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#203690 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
So I have been dealing with varying levels of depression for the past few years. I told my parents about it after the firs time I got really low and they just responded with wanting it to go away as fast as possible so after a while I said I was fine but it has gotten worse. I think about committing suicide nearly everyday. I have come to realize that I don't want to do what I have been in school for the past 3.5 years of school. I have basically been a terrible student this whole semester because I don't really want to do this anymore (The only things that make me happy are playing video games and watching funny shows/ videos/ streamers). Everyday feels like a motivational fight to not kill myself. Tomorrow is my first final. I am so afraid of failing a class and my parents finding out that i"m depressed and they over react and send me off to some mental place or stop paying for my schooling (I know that is a first world problem). I just don't know what to do with my life anymore. Please Help.

(I'm so afraid of telling people that I am posting this anon and online even though I have a great and supportive friend/ roommate literally 10ft away from me.)
#203760 to #203690 - minutes
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Listen up dude you're about to get a whole lot of sentences you will learn and live by from now on.

"I live autonomously and independently, create my life according to my own will and only follow rules and Principles that I located for good and right. I am proud of what I am doing and will never say sorry for what I am. An error is something that I by honest self-criticism, regardless of the opinions of others, have recognized. I appreciate and enjoy the presence of other people and feel well in their company, but I will never be depending on anyone, neither friends, nor affairs, nor of my partner. People who repeated to bring disrespectful and inappropriate behavior to me will be dismissed from the circle of my acquaintances immediately and permanently, after a one-time strong warning . I help my friends when they need help, but I know that each person is responsible for his own life and its problems. I am therefore neither Therapeut nor lawyer, nor servants, nor Clown for whomever."

If you live by this rules, you will get a lot more confident and happy over time. Whenever a situation comes up, ask yourself which reaction would fit under these sentences and act like that. It will be hard in the beginning but you can do it.
#203731 to #203690 - dreygur
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Dude, emphasize more on how shitty you've been feeling so your parents don't just brush it off. You've learned more from your studies than just what you're trying to get a degree in, so your years of studies haven't been wasted. When you decide what else to study for, you can make plans about your future.

It isn't your fault. Depression does a good job at making you feel self-loathing and afraid about everything you do. Don't give in to it and hope that your parents fully understand. Worst case scenario you might want to talk to a professional about your issues. Remember that mental health comes first; studies can always wait. Some people don't get it done until they're in their 50s, I know one personally, and she's still been doing great her whole life.
#203728 to #203690 - minutes
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(12/02/2015) [-]
It's not an over reaction if they'd give you professional help. You said it yourself, you're suicidal. Tell your parents no matter how hard it is and get yourself the help you need.
#203694 to #203690 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
i use to think like that, only you can get yourself out of it, you can lose and give up or you can keep moving forward.

you have so much potentially within your life, as does everyone, you just need to wake up and use the cards life gives you. Get active, become busy, and get serious, focus on other stuff, take school more seriously. If you can't find the drive, then you can just end it all i guess, but what fun is that?
#203678 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Inspired by the spaghetti nudes post, I figured I'd offer my 'female translation services'.
Hello, I woman. I translate for man. Much good.
#203766 to #203678 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
joshlol, mate, you need more help than the rest of FJ combined. What was that comment you deleted? No judgement (unless you ask a stupid question)
#203854 to #203766 - joshlol
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(12/03/2015) [-]
doesn't matter fam
#203855 to #203854 - thirdjess
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(12/03/2015) [-]
You're gay, aren't you? Or is it one of those 'joshlol is so gay xxdddddd' rumours?
#203856 to #203855 - joshlol
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(12/03/2015) [-]
I'm straight
#203857 to #203856 - thirdjess
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(12/03/2015) [-]
Now I know!
#203736 to #203678 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
A girl told me my voice was sexy, this was months ago. What did that mean?

Also we were pretty close friends back then, spent a shit ton of time together online.
#203765 to #203736 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Well, biologically, ones voice indicates their level of attraction. A mans voice deepens, depending on how attracted he is, while a womans voice goes up. So people with naturally deep voices, might get told they have a 'sexy' voice.
#203732 to #203678 - joshlol
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#203722 to #203678 - yibdiy
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Exgf told me I'm heartless, what could have she meant?
#203723 to #203722 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
..probably that you're heartless? I'm gonna need more context
#203724 to #203723 - yibdiy
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(12/02/2015) [-]
rood
#203725 to #203724 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Well how the hell am I supposed to know when all you give me is 'she said this'
#203726 to #203725 - yibdiy
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#203684 to #203678 - confusedasian
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(12/02/2015) [-]
A girl called me cute, but not in a boyfriend way. She said that if I was a plushy she would buy me.

It's been 9 years since she told me that, what the fuck does that mean? Did I miss my chance at oonga boonga with her?
#203712 to #203684 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Most of the time, cute is akin to 'you're fluffy like a puppy and I wanna rub your belly'

She has affection for you. She might cuddle you, or go see a movie with you. But she wouldn't fuck a fluffy puppy, unless she had issues.
#203680 to #203678 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
"I'm fine"
????
#203714 to #203680 - thirdjess
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Honestly, most of the time, I'm fine means I'm fine. You get the occasional resentful bitch, who will remember this one time you upset her, and hold it against you forever.

But best to double tap, though. Ask her if she's being honest or something like that.
#203675 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I can't stand having a girlfriend that isn't a virgin and "pure". It fucks me over completely, I have tried to many times with different girls to try and get over the fact that another man has fucked them before but I can't. I'm not a virgin myself so I really don't have the rights to make these demands but I can't mentally bear the fact that other men has touched and fucked my girlfriends (not plural at the same time, different women) I love more than anything else. It just fucks me up bad. It's some form of extreme jealousy maybe, but if it is, it's the only type of jealousy I display, which would sound weird to me. I can't take it anymore, I keep getting heartbroken over this shit, over and over and over, because I cannot let it go.

What the fuck do I do, I need to be convinced otherwise somehow, but nothing does it. I've heard it all "don't judge her from her past", "her sexual experiences is no business of your". But I just disagree to all of those points, I can't bring myself to understand why men who fucked my girl before is no business of mine, to me it's obvious that I would care.

Pls help
#203923 to #203675 - gostar
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(12/04/2015) [-]
I struggle with the same issue OP. I disagree with some of the opinions here that this means you have psychological help. It is true that a lot of cases that there is some jealousy and insecurity at play. However, I think also heavily dependant on how much you like this person and also your values and belief.

If your not religious, my bets is that you at least have conservative values when it pertains to relationships. Also you might be having a harder time because you are very visual. You might even be imagining the worst imagery like guy blowing his load in her or she sucking him off. Before anyone judge you for this. I would ask how many guys could say that if they saw a Sex tape of her gf or wife with someone else would not be affected by it. You don't have to go very far to find a bunch of people who accidentally stumbled into this situation and their relationship now is a mess, even though they already knew that they were not their SO first. This means that most people are either in denial or don't have the same visuallizaion issue as you. It might just be more vivid for you because of how your brain works.

Another factor is how people perceive the relationship. Do you idealize and romanticize your relationship? Or do you see it as a means to starting a family or mutually beneficial transaction. I would argue that if you idealize and romanticize rather than see it as a transaction, your also more likely to have problem with marry a non-virgin.

There's also the issue of trust, which where insecurity comes in. Do you at some deep level fear your gf leaving you? Because maybe you are subconsciously connecting that with her having been with other guys. More partners = more slutty. Also, a girl that keeps herself a virgin until marriage is much less likely to leave or cheat. Simply because her own moral principles so strong that she's not even willing to give it up for you or previous boyfriend. Abstaining from cheating for these people is more than respecting their partner's trust but also respect for self.

It is natural for guys to feel territorial when it comes to sex from an evolutionary standpoint. So in a way you have been preprogrammed to not accept this. Just like in the animal kingdom, Lions, Hippos and lots of other animals will fight to the death to be the sole mater of the female. They rather risk death in a fight than share mates.

But this is not to say felmales don't have this type of jealousy or insecurity too. For felmales it's less about sex and it's more about love. If you had a long-term loving relationship with a girl in the past which you still care about. It will drive some girls crazy just like how your gf with experience with previous partners is driving you crazy.

Sadly OP, in todays day and age. It will not be easy to find a virgin that's not religious because society has become so sexually liberal. And I would also argue morally deprived. Not because sex is innately bad, but I think causal sex speaks volumes to our society's move away from sacrificial love to convenient love.

I will probably get flamed for saying this, especially from feminist, but when people say "You can't blame her and she didn't do anything wrong because she didn't know you back then." I disagree. You can't say that she has done you specifically any wrong, but you can say she has wronged her future boyfriend or husband.

With that said though. Keep in mind that because of the social norms of society is today; she may not have realized this. And it is not that she is a bad person, it's just that she was ignorant or not aware of the implications it'll have on future relationships.

With that said if you really do love her you will try to forgive and move pass it. Because after all, if sacrificial love is true love. And you do truly love her then you will try to make this sacrifice.

If you want to chat more about it, feel free to pm me your skype.

Cheers!








#203733 to #203675 - dreygur
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Might have something to do with how you grew up. If you got used to women having sex being bastardized, then you see it as impure. It's pretty common, but sadly pretty destructive as well. Remember that they're human beings as well and can't undo their innocent past choices just for your sake.

The only advice I can give is for you to think about how negatively it can affect your life by being picky, or you can just stay single.
#203715 to #203675 - gabsmatags
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(12/02/2015) [-]
After reading through the other comments, I think you need to understand that it's actually very common and normal to feel that sex is a bonding experience between people. Most people regard it as a romantic gesture. And you can't expect someone to promise themselves to some hypothetical future love of their life. People fall in and out of love every day. It just happens. It's unrealistic to assume that they'll just know that the person they want is not the person they will always want. If a person feels emotionally prepared to share their body with another, that is entirely their decision. Not yours, not anyone else's. Many people even regret previous sexual partners, but guess what? It's still not your concern. You need to understand that.
#203713 to #203675 - gabsmatags
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(12/02/2015) [-]
This definitely calls your mental health into question. Such an intense, illogical, and recurring experience is absolutely cause for concern. It's good that you recognize it as a problem, but you need to put yourself on the path of healing and rectification. Have you considered consulting a mental health professional about this? It honestly sounds like some deep seated insecurities that you need to work on.
#203705 to #203675 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I've had a boyfriend who had the same problem with me, that I've had sex before him and he felt like I was 'used'. He never feel like I was truly 'his'. Some guys have this mindset and they never really get over it and it ruins relationships from the start. I'm sorry, but the way you describe your girlfriend means you're that kind of guy too. Break up with her right now. You're in the wrong and she doesn't deserve to be in a relationship where she's seen as a slut.

You'll get over her and find a virgin to call your own and hopefully she'll find someone who doesn't look at her like an already open jar.
#203706 to #203705 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I know, we broke up 2 days ago.

Either that, or I fix my head.
#203683 to #203675 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
also you are EXTREMELY insecure, now that I think about it.

work on that
#203721 to #203683 - Conquistador
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(12/02/2015) [-]
>Is a weeb and a mascotfag.
>"lel u r insecure *le smug anime fais*.

Top kek.
#203730 to #203721 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
you don't know me
#203688 to #203683 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
If that is so, it's the only display of insecurity I show. I haven't been so "successful" with women by going around being insecure. That's why I doubt that, I think it's a deeper reason than that.
#203693 to #203688 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Nope. It definitely sounds like insecurity. You don't seem to have the confidence that a normal person has in regard to sexual history. A normal person looks at their partner's past and says "ah okay, we're compatible" and tries to understand and work with them. You completely reject any sort of history whatsoever. I'm almost tempted to recommend psychological help because it's so illogical.
#203699 to #203693 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
That's an interesting look at it, I've never heard that before actually, as common as you make it sound. I'll think about it, thank you. I wish I could just start thinking like that right away.
#203691 to #203688 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
you may not seem insecure to them at first, but they will see eventually if you bring that attitude into the mix. you may be able to start up a relationship, but i doubt you will keep it. but if you cant get over the fact that women like to fuck people too, then you got some growing up to do my boy.
#203696 to #203691 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I took your advice seriously at first, before you started getting condescending. Uncalled for, my boy.
#203698 to #203696 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Just trying to get you to wake up and smell the reality, young one.

whatever, have fun with your dysfunctional relationships i guess. only you can fix you
#203700 to #203698 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
And being rude is supposed to help me? Thanks man.
#203701 to #203700 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
The truth isn't always nice anon
#203702 to #203701 - anon
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I know. I still think my problem lies in my experiences though. I tend to lean on the cognitive perspective part of psychology, I'll try to work on it from there instead.
#203707 to #203702 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I am sorry to be harsh but its just that i use to be just like you in this regard. maybe our situations are different and whatever, but i just hated the idea of a non virgin girlfriend, i rejected it completely.

but i changed my views, and now im a happier person, i wish the same for you , i truly do. you are capable, i know you are. just keep focusing on your purpose in life and your ideas will change, hopefully for the better. good luck.
#203708 to #203707 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
It's alright, I get it.

Thanks, I'll do my best, if not I know I will never truly be happy with another person. Thanks for the help, I appreciate it.
#203681 to #203675 - lgninjaleetful
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I use to think that way, but then I got past highschool.
#203677 to #203675 - confusedasian
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Does your girlfriend care about who you had sexed with? You think all women are some innocent precious flower waiting for you to deflower them? Get over it dude. Women are just like men. They like sex just as much as men. They fart, shit, are gross, just like men. Think of it this way, what if someone forced themselves on the girl you love? Will you love them less because they were raped and in your terms not "pure"?

You're being irrational here dude.
#203679 to #203677 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Some does, but deals with it regardless. I cannot.

I think it might be that fact that I look at sex differently from most maybe. I think not of it like some sort of need, like drink or food, but maybe as a form of bond between two people. How can one person bond their love with multiple people, when they should already have committed all their love to one person? I haven't committed all my love to one person yet because I haven't found someone that I can give it to, but I have thought that I have, and it has just ended in heartbreak, that's how I'm not still a virgin, otherwise I would still be if I had the choice. I don't understand any of it, and as time goes on I think I'm losing my opportunity to find a woman that I can be truly happy with. And it fucking stings. And no it would haunt me for the entire relationship, I wouldn't blame her, but it would never leave my thoughts when I'm with her.

I know I am, if I didn't I wouldn't come here.
#203686 to #203679 - anon
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You do realize that there are women who see sex in the same way and aren't necessarily virgins themselves. Think of it this way- there are women who have shared their bodies under the impression that there was mutual love between themselves and their partner. But love changes and people change and that does not detract from what sex means to them. Just find someone who feels the way you do, that sex is a symbol of love and intimacy. Those people exist. But you have to be willing to understand that they may have experience. Having had sex in the past by no means implies that sex means nothing to a person.
#203704 to #203686 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Sheesh that actually does change it a bit for me... Damn. Thanks again for that post, it planted a seed.
#203703 to #203686 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Nigga why you gotta make me all teary and shit. I literally just got out of a relationship 2 days ago, that block of text hit too close to home.

That's a very nuanced way of looking at it though, thank you, it helps.
#203710 to #203703 - anon
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Glad I could help. I just feel like everyone deserves a partner who understands and respects them. You need to learn how to respect and I find it admirable that you are willing to learn and change, even if your views are horribly wrong. That kind of self awareness is respectable. Just open your eyes and heart to the experiences of others. Some people do just really enjoy sex and that's fine. Others choose to be more selective in that regard and that's okay too. You just need to be willing to see things through the eyes of your partner. Put yourself in their shoes, if you must. Most people really don't care about their partner's sexual history unless there was trauma. Obviously, you're the one with the trauma. Work through it in your own time and try not to project that onto any future partners. They don't deserve that.
#203682 to #203679 - confusedasian
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Yo, are you reading what you're typing?

Who's to say that your girl didn't love the other person but had a rough patch and things weren't as happy as she thought? You're not writing it, but it's like you're calling your girlfriend a slut just because she had sex. But you went through the same thing did you not? Did you not just type out how you aren't a virgin anymore because you thought the person you love was your one and only, until you hit a rough patch and things weren't as happy as you thought?


You may not be her first (again, who cares dude.), but if you really love her make yourself her last. Make it work, are you really going to be so angry over something so small?
#203685 to #203682 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I know exactly what I'm saying and what it sounds like.

That's a very interesting look at it. But I did say that I was some magical exception, and I have no right to demand it. But yes, I suppose it does depend on what happened. In exactly all of my relationships the case has been that my girlfriend was used by her "friends", sexually, so they had just been passed around for attention, then that ends, and they meet me. This is probably why I think like I do, because I haven't seen anything else. Tell me, if you had a girlfriend, super sweet and beautiful, would it not disturb you that she had just, 2 years ago, been fucked by at least 5 men every month? Because that's usually how bad it was. And it fucking haunted me the entire time, I could only think about that. That's an exaggerated reaction, but it would disturb you at least, right? Maybe I just need to find someone that is different from every other I have tried with. Weird how it seems to be so common though...

That's a nice philosophy, but I can't adopt it.
#203692 to #203685 - confusedasian
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I believe in you, young anon.
#203697 to #203692 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Wish me luck
#203687 to #203685 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
you are insecure with you masculinity and you think she would leave you for someone else because you do not think much of yourself, is the problem with you.
#203689 to #203687 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Never, I never get jealous of another man or distrust my girlfriend with other men, it never crosses my mind. This is something else.
#203670 - spookyexplain
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(12/02/2015) [-]
So I work at a movie theater, but the problem is they schedule me to work every Friday and Saturday/Sunday. Now, I normally wouldn't have a problem with this but it has murdered my social life and I don't get to see my girlfriend at all anymore (she lives about an hour away). I'm pretty sure if I asked for weekends off I wouldn't get them since it is a movie theaters busiest time. I'm thinking about looking for a job on my college campus, really is my last choice of a job that I don't have to work every weekend. Any ideas?
#203672 to #203670 - confusedasian
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I'd go with the job on campus. I'm actually looking for one/an internship of any nearby companies. Only con I can think of is that the pay might be less, but shit dude, I'm just looking for some extra cash in my pocket. I'm not looking to pay my bills. If you're the same as me, go for it.
#203673 to #203672 - spookyexplain
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Yeah, the only problem is that I think most of the student jobs are work/study which is determined by fafsa federal aid
#203674 to #203673 - confusedasian
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Oh, you don't have that? Yeah, you might be boned. In my college at least, people needed to have a grant. Pell grant? I don't know. I just remember reading that you needed a certain gpa and had a grant.
#203669 - senselessness
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#203671 to #203669 - anon
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Do not gamble? lol

I can not really cheer you up since losing $900 is stupid and easily avoidable (again, do not gamble). Just treat this as a lesson. Gambling addictions are no joke.
#203668 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
How do I used music torrents like these for my phone? I can't simplify look up songs because it always comes up empty when I do.

Or does anyone know of just a simple music downloader in the app store?
#203720 to #203668 - joshlol
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(12/02/2015) [-]
>torrent on pc
>xfer files to phone

??
#203709 to #203668 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
You could use spotify like everyone else.
#203667 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
today i started getting the underlined/highlighted text ads on chrome.
i'm baffled as to how, because my history recently hasn't changed (youtube, fj, WoWhead etc). here's some info: it's only on chrome. firefox is fine. I checked my chrome extensions and nothing is different. i ran the most recently updated malwarebytes and nothing was found. i checked add/remove programs and there were no text enhancer programs to uninstall. basically i did everything that a few google searches came up with.
can anyone suggest ways on how to remove this? any help would be appreciated
#203663 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Hey, I'm just wondering what people's opinions would be.

Basically my wife and I are officially married (no big ceremony yet), we've got a kid and she's 6 months pregnant. But cause of issues we live separately and I take care of the kid on weekends.

My question is this. Is it bad that I enjoy this lifestyle more, even though I have to pay child support.
#203665 to #203663 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
No, not really. You kind of get the best of both worlds. But from the sounds of it, this isn't a permanent situation. I wouldn't gets too used to it.
#203645 - muchname
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(12/01/2015) [-]
any body know how to find out what uses the most memory on a hard drive?
#203660 to #203645 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Uhhh, task manager. Assuming your using a windows (vista, 7, 8 , 10), press ctrl, alt, and delete at the same time. It'll bring up a list of options. Look for task manager in that list. Click it and it'll pop up a small window with everything running on your computer. Look around the ribbons and tabs. You can sort your memory usage, cpu usage, etc from greatest to least.
#203653 to #203645 - paintskillz
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Don't know what operating system you use but on windows 10
Settings - System - Storage - (C

Should be similar in other windows versions
#203654 to #203653 - paintskillz
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(12/01/2015) [-]
also meant to do " : " not smiley face
#203644 - mcdonaldsexplain
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Radeon r6 any good.
Christmas shopping a computer. Need my fj fam to help a bro out
#203656 to #203644 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
An r6? There are way better stuff out there. Are you looking to upgrade? Or are you building a new computer all together? What are you working with here, and what is your end goal? (End goal meaning do you want super omega l33t settings? Or are you okay with the game looking passable, but you're more concerned about price and how well it will run?)

Personally, I would recommend a console. No fuss no muss kind of thing, but I understand the appeal of playing games on the pc.
#203657 to #203656 - mcdonaldsexplain
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Its for my nephew, he already has an xbox one, but he's a WoW nerd. Not building one, its 500 for 1000 GB storage, 8g ram, (if I remember right.) Never got to actually have his own computer even when HE bought it.
#203658 to #203657 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
What about is PSU and CPU? What are they?
#203643 - thumbsdenied
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(12/01/2015) [-]
I lost touch or my friends wouldnt bother or have time with me anymore around 7-8grade, and ive kinda been alone for 7years. Now im having a girl coming over, and im afraid of being creepy from my lack of social skills. asked her over to my place so we could cook a meal together and play some games. She seemed happy about the plans, also promised to pick her up.
But now im nervous, because im not good at social interactions and im unclear whats considered creepy these days unless its painfully obvious like "you remind me of my mother". Need some help here..
#203661 to #203643 - redandgreen
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(12/01/2015) [-]
She likes you! Don't overthink things
#203659 to #203643 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Telling someone they remind you of your parent is creepy? Fuck my life bro.
#203662 to #203659 - alstorp
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(12/01/2015) [-]
If it's to a romantic interest yes. You might as well be telling them you'd like to fuck your mom.
#203664 to #203662 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Oh, so if it's just friends, its clear? Cool. I'm in the safe zone.
#203666 to #203664 - alstorp
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Yeah that's fine. It's the optional romantic, incest-y part that makes it creepy.
#203647 to #203643 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Honestly, it is clear she has some interest for you. All you got to do is cook a nice meal and play an interesting multiplayer game. If you worry too much about being awkward, then you will come off as awkward. Just be yourself, as corny as that may sound. Even if yourself is awkward then just remember that awkward does not necessarily mean creepy. Some people are just awkward and she may find it cute (you have obviously not said anything to throw her off before or she would not have agreed to hang out with you).

Best of luck!
#203646 to #203643 - BrayBoy
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Well man if shes agreeing to come over and hang then she must already think well of you, so dont worry about impressing her or anything.
The way I'd go about the whole thing is I'd just be my self but not be as rude or joke about anything to serious while you're getting a read for what they think is ok to laugh about.

Its super cliché to say just be yourself but I mean its the best way forward, pretending you're something you're not will only attract the wrong people
#203716 to #203646 - thumbsdenied
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(12/02/2015) [-]
My humor is pretty dark, but its been a coping mechanism for me. Im kinda nervous to show that side of me. Also ive forgot alot of my own language not talking to people Where i live, Im afraid to sound like a idiot.
I got so many issues, but i do my best to be fair and make others happy, because i sure dont want them to feel like ive felt for so long.
#203729 to #203716 - BrayBoy
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I'm the kind of person who thinks everything is fair game for making jokes about aslong as its funny. I think what you really need to do is just focus on relaxing.
Its fuckin easier said than done, but its definitely what you need to do so you can have a good time and be yourself.
I'm in a really similar boat with be pretty much losing touch with everyone and being alone, so I can relate on that level.
Just focus on being happy, and to be happy you gotta be you so make sure you relax a bit and take things one step at a time. Good luck man!
#203648 to #203646 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
You beat me to it
#203650 to #203648 - BrayBoy
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Well its better to hear it twice, more reassuring I'm sure
#203637 - borderlineparanoid ONLINE
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(12/01/2015) [-]
my fucking anti-virus decided that Stalker: Shadow of Chernobyl was a dangerous file and must be stopped.

now it is missing the executable.

I don't want to restart my computer.

any way to fix it without restarting?
#203641 to #203637 - oxidoferroso
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Quarantine and add an exception to the .exe
#203640 to #203637 - nonbenderinlife
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Most antivirus aplications usually quarantine that stuff before deleting it. Look up online how to unquarantine the file depending on your anti virus app
#203636 - larsfillmore
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(12/01/2015) [-]
I know this is a stupid question because it can he answered with the simple "if she loves you she'd be with you" I feel like there's something else going on.
She says and does all this stuff with me. She cuddles with me, tells me she's only happy with me and that she loves me and all this other stuff but there's still this other guy that vaguely there
#203649 to #203636 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Talk to her about. None of us know the actual situation or can read her mind. Do not keep it on. Relationships require honesty and communication.
#203635 - Residentpudding
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I hit a car today and booked it out of there. It was a very tight parking space and I'll admit to not being the best driver. It was behind a parking lot, so I assume there was cameras there. I still don't know if people saw. It wasn't a big noticeable crash, just slightly slid my car up against theirs. I panicked and left because I can't afford another ticket. From what I saw, there was no real damage, but I'm unsure. Well FJ, what do I have to look forward to as a result?
#203655 to #203635 - paintskillz
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(12/01/2015) [-]
you already left m8
nothing to do now but sit around being paranoid and wait for big brother to kick down your door
#203638 to #203635 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
you do realise that it went from a minor indecent to a hit and run.

you need to find the owner of that car, now.

you done goof'd hard.
#203639 to #203638 - Residentpudding
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(12/01/2015) [-]
This happened out of town. I don't know if I can find them again.
#203630 - asotil
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(12/01/2015) [-]
When someone says they'll meet you at 110 does that mean eleven or one-ten
#203634 to #203630 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Probably meant to type 1:10 pm?
#203631 to #203630 - yibdiy
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It means they are retarded.
#203628 - cackrel
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(12/01/2015) [-]
**cackrel used "*roll picture*"**
**cackrel rolled image**So my parents are making me insane and no I don't have the option to move out.
They do nothing but bitch and whine about not having cleaned enough at their house, telling me that my roughly 200$ in rent is nothing and that I'm a pathetic loser who should just move out, I'm in engineering at my university and I keep telling them that giving them half of the abysmal salary which I make is the only thing I can spare due to books and such they tell me to stick it up my ass.
They do nothing but spend their money on crap and they tap into my reservoirs of pooled up cash by guilt tripping me into it.
So funnyjunk, what do? How can I stand up to them without becoming homeless in the process?
p.s. Still love my parents.
#203651 to #203628 - anon
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Move out. Seriously go find someone at the university (advisor or counselor, they sometimes have those people around and see what services they provide to kids looking for homes. Maybe you can get some more money to do on-campus house (scholarships?). Your parents just do not look like they respect you, at all. That can become a problem and you should be somewhere that makes you happy. You are probably already stressed enough with college and all.
#203652 to #203651 - anon
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Also, moving out does not mean you hate them. It just means that you are looking out for your own well being and maybe even theirs, a little. Emotional abuse is a real thing, although it may seem harmless. It can take a toll on the mind. Your health, both mental and physical, matter.
#203629 to #203628 - cackrel
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**cackrel used "*roll picture*"**
**cackrel rolled image**Not only that but they make me feel like I don't contribute at all to the "family unit" as my father calls it, I just turned 21 and I've been paying them rent ever since I was 16, what do?
#203620 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
I'm getting this again. Happened when I logged on, and it's always this site.
#203642 to #203620 - focalanemo
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Turn on adblock
This site has some pretty bad ads
#203711 to #203642 - adblock
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(12/02/2015) [-]
It's really hard to get me turned on actually
#203622 to #203620 - joshlol
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(12/01/2015) [-]
post it on askamod
#203624 to #203622 - confusedasian
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(12/01/2015) [-]
Where dat?
#203626 to #203624 - joshlol
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#203617 - WATCHAGUNADOBOUTIT
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how should I figure out if my roommate is dropping out or not? I was thinking about talking to my RA. I kind of need to know since I'm switching dorms if he isn't. He hasn't gone to class since the first month of school, and I don't know if he withdrew from classes or if he's just stopped going to them. This kid's a fucking loser and I can't stand coming back to the dorm and seeing his face every fucking day. I don't want to talk to him because there's no way I'd be civil about it and there's only 3 more weeks of his bull shit anyways. thanks
#203633 to #203617 - oxidoferroso
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Why can't you switch dorms anyway?
I guess the best way to find out is... talking to him? ''Hey dude, are you dropping out?'' seems like an easy and direct enough question
#203676 to #203633 - WATCHAGUNADOBOUTIT
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(12/02/2015) [-]
I hate the guy and I really don't want to punch him in the face mid-sentence. Also, it's because my university residences are packed this year for whatever reason. It sucks but it's whatever.
#203609 - megapepsifreak
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(12/01/2015) [-]
i was in the car with my mother and she told me she believed she failed as a parent

this all stems from me always having a love for tattoo's and piercings, and I now want to take body piercing as my career. it won't make a good amount of money and i can't raise a family with the money but i can't care less about that thee's already 7billion people who fuck too much . they want me to go to college, get a degree, get a job, get a wife, have kids and then do what ever.

I don't want to do that though. i want to do what makes me happy, i don't want college or student debt.
I wanna make people happy, and putting holes in people to then put jewelry in to help people express themselve they way they want. possible stems from me wanting to express my self the way I want but can't as my parent do not allow that, no i'm not saying it's not a phase or my parents don't understand. I feel like they don't care .

to me myself my mother hasn't failed as a parent, if she failed as a parentI would have turned out to be a shitty person. i'm not that, i wouldn't call myself great but i'm not not good.

she didn't fail as a parent she fails to accept that I didn't turn out they way she wanted, that i'm not going to follow her plan. she had a child. she had a kid not someones whose fate she controls.

i love tattoos, I love piercings. I want to get them and do them. and make people happy through it.

i just don't know what to do fam. i wanna say my mind but i've been under their thumb all my life.

i just want makes me happy, what makes so many people happy, to make my parents happy. i just ow realise that i can never make them proud if i follow the path i want. but if that's how it is, i just think fuck em.

my parents aren't bad people, they just didn't have the best parents them selves.

sometimes i just want to be with a group of friends and never talk to them again, because of how openly they will full heartedly show there disdain and hate for it.

shits just sucking fam, and i just don't know what to do.

i'm 16, finishing highschool next year

i will become a piercer and no disappointed parent will stop me

in my fathers words he said " I'm just wondering when your'e gonna grow up, for the first time in my life when i walked down the hall and got my diploma is when i first felt ' i can actually do something with my life'"

i want him to know that that feeling is relative to your choices and who you are.


i'm sorry if this is kinda chaotic but that's how my mind works right now.

TL;DR shit sucks, how can i tell my parents to accept me for who I am for wanting to do what i want career wise.
#203618 to #203609 - confusedasian
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Don't have anything to say other than you generalize too much. Just because you're going to college doesn't mean you're going to be buried in debt. My degree is almost finished and I only owe 4500~, and that's only because I made a mistake and accepted a loan.

I thought a loan was financial aid. If I didnt make that mistake, I wouldn't owe anything because financial aid covered it all. I also took advantage of a cheaper school nearby and the fact that I still live with my parents. All about being aware of the things around you and how they can aid/benefit yourself.
#203614 to #203609 - sugoi
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Well obviously your parents see college as a means to an end (Job, wife, kids) so just get all of that but without the degree, they'll be more accepting once you've got a stable income, a girlfriend and your life on track without any drugs or criminal charges.

They're just old fashioned, mean well but ideas are a bit outdated.
#203718 to #203614 - megapepsifreak
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(12/02/2015) [-]
thanks
#203605 - mrspinkman
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(12/01/2015) [-]
I watched my best friend suck his boyfriends dick, he puked on it and cried. Why was I watching in the first place? I'm a straight girl attracted to gay men. Why? How do I comfort my friend after watching him puke on another guy? Do I need a psychologist? Please send help.
#203608 to #203605 - wisely
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(12/01/2015) [-]
That sounds extremely awkward, why were you watching in the first place?
#203616 to #203608 - mrspinkman
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(12/01/2015) [-]
gay boys turn me on, I need help right away
#203735 to #203616 - dreygur
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(12/02/2015) [-]
What the asian cat said. You like boys, so having two of them making out is just double the eye candy, isn't it? It's only logical if you ask most. I don't know how common it is to openly admit that between girls, but I'm a guy, so I'm used to feeling familiar with my attractions since it isn't uncommon for us to be open about them.

Also, if you're there to comfort your friend, tell him to not feel bad about it until he actually knows his boyfriend's stance on the matter. If he becomes too emotionally unstable while it's very possible that his boyfriend understands, then he might just say or do something he may regret out of premature grief.
#203619 to #203616 - confusedasian
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No you don't. Why do straight boys like watching lesbian porn? 'Cause it's hot. Its just what we like. You don't need help. You're fine. Also in a study, they found straight girls mostly watch amateur and lesbian porn. So yeah, you're fine.


I know you mean gay with guys not gay with girls.
#203623 to #203619 - mrspinkman
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(12/01/2015) [-]
That was extremely reassuring, thank you
#203625 to #203623 - confusedasian
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So just out of curiosity and if you're willing to relinquish that information, what happened to your friend? The one that puked on his boyfriends wee wee pee pee. I'm going to be blunt, I totally laughed hard when I read that. I do hope for the best, but that's pretty funny. Is he alright at least? Probably just embarrassed.
#203627 to #203625 - mrspinkman
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He's mortified, considering breaking up with his boyfriend because he was so embarrassed.. He was really upset last night , I'm hoping he's better today
#203695 to #203627 - anon
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(12/02/2015) [-]
Tell him to take a breather. I puked on my boyfriends dick once (straight girl) and was very understanding (i deepthroated). If his boyfriend cares about him enough, then he won't freak out about it either. Try not to suck dick on a full stomach and stuff for next time c:
#203632 to #203627 - confusedasian
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GIF
Alright, I got my jollies out of the way. Almost He shouldn't consider breaking up after one accident. Convince him not to. I don't know these guys, so I'm just speaking about myself and what I would do if my girl, boy, whatever exploded over my egg roll. It's embarrassing, yeah. But nothing worth breaking up about. As you can probably tell, I'd laugh it off. I'd make sure they were okay first, then question my balls (maybe I didn't scrub it right or something and it smells like ass? Because there's no way anyone is choking on my tiny ass fadoodle.), then laugh it off. You're a human. You're not perfect. You have embarrassing and awkward moments. When you're in a relationship, nothing changes. You'll still have those moments. It's just how the two of you will handle it. Me? I'm a goofball. I'll laugh it off like I've said. Tell him to calm down and then talk to his boyfriend. It's gonna be awkward as hell, but what did I just say? Anyways, tell him to talk it out. Maybe his boyfriend has a monster cock and your friend was pushing himself too far trying to please his boyfriend. Maybe his boyfriend was the one pushing him to hard.

Whatever the case is, I don't believe he should even consider a break up.

Show him this cat. I like cats. They make me smile. May this cat make him smile once more.
#203607 to #203605 - confusedasian
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#203606 to #203605 - sugoi
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"Well choking on dick to the point of puking means your puting your love for his dick above your love for air and I think that's pretty romantic, and hey next time try this neat trick, if make a fist with your thumb inside the fist then put pressure on it you won't puke."
#203615 to #203606 - mrspinkman
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(12/01/2015) [-]
I tried giving him the fist advice mid-blowjob, didn't help, but the first part is good