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User avatar #121262 - drunkensailor (03/09/2014) [-]
What am I supposed to do if the only person I could talk to about how I feel is the one who hurt me? Not intentionally. Will provide details if needed.
User avatar #121440 to #121262 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
Straight up, no doubt, write a poem
or a song in the key of bullet for my valentine or some bullshit I don't know what these bands are called
User avatar #121441 to #121440 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
Ummm...I think I understand what you're saying but I'm not an artistic person. Whats with the "Straight up, no doubt" part?
User avatar #121442 to #121441 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
Without a flutter of a doubt in my mind, I have scarce been more ensured of any piece of advice hitherto!
User avatar #121443 to #121442 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
I'm sensing you're one of them artsy type aren't ya? Nothing wrong with that, I'm actually quite envious of those sets of talent, but, my mind is more math/science/engineering geared, so if you could put that in lamens terms?
#121445 to #121443 - nimba (03/10/2014) [-]
never you mind   
 Also engineering is lame    
 Mathematics are the one true discipline    
 Maybe science    
never you mind
Also engineering is lame
Mathematics are the one true discipline
Maybe science
User avatar #121449 to #121445 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
alright, either artsy, or stoned
User avatar #121300 to #121262 - thirdjess (03/10/2014) [-]
Honestly I'd tell the person who hurt you if they didn't intend to do it. You should let them know so they don't accidentally repeat their actions in the future.
User avatar #121272 to #121262 - silverzepher ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
what happened, i like story time
User avatar #121274 to #121272 - megavoir (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121275 to #121274 - silverzepher ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
doesn't everyone love story time?
User avatar #121277 to #121275 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
was hoping for story time too...
User avatar #121278 to #121277 - silverzepher ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
well why doesn't drunkensailor come back and entertain us?
User avatar #121279 to #121278 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
yeah drunkensailor, get over here monica and tell us some stories!!
User avatar #121307 to #121279 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
Woah, sorry lol almost forgot i posted. Anyway, the person in question is this girl I know, we've known each other for 7 years, I've liked her for 5 and only recently realized how much I do. We talk constantly and when my life went to shit and I didn't know who turn to she was there to help. And the same works the other way around, when she hurts I help console her. But, she refers to me as her brother, it started off fine because I didn't think of her like that, I was like 10 at the time, but now it's starting to hurt. The main reason my feelings are boiling over now is because after breaking up with her bf of 4 months about a few weeks ago, I was thinking about asking her to prom but 3 days after they broke up, my other friend asked her and she said yes. Then this past Friday when us and a few other friends were hanging out I made a comment about how she went to sleep before 9 the previous night and the friend who asked her to prom flat out laughed at me because (the way he made it seem at least) they had been up talking long after that. I literally (no not literally ok) died a little inside when I heard that. So, I oh so bluntly brought it up today essentially saying that I thought that she and the other kid were closer friends than we were even though they only started getting close this year. I desperately want to tell her how I feel but I'm beta as fuck, have never kissed a girl, barely had a girlfriend, only asked one other girl out over text, and as rejected over text. To me she's an 11/10 and I'm like a 4, pretty large, kind of a dick (rarely to her) but could be a lot better if I wasn't fat (words said to me by a very blunt now ex friend). I don't think I'm good enough for her at all but it hurts like a bitch when I see her with the other kid even though I'm fairly sure everything between them is "just friends" (he has a gf in Canada, we're in NY, don't ask idk either). There's your story deffinitlynotafag silverzepher megavoir thirdjess
User avatar #121313 to #121307 - thirdjess (03/10/2014) [-]
I would hazard a guess that she is well aware of your feelings towards her, and if she is talking to you less or being distant as she seems to be, she's trying to let you down gently; she cares about you but in an entirely platonic manner. Sorry, kid.

I would still bring it up, even if you are beta, straight up ask her if she is aware of your feelings. Dancing around the subject does no one any merit.
User avatar #121314 to #121313 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
She's not being distant or anything like that, if anyone is it's me.Or at least I tried to be, I planned on not talking to her for a week, in/out of school to see what she's do/say, but somewhat pussied out on the firs day, which ended up with me semi flipping out about her new friendship with the kid who asked her to prom, me apologizing and saying that I would leave her alone for a while or until she told me otherwise. And I do kinda sorta have a plan to tell her how I feel. While I was complaining to her the other day about how life just generally sucked for me as of late (parents going through divorce bc dad's gay, oldest/best/closest friends all away at college, her) she brought up the idea of me going to the beach and watching the sunset or something as that's what she does when she needs to think or relax or what have you. So, I had been thinking about inviting her to the beach this weekend to watch the sunset, after giving her space, and saying something along the lines of "Look, we've known each other for a long time, so I'm just going to be completely honest because I need to ask you a question. So please, hear me out: You think of me as a brother, but you should know if that I've had feeling for you for 5 yrs. I've thought about it for a long time, and didn't really realize it until You broke up with [exboyfriend], [friend] asked you to prom and I noticed how close you and [friend] have gotten. When you told me that you and [exboyfriend] were together I secretly hoped it would end when it did so I could take you to prom. When you two did break up, I started considering how/when I could ask you, until [friend] beat me to it. When you said yes to him, it crushed me. I know it's a long shot, but the question i have for you is, is there ever any chance of us happening? Because if not, I need to move on. I'd understand if you said no, and would still want to be friends, but I just need to know." deffinitlynotafag silverzepher megavoir thirdjess
#121350 to #121314 - lugs (03/10/2014) [-]
Don't make how you feel about her have anything to do with her interactions with other people, it'll just make you seem petty or jealous which is a major turn off for most women. Just tell her outright that you like her, and if she doesn't feel the same way then that's cool but you just wanted to get it out there.

Also, karlKroenen gave you some really good advice. You'll never be able to make another person happy until you're happy with yourself. Become a better person by doing things you love until you know how awesome you are. Everyone has the potential to be great, don't let your feelings about this girl get in the way of your own self improvement.
User avatar #121377 to #121350 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
Alright, but what if she asks why I'm telling her now? Like what happened that I needed to let her know. She's pretty intelligent and would most likely guess that it's because of how close she and [friend] are now after how I acted yesterday in regards to that.

And what did karlKroenen say?
#121391 to #121377 - lugs (03/10/2014) [-]
If she explicitly asks why you're telling her now tell her that seeing how upset she was after her break-up you realized you don't want to see her get screwed around by guys who don't treat her the way you know she should be. I wouldn't bring up that she's now seeing one of your 'friends'
User avatar #121426 to #121391 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
While I do like that response, she wasn't too upset after the break up, she got over it pretty quickly, partially because they had been drifting for a while but mostly (atleast i like to think) because I was there to talk to her about it.

Also, I wouldnt say the she and [friend] are seeing each other, I'm 99% sure that they're just friends, but there's that 1%...
User avatar #121378 to #121377 - karlKroenen (03/10/2014) [-]
I said a lot friend but it was late and I didn't feel like it made as much sense as I wanted it to.

In essence, you need to not let yourself get too attached to this girl, you would know if she had deep feelings for you in all the years that you have known her. You need to respect yourself to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. It seems that these events are having a negative impact on you. Here's what I want you to do. Call her right now and set up an appointment for when you want to talk to her in person. Suck it up and truthfully ask her if she has feelings for you, and that if she doesn't that you feel it is necessary to cut all bonds with her and that other guy. After that, you will either feel like shit or you will feel amazing. What i want you to do after that is go do something you love or something that will make you a better person. Read, write, lift, go to the beach, go run, study something, clean something, ANYTHING. (excluding staying on here, drinking, video games, drugs, anything negative) And do that thing every day until you are very good at it, keep doing it until you can look back and honestly tell yourself that you are a better person. Keep doing this until you ARE a better person. When you are happier about yourself, come back and tell me about how you are doing.
User avatar #124441 to #121378 - drunkensailor (03/29/2014) [-]
So, I finally told her...
User avatar #125626 to #125624 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
Well, I made up my mind to tell her last monday/tuesday, and on last wednesday, while i wasnt sick anymore, my voice was still shot from coughing so i tried to do it on last thursday. but she was busy. My idea to get her somewhere was to say I had some problems going on that I needed to talk about and then just tell her how i felt. Instead, we talked for a bit that thursday night about me having a problem and I joked saying my problem was her but instantly said it wasn't her (lie). Then I vaguely let on that my problem had to do with someone, no specifics, just a problem with a person. I tried again last friday night and managed to get her to meet me at a McDonald's, romantic I know, her idea as she had been shopping for a dress with her friends and was hungry so when she asked if I'd buy her dinner (she asked where I wanted to meet and I didn't really have a backup plan for the beach so that's what she suggested) and I said yes. Ended up just getting getting her some fries and when we sat down she immediately asked who "she" was. Kinda threw me off that she immediately went for it, so I dilly dallied in telling her. When I finally got enough courage I started off with "so you know how last night I said you weren't my problem? well, that was a lie" then went on with what I typed out earlier. She was silent the entire time, and the look on her face was one of "i dont know what to do" (which apparently i found out later from her was what was going through her head). When i finished she was quiet for a minute before saying something about how she's so happy with brendan (bf) and I just nodded my head. She apologized a lot for not feeling the same way, or at least for not just "jumping into my arms" (not a quote from her i just didn't know how to phrase it). Found out that she did like me at one point. In fifth grade. When we first met. we were at mcdonalds for a good hour and a half before leaving when some drunk guy walked in.
User avatar #125633 to #125626 - karlKroenen (04/05/2014) [-]
This was a huge step, you're a better and stronger person for having done this. Takes a lot of courage to take the first step. Even the deepest sorrow will lose its scalpel edge. I don't want to get your hopes up but the people with the best relationships were friends for a long time before they got together. Don't separate entirely, perhaps use your new courage to find another girl for a while. There may be a chance in the future. Don't take my word for it though, I don't know enough details to say anything for sure, except that you are definitely stronger.
User avatar #125638 to #125633 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
Well I do generally feel better, most of the time...But i do think I feel a lot better now that she knows. My best case scenerio for "us" right now is for her to pick the same college as me, but I don't know if that's gonna happen anymore as she's leaning towards a different one that's about 2 hours away from the one I'm think of going to.
User avatar #125628 to #125626 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
We didn't really talk about what I had said after I said it though, more just like awkward bullshitting to pass the time. When we left we had a long, tight hug before going our separate ways. She pulled out of the parking lot and i sat in my car for a few minutes before blasting my music while flying down roads. Beat the shit out of my car for a bit offroading before going back to speeding around. Hit 70, 80, and 90 on three separate roads, all while texting her after she said get home safe. When I did get home we talked for a long while. I asked her if she ever had an idea that I like her and she said she thought I did when I got angry at her for getting so close to her now bf. After that, aside from just random conversations we've had, she just kept asking what she could do to stop hurting me and of course I didn't just tell her that the only thing that would make it ok besides time was her dumping brendan for me, so i'd just say I dont know. I told her that I might have to stop talking to her, like I wouldn' text her or go out of my way to talk to her unless she wanted to talk to me because she needed to/wanted to/or was upset about something, even though I might only stick to that plan for a day (said that last part to her too). Then I went on

for a bit about how she's perfect to me after she asked me what she could do to make it better and I told her to stop being perfect. She just went to sleep and said goodnight but I couldn't even say goodnight, or even night, I went with "bye."

How bad did I fuck up? And how long is it going to hurt unless she leaves her bf (not gonna happen) (and i know "there's no way of knowing "how long"" im just saying what comes to mind.)
User avatar #125629 to #125628 - drunkensailor (04/05/2014) [-]
Also I changed her contact name to "Be Patient." in hopes that by waiting eventually I'll get her. so there's that...
User avatar #121434 to #121378 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
I like to think she has similar feelings for me but don't really have anything to base it on from my past. I mean, I'm sure that girls have liked me in the past but I never felt the same way about them so I never did anything about it.

And do you have any recommendations for where to go for this get together? As I said before I had thought about going to the beach and watching the sunset then bringing it up, but then as I thought about it, I kept poking holes in it (ie. closest beach is about a half hour drive away, it would make sense for us to go together, but It would be a bit of an awkward ride back if she doesn't feel the same, i had another hole that i poked but now i cant remember it). And yes, I am slightly bugging out about this.
User avatar #121436 to #121434 - drunkensailor (03/10/2014) [-]
I tend to try and over plan everything I do...try and prepare for every possible outcome
User avatar #121477 to #121436 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
That's your problem, you think too much. It's the gift and curse that intelligent people have. Sometimes you have to just DO. In my opinion just make it some place simple, if she likes you, where you ask her wont matter. If you are afraid about the awkward drive just go to her house or something, ask her to come out, tell her, then leave. And be sure to get to the point very quick, else you might never get to it.
User avatar #121481 to #121477 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
So I realize that by asking this I'm somewhat ignorin your first statement, but, simple like? And I like the idea of the beach because in my mind which has played out what happens at least a billion times, I could ask her to the beach saying something like "I've been thinking about what you said about just getting away from life every once in a while by going out into nature but I'd rather you came along so I can see what you do to relax." But now that I've written it out it seems somewhat cheesy, or obvious about what I want to do.
User avatar #121483 to #121481 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
Come on man, you're making it very hard for yourself. You have thought about this so much that if you get rejected its going to hurt, a lot, and for a long time. I understand where you're coming from, if you truly want to take her to the beach then do it. Since taking her to the beach will take a while, have fun while you are there and whatever you do, don't think about what you are going to ask her later. When the time comes, don't have ANYTHING memorized. If you like this girl as much as you are making it seem, the words will flow easily. If you are driving then pull over when you are on your way back and say something like, "this has been bothering me for a while, I like you as more than a friend, I need to know whether it is possible that you like me back the same way. I don't need a response this second, just let me know soon."

The number one thing I want to stress: Expect the worst, and be prepared to deal with it.
User avatar #121492 to #121483 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
I know I'm just making it wors but i cant help it. I've been dealt a pretty shit hand in life (being a middle class white boy withstanding) so here's a brief life story of troubles. First girl I like enoguh to ask out happened in 6th grade. asked over text, rejected, hurt. next girl told me she liked me over a text so i asked her out then. i know bitch move but it was awkward. friends shoving us together even though i didnt really like her. didnt pu much effort into the relationship, never even kissed. had crushes on girls between then and now but nothing big enough that i considered asking them out. Then, november of 2012 parents nounce divorce bc dad's gay. not a problem really, love gay people no homo. but last july whie out with him let it slip that im trying to buy a car even though mom doesnt have much money and i didnt ask him. my money but he's blind with rage at this point. he's moved out at this point so he drives me home to fight with mom. louder/angrier fight than usual. mom comes inside, closes garage dor and locks inside door, he stops garage door from closing and tries to get in but doesnt have key, so he starts throwing bricks at inside garage wall. sis gets up to tell him to leave and as soon as she starts getting up im right behind her. she's yelling at him to leave but he's not, so i get between him and mom/sis. tell him to go but he just yells at me to move. say no, he steps closer, i close the rest of the gap. yells at me to move, calmly state back that im not afraid of him anymore wth fist clenched so hard its almost falling asleep. watch some of the fight leave his eyes knowing that he's all alone in that moment. mom on phone with police, he leaves, havent talked to him since. family and friends say i should frogive him, fuck that, hes a selfsh angry cunt and always has been.
#121496 to #121492 - karlKroenen (03/11/2014) [-]
It's great that you have expressed all of this, now you know what is bothering you the most.
I can't give you advice on what to do with your dad, only that you shouldn't make decisions when you are angry. Give it some time.
Stop dwelling on the past, we all make mistakes. Let your mistakes make you better, not bitter. Right now you are sitting here beating yourself up for things that you cannot change, and it's making you miserable.
If you want to feel better, get off the computer right now and go do something that will take you away. Watch a funny movie, run until you cant move, play an intense video game, read a book, etc. If you stay here, beating yourself up, thinking about every little thing that has gone wrong, you will be miserable. Not another word, go live and leave your worries for another day.
User avatar #124028 to #121496 - drunkensailor (03/26/2014) [-]
Here's what I want to say

"Look Andie, I've been think about this a lot over the past few weeks and if I don't tell you now, I don't know if I ever will. So what I need is for you to just listen until I'm done.

I like you Andie. I have for a long time, but, only just started to realize how much. I first realized I did in 8th grade on the swim team. I tried to get closer then by getting your number so I could at least texting. But, apparently Bella liked me so you made her give me her number too. So, my idea of us kinda went to the back of my mind. We didn't really start talking again until last year in Spanish, and then even more so this year which is when the feelings I had for you started making a return. I had planned on asking you to prom but then you and any starting dating. I told myself it would be fine, you two would break up before then, and you did. So I started thinking of ways to ask you while still giving some time after the break up, Brendan didn't want to give you that time and asked you days later. And you said yes. Kinda shattered my plans. Then you and Brendan started dating, which only made me realize that I had to stop waiting and tell you how I feel. I know that you think of me as a brother, and think that I think of you as a sister, but I don't. And probably won't unless I tell you how I feel to see what happens or what doesn't happen and then only time will tell. Now don't get me wrong, this isn't me trying to steal you from Brendan, I know would never do that. This is for me so I can try and move on with my life."
User avatar #124027 to #121496 - drunkensailor (03/26/2014) [-]
So I don't know if you remember, but a few weeks ago you gave me some girl advice, which I intended to follow, until life got in the way. Go here to know why:

Anyway, some other guy said I should take a different approach, Read here:

I kind of like his plan , but, don't know if I can go through with it. I think I might go back to your idea and just tell her. But, in light of new events I changed what I want to say. Also don't want to take her to the beach anymore to tell her because that's where the kid who asked her to prom...asked her out. Anyway, here's what I want to say now, if you could give me some criticism/tips, I'd be very appreciative.
User avatar #121497 to #121496 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
thank you so much for everything, just one last question before I go. how have you managed to get all this experience and knowledge?
User avatar #121493 to #121492 - drunkensailor (03/11/2014) [-]
Always started shit when he was still living at home. constantly angry, yelling causing stress/repressed emotions. Thought of a million ways the night could have gone when I stepped out the door that night. Next month, oldest friends leave for college, feel all alone. start getting closer to crush. Fastforward to just before christmas. have 14 yr old dog. literally best friend. goes from perfect health (for age) to utter crap in 3 days. decide to put down. The. Day. After. Christmas. Broken to pieces. Crush is there for me, first thing she does next time she sees me is give me a long hug (im a hugger so its usually the other way around). Slowly get better as we got another dog in february who's a big doofy mush. Anyway, then the aformentioned break up/promposal from friend and subsequent heart break comes in. Realize that most of that doesnt really pertain to current situation, jst needed to get it off my chest, and yes crush knows all of that. I just dont know whether or not I could handle either the heartache from not telling her and pretending everything's ok or telling her and getting rejected.
User avatar #121379 to #121378 - karlKroenen (03/10/2014) [-]
(not saying that video games are negative, I just want you to do something that will make you better, not something that will fill the time and leave you at the same place you were before)
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#121268 to #121262 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
talk to me?
#121258 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
So just a quick question, but are ball sacks only supposed to have two testicles in them? Like, literally only the two nuts? Or is it normal to have fucking long as tubes and stuff in your sack? If not I may need to see a doctor, and i just want a quick answer.
#121351 to #121258 - anonymous (03/10/2014) [-]
If this is a genuine question, you may have what are called variceoceles. Essentially varicose veins in the nutsack. They aren't normally a problem but can lead to lower fertility due to the excess blood causing more warmth than your testicles are supposed to deal with. If you're really worried see a doctor.
User avatar #121269 to #121258 - awesomerninjathing (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121263 to #121258 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
the two nuts are attached and anchored by tendens ect. so theres some other smaller stuff in there, including tubes running from the testicals into your body. so dont worry.
User avatar #121264 to #121263 - ipostcp (03/09/2014) [-]
I'm like 99 percent sure it was a joke.
User avatar #121265 to #121264 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
just incase
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User avatar #121250 - herblegerble (03/09/2014) [-]
So I've had the same haircut for the last 3/4 years, and I hate it. It's long-ish (it's like early Justin Bieber hair but longer at the back) and recently I've had more and more people tell me I should have it cut. I've wanted it shorter for a long time, but the problem is that I don't know what I'd get done to it and I know that I'll get lots of stick for cutting it short for quite a while if I do.

What do?
User avatar #121304 to #121250 - thirdjess (03/10/2014) [-]
I would go with something like an undercut or 'the typical hipster' You need to login to view this link if you think you can commit to styling it. But it depends on your face shape and hair (is it curly, thick, and so on). Especially if you have a strong jawline.

If you're one of those fellows who's a little bit chinless (like Lewis Brindley of the Yogscast) I would do something Chris Hemsworth-ey, only shorter on the sides. But slicked back at the top, is the gist of it.
User avatar #121273 to #121250 - nsfwcontent (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121270 to #121250 - awesomerninjathing (03/09/2014) [-]
undercut undercut undercut undercut undercut
User avatar #121282 to #121270 - teoberry (03/10/2014) [-]
that haircut screams douchebag
User avatar #121253 to #121250 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
post dick pics
User avatar #121251 to #121250 - herblegerble (03/09/2014) [-]
I should probably add that I was planning on getting it cut when I go to Uni, but that's not for another 1 and a bit years.
#121259 to #121251 - miaou (03/09/2014) [-]
there are different styles that fit different face shapes. you should google what hairstyle would fit you. also you can ask your friends what'd look ok on you, get some different perspectives
listen, you say people tell you to cut it, then why would you get lots of, stick, for doing so?
honestly i change my hair about 3 times a year. it gets outdated, or i grow out of it. Im sure its time to cut your hair.
User avatar #121222 - beatmasterz (03/09/2014) [-]
I have a galaxy s advance and sometimes my keyboard gets stuck. It acknowledges my fingers tapping on a certain letter but the letters never show up in the text box. Usually I could just reset said app but now it's getting worse.
User avatar #121271 to #121222 - awesomerninjathing (03/09/2014) [-]
you could try turning your phone off and on again if you haven't done that in a while
User avatar #121280 to #121271 - beatmasterz (03/09/2014) [-]
Nah I do that frequently.
User avatar #121219 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Does anyone have kik?
I feel like talking and I don't get on fj much.
Feel free to add me: db_blues
User avatar #121340 to #121219 - EdwardNigma ONLINE (03/10/2014) [-]
>"I don't get on fj much"

User avatar #121343 to #121340 - hornack (03/10/2014) [-]
I don't get on as much as I used to.
User avatar #121322 to #121219 - captainfuckitall (03/10/2014) [-]
I wouldn't mind chatting if you were on Skype.
User avatar #121223 to #121219 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
nigga that sounds hella gay
User avatar #121224 to #121223 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
It's not gay if we send dick pics.
User avatar #121225 to #121224 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
do it please
User avatar #121226 to #121225 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
I might if you add me.
User avatar #121227 to #121226 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
but I don't use no kyke kik site
User avatar #121228 to #121227 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
It's an app.
User avatar #121229 to #121228 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
"Kik is the first smartphone messenger with a built-in browser. You can talk, browse and share with your friends. What's not to love?"

What makes it so special? It's just fucking chat. AIM did it 16 years ago.
User avatar #121230 to #121229 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Nothing at all, just like every single one of us but you don't see me telling everyone they're not special.
User avatar #121231 to #121230 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121232 to #121231 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Am sorry
User avatar #121233 to #121232 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
it k. just post dick pic
User avatar #121234 to #121233 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
But I have no dick
User avatar #121236 to #121234 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
tit pic?
User avatar #121237 to #121236 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
Again, megavoir is the one that gives it to me.
User avatar #121238 to #121237 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
just send a pic of something of sexual nature then
User avatar #121245 to #121238 - megavoir (03/09/2014) [-]
step off niggah
User avatar #121246 to #121245 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
well are you gonna send me pics then?
User avatar #121247 to #121246 - megavoir (03/09/2014) [-]
let's not get ahead of ourselves, makoto
User avatar #121248 to #121247 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
gardevoir pls, i wanna see your mega cock
User avatar #121240 to #121238 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
( . Y . )

I hope I don't get banned.
User avatar #121241 to #121240 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121235 to #121234 - hornack (03/09/2014) [-]
megavoir is the one that gives it to me.
User avatar #121218 - happyhour (03/09/2014) [-]
Anyone know the name of that site that you put in all the ingredients you have and it shows you the meal you can make.
User avatar #121239 to #121218 - advicedude (03/09/2014) [-]
What the fuck this is amazing.
User avatar #121220 to #121218 - beatmasterz (03/09/2014) [-]
www.supercook . com/

that it?
User avatar #121221 to #121220 - happyhour (03/09/2014) [-]
Yea that works, thanks
User avatar #121184 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
I think I need a therapist...
I have this nasty habit of... well.... concealing everything...
I hide who I am from everyone. I'm losing my ability to express myself.
And instead of just learning, I've fallen into the habit of just hiding myself away, bottling it all up.

There's so much I need to fix. So much I need to tell everyone but cant. So many questions gone unanswered. And its getting too much. All I want to do is lock myself in a room for months on end, ignoring the rest of the world. I barely even know who I am any more...

Right now, I'm sitting up in the attic. Everything is itchy, but itchy is easier to deal with than other things. I have loads of homework due in the morning that I havent done, but I dont want to do it.

I just dont know what to do any more. I'm so scared of everything...
#121206 to #121184 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Also, just by sharing this information, you're already getting better with expressing yourself.
#121201 to #121184 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Trust me on this, you need to see a therapist for this. I went through the EXACT same thing you currently are, and the one I went to managed to help me open up more to others.
User avatar #121212 to #121201 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
I'll try and see what I can do.
...aren't therapists really expensive?
User avatar #121213 to #121212 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
They typically are, but they help more than you can imagine. They are well worth the cost.
User avatar #121215 to #121213 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
Ah... well I don't really have a lot of money...
User avatar #121216 to #121215 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Hm. In that case, my advice is to figure out your standings on your morals like you said you were having issues with below first. Don't decide what you believe based on what your religion or society states is right, decide on what feels right to you. One way to do this is to run through multiple scenarios in your head, and choose what you would do in those situations without thinking that much about them. Another way to go through this is to play something that presents choices for you to make in said situations; as stupid as that sounds, it can really help.
User avatar #121209 to #121201 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
But you're still a closed in fag that wants to kill yourself, so my answer is better.
User avatar #121188 to #121184 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
crippling autism
Seek suicide
User avatar #121193 to #121188 - supertanto (03/09/2014) [-]
nomora can help you with that
#121186 to #121184 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
I agree that you should see a therapist, but to make you feel better right now, tell me exactly what you can't tell others. You don't know me, i don't know you. What is it that you can't tell? How do you feel?
#121202 to #121186 - lotengo has deleted their comment [-]
#121203 to #121202 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
Ehm who the hell are you? I didn't reply to you.
User avatar #121208 to #121203 - lotengo (03/09/2014) [-]
sorry, i was asking for advicce in the part below, somehow my computer scrolled up and i tought you where talking about me
#121210 to #121208 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
Oh, no problem man.
User avatar #121195 to #121186 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
okay... but most of this may sound stupid....
Because the thing that's on the forefront of my mind right now is a Frozen fanfic that just hit the wrong nerve with me. You know how, generally, you always sympathise with the main character? That happened in overdrive. Their rendition of Elsa had her sitting in her bedroom all day, playing video games, hiding herself away from everyone so no one knew the real her, or that she loved Anna. And it felt like they were writing about me.
And then because I started sympathising with her, I started agreeing with everything she did. The whole incest thing? By all accounts, I'd say incest is horrific, but god help me if I didnt want them to be happy together. Because, really, I was reading it like a fanfic of my life. That if Elsa, this teenage shutaway, this girl who hated herself more than anything she knew, this girl who writhed under the loathing of everything she did, if she could find love and happiness, then... maybe I could too? God knows I need it.
But everything in that is wrong. I am a religious person. I won't go around bashing gays and heathens, if that's what you're thinking. Everyone has the ability to be a good person, regardless of what they like. But that doesnt mean being gay is good in god's eyes. I'm not here to judge anyone. But that's just how it is.
And yet, I've got all these feelings bubbling up inside me. I've started to question my moral compass. I don't know if I'm straight or gay or bi or trans. Heck, I could probably list about 50 different -phillias that I'm feeling right now that would be grossly inappropriate. I dont know what to do. This religion has been my whole life. This religion means my future. But I don't know what to do...

And then, all this leads me down a spiral of depression. I'm pretty close to my sister, but today I hid in the corner of the kitchen when I was getting my dinner. And I ate it in the attic. I literally never go in there.

[rant continues in next comment]
User avatar #121207 to #121195 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
I'm not trying to be a whiny, attention-whoring teen who says they're depressed whenever they're a little sad. This isnt the usual up and down of life. I cant find the motivation to do anything. I have so much that I need to do right now, but I just cant. I have exams, the last exams of my life, the most important exams I'll ever take, in just a few months. I have done absolutely no revision for it. And I know that I'm going to fail. I'll tell everyone I did my best, but I havent...
I get these random depressions all the time. Usually they last for a day. Sometimes they last for a week. Rarely, they last for a whole month. I dont want this to be one of the month-long sads. I literally cant do that. I dont have the time to be unmotivated.
But then I start to work, and... whats the point? This is me. I get depressed all the time, at random intervals. I lost motivation for no reason. Fuck, I even get ridiculous delusions every now and then I once spent a few months believing the Goddess of luck had a crush on me. Whenever I crossed the road with no cars, that was her. If there was a car, she was just keeping me on my toes and making sure I paid attention. .
Who the hell would want to hire me? I'm just gonna live my life in my bedroom, poor and alone. So I may as well get used to it now...

[rant over]
#121214 to #121207 - minutes (03/09/2014) [-]
You should definitly see a therapist. I have good general knowledge about psychology and i want to study something in that field but this goes way too far for me to understand. A proffesional can really help you, i am sure. Hey you made the first step already, you see the problem and you talked to me about it. I am sure you can do it, you just gotta try.
User avatar #121217 to #121214 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
Thanks, and good luck with your psychology.
User avatar #121211 to #121207 - nomora (03/09/2014) [-]
Yeap, EXACT situation that I've been going through.
User avatar #121185 to #121184 - icameheretotroll (03/09/2014) [-]
Avoidant disorder

see a therapist
User avatar #121187 to #121185 - tombobbusama (03/09/2014) [-]
>diagnosis after one comment

Dude, I havent even scratched the surface here...
User avatar #121181 - animeartlover (03/09/2014) [-]
So i went out today, i had to do a project where i have do weird things like eating with hands. I did this at a mall, recording peoples reactions. At first i wanted to bail out then i went to random tables with people and one was some random girl. I tired my best to talk with her then tell her i was just being weird for a project and walk away when i was done. Her father suddenly came up to me, about to beat my face in. I explain myself and then he gets a mall cop. I explain to everyone its just a school thing. And said sorry to the guy millions of times. I feel like a dick and i just kinda wanna sink into a corner now.
User avatar #121243 to #121181 - advicedude (03/09/2014) [-]
It's not illegal.
User avatar #121189 to #121181 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
nigger you did nothing fucking wrong. stop being an edgy shitnigger and pick yo ass back up
#121183 to #121181 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
why was she mad at you for eating with your hands? what? you shouldn't feel like a dick, it was just a school project. they were dumbasses for almost getting physical and bringing a cop.
#121182 to #121181 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
I dont think the school would force you to do wierd things.
You obviously said/did something stupid to make someone get security.
dont do stuff like this again
dont care/dwell on what you did
User avatar #121244 to #121182 - advicedude (03/09/2014) [-]
Psych projects
User avatar #121177 - lotengo (03/09/2014) [-]
Hey Advice, long story but I could sure use some help.

I’ve been feeling kind of down since Christmas. Not depressed but having a lack of energy, going to bed earlier, having trouble getting out of bed a lot more. And that also affected my concentration in a bad way, I was slowly falling behind at school.

A few weeks ago I went to see the doctor and he send me to the hospital for blood analysis.
He tested my glucose, thyroid and white and red blood cell lvls.
But all of those came back normal.

The doctor called me to discuss the results and I said I’m still having these issues. He asked me about my sleep and I said I’ve had trouble sleeping for as long as I can remember
I have autism and ADHD, its pretty common to have trouble sleeping for people like me
He gave me a few sleepingpills (tremazepam) to try out and get back to him in a week.
The pills helped a me sleep a little longer, but it was fucking up my concentration even more, and it caused me to suddenly ‘crash’ in the middle of the day, like all the energy was sucked out of me.

The next week he gave me a cough syrup for helping me sleep, this also helped me sleep only a little bit longer, but I was totally out for a week. Took me hours to get out of bed, and my concentration is completely gone. I stopped with it a few days ago but my concentration is still gone. I’ve tried to work on school for the past 3 days but I can’t seem to absorb the info.

Somebody I know pulled some strings and got me an appointment with some top-tier therapist who is specialised In how medicine affects people with autism, but that’s next week.

Meanwhile Im falling behind in school and a big test is coming up.
TL;DR I need tips to get my concentration back
User avatar #121194 to #121177 - supertanto (03/09/2014) [-]
try going to a concentration camp
User avatar #121190 to #121177 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
Dude, you're autistic and have ADHD? Don't you have special classes where the "big test" is basically "2+2=__"
User avatar #121198 to #121190 - lotengo (03/09/2014) [-]
I went to a school for kids with autism when i was younger.

But you should not base your opinion about autistic people on the comment section of FJ.
Im not a retard
User avatar #121200 to #121198 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
I dunno, you seem pretty fucking retarded
User avatar #121204 to #121200 - lotengo (03/09/2014) [-]
Gee thanks
User avatar #121205 to #121204 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
#121179 to #121177 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
exersize and healthy food? no but seriously go for a run and you will feel great
User avatar #121180 to #121179 - lotengo (03/09/2014) [-]
I always eat healthy, but i lost the energy for working out.
Before this i went boxing for 1,5 hours 2 or 3 times a week
User avatar #121173 - ied (03/09/2014) [-]
How do I make myself revise? I want to do well, but I just can't get myself to do it.
I am on and off.
One day I'll go hard as a motherfucker, the next day I won't even look at a book.
User avatar #121191 to #121173 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
nig the fuck you wanna revise?
User avatar #121252 to #121191 - ied (03/09/2014) [-]
Maths, Philosophy, Ethics and History.
#121172 - thesmilyingdawg (03/09/2014) [-] i cant copy the picture cause im using a mouse emulator cause my mouse is a piece of shit but anyway my laptop died and its last words was** Setup was unable to format the partition. the disk may be damaged**
So what i have to do and what do i have to buy and how much is it
please save my computer
#121171 - ipostcp (03/09/2014) [-]
So my best friend had my other two best friends over at his house a couple days ago. They were drinking and shit which is fine, I personally don't get drunk really though. The thing is though he didn't invite me over even though I'm like the closest out of them. I asked him why he didn't invite me and he was like "Because I know you don't drink" I mean, I'm fairly capable of not getting drunk so I don't really know what the big issue was.

It pissed me off kinda. I want to hang out with my friends more than I what I do now, but this sorta kicked me in the gut. Think there is anything I can really do here? I figure I should just forget about the whole issue and just try to get more connected with them. One of my friends did text me at like 1 am for me to come over, but I was already sleeping. So I guess it wasn't that bad.
User avatar #121192 to #121171 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
they're your friends, just be like "yo fuckshits why didn't you ask me to do wEEd with you then give blowjobs in the back of a circus tent?"
User avatar #121266 to #121192 - ipostcp (03/09/2014) [-]
Yeah, I basically was like that. I figure they might invite me next time to have a few beers.
User avatar #121174 to #121171 - axeul ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
Sounds like they honestly didn't think you'd want to be there. Just tell them to hit you up next time they do something cause you want to chill. That's pretty much all you need to do. You seem to be taking this a little more personally than you do based on what you have said.
#121176 to #121174 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
this guy said it, let them know you want to chill then go have fun. your friends are not against you
User avatar #121175 to #121174 - ipostcp (03/09/2014) [-]
I dunno. I know the friend that texted me is a pretty decent guy so I know that he would of wanted me to be there. I figure they thought I was working that day.

Who knows I guess.
#121162 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
i'm 16 and i've never had a proper boyfriend.. is this normal? :/
User avatar #121281 to #121162 - hawaiianhappysauce (03/10/2014) [-]
Considering how people on this site will never have a girlfriend, EVER, I think being single at a young age is normal...
User avatar #121167 to #121162 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
Sorry, for a bit of clarification on the "you're kidding" part of it...I mean where would you get the idea that it isn't? I dunno who is suggesting to you that it's not normal, but they're wrong. At 16, you got a bunch of other things you need to deal with. Having a boyfriend is something for you to have when you're ready for it. It's normal for either having one or not having one. I know some people who feel like they need to be in a relationship, and unfortunately those people aren't exactly great at handling those relationships nor are they the best mates for the relationship, and they tend to not be the happiest within their relationships. A boy or girlfriend is not something you just have so you can attach the word "taken" to yourself, it's something you have because you legitimately enjoy that person in a close way. That's not something you should be just outright expected to have.

It's perfectly normal to take your time when it comes to having a boyfriend.
#121165 to #121162 - smilegoddamnit (03/09/2014) [-]
Completely! Wait until you're ready to date, and don't worry. IF you are, don't immedately stay your next boyfriend is "THE ONE" make sure you're comfortable with the person, that's what romance is about!
User avatar #121163 to #121162 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
You're kidding, right?
#121158 - thefluffyninja (03/09/2014) [-]
I have a date next weekend and is writing with my date on the phone until then...
So, what should i ask her?
User avatar #121164 to #121158 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
"is writing with my date on the phone"

Uh, what?
#121166 to #121164 - smilegoddamnit (03/09/2014) [-]
I think he means he's typing the comment as he's talkign with her?
#121153 - improbable (03/09/2014) [-]
My situation is that my pc kept turning itself off so i had to reinstall my OS(vista) and now i dont have any sound. This is not the first time it have happened but i don't remember how i fixed it before.
Where it say 'Onkyo quartz synthe-bla bla' is what is normally there, and I have no idea how to make it come back.

As i said, i have no memory of how i have fixed it before.
User avatar #121159 to #121153 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
See there's your issue. You're still running Vista.
User avatar #121160 to #121159 - improbable (03/09/2014) [-]
thats an opinion, not an answer.
User avatar #121161 to #121160 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
It is an answer though, just an opinionated one.
#121152 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
Alright, so, I'm a girl. Not trying to attentionwhore, but there's a reason why that matters for this post: I'm a mod for someone on Twitch and I add anybody who wishes to add me on Skype that also frequents the stream.

A girl who has started watching the guy I mod for told me upfront on Skype, after adding me, that she hates me because I talk too much or something, so I asked the guy I mod for if he agreed with that and he said that I talk as much as the other guys in the calls do, and sometimes even less. So, no, I don't really talk too much. I guess she just dislikes me for being a girl on the internet other than herself or something, since when I talk/type, she always ignores what I say and pays attention to the other guys who are also moderating the stream. I'm pretty friendly with her, too, so I hope she doesn't hate me for my personality or something.

Has any other girl gone through this? Made other girls feel like you've stepped in their territory just for being a girl? lol
User avatar #121196 to #121152 - supertanto (03/09/2014) [-]
i only read the first paragraph cause I already have an answer

you should seriously consider suicide cause you are a mod on twitch
User avatar #121170 to #121152 - makotoitou ONLINE (03/09/2014) [-]
here's the simple answer: WHO GIVES A FUCK? Some bitch steps on your turf, you kick her in the shins, rape her dog, and call her a faggot.
User avatar #121156 to #121152 - thirdjess (03/09/2014) [-]
Yep and the reverse. I use to admin on a fairly substantial RP minecraft server, and this one girl would straight up ignore me on rules and when I snapped at her (I have a very very low tolerance for shit like this) she'd put on this ridiculous little girl voice (fluttershy esque) and whine, literally whine about how I'd hurt her feelings. Kinda felt bad for her cause the dude mods would bitch about her in staff subsection of teamspeak; she was one of the ones to use lots of hearts and emotes, extend her words ridiculously, you know the sort.

On the other side of the coin, the same server tried to merge with this other gaming community and this group of like 14 year old kids would make the most ridiculous jokes (period jokes, why don't you marry him, your mum and so on). I think they were aiming for bravado to impress the big bosses.
#121157 to #121156 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
Kind of glad someone knows the feels. Honestly, girls who just try to make certain EVERYONE knows they're girls annoy me. I've had some tell me that they feel like they should use smiley faces and whatever to look cute to the guys or something along those lines lol. I mean, I'm all up for femininity and all, but when they put themselves in a box of what they should sound like is a bit sad. And, yeah, that goes to the guys as well. Oh well.

Have a nice day. c:
User avatar #121154 to #121152 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
Do you need advice for something about this?
User avatar #121151 - gmanofwonder (03/09/2014) [-]
What's the cheapest way to get from Maine to Florida?
User avatar #121197 to #121151 - supertanto (03/09/2014) [-]
User avatar #121155 to #121151 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
prob airline, when you shop around. or rail.
#121112 - sircool (03/09/2014) [-]
is it normal to go through a second point of sadness/depression when some one passes. Like, the first moment is knowing they're gone, but the second is the realization of them never coming back.
is it normal to go through a second point of sadness/depression when some one passes. Like, the first moment is knowing they're gone, but the second is the realization of them never coming back.
User avatar #121141 to #121112 - iridium (03/09/2014) [-]
Yes. It's not a feeling that goes away quickly, and it takes a long time for it to really set in that they're gone for many people.
User avatar #121121 to #121112 - lanadelgay (03/09/2014) [-]
I know this may not be helpful but when I lost someone I did the same thing as you, realizing they're not coming back, but then I started seeing stuff. Not in a crazy way, but I'd see the person I lost in someones laugh, or the way someone talks, or maybe even a smell, or a touch. I took a while but I realized that they're never really truly going to be gone, because you have these memories of them, and they're always going to be with you. If you need someone to talk to I'm always here for you friendo.
User avatar #121117 to #121112 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
im sorry for your loss.

its a process everyone takes differently, accepting the fact that you wont talk to them again, see them again, be with them again... is a whols stage or step of that process. (im in it now.)

minus any religious beliefs of course.
User avatar #121118 to #121117 - sircool (03/09/2014) [-]
a very good friend of mine committed suicide last friday, found out on saturday evening. I cried for three days straight, missing college classes hitting rock bottom on monday. This was due to getting the information she did it. It's finally sinking in that i'll never see her again and it's like saturday all over again.
User avatar #121119 to #121118 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
im sorry. hang in there, it will pass. honer her memory, and never forget her, keep her close in your heart, and halp others with the smae issues, spread the word and awearness, make it a mission. focus your energy, create a purpose to channel your energy thru and turn it into a good force.

User avatar #121116 to #121112 - deffinitlynotafag (03/09/2014) [-]
i wouldnt call it abnormal.. i lost a brother last Friday... so idk, im still broken from that.. idk if its somthing ill EVER get over... but saddness will pass and ill honer his memory, and never forget about him. there will always be a state or "mourning" but i dont think it has to be extended depression.

but then again that dosnt mean your experiencing something abnormally. everyone greaves differently.
#121107 - anonymous (03/09/2014) [-]
anyone in Bergen County tonight? i have free beer.
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