thought that im adult now makes me feel dead inside because i know i will never ever relive it from the start and have a second chance.

Every day i am stagnant, i live in a poor family... everything is shitty and breaks down
the winter is fucking endless
and nothing brings me joy anymore

what do i do?
#121474 to #121325 - lorkhan (03/11/2014) [-]
< This band sounds perfect for you.

Anyway, just stay strong. Suicide is for the weak, and you ain't weak. Are you?
User avatar #121433 to #121325 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
I would have just killed myself by now
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User avatar #121363 to #121325 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
I'm not going to sugar coat this; you are honestly irritating the fuck out of me. 'I've been dealt a bad hand at life' 'Just some pointless filler character that no one gives a shit about' 'I have a love for art but my drawings are average at best'

Dude are you fucking for real? You're nine-fucking-teen! Jesus christ! You're sitting on your ass feeling sorry for yourself. You've been dealt a bad hand, aye? I call bullshit! Only weak ass idiots do that fucking shit, man. You're nineteen, you have access to the internet, that is not a bad hand at life you are already better off than 70% of the worlds population. Who gives a flying fuck if you live with your poor family; no one, that's who.

Depression is fucking not being joyless, a friend of mine has an incredibly severe case of depression and fuck you should see him dance, he lights up a crowded festival floor when he dances. Sitting there and doing nothing like a useless twat is frustrating as fuck. Life is dull and boring? Fucking paint it rainbow. Can't see a shrink? Go to a college and participate in a student shrink study; usually THEY pay YOU. Going nowhere, get up off of your shitty ass and fucking go somewhere then. You were never able to be a kid, who the fuck says you can't start now. Watch the fuck out of that spongebob, gorge the fuck out on those cheap lollies, dress the fuck up as a fairy fucking princess.

You, little shit, are too tied up on physical things and you need to cut that the fuck out, right now. This has been 'I'm too tired and grumpy for this bullshit' life advice, I have been Jess, good fucking night, you great tit.
User avatar #121337 to #121325 - narcomancer (03/10/2014) [-]
Please tell me you have intrest or even better, that you love some kind of art.
Learn to rely on your passions and let your heart decide what makes you feel fulfilled.

I used to feel like you, and i still do, but i chose to belive i will build my life with music.
I have set my mind to it and nothing can stop my ever growing skill and imagination.

I am pretty poor too so i cannot afford any instruments, i chose to make music using computer software. I honestly belive it's one of the best things i've ever been working with.

But it's just my humple oppinion. Hope it works for you because that's the best i say to you.
User avatar #121338 to #121337 - rambomanthree (03/10/2014) [-]
i have a love for art and a very very creative mind
However i am not very talented
my drawings are average at best
User avatar #121339 to #121338 - narcomancer (03/10/2014) [-]
Imagination is so much more important than skill so you should Just try and direct your creativity into something more flexible, more in tune with your abilities.

You can allways try and discover your secret talent. Live your dreams. Become what you idolize and admire.
User avatar #121326 to #121325 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
How old are you, how long have you felt this way, and what do you think caused this?
User avatar #121328 to #121326 - rambomanthree (03/10/2014) [-]
Im almost 19
i've felt this way my whole life..i've probably been either meh or miserable about 95 percent of the time

I think what caused it is just being dealed a bad hand in life
User avatar #121332 to #121328 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
You simply need to man up. And I'm not saying that in an insulting way either.

In this world, you have to shape yourself or be shaped by others. Sounds like you need a hobby. Something you can funnel your negative energy into and convert it into constructive energy. But as Bustygato said: Make people smile. Oftentimes helping other people with their happiness can make it easier for you too. If nothing else it'll add some perspective to your life.

Think about what interests you. Could be guitar, wood working, writing, biking, bank fraud. Whatever tickles your genitals. What's that one thing you've always wanted to do but have never attempted?
User avatar #121333 to #121332 - rambomanthree (03/10/2014) [-]
I am rarely this bitchy actually

Honestly i have to be a hardass constantly in real life
and i've bottled up how i have felt non stop

I think you are right, picking up a hobby would be a good idea
User avatar #121335 to #121333 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
I'm not specifically telling you to play the guitar or anything because that's generic as shit advice. But consider a hobby similar to that.

Something you can benefit from, but something that'll also make you more fun to be around.
User avatar #121317 - fuckya (03/10/2014) [-]
So my girlfriend has been practically begging me to have a three way. She's talked about wanting one before we started dating as well, so I assure you it's not a trap.
The problem with it, is that I the one other girl I know would have said three way, my girlfriend hates, and vice versa.

Any advice on how to make this work?
User avatar #121341 to #121317 - ljxjlos ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
I don´t really now what to say, but keep in mind that a threeway can be a pretty depressing thing. I had the the good kind twice. Once I was really lucky because I haven´t had sex for weeks beforehand, so I had a beastly sexual drive and managed to pull if of. The second time was during a time when I had sex on a regular basis and I was depressed as shit afterwords because I didn´t get both girls off. So keep that in mind.

Also, it´s probably better to only talk about it when your girlfriend starts the thema, otherwise she might turn it on you Only if she´s a bitch, but I don´t know that, so I´m just saying.
User avatar #121324 to #121317 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
So tell her that. Communication is important.
#121320 to #121317 - walmartysnextghost (03/10/2014) [-]
ask, "do you want to have a threeway" if she says yes say "have somebody in mind?" if she says no play it off. life doesn't have to be that hard my friend
User avatar #121318 to #121317 - hawaiianhappysauce (03/10/2014) [-]
I don't really know how to answer this, but it sounds like no matter what you do this relationship will end.
1. Gf sounds like a slut and / or you are sort of considering it too.
2. Gf is already thinking about sex with other people...
User avatar #121437 to #121318 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
What sort of fantasy land do you live in where people genuinely only ever want one thing over and over?
User avatar #121297 - yoin (03/10/2014) [-]
Don't know much at all about colleges so I was wondering if I could get in state/ lowered tuition for nearby state's universities? And if not is there any easy way to not pay so much other than scholarships?
#121305 to #121297 - tiredofannon (03/10/2014) [-]

Basically if you live in one of the 15 participating states you can go to a college in one of the 14 other states at a lower than out of state cost. It'd still be higher than if you went to a college in your home state but its better than full out of state cost. There may or may not be a version for other groupings of states.
User avatar #121308 to #121305 - yoin (03/10/2014) [-]
Nah I live in Illinois. There is or at least was a similar program for the midwest but I don't know if it still exists. If anyone can confirm this that would be very helpful
User avatar #121298 to #121297 - deffinitlynotafag (03/10/2014) [-]
to be honest, i probably made every mistake when it came to college. you want the real truth. here it is.

go to community college for 2 years for an associates.
then transfer to state university, for next two.
also work a park time job and keep your grades as high as you can.

User avatar #121301 to #121298 - yoin (03/10/2014) [-]
Thanks, I have explored that option but the money isn't really a crippling issue. I just don't want to be paying the full tuition if I don't have to just because I was ignorant of the process
User avatar #121302 to #121301 - deffinitlynotafag (03/10/2014) [-]
well then i strongly suggest that above.

the two years (at a cheaper school) will let you figure out what major youd like to persue, ect.

any other questions?
User avatar #121303 to #121302 - yoin (03/10/2014) [-]
I guess I'll look more into that thanks again. But only question I have left is the whole in state vs out of state. I know some colleges do offer it to nearby states but very few seem to make it public information
User avatar #121310 to #121303 - deffinitlynotafag (03/10/2014) [-]
call there admissions office, they should know. it differs from school to school.

in state youll deffinitly get the instate tuition.
User avatar #121290 - noodlelord (03/10/2014) [-]
What would be the safest drug to use if i don't want to use weed
User avatar #121438 to #121290 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
'I take drugs for their safety'
- that there?
That's you
and you sound like a god-damn pussy-faggot
User avatar #121347 to #121290 - mistymajr (03/10/2014) [-]
A rope around your neck.

Or a job.
User avatar #121316 to #121290 - fuckya (03/10/2014) [-]
Meth, cocaine, heroin, any synthetic drugs too.
User avatar #121311 to #121290 - alecbaldwinning (03/10/2014) [-]
Weed, alcohol, or mushrooms. Stay the fuck away from anything else.
User avatar #121309 to #121290 - ilikethisusername ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
"if i dont want to use weed"....i don't think you are ready for drugs AT ALL since you already filtered out some of the choices.
User avatar #121299 to #121290 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
Son I don't think you grasp the concept of drugs at all.
User avatar #121295 to #121290 - makotoitou (03/10/2014) [-]
not doing drugs you stoner faggot
User avatar #121293 to #121290 - soupkittenagain (03/10/2014) [-]
Something a doctor prescribed you. First, you better get sick or something.
User avatar #121291 to #121290 - iridium (03/10/2014) [-]
User avatar #121288 - ptffo (03/10/2014) [-]
How can I make myself practice more? I want to get really good at guitar, but I can never get myself to practice. When I actually do it, it's not so bad and it's kinda fun. But I always put it aside and think to myself, "Just do it later. You have all day."
User avatar #121439 to #121288 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
Just give it up, if you haven't gotten there by now you'll never get anywhere
User avatar #121319 to #121288 - karlKroenen (03/10/2014) [-]
You'll either find a way or you will find an excuse. I know the whole wake up determined to do something then not following through with it feeling. I've done it plenty of times.
Sometimes we need a little push. Don't let the fact that I'm some unknown person on some far corner of the internet change how you will receive my advice. You came here for advice, and I'm going to fucking give some. Why I picked this comment? I don't know, perhaps I see you as I was a few years ago and don't want you to feel the guilt that I have. More than likely, just like any advice that I was given, what I'm saying wont have an impact. Although, once in a long while somebody can tell us something that gives us that little push that we need.

Success occurs when your dreams get bigger than your excuses. If you want to get good at guitar, after this paragraph, turn off your computer and go look at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself if you are ready to change. If yes, Tell yourself that you will play guitar every single morning/night. And tomorrow look at yourself again. Know that you either lied or told the truth to that person in the mirror. In a month you will either have been honest with yourself or not, and if you cant be honest with yourself then you will be back at square one, asking for another bout of advice on this here site. You are going to have to catch yourself every time you start making an excuse and, in that moment, remember the person in the mirror.
If you read this and decided to change, know that there's fire ahead. But know that what matters most is how well you walk through the fire. Now, go. Become something great.
User avatar #121444 to #121319 - ptffo (03/10/2014) [-]
Thank you. This was the push I needed. After years of fucking around and expecting the guitar to do wonders FOR me, I'm pretty certain I'm ready for this change.
User avatar #121294 to #121288 - soupkittenagain (03/10/2014) [-]
Try to do it with more people. It could help.
User avatar #121289 to #121288 - megavoir (03/10/2014) [-]
just put it on your bed and force yourself to play before you go to bed
listen to a lot of music all day and make a list of things you wanna play
git gud
User avatar #121283 - toncheky (03/10/2014) [-]
What's the ideal weight for 175cm height?
#121284 to #121283 - anonymous (03/10/2014) [-]
55 to 76kg

but if youre muscular then it doesnt count
User avatar #121285 to #121284 - toncheky (03/10/2014) [-]
I'm at 58kg currently, and definitely not muscular, but looking to get so.
#121286 to #121285 - anonymous (03/10/2014) [-]
as I would imagine you then you're probably pretty skinny

have fun lifting
User avatar #121287 to #121286 - toncheky (03/10/2014) [-]
Thanks, I will.
#121276 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
Is anyone here familiar with consequences of a senior prank?
I'd like to do something, but I need to know the risks for my accomplices
#121306 to #121276 - tiredofannon (03/10/2014) [-]
Some guys at my old high school tried to switch the morning announcements with porn but were caught before they could show it. They were charged with a shit ton of counts of trying to corrupt a youth or something like that. Didn't end well.

Basically make sure its harmless, won't offend anyone, won't upset anyone, and won't do damage or cost money to the school and you should be okay, otherwise you can and likely will be arrested.
User avatar #121292 to #121276 - iridium (03/10/2014) [-]
Depends. Does it consist of making an easily cleanable mess, or setting a garbage can on fire with a smoke grenade?
User avatar #121262 - drunkensailor (03/09/2014) [-]
What am I supposed to do if the only person I could talk to about how I feel is the one who hurt me? Not intentionally. Will provide details if needed.
User avatar #121440 to #121262 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
Straight up, no doubt, write a poem
or a song in the key of bullet for my valentine or some bullshit I don't know what these bands are called
User avatar #121441 to #121440 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
Ummm...I think I understand what you're saying but I'm not an artistic person. Whats with the "Straight up, no doubt" part?
User avatar #121442 to #121441 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
Without a flutter of a doubt in my mind, I have scarce been more ensured of any piece of advice hitherto!
User avatar #121443 to #121442 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
I'm sensing you're one of them artsy type aren't ya? Nothing wrong with that, I'm actually quite envious of those sets of talent, but, my mind is more math/science/engineering geared, so if you could put that in lamens terms?
#121445 to #121443 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
never you mind   
 Also engineering is lame    
 Mathematics are the one true discipline    
 Maybe science    
never you mind
Also engineering is lame
Mathematics are the one true discipline
Maybe science
User avatar #121449 to #121445 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
alright, either artsy, or stoned
User avatar #121300 to #121262 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
Honestly I'd tell the person who hurt you if they didn't intend to do it. You should let them know so they don't accidentally repeat their actions in the future.
User avatar #121272 to #121262 - silverzepher (03/09/2014) [-]
what happened, i like story time
User avatar #121274 to #121272 - megavoir (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121275 to #121274 - silverzepher (03/09/2014) [-]
doesn't everyone love story time?
User avatar #121277 to #121275 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
was hoping for story time too...
User avatar #121278 to #121277 - silverzepher (03/09/2014) [-]
well why doesn't drunkensailor come back and entertain us?
User avatar #121279 to #121278 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
yeah drunkensailor, get over here monica and tell us some stories!!
User avatar #121307 to #121279 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
Woah, sorry lol almost forgot i posted. Anyway, the person in question is this girl I know, we've known each other for 7 years, I've liked her for 5 and only recently realized how much I do. We talk constantly and when my life went to shit and I didn't know who turn to she was there to help. And the same works the other way around, when she hurts I help console her. But, she refers to me as her brother, it started off fine because I didn't think of her like that, I was like 10 at the time, but now it's starting to hurt. The main reason my feelings are boiling over now is because after breaking up with her bf of 4 months about a few weeks ago, I was thinking about asking her to prom but 3 days after they broke up, my other friend asked her and she said yes. Then this past Friday when us and a few other friends were hanging out I made a comment about how she went to sleep before 9 the previous night and the friend who asked her to prom flat out laughed at me because (the way he made it seem at least) they had been up talking long after that. I literally (no not literally ok) died a little inside when I heard that. So, I oh so bluntly brought it up today essentially saying that I thought that she and the other kid were closer friends than we were even though they only started getting close this year. I desperately want to tell her how I feel but I'm beta as fuck, have never kissed a girl, barely had a girlfriend, only asked one other girl out over text, and as rejected over text. To me she's an 11/10 and I'm like a 4, pretty large, kind of a dick (rarely to her) but could be a lot better if I wasn't fat (words said to me by a very blunt now ex friend). I don't think I'm good enough for her at all but it hurts like a bitch when I see her with the other kid even though I'm fairly sure everything between them is "just friends" (he has a gf in Canada, we're in NY, don't ask idk either). There's your story deffinitlynotafag silverzepher megavoir thirdjess
User avatar #121313 to #121307 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
I would hazard a guess that she is well aware of your feelings towards her, and if she is talking to you less or being distant as she seems to be, she's trying to let you down gently; she cares about you but in an entirely platonic manner. Sorry, kid.

I would still bring it up, even if you are beta, straight up ask her if she is aware of your feelings. Dancing around the subject does no one any merit.
User avatar #121314 to #121313 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
She's not being distant or anything like that, if anyone is it's me.Or at least I tried to be, I planned on not talking to her for a week, in/out of school to see what she's do/say, but somewhat pussied out on the firs day, which ended up with me semi flipping out about her new friendship with the kid who asked her to prom, me apologizing and saying that I would leave her alone for a while or until she told me otherwise. And I do kinda sorta have a plan to tell her how I feel. While I was complaining to her the other day about how life just generally sucked for me as of late (parents going through divorce bc dad's gay, oldest/best/closest friends all away at college, her) she brought up the idea of me going to the beach and watching the sunset or something as that's what she does when she needs to think or relax or what have you. So, I had been thinking about inviting her to the beach this weekend to watch the sunset, after giving her space, and saying something along the lines of "Look, we've known each other for a long time, so I'm just going to be completely honest because I need to ask you a question. So please, hear me out: You think of me as a brother, but you should know if that I've had feeling for you for 5 yrs. I've thought about it for a long time, and didn't really realize it until You broke up with [exboyfriend], [friend] asked you to prom and I noticed how close you and [friend] have gotten. When you told me that you and [exboyfriend] were together I secretly hoped it would end when it did so I could take you to prom. When you two did break up, I started considering how/when I could ask you, until [friend] beat me to it. When you said yes to him, it crushed me. I know it's a long shot, but the question i have for you is, is there ever any chance of us happening? Because if not, I need to move on. I'd understand if you said no, and would still want to be friends, but I just need to know." deffinitlynotafag silverzepher megavoir thirdjess
#121350 to #121314 - lugs (03/10/2014) [-]
Don't make how you feel about her have anything to do with her interactions with other people, it'll just make you seem petty or jealous which is a major turn off for most women. Just tell her outright that you like her, and if she doesn't feel the same way then that's cool but you just wanted to get it out there.

Also, karlKroenen gave you some really good advice. You'll never be able to make another person happy until you're happy with yourself. Become a better person by doing things you love until you know how awesome you are. Everyone has the potential to be great, don't let your feelings about this girl get in the way of your own self improvement.
User avatar #121377 to #121350 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
Alright, but what if she asks why I'm telling her now? Like what happened that I needed to let her know. She's pretty intelligent and would most likely guess that it's because of how close she and [friend] are now after how I acted yesterday in regards to that.

And what did karlKroenen say?
#121391 to #121377 - lugs (03/10/2014) [-]
If she explicitly asks why you're telling her now tell her that seeing how upset she was after her break-up you realized you don't want to see her get screwed around by guys who don't treat her the way you know she should be. I wouldn't bring up that she's now seeing one of your 'friends'
User avatar #121426 to #121391 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
While I do like that response, she wasn't too upset after the break up, she got over it pretty quickly, partially because they had been drifting for a while but mostly (atleast i like to think) because I was there to talk to her about it.

Also, I wouldnt say the she and [friend] are seeing each other, I'm 99% sure that they're just friends, but there's that 1%...
User avatar #121378 to #121377 - karlKroenen (03/10/2014) [-]
I said a lot friend but it was late and I didn't feel like it made as much sense as I wanted it to.

In essence, you need to not let yourself get too attached to this girl, you would know if she had deep feelings for you in all the years that you have known her. You need to respect yourself to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. It seems that these events are having a negative impact on you. Here's what I want you to do. Call her right now and set up an appointment for when you want to talk to her in person. Suck it up and truthfully ask her if she has feelings for you, and that if she doesn't that you feel it is necessary to cut all bonds with her and that other guy. After that, you will either feel like shit or you will feel amazing. What i want you to do after that is go do something you love or something that will make you a better person. Read, write, lift, go to the beach, go run, study something, clean something, ANYTHING. (excluding staying on here, drinking, video games, drugs, anything negative) And do that thing every day until you are very good at it, keep doing it until you can look back and honestly tell yourself that you are a better person. Keep doing this until you ARE a better person. When you are happier about yourself, come back and tell me about how you are doing.
User avatar #124441 to #121378 - drunkensailor (03/29/2014) [-]
So, I finally told her...
User avatar #125626 to #125624 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
Well, I made up my mind to tell her last monday/tuesday, and on last wednesday, while i wasnt sick anymore, my voice was still shot from coughing so i tried to do it on last thursday. but she was busy. My idea to get her somewhere was to say I had some problems going on that I needed to talk about and then just tell her how i felt. Instead, we talked for a bit that thursday night about me having a problem and I joked saying my problem was her but instantly said it wasn't her (lie). Then I vaguely let on that my problem had to do with someone, no specifics, just a problem with a person. I tried again last friday night and managed to get her to meet me at a McDonald's, romantic I know, her idea as she had been shopping for a dress with her friends and was hungry so when she asked if I'd buy her dinner (she asked where I wanted to meet and I didn't really have a backup plan for the beach so that's what she suggested) and I said yes. Ended up just getting getting her some fries and when we sat down she immediately asked who "she" was. Kinda threw me off that she immediately went for it, so I dilly dallied in telling her. When I finally got enough courage I started off with "so you know how last night I said you weren't my problem? well, that was a lie" then went on with what I typed out earlier. She was silent the entire time, and the look on her face was one of "i dont know what to do" (which apparently i found out later from her was what was going through her head). When i finished she was quiet for a minute before saying something about how she's so happy with brendan (bf) and I just nodded my head. She apologized a lot for not feeling the same way, or at least for not just "jumping into my arms" (not a quote from her i just didn't know how to phrase it). Found out that she did like me at one point. In fifth grade. When we first met. we were at mcdonalds for a good hour and a half before leaving when some drunk guy walked in.
User avatar #125633 to #125626 - karlKroenen (04/05/2014) [-]
This was a huge step, you're a better and stronger person for having done this. Takes a lot of courage to take the first step. Even the deepest sorrow will lose its scalpel edge. I don't want to get your hopes up but the people with the best relationships were friends for a long time before they got together. Don't separate entirely, perhaps use your new courage to find another girl for a while. There may be a chance in the future. Don't take my word for it though, I don't know enough details to say anything for sure, except that you are definitely stronger.
User avatar #125638 to #125633 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
Well I do generally feel better, most of the time...But i do think I feel a lot better now that she knows. My best case scenerio for "us" right now is for her to pick the same college as me, but I don't know if that's gonna happen anymore as she's leaning towards a different one that's about 2 hours away from the one I'm think of going to.
User avatar #125628 to #125626 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
We didn't really talk about what I had said after I said it though, more just like awkward bullshitting to pass the time. When we left we had a long, tight hug before going our separate ways. She pulled out of the parking lot and i sat in my car for a few minutes before blasting my music while flying down roads. Beat the shit out of my car for a bit offroading before going back to speeding around. Hit 70, 80, and 90 on three separate roads, all while texting her after she said get home safe. When I did get home we talked for a long while. I asked her if she ever had an idea that I like her and she said she thought I did when I got angry at her for getting so close to her now bf. After that, aside from just random conversations we've had, she just kept asking what she could do to stop hurting me and of course I didn't just tell her that the only thing that would make it ok besides time was her dumping brendan for me, so i'd just say I dont know. I told her that I might have to stop talking to her, like I wouldn' text her or go out of my way to talk to her unless she wanted to talk to me because she needed to/wanted to/or was upset about something, even though I might only stick to that plan for a day (said that last part to her too). Then I went on

for a bit about how she's perfect to me after she asked me what she could do to make it better and I told her to stop being perfect. She just went to sleep and said goodnight but I couldn't even say goodnight, or even night, I went with "bye."

How bad did I fuck up? And how long is it going to hurt unless she leaves her bf (not gonna happen) (and i know "there's no way of knowing "how long"" im just saying what comes to mind.)
User avatar #125629 to #125628 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
Also I changed her contact name to "Be Patient." in hopes that by waiting eventually I'll get her. so there's that...
User avatar #121434 to #121378 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
I like to think she has similar feelings for me but don't really have anything to base it on from my past. I mean, I'm sure that girls have liked me in the past but I never felt the same way about them so I never did anything about it.

And do you have any recommendations for where to go for this get together? As I said before I had thought about going to the beach and watching the sunset then bringing it up, but then as I thought about it, I kept poking holes in it (ie. closest beach is about a half hour drive away, it would make sense for us to go together, but It would be a bit of an awkward ride back if she doesn't feel the same, i had another hole that i poked but now i cant remember it). And yes, I am slightly bugging out about this.
User avatar #121436 to #121434 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
I tend to try and over plan everything I do...try and prepare for every possible outcome
User avatar #121477 to #121436 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
That's your problem, you think too much. It's the gift and curse that intelligent people have. Sometimes you have to just DO. In my opinion just make it some place simple, if she likes you, where you ask her wont matter. If you are afraid about the awkward drive just go to her house or something, ask her to come out, tell her, then leave. And be sure to get to the point very quick, else you might never get to it.
User avatar #121481 to #121477 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
So I realize that by asking this I'm somewhat ignorin your first statement, but, simple like? And I like the idea of the beach because in my mind which has played out what happens at least a billion times, I could ask her to the beach saying something like "I've been thinking about what you said about just getting away from life every once in a while by going out into nature but I'd rather you came along so I can see what you do to relax." But now that I've written it out it seems somewhat cheesy, or obvious about what I want to do.
User avatar #121483 to #121481 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
Come on man, you're making it very hard for yourself. You have thought about this so much that if you get rejected its going to hurt, a lot, and for a long time. I understand where you're coming from, if you truly want to take her to the beach then do it. Since taking her to the beach will take a while, have fun while you are there and whatever you do, don't think about what you are going to ask her later. When the time comes, don't have ANYTHING memorized. If you like this girl as much as you are making it seem, the words will flow easily. If you are driving then pull over when you are on your way back and say something like, "this has been bothering me for a while, I like you as more than a friend, I need to know whether it is possible that you like me back the same way. I don't need a response this second, just let me know soon."

The number one thing I want to stress: Expect the worst, and be prepared to deal with it.
User avatar #121492 to #121483 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
I know I'm just making it wors but i cant help it. I've been dealt a pretty shit hand in life (being a middle class white boy withstanding) so here's a brief life story of troubles. First girl I like enoguh to ask out happened in 6th grade. asked over text, rejected, hurt. next girl told me she liked me over a text so i asked her out then. i know bitch move but it was awkward. friends shoving us together even though i didnt really like her. didnt pu much effort into the relationship, never even kissed. had crushes on girls between then and now but nothing big enough that i considered asking them out. Then, november of 2012 parents nounce divorce bc dad's gay. not a problem really, love gay people no homo. but last july whie out with him let it slip that im trying to buy a car even though mom doesnt have much money and i didnt ask him. my money but he's blind with rage at this point. he's moved out at this point so he drives me home to fight with mom. louder/angrier fight than usual. mom comes inside, closes garage dor and locks inside door, he stops garage door from closing and tries to get in but doesnt have key, so he starts throwing bricks at inside garage wall. sis gets up to tell him to leave and as soon as she starts getting up im right behind her. she's yelling at him to leave but he's not, so i get between him and mom/sis. tell him to go but he just yells at me to move. say no, he steps closer, i close the rest of the gap. yells at me to move, calmly state back that im not afraid of him anymore wth fist clenched so hard its almost falling asleep. watch some of the fight leave his eyes knowing that he's all alone in that moment. mom on phone with police, he leaves, havent talked to him since. family and friends say i should frogive him, fuck that, hes a selfsh angry cunt and always has been.
#121496 to #121492 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
It's great that you have expressed all of this, now you know what is bothering you the most.
I can't give you advice on what to do with your dad, only that you shouldn't make decisions when you are angry. Give it some time.
Stop dwelling on the past, we all make mistakes. Let your mistakes make you better, not bitter. Right now you are sitting here beating yourself up for things that you cannot change, and it's making you miserable.
If you want to feel better, get off the computer right now and go do something that will take you away. Watch a funny movie, run until you cant move, play an intense video game, read a book, etc. If you stay here, beating yourself up, thinking about every little thing that has gone wrong, you will be miserable. Not another word, go live and leave your worries for another day.
User avatar #124028 to #121496 - drunkensailor (03/26/2014) [-]
Here's what I want to say

"Look Andie, I've been think about this a lot over the past few weeks and if I don't tell you now, I don't know if I ever will. So what I need is for you to just listen until I'm done.

I like you Andie. I have for a long time, but, only just started to realize how much. I first realized I did in 8th grade on the swim team. I tried to get closer then by getting your number so I could at least texting. But, apparently Bella liked me so you made her give me her number too. So, my idea of us kinda went to the back of my mind. We didn't really start talking again until last year in Spanish, and then even more so this year which is when the feelings I had for you started making a return. I had planned on asking you to prom but then you and any starting dating. I told myself it would be fine, you two would break up before then, and you did. So I started thinking of ways to ask you while still giving some time after the break up, Brendan didn't want to give you that time and asked you days later. And you said yes. Kinda shattered my plans. Then you and Brendan started dating, which only made me realize that I had to stop waiting and tell you how I feel. I know that you think of me as a brother, and think that I think of you as a sister, but I don't. And probably won't unless I tell you how I feel to see what happens or what doesn't happen and then only time will tell. Now don't get me wrong, this isn't me trying to steal you from Brendan, I know would never do that. This is for me so I can try and move on with my life."
User avatar #124027 to #121496 - drunkensailor (03/26/2014) [-]
So I don't know if you remember, but a few weeks ago you gave me some girl advice, which I intended to follow, until life got in the way. Go here to know why:

Anyway, some other guy said I should take a different approach, Read here:

I kind of like his plan , but, don't know if I can go through with it. I think I might go back to your idea and just tell her. But, in light of new events I changed what I want to say. Also don't want to take her to the beach anymore to tell her because that's where the kid who asked her to prom...asked her out. Anyway, here's what I want to say now, if you could give me some criticism/tips, I'd be very appreciative.
User avatar #121497 to #121496 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
thank you so much for everything, just one last question before I go. how have you managed to get all this experience and knowledge?
User avatar #121493 to #121492 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
Always started shit when he was still living at home. constantly angry, yelling causing stress/repressed emotions. Thought of a million ways the night could have gone when I stepped out the door that night. Next month, oldest friends leave for college, feel all alone. start getting closer to crush. Fastforward to just before christmas. have 14 yr old dog. literally best friend. goes from perfect health (for age) to utter crap in 3 days. decide to put down. The. Day. After. Christmas. Broken to pieces. Crush is there for me, first thing she does next time she sees me is give me a long hug (im a hugger so its usually the other way around). Slowly get better as we got another dog in february who's a big doofy mush. Anyway, then the aformentioned break up/promposal from friend and subsequent heart break comes in. Realize that most of that doesnt really pertain to current situation, jst needed to get it off my chest, and yes crush knows all of that. I just dont know whether or not I could handle either the heartache from not telling her and pretending everything's ok or telling her and getting rejected.
User avatar #121379 to #121378 - karlKroenen (03/10/2014) [-]
(not saying that video games are negative, I just want you to do something that will make you better, not something that will fill the time and leave you at the same place you were before)
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#121268 to #121262 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
talk to me?
#121258 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
So just a quick question, but are ball sacks only supposed to have two testicles in them? Like, literally only the two nuts? Or is it normal to have fucking long as tubes and stuff in your sack? If not I may need to see a doctor, and i just want a quick answer.
#121351 to #121258 - anonymous (03/10/2014) [-]
If this is a genuine question, you may have what are called variceoceles. Essentially varicose veins in the nutsack. They aren't normally a problem but can lead to lower fertility due to the excess blood causing more warmth than your testicles are supposed to deal with. If you're really worried see a doctor.
User avatar #121269 to #121258 - awesomerninjathing (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121263 to #121258 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
the two nuts are attached and anchored by tendens ect. so theres some other smaller stuff in there, including tubes running from the testicals into your body. so dont worry.
User avatar #121264 to #121263 - ipostcp (03/09/2014) [-]
I'm like 99 percent sure it was a joke.
User avatar #121265 to #121264 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
just incase
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User avatar #121250 - herblegerble (03/09/2014) [-]
So I've had the same haircut for the last 3/4 years, and I hate it. It's long-ish (it's like early Justin Bieber hair but longer at the back) and recently I've had more and more people tell me I should have it cut. I've wanted it shorter for a long time, but the problem is that I don't know what I'd get done to it and I know that I'll get lots of stick for cutting it short for quite a while if I do.

What do?
User avatar #121304 to #121250 - thirdjess ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
I would go with something like an undercut or 'the typical hipster' You need to login to view this link if you think you can commit to styling it. But it depends on your face shape and hair (is it curly, thick, and so on). Especially if you have a strong jawline.

If you're one of those fellows who's a little bit chinless (like Lewis Brindley of the Yogscast) I would do something Chris Hemsworth-ey, only shorter on the sides. But slicked back at the top, is the gist of it.
User avatar #121273 to #121250 - nsfwcontent (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121270 to #121250 - awesomerninjathing (03/09/2014) [-]
undercut undercut undercut undercut undercut
User avatar #121282 to #121270 - teoberry (03/10/2014) [-]
that haircut screams douchebag
User avatar #121253 to #121250 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
post dick pics
User avatar #121251 to #121250 - herblegerble (03/09/2014) [-]
I should probably add that I was planning on getting it cut when I go to Uni, but that's not for another 1 and a bit years.
#121259 to #121251 - miaou (03/09/2014) [-]
there are different styles that fit different face shapes. you should google what hairstyle would fit you. also you can ask your friends what'd look ok on you, get some different perspectives
listen, you say people tell you to cut it, then why would you get lots of, stick, for doing so?
honestly i change my hair about 3 times a year. it gets outdated, or i grow out of it. Im sure its time to cut your hair.
User avatar #121222 - beatmasterz ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
I have a galaxy s advance and sometimes my keyboard gets stuck. It acknowledges my fingers tapping on a certain letter but the letters never show up in the text box. Usually I could just reset said app but now it's getting worse.
User avatar #121271 to #121222 - awesomerninjathing (03/09/2014) [-]
you could try turning your phone off and on again if you haven't done that in a while
User avatar #121280 to #121271 - beatmasterz ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
Nah I do that frequently.
User avatar #121219 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Does anyone have kik?
I feel like talking and I don't get on fj much.
Feel free to add me: db_blues
User avatar #121340 to #121219 - EdwardNigma (03/10/2014) [-]
>"I don't get on fj much"

User avatar #121343 to #121340 - hornack (03/10/2014) [-]
I don't get on as much as I used to.
User avatar #121322 to #121219 - captainfuckitall (03/10/2014) [-]
I wouldn't mind chatting if you were on Skype.
User avatar #121223 to #121219 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
nigga that sounds hella gay
User avatar #121224 to #121223 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
It's not gay if we send dick pics.
User avatar #121225 to #121224 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
do it please
User avatar #121226 to #121225 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
I might if you add me.
User avatar #121227 to #121226 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
but I don't use no kyke kik site
User avatar #121228 to #121227 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
It's an app.
User avatar #121229 to #121228 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
"Kik is the first smartphone messenger with a built-in browser. You can talk, browse and share with your friends. What's not to love?"

What makes it so special? It's just fucking chat. AIM did it 16 years ago.
User avatar #121230 to #121229 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Nothing at all, just like every single one of us but you don't see me telling everyone they're not special.
User avatar #121232 to #121231 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Am sorry
User avatar #121233 to #121232 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
it k. just post dick pic
User avatar #121234 to #121233 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
But I have no dick
User avatar #121236 to #121234 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
tit pic?
User avatar #121237 to #121236 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Again, megavoir is the one that gives it to me.
User avatar #121238 to #121237 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
just send a pic of something of sexual nature then
User avatar #121245 to #121238 - megavoir (03/09/2014) [-]
step off niggah
User avatar #121246 to #121245 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
well are you gonna send me pics then?
User avatar #121247 to #121246 - megavoir (03/09/2014) [-]
let's not get ahead of ourselves, makoto
User avatar #121248 to #121247 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
gardevoir pls, i wanna see your mega cock
User avatar #121240 to #121238 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
( . Y . )

I hope I don't get banned.
User avatar #121235 to #121234 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
megavoir is the one that gives it to me.
User avatar #121218 - happyhour ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
Anyone know the name of that site that you put in all the ingredients you have and it shows you the meal you can make.
User avatar #121239 to #121218 - advicedude (03/09/2014) [-]
What the fuck this is amazing.
User avatar #121220 to #121218 - beatmasterz ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
www.supercook . com/

that it?
User avatar #121221 to #121220 - happyhour ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
Yea that works, thanks
User avatar #121184 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
I think I need a therapist...
I have this nasty habit of... well.... concealing everything...
I hide who I am from everyone. I'm losing my ability to express myself.
And instead of just learning, I've fallen into the habit of just hiding myself away, bottling it all up.

There's so much I need to fix. So much I need to tell everyone but cant. So many questions gone unanswered. And its getting too much. All I want to do is lock myself in a room for months on end, ignoring the rest of the world. I barely even know who I am any more...

Right now, I'm sitting up in the attic. Everything is itchy, but itchy is easier to deal with than other things. I have loads of homework due in the morning that I havent done, but I dont want to do it.

I just dont know what to do any more. I'm so scared of everything...
#121206 to #121184 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Also, just by sharing this information, you're already getting better with expressing yourself.
#121201 to #121184 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Trust me on this, you need to see a therapist for this. I went through the EXACT same thing you currently are, and the one I went to managed to help me open up more to others.
User avatar #121212 to #121201 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
I'll try and see what I can do.
...aren't therapists really expensive?
User avatar #121213 to #121212 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
They typically are, but they help more than you can imagine. They are well worth the cost.
User avatar #121215 to #121213 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
Ah... well I don't really have a lot of money...
User avatar #121216 to #121215 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Hm. In that case, my advice is to figure out your standings on your morals like you said you were having issues with below first. Don't decide what you believe based on what your religion or society states is right, decide on what feels right to you. One way to do this is to run through multiple scenarios in your head, and choose what you would do in those situations without thinking that much about them. Another way to go through this is to play something that presents choices for you to make in said situations; as stupid as that sounds, it can really help.
User avatar #121209 to #121201 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
But you're still a closed in fag that wants to kill yourself, so my answer is better.
User avatar #121188 to #121184 - makotoitou (03/09/2014) [-]
crippling autism
Seek suicide
User avatar #121193 to #121188 - supertanto (03/09/2014) [-]
nomora can help you with that
#121186 to #121184 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
I agree that you should see a therapist, but to make you feel better right now, tell me exactly what you can't tell others. You don't know me, i don't know you. What is it that you can't tell? How do you feel?
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#121203 to #121202 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
Ehm who the hell are you? I didn't reply to you.
User avatar #121208 to #121203 - lotengo (03/09/2014) [-]
sorry, i was asking for advicce in the part below, somehow my computer scrolled up and i tought you where talking about me
#121210 to #121208 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
Oh, no problem man.
User avatar #121195 to #121186 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
okay... but most of this may sound stupid....
Because the thing that's on the forefront of my mind right now is a Frozen fanfic that just hit the wrong nerve with me. You know how, generally, you always sympathise with the main character? That happened in overdrive. Their rendition of Elsa had her sitting in her bedroom all day, playing video games, hiding herself away from everyone so no one knew the real her, or that she loved Anna. And it felt like they were writing about me.
And then because I started sympathising with her, I started agreeing with everything she did. The whole incest thing? By all accounts, I'd say incest is horrific, but god help me if I didnt want them to be happy together. Because, really, I was reading it like a fanfic of my life. That if Elsa, this teenage shutaway, this girl who hated herself more than anything she knew, this girl who writhed under the loathing of everything she did, if she could find love and happiness, then... maybe I could too? God knows I need it.
But everything in that is wrong. I am a religious person. I won't go around bashing gays and heathens, if that's what you're thinking. Everyone has the ability to be a good person, regardless of what they like. But that doesnt mean being gay is good in god's eyes. I'm not here to judge anyone. But that's just how it is.
And yet, I've got all these feelings bubbling up inside me. I've started to question my moral compass. I don't know if I'm straight or gay or bi or trans. Heck, I could probably list about 50 different -phillias that I'm feeling right now that would be grossly inappropriate. I dont know what to do. This religion has been my whole life. This religion means my future. But I don't know what to do...

And then, all this leads me down a spiral of depression. I'm pretty close to my sister, but today I hid in the corner of the kitchen when I was getting my dinner. And I ate it in the attic. I literally never go in there.

[rant continues in next comment]
User avatar #121207 to #121195 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
I'm not trying to be a whiny, attention-whoring teen who says they're depressed whenever they're a little sad. This isnt the usual up and down of life. I cant find the motivation to do anything. I have so much that I need to do right now, but I just cant. I have exams, the last exams of my life, the most important exams I'll ever take, in just a few months. I have done absolutely no revision for it. And I know that I'm going to fail. I'll tell everyone I did my best, but I havent...
I get these random depressions all the time. Usually they last for a day. Sometimes they last for a week. Rarely, they last for a whole month. I dont want this to be one of the month-long sads. I literally cant do that. I dont have the time to be unmotivated.
But then I start to work, and... whats the point? This is me. I get depressed all the time, at random intervals. I lost motivation for no reason. Fuck, I even get ridiculous delusions every now and then I once spent a few months believing the Goddess of luck had a crush on me. Whenever I crossed the road with no cars, that was her. If there was a car, she was just keeping me on my toes and making sure I paid attention. .
Who the hell would want to hire me? I'm just gonna live my life in my bedroom, poor and alone. So I may as well get used to it now...

[rant over]
#121214 to #121207 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
You should definitly see a therapist. I have good general knowledge about psychology and i want to study something in that field but this goes way too far for me to understand. A proffesional can really help you, i am sure. Hey you made the first step already, you see the problem and you talked to me about it. I am sure you can do it, you just gotta try.
User avatar #121217 to #121214 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
Thanks, and good luck with your psychology.
User avatar #121211 to #121207 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Yeap, EXACT situation that I've been going through.
User avatar #121185 to #121184 - icameheretotroll (03/09/2014) [-]
Avoidant disorder

see a therapist
User avatar #121187 to #121185 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
>diagnosis after one comment

Dude, I havent even scratched the surface here...
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