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#211333 - anon id: 64d8d7b2

Reply-1

(04/13/2016)[-]

finally after all these years i find a girlfriend who loves me very much, but i just feel nothing towards her after she came over last night. i just feel that we aren't right together.
we got into a relationship on the second date and last night, her coming over, was our third "date". i think it may be where the initial love phase has kind of faded and now i am beginning to notice her flaws, and they are quite large ones.
she is blind and so she does alot of stuff to advocate for blind people and stuff like that, and now she is inviting me to all these blind events and i don't know.
last night was fun but it wasn't really what i expected. we tried intercourse but her being a virgin therefore nervous i was unable to actually penetrate. so we spent our whole time together making out. i never even got to finish, which is frustrating as i had been waiting a while.
i also don't think that when i am with her i am my normal self. i think i put on an act so that she doesn't see the real me who is not very nice.
its only been 2 weeks and we made it facebook official on the second date, which i am now regretting because if i do break up with her soon then it is going to draw alot of attention.
is there something wrong with me?

#211367 to #211333 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

Something is blocking you from opening up to this. Maybe you don't like her as much as you thought, but more than likely you're just nervous to fuck up. In the end only you can make a decision, just be honest with her and yourself about how you feel and what you want the relationship to be; there's nothing wrong with leaving her.

#211344 to #211333 - kober

Reply+2

(04/13/2016)[-]

If you don't want to be in a relationship, leave it. That is the mature thing to do and you should not be concerned about receiving attention for it as you're not doing anything wrong.

#211348 to #211344 - anon id: 64d8d7b2

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

she is depressed. i don't want her to do something stupid. i have also been trying to find a relationship for a long time but i don't know, i just don't feel anything towards her. i do want to be in a relationship.

#211350 to #211348 - kober

Reply+2

(04/14/2016)[-]

You regret getting together, you don't feel anything towards her, and you don't feel you're right together, but you do want to be in a relationship with her? What? Don't be with somebody just because you're waiting for somebody better, that's just being a dick.
She is not your responsibility. If she is mentally unstable, she needs professional help, not a boyfriend.

#211351 to #211350 - anon id: 64d8d7b2

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

i didn't say that i am waiting for something better. look, i don't know. i just started kind of feeling like this yesterday. i am going to give it a couple of days, its just i don't know what to do. i feel like its an effort to keep talking to her.
its just if i break up with her now then its going to show up all over facebook and shit.
i am going to have a chat to my old roommate about this, but i still have no fucking idea.

#211352 to #211351 - kober

Reply+1

(04/14/2016)[-]

Give it time so you can think it over, but don't forget that relationships end all the time. Don't be afraid to do what's best for not only her, but most importantly you, just because it'll show up on Facebook.

#211353 to #211352 - anon id: 64d8d7b2

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

i am going to give it a bit more time. look, i am just a bit worried here because i am turning 20 in a few months and this is my first ever girlfriend, so i know i am already behind, but now it is going to be even worse if i just dump her after 2 weeks. everyone knows how fucking hard i try to date girls and so i'm going to basically be known as a joke. i will try to think more about it but i know that if i feel this way now i don't think it will change

#211354 to #211353 - kober

Reply+1

(04/14/2016)[-]

Do take your time: there's no rush.
It's not a competition - having your first girlfriend at 20 doesn't mean anything. I can tell you're inexperienced given your reluctance to break it off but you'll learn eventually that girls come and go and the world continues spinning regardless.
Nobody cares; stop assuming they do. You're 20, you're an adult, breaking off something that will lead nowhere is the mature, responsible thing to do and shows you have the balls to do something for not only yourself, but that you're not wasting somebody else's time in the process. Your girlfriend might feel hurt, but the reality is that most relationships will not work out.

#211337 to #211333 - ifailedmyact

Reply+1

(04/13/2016)[-]

Not sure how she loves you in 2 weeks and only 3 dates. Have you been in many relationships? Do you even know what love is?

Whatever, that's not the point, don't be spineless. Tell her you're just not that into her, that it's not working out. You rushed into it too quickly.

Or just like completely block her and deactivate your life for a few weeks. She's blind so she can't see you anyways.

#211346 to #211337 - anon id: 64d8d7b2

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

this is my first relationship and i have been doing everything i could to find a girl basically.
i don't want to break up with her because she has depression as well and so i don't want her doing something really stupid.
its her first relationship too and i don't know, i think she is just with me because she is depressed.

#211334 to #211333 - anon id: c713656c

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

what are her flaws?

#211335 to #211334 - anon id: 64d8d7b2

Reply-1

(04/13/2016)[-]

well, for one, she is a butterface. she has a guide dog so it is a bit hard to organise something as in her coming staying over or something like that. you know when people can't pronounce the "th" in words and it sounds like "F" that too. also the not being able to do intercourse thing kind of sucks too.

#211338 to #211335 - anon id: c713656c

Reply+1

(04/13/2016)[-]

those are all physical flaws. why did you get into this in the first place? break up, the sooner the better.

#211325 - westernphilosophy

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

Half of my thumb has been numb ever sence I accidentally cut if with a knife right in the middle of it.
I haven't worried at all, knew it would come back.
My mum, who is a nurse, told me that it was probably just nerves that I cut off, and they would grow back eventually.
It's been nearly 1,5 months now. Nothing is changing.
Should I worry or nah?

#211368 to #211325 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

If it's still functional you probably just damaged peripheral nerves, they'll grow back eventually. If it starts to turn black then you have a problem.

#211336 to #211325 - yourinvisiblegf

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

nerves take a long time to grow back

ask ur mom

#211326 to #211325 - anon id: b2913319

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

can you still move it like you could before the injury?

#211327 to #211326 - westernphilosophy

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

I can't bend it all the way.

#211328 to #211327 - anon id: b2913319

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

and you haven't had any severe pains anywhere in your hand?

#211329 to #211328 - westernphilosophy

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

Nah, just the thumb during 2 weeks or so after the injury.

#211330 to #211329 - anon id: b2913319

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

hmm, give it a little longer but you could see a doctor just to make sure.

I don't think it's anything too bad anyway.

#211331 to #211330 - westernphilosophy

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

I'll wait 2 more months.
Thank you.

#211332 to #211331 - anon id: b2913319

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

I'd say one month because if there is a problem then waiting even longer would be a bad idea.

#211321 - totallytito

Reply+2

(04/13/2016)[-]

I want to do some kind of suspended animation thing right now.
I'm not exactly suicidal, but I am approaching the lower limit of my stable functionality.
I want to see my life through and see what it has to offer, though I think I've placed too many tasks and responsibilities for me to keep up with.

I have:
*Animation job which I've barely gotten started due to school
*College grades are taking a dip as 3 straight years without vacations are driving me mad
*Nightly panics that remind me how me and everyone I love will die of old age someday.
*Working on tutorials and seminars for students in my college requesting me to share my tips and tricks.
*Another job for a game developer requesting robot models and animations for his game.
*Taking care of a dying cat who shits on practically everything(and the useless vets can't do anything about it).
*Mentoring 3 3D animators who I just can't say no to because I see myself in them.

Every single week.

I'm too optimistic to kill myself, too pessimistic to live properly.
If I could isolate myself and take a temporary break from life, that would be nice.
The only option I have left is to work fast enough to cut down this task listto a manageable level before my mind completely snaps.

I'm not perfect,
I'm a goddamned theme account; you should know this by now.
If you have some kind of advice that isn't the regular edgy "Kill yourself" nonsense,
I'm all ears.

#211369 to #211321 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

Look at each thing as it is on it's own; cut out the shit you don't want to deal with and treasure the stuff that makes you happy. Bro let me hold you.

#211322 to #211321 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

I mean you said so yourself that you've got too many tasks and responsibilities so quit a few.

So lets break your shit down into 3 catagories.
Jobs.
-Animation Job
-Job for a game dev

Personal
-Dipping grades
-Nightly Panics
-Dying cat

Teacher
-Mentoring 3 3D animators
-Working on tutorials and seminars

Then it's just a simple matter of figuring out which takes priority. Obviously cash is important so you can just keep the jobs but the mentoring thing is in my opinion, of the lowest priority. Quit the tutorials and seminars, and as for the mentoring thing, do it less often, don't be at their beck and call 24/7 maybe one meet up or whatever per week.

For your jobs I know I said they take priority but how desperate do you need the money? If not that much then just finish your jobs first, they sound freelance so might as well get them out of the way since you actually get something out of them. You know, money.

Personal problems will disappear over time or with psychiatric help. Nightly panics I can't relate to since I find worrying about death as childish and stupid, why worry about the inevitable? what are you actually worrying about? As for the cat again it's an inevitability, you knew the cat was going to die from the get go, I know it's sad but you will get over it.

Just make more time for yourself.

#211323 to #211322 - totallytito

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

That was actually very thoughtful, thank you sugoi.
I'll take this into consideration and ponder about it in the shower.

#211483 to #211323 - leafonthewind

Reply0

(04/17/2016)[-]

90% of stress is based on what you can't control
realize that there are some things , that try as you might, you simply cannot change

then work on what you can

#211314 - kothaex

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

Damn it my best friend is dealing with long term depression
and we're talking about it properly right now
and I want to help, but
I feel like everything I say is potentially dangerous

#211370 to #211314 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

The most valuable thing you can give someone with depression is your time. Pretty hard to go wrong.

#211349 to #211314 - dreygur

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

>>#211317 basically. The worst thing about depression is when there's nobody for them. If you're around and show that you care by listening, that alone will make it better. No need to give your personal suggestions.

#211355 to #211349 - kothaex

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

>>#211317, thanks guys

#211317 to #211314 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply+3

(04/13/2016)[-]

Just listen I guess.
Sometimes they just wanna vent.

#211293 - anon id: a1890843

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

I am experiencing dark-green stools after 3 days of diarrhea. Does anyone know what this means?

Is it worth a visit to my GP over this?

#211371 to #211293 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

Visit your GP, and eat a normal diet.

#211318 to #211293 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

Mix up yo fukkin diet.

#211311 to #211293 - tikitaco

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Some foods that you may eat a lot and could cause your stools to have a dark green color include lettuce, spinach, broccoli, cabbage, peas and black licorice. Iron-rich foods such as red meat and beans are also on the list. Maybe worth checking out? You need to login to view this link

#211294 to #211293 - evenx

Reply+1

(04/12/2016)[-]

I wouldn't recommend this site for this kind of advice. Checking webmd, it looks like if you have diarrhea for more than a week you need to call your doctor. I'd give it a couple days.

#211281 - ScottP

Reply+1

(04/12/2016)[-]

What is your opinion on this statement?

We should sacrifice our personal happiness for the happiness of others.

#211372 to #211281 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

That seems like all I ever do and it has never gained me anything but more misery.

#211319 to #211281 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply+3

(04/13/2016)[-]

Fuck dat lol.

#211298 to #211281 - evenx

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Someone who says this is saying alot about themselves, but nothing more. The phrase is an arbitrary declaration of someones perspective on the world.

This phrase seems to indicate that the group should all follow this tenant, as if it applies to everyone. People are different, and to imply that this is some universal truth is self-centered to a fault. For example, what if they said: "I would choose to sacrifice my personal happiness for the happiness of others"

The fact that it uses the word sacrifice brings a ton of info about the person. They want to be a martyr. They are saying: "look at how noble I am. For doing this. voluntarily". For example what if they said: "It is ones duty to provide for his common man" A lot less narcissistic right?

Then there's the meat of the claim: "My personal happiness comes second to the happiness of others." This claim is actually a subject i'm really interested in.**
Basically this implies that you should make yourself a slave, abandon individuality and personal achievement, and that you will find self worth by doing so. The problem with this is that its NOT noble, and its NOT hard. In fact, its the easy way out. Basically, you choose to avoid responsibility for your own actions, instead choosing to let others dictate the morality of your actions, and assume the responsibility for those decisions.

Remember the phrase on the gates of Auschwitz? "Arbeit macht frei." Work makes you free. Some of the greatest atrocities are committed "for your fellow man". Because by stifling individuality, by invoking the needs of the many, you absolve yourself any responsibility for your current actions, and generally end up acting selfishly anyways.

**If you want to read an amazing series that deals with this subject (its fantasy, fiction, so its not boring, tons of action too) check out terry goodkinds "sword of truth" series

#211299 to #211298 - evenx

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Oh and even if you are talking about a single person, the issues are the same. You are still trying to justify the abandonment of individuality and personal responsibility. For example, someone who was in an abusive relationship would say: "I sacrifice my personal happiness to keep my abusive partner happy. That makes me noble"

#211297 to #211281 - kober

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

No.

#211295 to #211281 - topoftherock

Reply+2

(04/12/2016)[-]

personal happiness is important, but there is always the chance you will meet someone who is worth sacrificing your happiness for theirs

#211300 to #211295 - evenx

Reply+1

(04/12/2016)[-]

Only if that makes you happy. So in that way, you arent really sacrificing your happiness.

#211292 to #211281 - shenro

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

your happiness should be above others, i would never choose to be miserable just so someone else can be happy.

#211291 to #211281 - charizarddad

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Too black and white. We should sacrifice some, not all.

#211289 to #211281 - tikitaco

Reply+5

(04/12/2016)[-]

I'll take what is love for 500

#211270 - ifailcaptchacodes

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Was the FJ sidebar always this big? Something feels off

#211272 to #211270 - anon id: 57306dbb

Reply+2

(04/12/2016)[-]

Top left, settings, display options.

Un check extended sidebar.

#211274 to #211272 - ifailcaptchacodes

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Fuck, should have known. Thanks Anon.

#211248 - anon id: 9940f711

Reply+3

(04/12/2016)[-]

I just had some bomb ass sex.

Get like me, virginios.

#211484 to #211248 - leafonthewind

Reply0

(04/17/2016)[-]

can't wait till she turns 8, good for you bud

#211373 to #211248 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

But are you related?

#211345 to #211248 - mondominiman#118 on contentRank#118

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

Congrats man, hope the dog's okay.

#211309 to #211248 - captainrattrap

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Good job!

#211288 to #211248 - tikitaco

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Congrats

#211280 to #211248 - kober

Reply+1

(04/12/2016)[-]

Now you get the opportunity to realize that nobody actually cares if you're a virgin or not and that gauging it as an accomplish is actually kind of sad.

#211254 to #211248 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Posting as anon makes your accomplishments like, completely worthless.

#211257 to #211254 - anon id: 9940f711

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Even if I posted with my account, you still wouldn't be able to validate whether I had sex or not.

So your argument is completely worthless.

Scrub.

#211259 to #211257 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

I am not the one to validate it.
I would just be like ok (USERNAME HERE) just got laid, well congrats to him.

Now it's like, oh just another retarded anon. Why is he even posting this.

#211264 to #211259 - anon id: 9940f711

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Why can't you just be happy for me even if I am an anon? Just because I'm an anon I don't matter?

You've saddened me.

But I just had sex so it doesn't matter.

#211276 to #211264 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

If it really did happen. Congrats

#211266 to #211264 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Yes.

Sure you did, I just want to make it clear that your left hand does not count ok?

#211277 to #211266 - anon id: 9940f711

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

I'm right handed though.

#211282 to #211277 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Well your right mouse has to go on the mouse dunnit?
Man you might of stroked yourself so hard you gave yourself a stroke!

#211244 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

What's a good way to back up my files? I tried dropbox but it got full too quickly.

#211374 to #211244 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

There's these things called CDs.

#211255 to #211244 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

External Hard Drives.

#211256 to #211255 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Not very tech savy. Can you explain it further for me?

#211258 to #211256 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Your files on your computer is stored on either a SSD (Solid State Drive) or a HDD (Hard Disk Drive). The HDD is the cheaper of the two and it is very common for people to use an external HDD (One not connected to a computer) and just connecting it to their computer via a USB cable.

Just think of it as a USB that can hold a lot more files.
They're readily available in most tech stores and most are just plug and play.

#211260 to #211258 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Oh, is it like a flashdrive? What does it look like?

#211261 to #211260 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

It's much bigger but obviously it holds more data.
Like several Terabytes? I think they've gone up another prefix by now.

Here's a picture I guess

#211262 to #211261 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Awesome I'll look for it thanks.

Do you have any suggestions for online storage?

#211263 to #211262 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

sssssss I'm not so confident on the whole online storage mate.
Aside from dropbox there's also google drive that a few friends of mine use but I haven't touched the thing, I much prefer having something physical with me in case I go somewhere with no net.

#211265 to #211263 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

I was just asking because my PC probably could die at any moment and since I don't have one of those on me I just wanted to find a quicker way until I got my hands on one.

Thanks for the quick response. My PC is really making me nervous, it's been shutting down and freezing randomly and I did a scan on it and nothing showed up. I'm a tad bit on edge.

#211267 to #211265 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Go google up a disk checker program to make sure your HDD is fine.
Sometimes all you gotta do is replace your HDD cause they all have a finite lifespan, SSD included.

#211268 to #211267 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Do you mind if I ask what I should do about my battery? My pc said it experienced a permanent failure and needs to be replaced. Does that have anything to do with my PC freezing up?

Oh and how do I go about replacing them?

(My bad for all the questions If I'm wasting your time or anything)

#211269 to #211268 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Not sure about freezing up but it would explain just shutting down.
In my experience and emphasis on my since I'm not exactly an expert, if your computer is freezing up either it's overheating or you don't have enough RAM.

So better CPU fan or more RAM.

But since you say your "battery" is broken then just go buy another PSU. unplug all the cables it's connected to (remember where, take a photo if you cant remember) unscrew all it's screws, take it out, new one in, screws, cables, done.

#211273 to #211269 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Alright thanks man I appericate your help. I believe it may be overheating the bottom definitely is hot. So I'll save up for a CPU fan too.

Thanks again.

#211275 to #211273 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

No worries mate, have a good one.

#211226 - mexicaninja

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

There is this qt3.14 that works at my local cvs and i want to ask her out but i can never work up the courage. If i ever do manage to work up the courage, what do i say to her?

#211375 to #211226 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/14/2016)[-]

Your first mistake was putting her on a pedestal, she is a normal human like everyone else. Say hi, ask her out in a "cute" way, and then fuck her ragged behind a 7/11. Wait... scratch that last part.
She's just a regular person.
Also, either do it or don't, it will never magically happen.

#211412 to #211375 - mexicaninja

Reply0

(04/15/2016)[-]

Its not that i put her on a pedestal but that im very self concious and i get very anxious and back out last minute everytime.

#211426 to #211412 - platinumaltaria

Reply0

(04/15/2016)[-]

Good, being anxious means you care about her reaction.

#211320 to #211226 - mexicaninja

Reply0

(04/13/2016)[-]

i came here for motivation and holy shit all the motivation i need just came from anons cringey suggestions. I now know not to do what he said and i should be fine.

#211290 to #211226 - tikitaco

Reply+1

(04/12/2016)[-]

"Hey, want to go grab a coffee sometime?"

#211229 to #211226 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Ask her out to be your gf? Do you have a date in mind?

#211230 to #211229 - mexicaninja

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Coffee at a local diner maybe?

#211233 to #211230 - anon id: c713656c

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

coffee is not a terrible idea. but definitely dont do this >>#211231

#211236 to #211233 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

What's wrong with it?

#211231 to #211230 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply-1

(04/12/2016)[-]

Seems like a great idea. Maybe also get some flowers as well and a necklace if you want to go all out.

#211234 to #211231 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

Do you have autism?

#211235 to #211234 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

What's wrong with flowers and a gift?

#211238 to #211235 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

On the first date, what is wrong with you?
Are you gunna give her an engagement ring as well? Please never give relationship advice.

#211239 to #211238 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

No I just thought it would be a nice touch, geez calm down there's nothing wrong with flowers and a tiny gift.

#211240 to #211239 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

There is everything wrong with flowers and a necklace which is not in the slightest a "tiny gift".

You are a saboteur with no experience and you're gunna get people to spaghetti all over the place..

#211241 to #211240 - anon id: d61bb6ac

Reply0

(04/12/2016)[-]

How is there everything wrong with flowers and jewelry? It doesn't have to be expensive at all and if it doesn't go well something else could be done with it. You're acting like it's a death sentence.

#211242 to #211241 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

Reply+1

(04/12/2016)[-]

It basically is a death sentence.
You better pray that girl is "weird" cause every other girl will know you're trying way too hard and that you're thirsty as fuuuuck.

#211243 to #211242 - anon id: d61bb6ac

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Well in my opinion it seems like a basic nice gesture. People do it often, especially on Valentines Day. If she accepts the get together and she says yes then that would also be nice if he was to do it then instead of the coffee date. Both seem nice to me.

#211245 to #211243 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Yes, often on Valentines day.
You know, the special day that happens once a year to show your appreciation to your significant other?

How the hell is that often?

#211246 to #211245 - anon id: d61bb6ac

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(04/12/2016)[-]

I said especially on Valentine's Day. In my area I do see often couples at cafes with flowers on what appears to be dates, all year around.

#211247 to #211246 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Couples
People that are together

Not people on their first date and haven't decided to be a couple yet.
Again you give terrible advice, you mention flowers but forget about the necklaces all of a sudden. You know, those things that can cost upwards of hundreds of dollars, and for a first date? come on.

#211249 to #211247 - anon id: d61bb6ac

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(04/12/2016)[-]

I said it doesn't have to be expensive, and we don't know if it was their first date or not. It doesn't seem like terrible advice to me. And if he picks not to get those things then he can just buy her food at the cafe it's not a big deal at all. And also I said if she says yes to be a couple then next time he can buy those things if he picks not to do it on the first date. It doesn't matter when imo.

#211251 to #211249 - sugoi#179 on commentsRank#179

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(04/12/2016)[-]

You never said that and necklaces are inherently expensive.

Okay you're retarded I'm not replying after this, but before I go.

"There is this qt3.14 that works at my local cvs and i want to ask her out but i can never work up the courage. If i ever do manage to work up the courage, what do i say to her?"
OP said it himself, he hasn't even asked her out yet of course it's their first goddamn date.

#211253 to #211251 - anon id: d61bb6ac

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(04/12/2016)[-]

It was comment #211243. I think you mean the fancy ones, I'm not talking about those.

Wow nice conversation going towards insults even though I was respectfully trying to explain my view on it, thanks.

I know he hasn't asked her out yet. He could have the flowers somewhere else out of view and if she says yes he can give it to her.

But I guess we can agree to disagree.

#211224 - asthmetheus

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(04/12/2016)[-]

can someone explain what is up with the numbers and stuff in comments?

#211225 to #211224 - ifailcaptchacodes

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(04/12/2016)[-]

You mean the year dates like 1785 and shit like that?

#211227 to #211225 - asthmetheus

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Yes.

#211228 to #211227 - ifailcaptchacodes

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Well from what I heard it's from a big plan to do something later on. The OP said "You'll see soon" so nobody knows right now. Unless something happened since that post that I haven't heard of.

#211310 to #211228 - captainrattrap

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Hopefully it means mudkipfucker deletes his account, but we can only hope...

#211312 to #211310 - mudkipfucker#13 on contentRank#13

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(04/12/2016)[-]

you'll see

#211212 - kaisakuenkou

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Girlfriend's bestfriend is a guy and she has stated she loves him, but as a brother.

I'm just being jealous or are platonic relationships a thing?

#211376 to #211212 - platinumaltaria

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(04/14/2016)[-]

That's deeply creepy.
But yeah you are totally jealous I know from personal experience, I get super jelly , just trust her a little. And then if she lies to you burn her house down.

#211301 to #211212 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

You are being jealous. But its not wrong to be jealous (as long as you don't try to control her). Let her know your feelings, so she understands where you are coming from. If she knows you are feeling jealous/worried about it (but still trust her), and she cares about the relationship, she will probably try to ease that worry.

topoftherock and kober have good points and i agree with them (to a degree)

Tops point is good. If you befriend her platonic friend, he will be highly incentivized to avoid trying to hit on her. If i thought some girls boyfriend was a dick, i'd be more likely to hit on her. What do i care, he's an asshole. If he's a good guy though, i'd feel bad about it.

Kober's point is good, but i need context. When you say "bail", what do you mean? For example, was this the only time she could see her friend(maybe for a while)? Did she invite you along? Did they have this hangout "scheduled" and you were just chilling with her all the time and happened to be around? If it was just blatant: " I'm bored, im going to "friends" house, dont wait up. " then maybe you have more reason to be concerned.

TLDR: Relationship built on trust and communication, do them. Befriending her friend is best way to defuse whole situation. If that is impossible and girlfriend doesn't seem to be putting in the effort in the relationship, then it wasn't going to work out anyway.

#211296 to #211212 - topoftherock

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(04/12/2016)[-]

maybe have a man to man talk with her best friend? see whats up and all that. maybe don't outrightly ask him but hang out and get a feel for his intentions and shit.
right now i'm in the situation of your girlfriend's best friend. one of my friends is a girl and at one point i tried to make a move on her. we've moved passed it but now she keeps trying to get me to hang out with her and her boyfriend and i feel super weird around her boyfriend. our relationship is platonic but i can imagine he's suspicious.

anyway my point is that i'm sure her boyfriend feels the same way about me as you do about your girl's best friend.

#211221 to #211212 - kober

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Regardless of how you feel, I do not recommend being with somebody who you cannot trust as it's going to result in a lot of pain in the long run. I highly suggest you find somebody else, especially given that the circumstances are a reasonable cause for suspicion (bailing on you for a guy who's asked her out once already... seriously?).

#211213 to #211212 - charizarddad

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(04/12/2016)[-]

platonic relationships exist. but i would say they are the minority, from experience. could always be he likes her but she doesnt like him. how long have you been dating?

#211214 to #211213 - kaisakuenkou

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(04/12/2016)[-]

a few months. they've known one another for years, he's asked her out but she told him theyre only friends, but they still hang out and shes bailed on me a few times to hang out with him

#211252 to #211214 - ifailedmyact

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Sounds iffy to me.

Bail on you to hang out with him?
He's asked her out?

The relationship is probably platonic on her side. His side however, is playing the beta friendzoned bestfriend game.

#211216 to #211214 - charizarddad

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(04/12/2016)[-]

she sounds kinda lame, but i dont know her obviously. i would say its unlikely they are up to anything. i would wait it out, not something to freak out about yet imo.

#211215 to #211214 - braveblue

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(04/12/2016)[-]

"shes bailed on me a few times to hang out with him"

#211219 to #211215 - kaisakuenkou

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(04/12/2016)[-]

she had already made plans with him, but then made plans with me, she's incredibly indecisive so her bailing on me wasn't a surprise, but still

#211232 to #211219 - braveblue

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Besides whats more important, Partner or Friend? I usually put my girlfriend above others. Unless I planned something out ahead of time to do things with my friend and then my girlfriend asks, gotta shoot her down, i'm not a jerk.

#211302 to #211232 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

It sounds like she made plans with the other guy first tho

#211308 to #211302 - braveblue

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Yeah, I still don't know though, if it was me in this situation I'd either be really careful or just end the relationship.

#211220 to #211219 - braveblue

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(04/12/2016)[-]

"shes bailed on me a few times to hang out with him"

Doesn't sound too good friend.

Tread carefully.

#211206 - vaginaboobpussy

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(04/11/2016)[-]

She said yes guys!! i asked a girl to prom and she said yes! only thing is; that her parents do not want her going wat do now?

#211377 to #211206 - platinumaltaria

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(04/14/2016)[-]

Kill the parents.

Seriously though, just ask nicely...

#211303 to #211206 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Go meet them. Dressed nicely (maybe even a tie) Face to face. Be super respectful. Super classy. Its difficult to deny someone who is clearly trying to impress you and show you respect. Always call the dad "sir". Introduce yourself. Handshake. Say you asked his daughter to prom and shes beautiful.

If they still refuse explain how it only happens once in your life and all that.

If they still refuse (extremely doubtful), sneak her out. See if she can stay with a friend the night BEFORE prom (if proms on a saturday have her stay with a friend on friday)
or just have her run out of the house. They probably won't lock the doors. She'll get in trouble, but it'd make for a super memorable night.
legally, you didn't kidnap her, she left of her own accord.

#211316 to #211303 - vaginaboobpussy

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(04/13/2016)[-]

thanks and shes 18 so it makes it more legal, she didnt show up today and i dont have her contact info, she in a complicated situation and i feel like her parents are as crazy as her.

#211324 to #211316 - evenx

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(04/13/2016)[-]

good luck then

#211210 to #211206 - anon id: 8bc76141

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(04/12/2016)[-]

every girl wants to go to prom
even if they will hate it

if the girl really wants to go to prom, she will find a way

your job?
patience
you do nothing in this scenario (no breaking into her house and taking her or anything weird like that)

#211217 to #211210 - vaginaboobpussy

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(04/12/2016)[-]

shit i shouldnt kidnap her; gg

#211193 - scowler

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(04/11/2016)[-]

Honestly, I just don't see a point in anything anymore. Nothing's worth saving. Thinking of buying some gear, heading off into the woods and staying there, rather than helplessly watching this country fuck itself for another year.

The System let me down, and in-turn, I let everyone else down. I have no future, and I brought it on myself. Figure I'll just bug out and survive until The System implodes.

You know it's coming.

#211378 to #211193 - platinumaltaria

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(04/14/2016)[-]

"The System" as you call it is just a lot of people making decisions. And humans are stupid. But you are just as much responsible for this as everyone else, so try actually making shit better instead of whining like a cunt. Or be like me and do both.

#211390 to #211378 - scowler

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(04/14/2016)[-]

Not whining, just musing.

#211222 to #211193 - lgninjaleetful

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(04/12/2016)[-]

common scowler, dont be edgy breh. The world has never been a non-destructive place, but you have to make the most of it.

life is good, and i must say, weeb shit is good

#211283 to #211222 - scowler

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(04/12/2016)[-]

I'm not being edgy. It's the truth. Nothing is worth anything anymore.

#211284 to #211283 - lgninjaleetful

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(04/12/2016)[-]

find the worth. If you think life is such a waste, go into the wild and kill yourself. that was my original plan.

but now i have purpose, because i found it, and YOU can too, i believe that.

#211285 to #211284 - scowler

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(04/12/2016)[-]

I didn't say anything about killing myself. That's stupid. That's exactly what they want me to do. Plus, there are better things to do with a thousand feet of high-strength ParaCord.

Simply bugging-out and waiting for The System to implode. I simply cannot advance in this world as it is right now. Especially with it's reliance on a worthless currency, and the bureaucracy.

It always comes back to money. If The System fucks you over when you're young, you aren't able to make any money without them taking a cut or breaking you with debt. And the system DID fuck me over. They didn't teach me anything. They wasted my time, alienated me, drove me to living as a hermit. Of course, that's as much my fault as it is theirs.

I am not letting anyone break me with money. I am not letting this sorry world run me ragged. I will not be Institutionalized. I am not going out like Napoleon...

#211304 to #211285 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

One way or another its about the essentials. Food, shelter, and personal fufillment. If you TRULY find fulfillment going into the woods thats ok. But this doesn't sound like pursuit of a goal, this sounds like you are giving up. I would suggest new goals. Baby steps. Small achievements, and good habits.
As gandalf says, all who live in dark times wish they had not been borne to them, but its not up to us. "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us"

#211315 to #211304 - scowler

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(04/13/2016)[-]

Giving up on this world, and waiting to embrace the one that rises from it's ashes.

#211203 to #211193 - anon id: 457fdf2e

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(04/11/2016)[-]

Life goes on.

#211207 to #211203 - scowler

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Of course it does.

#211192 - anon id: bc29a959

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(04/11/2016)[-]

So, how do I tell my girlfriend I'm gay? I took her virginity and I'm her first real boyfriend, but as time goes on, I don't feel comfortable with the female anatomy. Help pls?

#211379 to #211192 - platinumaltaria

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(04/14/2016)[-]

Tell her straight up uncalled for pun, sorry . Say you care about her deeply but you can't lie to yourself anymore. If she's supporting then no harm, if she's a bitch about it then nothing of value was lost.

#211208 to #211192 - warofsodom

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Yo', I had a similar thing when I was 13-15, I actually thought I was gay, had no attraction to women at all, but still dated Not too appealing at the time... I have no idea how old you are, but if you're around that age, maybe just hold off and think.

#211201 to #211192 - sexualhairassment

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(04/11/2016)[-]

Maybe it's just her you arent attracted to?

#211187 - brantod

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(04/11/2016)[-]

anyone know a good VPN Service

#211196 to #211187 - topoftherock

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(04/11/2016)[-]

i use hotspot shield, i don't like it at all but i only use it for popcorn time anyway

#211180 - anon id: 457fdf2e

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(04/11/2016)[-]

Where are some good places to volunteer? Also, is there a better way to volunteer for things than to just show up like a way to sign up?

#211197 to #211180 - topoftherock

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(04/11/2016)[-]

depending on where you are, if you're in a city there should be listings of places offering volunteer positions. most organizations have websites so you can go there and usually there is a "contact" or "get involved" tab, especially for non profits that have contact information for volunteers.

#211179 - wildditto

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(04/11/2016)[-]

I just broke up with my girlfriend, anyone around to talk about it too?

#211195 to #211179 - kober

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(04/11/2016)[-]

We've got you.

#211199 to #211195 - wildditto

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(04/11/2016)[-]

#211184 to #211179 - tikitaco

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(04/11/2016)[-]

You alright mate?

#211198 to #211184 - wildditto

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(04/11/2016)[-]

I'm alright, was with her for nearly two years but we've been long distance. I broke it off because I felt differently recently and it's not fair to not be 100% committed to her. It just kind of came out of the blue for her, am I a dick?

#211287 to #211198 - tikitaco

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(04/12/2016)[-]

No, you did something for the sake of your happiness rather than just played along and pretending to be into her still, that's the dick move cause she will find out.

#211218 to #211198 - kober

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(04/12/2016)[-]

No. Doing something for your or their happiness is hardly being a dick. You don't even have to have a reason to break up with somebody.

#211237 to #211218 - wildditto

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Just sucks cos I know it was a shock for for her and I know how upset it made her but It' better than pretending I had the same feelings as before right?

#211279 to #211237 - kober

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Sure, it sucks- almost every relationship ending is gonna including some hard feelings and heartache. Regardless, you did the right thing and I applaud you for it.

#211286 to #211279 - wildditto

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Thanks dude/ette needed some reassurance

#211211 to #211198 - yibdiy

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(04/12/2016)[-]

yeah

#211164 - charizarddad

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(04/11/2016)[-]

I want to hear from you. Yes, YOU

Where did you meet your best friend(s) (current or past), and how?

#211380 to #211164 - platinumaltaria

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(04/14/2016)[-]

I have exactly zero friends...

#211389 to #211380 - charizarddad

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(04/14/2016)[-]

ever?

#211427 to #211389 - platinumaltaria

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(04/15/2016)[-]

I'm just unlucky.

#211305 to #211164 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

I have 2. One i met in elementary school on the bus, because I heard he was good at pokemon.

The other is my ex-gf, I met her in college. She rejected a friend of mine, so me and my friend group trashtalked about her a ton (just to make my friend feel better, we'd never met her). Then I met her in one of my other friendgroups (didnt know it was her), and we were so compatible. It was like that moment in stepbrothers where they're like: "Did we just become best friends?!" It took like, an hour.

Still bf's with both of them

#211271 to #211164 - anon id: 57306dbb

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(04/12/2016)[-]

One IRL and one online.

IRL I met at high school through common taste in music and games. Met him as he transferred secondary schools and I gave him the seat next to me on the bus.

Online met through Skype group I was invited to back in 2013.

#211250 to #211164 - anon id: d61bb6ac

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(04/12/2016)[-]

I met my best friend in middle school. I moved and we still kept in contact with each other even after graduation.

#211223 to #211164 - lgninjaleetful

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(04/12/2016)[-]

i have zero friends

but i am content right now

#211209 to #211164 - brownskin

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Parking lot at college.

I had a lotr bumper sticker so he always parked next to me. Bumped into each other when I was out to get toilet paper. He had a Chicorita sticker, which just so happens to be my favorite pokemon, on his laptop case, so I figured he was chill. We hung out and bonded over lotr, pokemon, basketball, Star Wars, and RWBY. Guy's my best friend.

I think it's important to mention that he's a very threatening looking, 6'7' black dude from downtown Chicago with a full beard, while I'm a 5'10" white dude who grew up on a farm.

He acted all ghetto at first but after we got to know each other he turned out to be the nerdiest fucker I've ever known. All that gangster stuff was just an act. Cool dude. Even let me say the N-Word around him.

Love that Nigga.

#211186 to #211164 - foreveranonymous

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(04/11/2016)[-]

I met most of them in school because we shared classes. Basically, every year I'd have different friends with some lingering from the year before. I'm out of school so I don't have any IRL friends anymore. I didn't even consider them my friends by the time high school came around because I knew by the next year I'd never hear from them again.

I met one friend by shitposting in a Twitch stream while he was also shitposting. Got added to a shitpost skype group and the people there became my friends. Group is dead, so no more friends lmao

#211182 to #211164 - dreygur

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#211183 to #211182 - dreygur

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(04/11/2016)[-]

Oh fuck, "did" and not "do"

In elementary and middle school, some in high school

#211190 to #211183 - charizarddad

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(04/11/2016)[-]

how did you become friends?

#211191 to #211190 - dreygur

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(04/11/2016)[-]

One of my best mates and I had the exact same backpack in 1st-2nd grade, which was the first thing to strike a conversation between us. We later found out that we had a mutual interest in drawing, Pokemon, games like Warcraft, and such. I then became friends with his childhood friend as well, and we still hang out to this day, despite each our own path after 9th grade. We were basically just the typical nerds of the class.

#211178 to #211164 - kober

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(04/11/2016)[-]

In a Garry's Mod roleplay server based off of HL2, I abused a bug to break into the Combine's armory, steal guns, and I'd sell them to a black dude in the slums named Tyrese. In real life, the character was played by a scrawny white kid resembling Justin Bieber. This happened back in 2009, while we were both in 6-7th grade; I've been friends with him ever since and our lives have pretty much paralleled each others despite the fact we've never met.

#211173 to #211164 - anon id: b2913319

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(04/11/2016)[-]

at school because we were in the same class and sat next to eachother.

Now I haven't got any friends, Ironically I lost them because of the education system.

#211189 to #211173 - charizarddad

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(04/11/2016)[-]

(current or past)

#211194 to #211189 - anon id: b2913319

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(04/11/2016)[-]

obviously no longer current friend.

#211169 to #211164 - ohhh

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(04/11/2016)[-]

#211168 to #211164 - megapepsifreak

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(04/11/2016)[-]

i hated him from prejudice from being a flirty guy
saw him a party
got to know him
he invited me to hang on Saturdays
that was last august
i have now kissed 12 people because of us being friends made out with 4/6 and have a lady friend and in all honesty have become a better person because of him
we still hang every sat and more
i love him yo, we like jd and turk

#211166 to #211164 - alexanderburns

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(04/11/2016)[-]

In high school because one of them thought I was cool and wanted to hang out with me. Turns out he wanted to for years but it never happened until we sat beside each other in grade 11 math.

My other current best friend was a member of the friend circle that friend A was a part of.

Doesn't really get luckier than that.

#211163 - rokkai

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(04/11/2016)[-]

fuck man.
i used to live in presumably the best part of the town with most of my friends. used to be able to go on foot everywhere. used to go out at 3 AM and see my friends having beers at seashore and join them. my biggest problem was to how to tell my gf that i want to break up and to keep track of my bike's gas level. could open my window when i felt down and hear small talks of people late at night. hop on to my bike with my housemate at 6 AM and watch the sunrise as we ride at 20-30 km/h. have breakfast with him who's been my best friend for like '09 since high school. literally nothing was wrong with my life.
first he moved with his parents because their financial problems and last year, same thing has happened to me too. we needed to sell my bike and leave my house. now i live in an apartment complex with my family which is an hour away from the city center(it's pretty fucking far away considering the city itself is not a big one) and bus hours are fucked up since only one bus comes here.
everything in my life was perfect and in 3-4 months, shit went downhill real fast. i can't do anything that i could before. im applying to any part-time job that i can find and i keep getting rejected. my plan is to move to another house in central part of the city where i can just put my headphones and take a walk when i feel down whenever i want to. i enjoy being close to people and yet be alone. i lost my energy and morale. i will probably forget about this in the morning but it won't take long for it to hit me again. hell, i started smoking like a month ago but shit's nasty so i quit. i am 22 years old and when i laugh out loud, my father fucking goes apeshit. i turned into a complete loser from a happy loser in 3 months. i don't even want a gf to cheer me up since i need different things to change my mood.
just felt like writing it down.

#211306 to #211163 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

Sorry man. sounds like a tough time in your life. Best thing to do is avoid letting it keep you in a spiral. You've got to slingshot your way out, like gravity-well shit. I'm 22 also and pretty stressed. The best way i've found to stay positive is take solace in little victories. Live more for the present. Also Job applications suck. No doubt

#211307 to #211306 - rokkai

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(04/12/2016)[-]

thanks d00d. i've always lived for the moment but as i said, i can't do most of my hobies so i recently purchased a knife on cs:go and started hitting the gym again to help the cause. and this guy who's been my friend since high school isn't the only one. we have this 5-6 people group gathering every summer in our hometown and one of us is currently studying in CA and he just told me that he's coming here for a month and a half which is huge. i'll just keep playing cs.go and lift some weights to carry this sorrow until i find me a job and get my own place.

#211313 to #211307 - evenx

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(04/12/2016)[-]

you made me feel better. lol

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