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#192201 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
This post is pointless
Sometimes I think maybe if I didn’t try so hard everything would be easier and I could live a happier life.
But I know that’s not how it is because I think I’ve tried it.
The truth is that I’m not the person that doesn’t try and just everything works out for them
I try desperately to force my life to go exactly where I want it to
And it works. From the outside, it would seem that I’m pretty successful, and I’m doing well in everything that I do. But it’s so hard. Like everything is a battle to be how I want to be. Even when I win, it still takes a toll. And I wonder how long I can keep doing this. Indefinitely? Will I just always be this way? I’m not sure if I like it or not. Because I’ve prided myself on the battle, I guess. Part of what makes me who I am is the fights that I endure, the strange struggle for a better life that’s freeing and suffocating at the same time.
I don’t know. I just know that it’s impossible to go with the flow because you make the flow yourself. If you stop fighting, there is no flow. But it’s not a peaceful stillness. It’s an ugly, putrid stagnancy.
And it’s so easy to just let it take you. Just sit and be and let nothing happen, and all the mold and the slime will creep up on you until you’re black and rotten inside.
I guess you realize that it doesn’t make you very happy.
And mold is hard to get rid of. It’s hard to get up and start functioning after your insides have been sitting in filthy nothing and taking up space for so long.
I don’t know. I don’t know that the answer is. A person must find their own way and their own flow, but it feels like there isn’t a flow that flows.
I sound edgy as fuck and I really don’t care. Fucking edgy preteen babby needs to let out some feelings. Well, fuck it, I do need to. Everyone does. I don’t care.
User avatar #192204 to #192201 - metajunky (07/26/2015) [-]
I don't think it's edgy. "Edgy" only applies to petty people who are trying to be dark or badass in an attempt to make people fear/respect. You're not edgy, just someone getting stuff off their chest in a poetic way

As for the meat of you're post, well it's vague as hell and I'm not the best at these kinds of things, so I don't know how much help I can be. But from what you describe, it seems like you are "winning" at life. Even if it does take a toll, your victories are still piling up. You're Eisenhower, and life is Nazi Germany cowering back to Berlin. You're losing a ton of good men, but you're air raids are decimating life's means of production, and your ground troops are tearing life up from the opposite front. Life's putting up a meager resistance, but it's fighting a lising battle. Your hard work is too much for it to overcome
#192196 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
This gon' be long

Long story short, I'm a 23 year old dateless virgin. As far as everything else is going though, I think I'm doing alright with myself. I don't think I'm all that bad looking. I work out. My family life is good. I'm in graduate school working to become a pharmacist. I have a small but tight knit group of friends. Just got back not too long ago from a family trip to Europe. Overall, I'm pretty happy with how things are going for me

It's just my nonexistent love life bothers me every single day. It legitimately keeps me up at night. My biggest fear is coming home from a stressful day of work to an empty house with nothing to keep me company but my loneliness. I have friends who I've known since we were kids, but I can't tell if we will still to visit and bullshit around 10 years from now, and I'm not really good at making new friends, especially not good friends like these guys. I want to be able to meet new people, including a prospective girlfriend

And I'm not in this only to lose my V-Card. I truely desire a meaningful relationship. Sure, I'm perfectly fine with having a little fun before starting any serious relationships, but I want to someday fall in love and find some girl who is equal parts partner and best friend. But I think the people I've associated with throughout my life never made me feel pressured into finding a girl right away. My closest friends are made up of neighborhood kids who I grew up with, but I'm older than most of them by like 4 or 5 years. My good friends and I in high school mostly bullshitted around and cracked jokes at each other. And in undergrad I only made two really good friends, both computer nerds who never set foot outside our apartment, one of whom has been engaged to the same girl since high school and the other is likely worse than me as far as women go

I never really had any outside pressure or opportunity to form any sort of "game." It doesn't help that I was brutally bullied in middle school, which made me become very shy and wary of going to any big social events (clubs, parties, etc.) Whenever I do, it takes a lot out of me

I know I'm probably just looking for excuses for what's likely just cowardice, but I feel like I don't know the first thing about talking to a woman other than small talk and using common sense. I find it hard talking to any new person I meet at great lengths. I TRY, but I always think I'm too boring of a person. There are too many times where I meet someone and the conversation just results in awkward silence, where we don't know what else to say, where it feels like I'm making them suffer by talking to me. I can't imagine what it would be like trying to charm some girl with NO practice at doing so, NO experience with relationships and how to make them work, and being a complete amateur in bed, especially at my age. I dread the thought that it's too late for me to find a girlfriend, that I've gone way past a sort of acceptable "deadline" where I'm just a freak or loser for not having gone through these things first hand

Sometimes I feel I'm even letting my family down. I feel like it's a sort of elephant in the room that I have gone so far in my life without any experience with the opposite sex. My family is full of outgoing people who make friends everywhere and are just fun to be around. I'm sometimes not sure I fit in with them, and it upsets me because I want to be that way too

But ultimately, I shouldn't care what my family and friends think, and I don't. I want to get better with girls for my own benefit. I want to be desirable and I want to find myself in a happy relationship, if just so I can more sociable and fun to be around. So gang, how should I go about improving myself?
User avatar #192301 to #192196 - blueninja (07/27/2015) [-]
ok man counter story time I lost the vcard around 17 and was relatively often sexually active from then on. then i turned 23 and I cant explain why but seeking out sexual partners became lower and lower on my priorities list. this is not to say i had a decrease in libido I jerk off as almost a pre sleep ritual these days but rather a growing disinterest in pursuit of sexual activity. to the point where now at 27 I spent 26 essentially celibate made out/fondled not withstanding finding the right girl to fuck, optimistically for the rest of my life, became more and more important. I took this as an indication of maturity and further sign that i am a monogamist at heart. so do not lose heart my young friend, you discovered what it took me much longer to figure out (who you are and what is important to you.) the world has put too much stock into promiscuity as an almost mandatory staple of adolescence without taking into consideration that for every norm there is an enigma. Do not fear being ostracized, but stand in defiance of anyone that makes you feel like you should not be who you are. and don't worry statistically there are thousands of partners perfect for you.
#192440 to #192301 - anon (17 hours ago) [-]
That's an interesting perspective, but it made me fewl better so thanks man
User avatar #192263 to #192196 - thebestpieever (07/27/2015) [-]
The more you treat women like scary others you have to learn your way around the less close you'll get to any of them in any real sense. They're people, normal people. Just get a bit of confidence in yourself, learn to carry a conversation and you'll find someone who likes you. There's no "game" or strategy to develop. Just be comfortable in your own skin and learn to deal with people. That's what a healthy relationship is built of: two people who like each other as they are, but very importantly don't need each other to feel well about themselves. As for a bit of casual fun, that's very superficial and simple: Just talk to people you find attractive -in an appropriate setting, obviously, not like in line at a bank- and be clear about your intentions. If you know how to talk to people -seriously, this is an important skill for everything in life-, they find you good looking and that's the kind of stuff they're down for then you're set.

But seriously, the more at ease you feel with yourself and in your skin, in social situations or otherwise, the more people will feel at ease when being with you. Likely many people already do, you're just too tense to notice it.
#192439 to #192263 - anon (17 hours ago) [-]
Thanks man. I think I just worry about things too much sometimes. I never really tried to put myself out there. That's the first hurdle. I think things will fall into place after that. Much appreciated friend
#192229 to #192196 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
stop being a lily liver faggot
User avatar #192202 to #192196 - kegget ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
"My biggest fear is coming home from a stressful day of work to an empty house with nothing to keep me company but my loneliness."

Get a dog. Keeps you company, something to work on, and chicks love dogs.
#192176 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
loaded shotgun by my side, thoughts on suicide for years.

The only thing that keeps me from going through with this is my parents, I can't let them see me with my brains all over the place. But I really don't enjoy living, I don't get it.

I doubt ill kill myself anytime soon but shit, what do i do to become happy, I have no drive, no friends, and no one to talk to. Hell even my family hardly wants anything to do with me.

Going to college in less than a month, I have my doubts that I can do well, I never really did great in school, im not sure if im dumb or not. Diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder in middle school. I stopped getting good grades around 7th grade and since around then I just have no desire to do anything, my only escape is video games and anime.

what do guys
#192237 to #192176 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
I never could kill myself because I know if I do then at one point I'm going to be on a gurney somewhere in the coroners office and I'll be naked I don't know jack about how they deal with dead people and if I'm naked people are going to see my tiny prick. I can't go out like that
User avatar #192227 to #192176 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
wait till college , you'll meet new people, start over , you don't have anything to live for right now because you're not even trying,set goals, meet people , live for yourself.
#192190 to #192176 - mataleao ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
Hey, if you want to you can PM me. I don't know how much help i can be, but Id love to try and offer you any help i can
User avatar #192186 to #192176 - icefried (07/26/2015) [-]
eat your weight in psychedelic shrooms.
User avatar #192187 to #192186 - icefried (07/26/2015) [-]
not at once of course
User avatar #192184 to #192176 - alexanderburns (07/26/2015) [-]
Run at least three times a week and eat more ice cream
#192185 to #192184 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
I run 5 times a week. I guess i could add more ice cream.
User avatar #192188 to #192185 - alexanderburns (07/26/2015) [-]
Ice cream is v good
#192189 to #192188 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
True that
#192181 to #192176 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
school is only as hard as you make it. you wanna do well in school? do your first two years at a comunity college where things are easy as shit. sometimes in major schools professors are unreasonably hard on the freshmen to get them to change majors or drop out. This shouldn't happen in gen eds because that is stupid as fuck. in community college no one gives a flying fuck about anything, so the material is easy and you get great grades to transfer over.

if you don't do well this semester it's not the end of the world, just transfer to a community college then transfer back later. it's a lot easier to work while at community college too, as homework is rare and/or easy as shit. then transfer back in a year or two and finish up your degree.
User avatar #192178 to #192176 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
Suicide is not ever the answer. PM me fella, even talking shit out can help.
#192179 to #192178 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
did i say id kill myself? I mean if you cant factor in the rest of what i said i doubt you can help.
User avatar #192180 to #192179 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
The loaded weapon by your side was my main concern, but my point is any thing can help, even a stranger at the end of a phone happy to listen. Don't discount anything before you give it a chance?
User avatar #192168 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
I've just come back from a night out, got kicked out of a club. Ask a very very alcohol britbong anything
User avatar #192228 to #192168 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
did you lose your vCard like that ?
User avatar #192169 to #192168 - kegget ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
Happens to the best of us
User avatar #192173 to #192169 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
Trying to stop a fight between your best friend and a random is cause for getting chucked out but ahh well, good night had by all
User avatar #192200 to #192173 - kegget ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
They're the best kind of nights

I get kicked out of clubs or refused entry 70% of the time and still have a blast
User avatar #192163 - gramernazi ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
Does anyone have a guideline on how to like act like another human? Like a outgoing type, one that talks to people? Like I feel like I could do that, but I'm just antisocial as shit. I just want to know what everyone else does.
User avatar #192191 to #192163 - delphine (07/26/2015) [-]
Exposure. Spend more time with humans, less time with electronics.

Honestly, sometimes I think technology is causing us to not be able to function the way we're supposed to. Humans are supposed to be social animals, and we need it. With technology we don't have to talk to people face-to-face as much anymore. Kids play video games or watch TV together, instead of playing in the backyard and making up pretend games. Teens text each other and instagram instead of making conversations. I got much more outgoing my sophomore year in college, when I left my video games and computer games at home. Instead, I got out there and did stuff with other people, and made friends.

That's just what I did.

User avatar #192171 to #192163 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
I agree with the post above. Getting really drunk helps, but honestly your main mental blockage is you thinking you're not interesting or whatever. Just force yourself outside of what you'd normally do. You know what, you're at least brave enough to come out and admit your own shortcomings, you're braver than fucking 95% of the population. You want to be more social, you walk up to that person and ask them about themselves. Genuine interest is the best driver of conversation, unless you're a HUGE introvert and you don't give the slightest shit about anyone else on this planet, you'll be grand. I really really really really hate to suggest this, but unless all else goes wrong, Google RSD (real social dynamics) julian. He has tonnes of videos based around conversation flow and what you can do. Granted its aimed at sad old men who want one night stands, but it helped me get an idea of how you can help guide conversations if you think you aren't doing well. I can't stess enough you're an amazing person no matter what, and the confidence that stems from that should steer you in the right way.

Worst comes to worst, you can't be as bad as joshlol
#192170 to #192163 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
Think of someone who know who's really confident like you'd like to be. Don't copy them, but try and impersonate things like how they hold themselves, how loud they'd be, when they think it's acceptable to talk and who they'd go up and talk to.

Get some nice clothes and a good haircut is good start though, do something that makes you feel good about yourself.
#192164 to #192163 - anon (07/26/2015) [-]
just force yourself to do shit is what I do. I hate dancing, drinking, I hate doing social things but I end up feeling better for having done them. Like, seriously force yourself out of your comfort zone. Pretend you're confident and happy and funny and you'll end up being it, pretty much.
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User avatar #192302 to #192140 - blueninja (07/27/2015) [-]
honestly....try to learn from this is my best advice, I'm not saying don't smoke weed cause its bad its not I'm saying don't do shit where the risk/reward is skewed out of your favor with big consequences on the table
User avatar #192203 to #192140 - kegget ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
My friend worked as a pharmicist and had a drug test coming up. He was on ketamine and weed every day and was only told a day before that there would be a test.

He got my other friend who's completely clean off drugs to piss in a bottle before he set off to work. He kept the bottle down his pants wrapped in a sock to keep it warm and it worked.

He later lost the job for stealing drugs.
User avatar #192162 to #192140 - youngneil ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
Drink a shitload of water and eat cranberries. That's what a friend of mine does and he's passed every drug test he's ever taken. I was told it should clear your system in a few days.
Also, I'm pretty sure you can't get arrested for failing a drug test for a job. At least that's how it is here.
User avatar #192144 to #192140 - whathaveyoudone (07/25/2015) [-]
buy piss from someone else
User avatar #192172 to #192144 - lgninjaleetful ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
doesnt work usually, they see if your urine on hand is warm. if not then they know its not yours.
#192143 to #192140 - unitedabominations (07/25/2015) [-]
Unless the drug test is required by your PO and not the employer, you just don't go.

Otherwise, you're fucked.
User avatar #192142 to #192140 - alexanderburns (07/25/2015) [-]
Not go to test
#192136 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
best non contract cellular carriers? preferably something "bring your own phone"
User avatar #192175 to #192136 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
If you're in britbong giffgaff worked amazingly for me. They sent you a SIM free, and £9.99/month ish got you unlimited texts, 100 minutes (from memory) and 2gb data. It was entirely non committal and was like you paid a tenner and got a months worth of the above. No strings attached it worked a wonder for me in my first two years of uni
#192138 to #192136 - unitedabominations (07/25/2015) [-]
Metro was good for me until I swapped to Verizon. Only time I really have outages is in North Carolina and West Virginia.

I travel for business, so I figured it out pretty quick where their map was full of shit lol.
User avatar #192141 to #192130 - joshlol (07/25/2015) [-]
sucks
User avatar #192135 to #192130 - schurftinator (07/25/2015) [-]
huh how come?
User avatar #192205 to #192135 - hellomynameisbill (07/26/2015) [-]
faking rolls?
User avatar #192211 to #192205 - schurftinator (07/26/2015) [-]
that is... actually very probable now you mention it
User avatar #192107 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
What is the quickest, painless way to kill oeself?
User avatar #192231 to #192107 - kegget ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
If i PM'd you a picture of my tits can you not kill yourself?
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User avatar #192236 to #192231 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
Regardless of your gender by the way, tits are tits.
User avatar #192273 to #192236 - misticalz ONLINE (07/27/2015) [-]
did u get tits lmao
User avatar #192235 to #192231 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
Yes. 100% positive I won't. I can send you a pic of my faec in return.
User avatar #192177 to #192107 - mattempire (07/26/2015) [-]
Ending it is never the best way out. PM me (or anyone else for that matter. I can't imagine anyone would actively, seriously encourge suicide unless in very very extenuating circumstances). Talking it out can always help, even if you think that no one can help. FJ is a big autistic community who're always happy to help, lay it on us.
User avatar #192166 to #192107 - whathaveyoudone (07/26/2015) [-]
boot to the head
#192165 to #192107 - prominant (07/26/2015) [-]
I almost drowned, honestly it's not that bad. The struggle is the worst bit but actually it's chill, although I don't recommend killing yourself lol, like, just kill yourself when you're 70 or something instead. Might as well, like, we're pretty lucky to be here, you could totally like, see what the rest of your life brings you. Plus even if you feel fucked, you could still do some good, you feel? Maybe leave some sort of legacy, I don't know. Try it, you might like it.
User avatar #192116 to #192107 - dragondust (07/25/2015) [-]
Pills or asphyxiation
hopefully this is all theoretical.
User avatar #192117 to #192116 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
Not really. Sorry man.
User avatar #192111 to #192107 - captainfuckitall (07/25/2015) [-]
Jumping off a building, gun, what anon said, chainsaw to neck, etc.

But you already knew all this, did you not? It doesn't seem like you want to die, you just want pain to stop; I suggest talking with someone, old chap.
User avatar #192115 to #192111 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
Talking does not get rid of blood cancer, weight, or arrogance. Thanks for the advice though, sincerely.
User avatar #192120 to #192115 - makotoitou (07/25/2015) [-]
pretty sure putting down the fork fixes all of those
User avatar #192131 to #192120 - thedudeistheman ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
How does eating less cure cancer?
User avatar #192121 to #192120 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
I will try, first I gotta put down your mum though.
User avatar #192118 to #192115 - alstorp (07/25/2015) [-]
Is it Leukaemia? How long do you have?
User avatar #192119 to #192118 - gozoglontz ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
Ye, and I beat it half a year ago, I have been going to the gym every second day and handling my diet since then, and I basically lost 0 weight and I lost faith, and I see no point in trying anymore.
User avatar #192129 to #192119 - hoban (07/25/2015) [-]
I dont mean to sound like a dick or make you feel bad but seriously? you beat cancer thats beyond awesome you shouldnt think about ending it you have done something so many others have tried to do and they failed. You have a second chance see the positive side to that. Lossing weight can be really hard trust me i know. What do you focus on at the gym? if you need some tips on diet and what not feel free to inbox me.
User avatar #192123 to #192119 - alstorp (07/25/2015) [-]
Well that sucks anus. You'd think beating leukaemia would give a lot of faith. Maybe try a different diet again? You gotta burn more calories than you gain.

If you're 100% certain though, gas asphyxiation is good (don't do normal asphyxiation via rope, it will hurt extremely much towards the end), gun is good, OD is good. Don't jump in front of a train or something dumb like that which hurts other people.
#192109 to #192107 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
<--- This or a gun.
User avatar #192108 to #192107 - schurftinator (07/25/2015) [-]
Hi!

I honestly wouldn't know an answer to your question, but if you maybe want someone to talk to then I'm here for you
#192101 - kokicakokos (07/25/2015) [-]
Hey fj i didnt know where to post this but i would like some help.
recently i got into lucid dreaming and im not about to quit but if im doing something wrong pls tell me. I go to bed as usuall and sleep for about 5 hours. Then i wake up and just walk around the house for 20min. I go back to bed and lie on my back, relax as much as i can ,and stare into the blackness of my closed eyelids w8ing for hypnagogic imagery. I sometimes lose focus for a few secs but all i can see are some blobs like when you squeeze your eyes with your fingers. i w8 around 20-60 min yet nothing changes... btw sry if this is weird
User avatar #192110 to #192101 - captainfuckitall (07/25/2015) [-]
You're going about it wrong; you're doing a method to get into dream paralysis.

For Lucid dreaming, you need to recognize you ARE dreaming without waking up. There are a few ways you can do this.

To start, you have to recognize what a dream is, so keep a diary, both for real life and a dream diary, it'll help you pick out similarities between your dreams that's different from real life.

Second, you can draw things on your hand before sleeping and look at them, so when you dream and notice the marks NOT on your hands, you know something's up.

Third, sometimes act out in real life. Whether pinching yourself, saying something odd, or otherwise disrupting a casual day; by people's reactions, you will know you're awake, so when you do it in a dream and they roll with it, you know it's a dream.
#192122 to #192110 - kokicakokos (07/25/2015) [-]
Ty captain
#192104 to #192101 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
Sounds gay.

Just go get laid.
#192105 to #192104 - kokicakokos (07/25/2015) [-]
Yep....it does
#192102 to #192101 - kokicakokos (07/25/2015) [-]
Ps. I have been doing this for a week... or more
#192100 - pookahootycreeks (07/25/2015) [-]
I just got 21K and I'm super scared about something that good happening to me what do?
#192147 to #192100 - chokebee (07/25/2015) [-]
Invest in a dictionary.
#192103 to #192100 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
You can wire the 21K to me directly and not worry any more.
#192093 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
I've always wanted either one of my dogs or cat to sleep on my bed
(i've got a huge ass bed passed down to me so theres plenty of room)
Also my bed doesn't have a frame so they get up just fine.
But they never seem like they want to stay
how would i be able to get them to chill
#192099 to #192093 - foreveranonymous (07/25/2015) [-]
Bring them to bed with you, and when they're in bed pet them a whole lot. Eventually you should be able to pat the bed and they'll realize "oh they want me there". Maybe get them in bed and then give them a treat? I've always had very strong bonds with my cats so I've never had to worry about this. They just follow me into bed... and the kitchen, and the bathroom, and the living room...
User avatar #192095 to #192093 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
start petting them on your bed till they fall asleep
User avatar #192089 - sphincterface (07/25/2015) [-]
So quick question, does the whole idea of exposing yourself to something your afraid of actually work in terms of overcoming your fears? Not sure if I am doing too well of phrasing this, so let me explain.

Let's say I am afraid of bats...which I am. Would having me near bats actually start to help out in the long run? Get myself more comfortable with them and realize maybe they aren't as scary as I think?
User avatar #192209 to #192089 - hellomynameisbill (07/26/2015) [-]
Exposure therapy is proven to usually work.
User avatar #192192 to #192089 - delphine (07/26/2015) [-]
Become Batman.

Kidding. It's okay. I have a fear of grizzly bears. Bats, though helpful and essential to our ecosystem, can potentially carry diseases, so it's not abnormal for you to have a seemingly irrational fear of them. I had a friend who had a legitimate phobia of WHALES. This girl grew up in the planes of North Dakota and had never even seen an ocean, and she is terrified of whales. Someone sent her a picture of an orca once and she threw her phone across the room in fear and it broke. Once I drew a whale with sidewalk chalk outside our dorm, and she walked out the other door and all the way around the building to class so she wouldn't have to see it.

While phobias are not fun, at least yours isn't something like Somniphobia, fear of sleep, which would be crippling. If you're concerned about it, go see a psychologist, maybe they can get to the root of your fears.
User avatar #192195 to #192192 - sphincterface (07/26/2015) [-]
Lol yeah, my friends always said that at least I could become Batman if I don't get over my fear of bats.
User avatar #192194 to #192192 - helpful ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
i wasnt going to respond to my mentions today but the fact that you a person named after the character i hate the most in skyrim mentioned me made me have to come here and say fuck you and to sphincterface become superman a noble light with the preservation of a species not his own as his main goal rather than vengeance like the path of batman plus you get ray beam eyes and thats cool and stuff
User avatar #192226 to #192194 - delphine (07/26/2015) [-]
Everyone says that. I've never even played Skyrim... I gave myself this name because it was my alias in French high school french class. So fuck you too, good sir.
User avatar #192197 to #192194 - sphincterface (07/26/2015) [-]
But I am not an alien.
User avatar #192198 to #192197 - helpful ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
but mexicans are
User avatar #192132 to #192089 - confusedasian (07/25/2015) [-]
I thought you meant strip naked in front of the thing your afraid of.
User avatar #192134 to #192132 - sphincterface (07/25/2015) [-]
I laughed way too much at this...
User avatar #192112 to #192089 - captainfuckitall (07/25/2015) [-]
Yes and no. It's called 'over-exposure', the technique you're referring too.

Basically, by a mass amount of exposure to what you fear, you are able to realize it's not so bad and overcome it. The problem is this can easily backfire and make you MORE traumatized if something bad happens, not less.

My suggestion would be to gradual openings of 'risky' situations. Go to a bat sanctuary and hold on. It's not exposing yourself to millions, but it also lets you realize there's nothing much bad about them. That sort of thing.
User avatar #192096 to #192089 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
why would you need to overcome that fear in general ?
User avatar #192133 to #192096 - sphincterface (07/25/2015) [-]
Because I would rather not live my whole life terrified of bats.
User avatar #192145 to #192133 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
it's not like you'd encounter them on a daily basis, I think it's completely fine to have fears , it's human
#192092 to #192089 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
Theres a notion in psychology that backs up that type of thinking (cant remember the name of it sorry)
but long story short learning about bats and being close to them i.e. zoo
would help overall
#192083 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
Confession time....I kinda find British accents to be sexy....especially on women.
Is....is this normal?
User avatar #192193 to #192083 - delphine (07/26/2015) [-]
Yes. Most people find accents sexy. I think it may have something to do with our instinct to want to select a made who is genetically dissimilar to ourselves. If I pick someone with an accent, they probably come from a different gene pool than myself and our offspring might be healthier. Science.
User avatar #192124 to #192083 - browsey (07/25/2015) [-]
Nah thats normal as hell man, some accents are just hotter than the sun 0.0
User avatar #192091 to #192083 - dreygur (07/25/2015) [-]
What, it isn't normal? Shit
#192086 to #192083 - hirollin (07/25/2015) [-]
ooi ya fine boi get ava har so u can stick ya dippy in mah coppah!
User avatar #192084 to #192083 - whathaveyoudone (07/25/2015) [-]
You're a sick bastard go see a doctor
User avatar #192080 - ilikethisusername (07/25/2015) [-]
i fucked up. failed a course in high school. offers from my universities got revoked. i can't take summer school. i have to take online courses and that's $550.

my parents don't know shit. they are so happy knowing that i'm going to a university.

drugs fucked me up....
User avatar #192206 to #192080 - hellomynameisbill (07/26/2015) [-]
You don't do drugs.

Drugs do YOU
User avatar #192247 to #192206 - ilikethisusername (07/26/2015) [-]
that's what i said.....drugs fucked me.
User avatar #192082 to #192080 - thumbsdenied (07/25/2015) [-]
Drugs do fuck up lives. Dont use em

Take the summer school, or get a summer job to pay for the internet course. Im gonna throw a quess and say you want to keep the drugs a secret from the family, but id suggest you need support more than ever from your family than ever now.

User avatar #192088 to #192082 - ilikethisusername (07/25/2015) [-]
can't quit drugs. i just can't...it's too hard for me.

i can't take the summer school anymore because the registration date has passed away.

i am getting a summer job but i'm not sure how i'm gonna make $550 to pay off the course.
User avatar #192113 to #192088 - captainfuckitall (07/25/2015) [-]
Drugs are honestly your biggest problem here. You saying "You just can't" is probably why you're having such a hard time getting off of them.

Look, no matter WHAT you do and how successful you are in life, it only takes one fuck-up with drugs to ruin it all. It only ever takes once to say "I could use all this money on drugs", and there we go.

You already sound like you're addicted, you literally can only go down until you kick it.
User avatar #192146 to #192113 - ilikethisusername (07/25/2015) [-]
shit man. i've been trying.

the longest i've been clean for was 5 months, then i started again.

i start going through withdrawals and shit. such as i'll wake up and i'll feel like drunk or high and i can't even walk. like literally can't walk. my hands would be shaking and all. withdrawals are the worst thing that happen to me.

plus then there's my depression and stress and all. that comes with the withdrawals. i start feeling like i'm living in hell. i even start forgetting things like my own birthday or things like homework and shit.

i am seeking counseling though but i'm on a waiting-list and the waiting list is 8 months long. which definitely sucks.
User avatar #192174 to #192146 - lgninjaleetful ONLINE (07/26/2015) [-]
if you cant get off the drugs your life is essentially over.

I have a 30 year old step sister that cant get off drugs and she was just diagnosed with hepatitis C a month ago. Also she just had her 4th child like 9 months ago, she had to give that baby to another family and now she is being hated for it by the rest of the family and her other 3 children are not happy about it.

In short, drugs will drag you down and keep you down unless you buck the fuck up and get some strength and do it. Just remember, all things come to pass, and if you put your will power into it you can get past drugs. it is possible
#192078 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
So how awkward is it to go to clubs by yourself? I haven't been to many clubs, mostly bars. I don't like the idea of waiting to get in, and I am mostly unfamiliar with what you are supposed to do how to dress etc. Any advice?
User avatar #192114 to #192078 - captainfuckitall (07/25/2015) [-]
Why not talk to someone already in the club first? Get introduced.
User avatar #192090 to #192078 - sphincterface (07/25/2015) [-]
I really wouldn't go alone....never tried it alone. Sounds awful though.
User avatar #192074 - uncookedspaghetti ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
I'm in the worst emotional state I have ever been in my entire life. I fell in love with a girl, yes my first love. We dated for a year and a half and it was the best time of my life. I was so emotionally invested into I would do anything. And one day she tells me she was raped a few years before. I was so enraged that I actually fucking cried. I fucking hate rape just like any sane male would. I was informed who it was and it was this kid in our school a few grades above us. He looks exactly like George fucking Lopez. I had to transfer to a different school though so I could never fucking do anything. All is well with the relationship for almost a year later and out of the blue she wants to break up. It took a lot out of me but I let her go to he happy. I was not in the best shape but I managed. Weeks later I text her to see how she is and she is fine and I ask her what she is doing. Find out she is going out... With George Lopez. I'm crushed. Apparently they were talking and she told me that she didn't want the negative thought of him in her life anymore. Few more weeks go by. I'm emotionally confused. Find out by a friend that he recorded her on snap chat sucking his dick. Now they are dating. At this point I'm just fucking confused, like I don't care but I really loved this girl and now everything just feels like a lie. I'm like disgusted. I would love karma or revenge but I don't see it happening. I could use some kind words or advice.
User avatar #192097 to #192074 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
look at it this way my friend, this girl, was obviously not the right one, not because you weren't good enough, because she just wanted different dumber things, look at it in a good way, she prevented you from investing more time in someone who had the tendency to be a slur, a couple more years with her you'd want to marry her, your invest time in her lose other people worth being in your life.
And, stop feeling victimized, she broke up with you and after that her life is her life you shouldn't care, you loved her, she doesn't love you, then she doesn't deserve a good guy like you watching over her, and apparently she doesn't want it either.
work on your lIfe, meet new people go places you wouldn't normally go, and set goals you want to achieve.
you can pm me anytime if you feel the need to vent.
#192075 to #192074 - anon (07/25/2015) [-]
Shit man, that is fucking rough.
You're undoubtably better off without her though, need to realize that.
Also need to realize that she is a dumb bitch and a hoe, two things that will never change.
You don't want a dirty hoe who probably cheated on you back, so get that thought out of your mind.
In order to get vengeance, you need to find a new and better girl and move on.
#192071 - anonymoussarcasm (07/25/2015) [-]
I'm looking for a gif of a futball coach with a note pad and it zooms in on it and it says "shoot".
#192061 - anon (07/24/2015) [-]
god damn it how do I talk to her? I'm such a fag that I don't even know how to talk to her? Someone help me, I'm such an emo faggot. I just want a conversation with her.
User avatar #192125 to #192061 - hoban (07/25/2015) [-]
Find common ground, an interest ye both share from then on you dont have to start the convo. You can just mention it to one of your friends while you know she is within ear shot. If she is really passionate about it she will start talking to you about it.
Finding the common ground is hard and making it not of obvious that your trying to make her hear it can suck too. Pick something good though, she wont be interested if you just shout at your friend "Oh boy i sure do love tampons" and then smile at her.
User avatar #192076 to #192061 - ilikethisusername (07/25/2015) [-]
get close to her somehow. where'd you meet her? how do you know her? do you guys have mutual friends? maybe you guys could become friends through mutual friendship.
User avatar #192070 to #192061 - lgninjaleetful ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
not be a fag?
User avatar #192069 to #192061 - joshualegitsky ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
The first thing I said was hey. Now when we talk its so easy. I love it
User avatar #192063 to #192061 - rokkai (07/24/2015) [-]
start with baby steps. i'd say find something you both have interest into, and go from there.
#192062 to #192061 - anon (07/24/2015) [-]
Say hi?
#192056 - dvmaster (07/24/2015) [-]
i was wondering if any of you guys could give me some advice, my parents are taking me to the psychiatrist in a few hours and I'm starting to get really nervous
User avatar #192087 to #192056 - sphincterface (07/25/2015) [-]
Don't be worried. They want what's best for you and a psychiatrist will do everything they can to get what's best for you and to keep you mentally healthy. I mean it's okay to be worried because you are not sure what may happen, but that's natural. In the end it will be okay and everyone will try to help you out. Be happy that they care so much.
#192059 to #192056 - anon (07/24/2015) [-]
Free therapy? Damn dog, what's there to be mad about?
User avatar #192058 to #192056 - thumbsdenied (07/24/2015) [-]
Why are they taking you, and its no worry, psychiatric people are usually really nice to talk to, ive been going for few years.
User avatar #192072 to #192058 - dvmaster (07/25/2015) [-]
Didnt had a chance to answer. An ex-gf of two years cheated on me and apparently I didn't took very well (that was last November). The guy psychiatrist was nice enough I guess, though I didn't think he would give me medication.
User avatar #192077 to #192072 - thumbsdenied (07/25/2015) [-]
I took this girl out for few movie dates, i was really shy, she held my hand lovingly and gave me long hugs, when i got the courage to kiss her, i thought it would have been a small kiss but she went straight to the toungue. Next day when i meet her, "im not ready to be dating" 3 days later facebook updated with her being partners with this short skinny emo kid. She was kinda emo herself though.

I was hearthbroken, all my confidence shattered and being a XL guy i got self image issues, this was like 3 years ago, and still havent bothered with anybody.
Last week i got enough whit my weight and ive lost 5kilos in 9days. (10pounds about)

What kind of meds did you get? I have sepram if i remember correctly, its supposed to help with anxiety. i quess it helped alittle, but i had bad and good days with anxiety anyway
User avatar #192079 to #192077 - dvmaster (07/25/2015) [-]
I got Prozac and haloperidol i think.

Something very similar happened to me, only the girl said that she didn't wanted to go out with me anymore, when I asked her why she wouldn't give a straight explanation.

Since that and many other bad experiences I can only conclude that most girls are dicks.

You should keep going with that weight loss, when that other girl left me I started lifting and it does help a lot.
User avatar #192098 to #192079 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (07/25/2015) [-]
don't take the medication, I really don't think emotional stress requires medication, just self healing and getting over things, also yeah girls are dicks. i can confirm this because I'm a huge dick
User avatar #192081 to #192079 - thumbsdenied (07/25/2015) [-]
That haloperidol is used for pretty serious stuff, like schizophrenia. Id say make sure you need the meds, id visit another phychiatrist just in case. Because im quessing youre in america and medical companies are pretty corrupt and are paying off doctors to write some unneeded medication for profit.

Prozac seems like the normal antidepressant given in america, has some pretty bad side effects though, keep an eye out for them if they continue for a long time, talk to the phychiatrist if the meds arent working after a month.

Also not all women are dicks, men do the same crap aswell. There are plenty of good people out there. Usually they are the quiet ones.
User avatar #192094 to #192081 - dvmaster (07/25/2015) [-]
Yeah the psychiatrist said that people tend to get scared with that one, he said that with the dosage it will be ok. The guy is a friend of my aunt apparently, i didn't know about that until today, and she's a doctor too so I guess it's ok.
User avatar #192139 to #192094 - thumbsdenied (07/25/2015) [-]
Ol'righty, trust it you phychiatrist will help tons.
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