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#201341 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
HOW DO YOU BLOCK SOMEONE BY ip ?

I was able to leave my comment with my username tho
#201367 to #201341 - samoaspider
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(11/05/2015) [-]
wait, since when is it possible to block someone's ip?
#201340 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I'm joining the Marines. Ship date for boot camp is December 14. I'm taking my IST, basically a physical test, on Friday with another guy whose ship date is like next week or the week after. If I pass and he fails it's very likely that the recruiters will ask me to take his spot before asking anyone else. I'm still not sure whether I want to take it or not. The only reason I don't want to go is the physical side. I mean I can pass the IST, so that means I'm technically ready to go but I'm worried that I'm not strong enough. Hopefully someone with experience with Marines can answer this, but anyone is welcome to put in their two cents.
#201422 to #201340 - averagewhitekid
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(11/06/2015) [-]
If you can pass the IST then you are ready to go to boot, simple as that.
Could you get stronger or faster or better in that extra time? Yeah you could. But there are plenty of people that barely skimp by with the IST and still make it through training, thats one of the points of those multiple weeks of training. If you can't run as fast as they want you to at the start, you will be running that fast at the end I guarantee you that. (same for lifting, etc. etc.)
I'm actually almost 100% sure that they wont make you ship at his date though, so don't sweat it that much. Never remember hearing any stories about that happening to someone.
#201447 to #201422 - anon
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(11/06/2015) [-]
OK thanks. One of the other poolees said it could happen that's why I thought that.
#201335 - chocovich
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Hey FJ, money related question for you guys.

I've been looking at apartments to rent out, since its really not too fun when you rent a floor of your parents house and are self sufficient but still get talked down to, and I found a good apartment but I'm not 100% sure on if the money I'd have left over each month is good.

After all my bills, and necessary expenses, I'd have about $300+ left over, the number isn't exact since I'm Canadian, our power needs change from month to month thanks to the weather and food is different each month.

Is that good or should I hold off for a bit longer until my next raise at work? I'm already pretty lowball on the rent so. (About $950 for a decent apartment that's not on the wrong side of the city)
#201413 to #201335 - fergin
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I'd say $950 a month is too much for a 1 bedroom apartment haha. I live in the united states but I can find a decent 1 bedroom apartment some with free heating, i currently live in a good spot near the subway and bus for $600 and free heating for like $700-$800. If you have $300+ leftover with all your bills and food factored in whats the problem? Finding a cheaper phone situation is usually the best way to cut corners, if you really think about how much you're spending on your phone it seems pretty ridiculous. Using a shitty phone with minutes usually ends up pretty cheap. I use a cellphone with minutes to receive calls, I make all my outgoing calls from home using gmails free phone call service. Saved me like $80 a month.
#201444 to #201413 - chocovich
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(11/06/2015) [-]
Sad thing is, here in Edmonton, its like... 600-700 gets you a tiny studio apartment, and 700-800 gets you an old 1 bedroom that's usually in a pretty bad area or condition. It's 900+ that seems to give the better results. (Personally I love the secured entrances they offer)

Especially where I live since its all prime living areas for the post secondary education in the city. Only other option would be going to the other side of the city and uprooting myself completely.
#201337 to #201335 - spacesword
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I make $1200 each month. My rent is 325. I pay 80 to 100 a month in utility's. Then around 300 in food each month is I'm wise with money. Anything extra is saved for a rainy day/ toiletries and car repairs / gas.

Idk how much you make in a month but I hope how I pay things off helps. Also pro tip there is always a security deposit the first month and your going to want to have the best roommates you can. Sanity is everything out on your own. God speed brother and good luck and spend wise and as little as possible your first month.
#201338 to #201337 - chocovich
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I make about $2000 a month, and heat/water are included in the rent but I'm eyeballing power as about $100-$200 Max since I have my computer on all the time to render/edit/upload videos, and food at around $150-$250 so I can eat decent meals and not gain/lose too much weight because I'm saving.

Those are the big guys but with a bus pass, phone bills, and internet at around $300 all together it makes it feel a bit tight when looking at the numbers.

My math puts it at a total of around $1675 a month, give or take a little bit.
#201358 to #201338 - spacesword
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Sounds like you've thought it out. I think you can make it.
#201360 to #201358 - chocovich
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Thanks for the vote of confidence. Going to have to save up for a few months before doing anything though, and its also getting cold as dicks and I don't want my $2500 computer falling into snow!

But seriously, thanks. Put my mind at ease.
#201328 - spacesword
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(11/05/2015) [-]
So I recently 4 months in now moved out and I need roommate advice. So I live with my 2 roommates a friends of mine and his girlfriend of 5 years. I live in the back and keep to my self they live up at the front of the house. Noise is early an issue and neither is space. I have only one complaint. It's her. Well call her W for land whale. And my friend G for the giant. W and G love each other. I know this and I keep my distance and try and keep to my self. I never knew W that much but know that she's around all the time it starts to nag. The constant highs and lows of her mood. Either happer or stupide with quite rage. I would just pass it off and walk on like G told me but I just can't. So I fucked up once or twice. (Bleached a towel by accident, I left the door unlocked, the freezer didn't shut one time because of frost so it was open for an hour) I get it I'm a cluts. I know that. Tiny things that become potentially bigger thing but I cetch my self and I pay for damages. Bit no matter how small the issue W freaks out like I killed a kitten. She doesn't tell... More like scolds me like I'm a child like some kind of idiot that doesn't think. Now I'm a considerate person. I really try. I clean house, I clean up my dishes no more that an hour after cooking, and I pay rent on time! I don't even have that much kitchen space. But she leaves out pots and pans for days... Leaves out wet coffee grounds... Clothes intthe washer and dryer... And doesn't pay rent because her family owns the house. So I left the door unlocked Again. 3rd time. I come home after having dinner with some of my immediate family only for have the rubbed in my face like a dog who shat on the carpet... I clenched my fists.... I was told that I need to do some thing about it. That I need to find a way to stop it. Like what bitch, I thought, just fucking not just go back in time!?! What do I do? Well Then she said if I happens again she would try to make me pay for her new renters insurance.... Wow now bitch step off. I said she was going to far. Didn't even tell her that there was no way in hell that I wouldn't pay for that shit. It shouldn't be my problem but I make it my issue for my friend and because "I don't want to be an ass and get people shit stolen" WHO THE FUCK WOULD. So, I sat down in a chair, and I said " I get I fuck up. I'm a cluts. I know that. But it's small things and I try not to be a bother, I don't mess up bad but when I do I snow balls. I 'm sorry for feel like for house in in danger but I'll work on it. (Not much else I could do anyways) ". That's all I could think of in the mommment. I was so fucking pissed but I held it in. She didn't listen. She just said " so are you going to fix it or what.

I'm just lost in anger and the stuborn, uncareing, unsympothetic, simplemindedness, and inconsiderate nature of this girl.

So should I move out is it worth it or do I tell her to fuck herself! (Please excuse my bad spelling and grammar I'm pissed and on a phone.)
#201336 to #201328 - spacesword
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Update. I'm still sleepless from all that being so angry about the petty situation. I feel like my bloodpresser is through the roof. I've dessided I'm moving out with some family for now while I find a new apparment with someother friends or what ever comes my way.
#201331 to #201328 - schurftinator
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Have you ever just told her that she's really patronizing and that you don't appreciate her behaviour? Like "I'm sorry, I'll try to keep an eye out next time, but please could you stop belittlling me like this? it's really fucking annoying"
and if she denies or continues yeah tell her to go fuck herself.
#201332 to #201331 - spacesword
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Yes I have. Not out right, but I have. I'm trying to be the the Adult in the situation but she's like some kind of skip beat record that says that same thing everytime. I want her to fuck off. I don't need the stress. I work in hospital for crist sake. I'm not incompetent. But I can't think for shit when this she is trown at me at the door ya know. I'll try being more straight forward. Thanks.
#201334 to #201332 - schurftinator
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(11/05/2015) [-]
ughh that sucks, yeah you want to be able to go home and chill and de-stress, you don't need stuff like this.
it's just you never know whether people realize how bitchy they come across, or if they actually don't care and get a kick out of it. in the first case you might be able to talk it out, in the second case indeed better find a nicer place to live. good luck!
#201333 to #201332 - spacesword
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I really need to calm down. By spelling is the worst in this state.
#201309 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Texas Fag here.
I'm trying to plan a hang out this weekend with a couple good friends but I'm not sure what beer to get us. We're not trying to get drunk just have a good time hanging together since we don't get to often. What beers should I consider that are out there? None of the Miller-Bud-Corrona or similar beers. I like anything from Pale Ales to Stouts, Blue Moon is a favorite but where else is there guys?
#201407 to #201309 - becefalus
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(11/06/2015) [-]
I'm no beer expert but keystone is pretty good imo.
The only light beer I would drink.
#201303 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Tips for hanging out for the first time with a girl that might actually be interested in me, it's hard to tell, this never happens

Just saw each other at the bus stop a few days ago and we smiled and talked and laughed and it generally went exceptionally well
but I can't stop thinking that she might just be a really nice person that likes talking to strangers

I should have asked for her number but I panicked and asked to add her on facebook instead, which I get the feeling she barely uses messenger on, so I've barely spoken to her since
#201310 to #201303 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Find her and get her number, be forward without being overbearing. If you ask her on a date don't do a movie or something like that, do something she'll remember and you can get to know each other while doing it. My dad when I first started dating told me with women you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. A girl isn't interested? Oh fucking well onto the next one.
#201312 to #201310 - anon
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fair advice mate
like we've barely spoken since our first encounter so I imagine inviting her to meet up during a break in the college we both attend, talking a bit more, getting coffee or food or something, is a good idea

I think considering whatever's next as a date is a pretty quick bad move but I've only had one girlfriend when i was like 13 so I don't know shit, tell me if i'm wrong.

but while I'm massively unfit I thoroughly enjoy long walks, she seems pretty dedicated to her gym stuff

she also lives in the next town over next to some pretty sweet hills. long walk up a hill good first date idea or potentially creepy af? I guess how creepy it is, is determined by how much she likes me and how much she thinks i might be a murderer/rapist.
#201313 to #201312 - anonymoussarcasm
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You know I might be so bold as to ask her like "Hey would you be interested in doing something with me sometime?" and if she says yes I'd ask "Would you like to pick what we would do, I personally would like to _____ but what would you prefer if something else? As long as its not a movie so we can actually talk"
#201423 to #201313 - averagewhitekid
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(11/06/2015) [-]
I've always held the though that a movie and dinner date was a great combo. That way if you suck dick at beginning conversations, after the movie, when you eating shit, you can at least start talking about the movie.
Way easier to initiate recent movie talk and moving from there.

Tho I may just be retarded having not dated in a while
#201424 to #201423 - anonymoussarcasm
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I suppose I meant doing dinner than movie is less favorable than a movie then dinner. Yes the movie does then provide subject matter of the conversation but you have still spent half the date just sitting next to each other. I live near the Mcnay art gallery in San Antonio which is a very large gallery. It used to be a huge villa style manner and now in addition to that there is this modern installation with stuff from pop art and post modernism. The gallery has some of the most famous artists from art history in it but isn't jam packed filled with patrons, sometimes you are the only person in a section besides the gallery security person. I have taken so many dates to this place it is gratuitous, it's only ten dollars per person to see the entire museum. At a moderate place it would take maybe three hours to see all of it. The reason I like taking girls here is that it shows a lot about who they are and if you can have fun with them simply looking at art and have meaningful conversations about something or make fun of the art that makes no sense. The reason I'm telling you this is because all of the girls found it wildly refreshing to have a guy take them someplace like that instead of a restaurant it sets you apart from other people they have dated but it can also be the point where I know I no longer want to see them. If you can find some activity where: 1. Both of you are interacting with each other the majority of the time and 2 you both are enjoying the activity because it's a similar interest the date will almost always go well. Significantly better than dinner and infinitely better than a movie.
#201425 to #201424 - averagewhitekid
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(11/06/2015) [-]
Fair nuff
I mean, next girl I'm looking at dating has an annual pass to Disney World like myself, so that'll probably be my go to date zone
#201426 to #201425 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/06/2015) [-]
You owe it to yourself...No, you owe it to YOUR species to get head on Space Mountain.
#201427 to #201426 - averagewhitekid
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(11/06/2015) [-]
believe me, on the old edition of space mountain, this would definitely be a goal
But now its single person rows that are super cramped, so this is almost beyond impossible.

Plus, everyone knows that Splash Mountain is where its at in the "get head on a disney ride" club
#201428 to #201427 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/06/2015) [-]
This couple while I was there was kicked out for giving head on "It's a small world" Didn't even try to hide it.
#201430 to #201428 - averagewhitekid
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Jeez, that'd be a little too much for me. Way too well lit, and always has at least one row of kids on it at all times.
I think you could legitimately get away with it if you went on the Dumbo ride though. All you gotta do is fly is all the way as far as it goes and then try to bust in a minute and a half.
Or I mean easy mode would be one of those slow ass "rides" like Carousel of Progress, sitting in the back
#201431 to #201430 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/06/2015) [-]
Some of those rides you risk getting your Johnson bitten off on accident if you're brave stupid enough to try.
#201432 to #201431 - averagewhitekid
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(11/06/2015) [-]
If you even attempted it on Big Thunder Mountain, I can guarantee you that your girl gets whiplash and you lose all of your dick at the first hill
#201433 to #201432 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/06/2015) [-]
Probability has told us that there is at least one person in the world who has a fantasy similar to that.
#201314 to #201313 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
wise sage anonymoussarcasm strikes again

Well, I just hope she responds. It could be that she was just a nice person that smiles at strangers and then accepts all advances of conversation and sitting together while seemingly thoroughly enjoying all of it, but so far she's only responded with pretty short messages on facebook, and only when I've messaged her while she's active.
It'd be a first for people I know, but I'm hoping she just doesn't use it very much and doesn't pay attention to notifications if they're even on.

This also means I'm going to have to wake up early and keep an eye on it, so I can ask her to meet up when she's actually online. Our college schedules are incredibly fucky, sometimes you go in super late in the day and sometimes you have like 3 hours break.

Insecurities rant over. I'm just taking this seriously because this has literally never happened before. Also because it's 5AM, I'm not tired, and the new Arrow episode isn't out yet. I've only made kind of average friends through situational closeness like being on the same course.
#201315 to #201314 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
The thing is do not message her first more than she initiates conversation with you. Presented with the opportunity that seems natural ask but be ready for rejection, I'm not saying don't go into it confident with yourself, just don't expect it to be in the bag yet. You've got this, I'm not saying this to impress you but I have never had a longer relationship than 6 months, what I have done is gone on 2-3 with around two dozen girls of all various kinds and you learn what women enjoy and what they don't. You don't want to be that guy on Facebook constantly messaging her. Patience is a virtue it seems counter intuitive but try not to seem too forthcoming or interested, they like a challenge. I believe in you
#201316 to #201315 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Hah, okay. Not my fault if you're disappointed in the outcome, and wasted your belief.

Well, I've sent a message saying something to the effect of 'when are you in college'
if she doesn't see or respond to it I was going to wait until she's active and follow it up with 'cause we should hang out if you've got a break or something' or something like that

If nothing after that... well. I don't want to give up but I also highly doubt I'll see her in person accidentally again.
#201317 to #201316 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
It's college mate, bitches be everywhere, play the deck not just one hand. Keep me posted.
#201319 to #201317 - kothaex
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(11/05/2015) [-]
oops, revealed myself
I don't really care
everyone on here knows i'm pathetic already :^)
#201320 to #201319 - kothaex
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(11/05/2015) [-]
just not as pathetic as adun or most of the other people on vgb
#201318 to #201317 - kothaex
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I've been at college for over two years and this is the first person that I've interacted with out of my comfort zone, mostly because it's the first person that's seemed remotely interested in me.

I'll probably forget about this thread but that's not because I don't appreciate the advice, just because my memory is utter shit. That conversation with her was the best thing that's happened in a while but it's still mostly a blur.

Try to keep you posted.
#201321 to #201318 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I've always lived by the motto "do what makes your heart beat faster." Even if it doesn't work out all of the way, you experienced some small spark of living.
#201322 to #201321 - kothaex
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Yup. If nothing else, should be a confidence boost.
#201323 to #201322 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I am a firm Atheist but Imma do a prayer for you. "Dear God, if you can hear this stay out of kothaex's way. Amen"
#201324 to #201323 - kothaex
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>>#201316, ma nigga
that's gay as shit but so is liking girls so what can you do

btw do you not have any wise words on my current message situation or is that like the best possible method I have right now
#201325 to #201324 - anonymoussarcasm
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If you end up failing and you see all these people around getting women and succeeding in the areas you have failed or you begin to feel you aren't good enough. Realize, the only person in this world that you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday.
#201326 to #201325 - kothaex
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(11/05/2015) [-]
you pulling some ghandi shit tonight man

I was just hoping for some input on my plan to message with what and when tho tbh
#201327 to #201326 - anonymoussarcasm
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(11/05/2015) [-]
IM me
#201298 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I think my boyfriend is a homo
what do?
#201300 to #201298 - sugoi
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Grow a penis
#201292 - karlKroenen
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(11/05/2015) [-]
If you could go back in time and tell your past self one thing..what would it be?



You know I can think of like a hundred good quotes that have served me in different situations yet, when it boils down, none of them helped more than the stuff i've told myself in the moment. If anybody told me something that I wasn't in the disposition to accept, I would forget it, and if I was in the disposition to accept it, I would forget it a month later..Have there been things that people told me which I took to heart and never let fade?..Or were they experiences.. I think I would go back and punch myself in the face, because I can't change what I was, but I can feel better about crushing my past self.
#201405 to #201292 - thesunpraiser
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(11/06/2015) [-]
>Go back 2 or 3 years
>"When you see a website called FunnyJunk, don't go to it."
#201339 to #201292 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Tell my self to start lifting and ask my parents for a pull-up bar. I started lifting after I graduated HS. It's the one thing I know that would've definitely changed my life and in a good way. Always wished I did it sooner. Also it would've prepared me better for my career.
#201311 to #201292 - anonymoussarcasm
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This is what I would tell myself:

"Please listen to me: Don't ever fall in love with Oxycontin; because it can never love you back. And those that do, and could never help themselves, fall infinitely in love with painkillers that numb the wrong kind of pain. In the pursuit of finding the way to escape from their hurt, they drown out the parts of themselves that feel at all. And if you finally fall out of that love you'll miss it more than anyone could ever miss something that was with them every single day. But now it has become the greatest pleasure to be able to catch myself in moments where I feel myself feeling again. It isn't worth the brief escape to become irresponsible to your own emotions."
#201308 to #201292 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I'd tell myself to accept invites to do things with friends more often, because if you say no long enough, they stop asking.
#201301 to #201292 - sugoi
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One thing isn't enough to change the personality of a child in a profound way.

I'd just tell them "Invest in JBHIFI until like, 2010 and then sell everything."
#201302 to #201301 - anon
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Exactly.
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#201296 to #201292 - confusedasian
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Only one thing?

I'd go back to sophomore year and tell myself, "Listen here you squinty eye'd fuck, start thinking before you talk and stop living in your head. It's dark in there and it's very bright and beautiful outside."
#201293 to #201292 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
I'd just go back and kill myself.

erase time all together, Back to the future style.
#201291 - anon
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(11/05/2015) [-]
Does anyone recommend using Tinder? I'm pretty lonely and I'm told I'm an 8/9 out of 10. How does it even work anyways?
#201294 to #201291 - anon
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Tinder is more of a meet and fuck kinda situation now - but you register, have a profile picture - when you browse you swipe either left or right (left is dislike, right is like) if both swipe right you can chat and setup a meeting preferably just at a nearby coffee shop so you can meet without it being super serious.
#201295 to #201294 - wertologist
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Honestly just looking for a meet and fuck kind of deal at the moment. I'm merely wondering if it works or not. So far I only got 1 match and no response to my message.
#201297 to #201295 - awesomerninjathing
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(11/05/2015) [-]
you need nice pictures

wait a few days and if you're attractive you'll start getting at least 5 matches a day

don't be too picky when swiping, I swipe on pretty much every girl and skip the really ugly ones
#201390 to #201297 - wertologist
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(11/06/2015) [-]
Recommend any similar apps? It's been two days and I've only gotten 7 matches and only about half actually responded.
#201400 to #201390 - awesomerninjathing
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(11/06/2015) [-]
7 in 2 days is more than half the guys on tinder get

there's no other app that is as efficient

trust me just wait and get better openers
#201415 to #201400 - wertologist
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(11/06/2015) [-]
I keep finding people(probably about 8 so far) who talk about "guacamole". Is this some new "Netflix and chill" or are all these people just very enthusiastic about guacamole?
#201454 to #201415 - awesomerninjathing
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(11/06/2015) [-]
uhhh what? can you screenshot an example?

as for the openers thing, you can either use a shitty pickupline over and over to make them laugh or a pun with their name or just pick something from their bio
#201470 to #201454 - wertologist
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A lot of them talk about "guacamole" in their little bio space. It's either some new term for something or all the white girls in my area are obsessed with guacamole.
#201408 to #201400 - wertologist
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(11/06/2015) [-]
Too bad I'm not too good with opening lines on things like this. Never know what to talk about. I don't share many interests with most people.
#201290 - anon
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Alright. This all happened back in june, but for whatever reason I've been dwelling on it lately. To start off, I've had a love/hate relationship with my little brother for pretty much my whole life. This isn't to say that it was bad or anything, we just argued a lot. Once college started I saw him occasionally and once he started(there's 2 years of difference between us) We rarely saw one another. I moved out of my Parents' house in March and they helped me through a lot of it. Now that I was out of the house, and between two jobs, I never saw him. From what my parents were telling me he was doing well. A few months later, he graduated and now he needed their help moving out too. Now, since his and my bank accounts were set up by my father, he's able to monitor them, and he'd been stingy with me over how and when I could spend money. Naturally, the same applied to my brother with him about to move and all. Roughly mid-june, my Mother picks me up from work so we can go grocery shopping. I ask her how she's been;what's been going on at home. And she tells me the story. My brother had been set to move out that week. He had a place and had already written out a check for First/last month's rent. She tells me that the night before, my father checked brother's account balance/history. Brother spent $130 dollars at some vaping place, barely leaving enough in the bank account to cover the checks he's written. The next time my dad sees him, he goes batshit on him and the argument ended with him walking out. He comes back the next day while only my mom's there and demands to use the shower(the water at his new place isn't on yet.) Mom tries to reason with him and that turns into another argument with him walking out. I've seen him pass by in his car a handful of times over the course of the summer, but since that day he hasn't talked to me or to them.

What can I do about this? He's my little brother, and here I am doing nothing. My whole immediate famliy(and part of the extended) is angry at him. I suck at trying to diffuse tension and am worried that any attempt to rencocile any of this would only get me into deep shit.
#201343 to #201290 - anon
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"There is nothing you can or should do"
Not quite. If it weren't for my sister and mothers help,(mostly my sisters help een though she is younger than him and it's "none of her business") my brother would now have been a hobo/delinquent etc etc
Not trying to scare you and im bad at giving advice. But look. If you didn't give a shit about your brother, it indeed wouldn't have been your problem, right?He's grown up and shit.
But these type of problems are different with each person. And obviouslyyou care about your brother. So even if right now you are goning to tell yourself "It's okay, i did what i could by having one conversation, the rest is up to him". Like. Even if you tell yourself this right now. And your little bro comes into trouble later on, and there is no going back anymore... you'll regret it. You really will.

Goodluck buddy
#201344 to #201343 - profssortwntyight
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#201330 to #201290 - schurftinator
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it's his life, and this business is between him and your parents. there is nothing you can or should do. at most, talk with him and maybe ask him if he wants any advice on finances or needs any help. but if he rejects, you did your best and the rest is up to him.
#201288 - ishallsmiteyou
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I can't (legally) drive and nobody in this fucking house will buy food for anyone but themselves even if I give them money for it. Nearest grocery store is a 3 hour bike ride away. Wat do?
#201345 to #201288 - profssortwntyight
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Same as others. Try asking them why they won't do it, and try to resolve from there, but if that won't work either.. At least your Legs will become stronger :/
I dunno man, try to plan it so that your bike ride isn't too much of a waste of time Like doing it if you're near that area anyway . And plan ahead so you won't have to make more than 1 trip a week/every two weeks

Wait wtf. Why the hell is the nearest store 3hours away from you? Where do you live? Top of the mount everest?
#201371 to #201345 - ishallsmiteyou
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Small town in SW Ontario. Fairly hilly here, so what would take me 20-30 minutes with a car takes me 3 hours or so on a bike.
#201304 to #201288 - kothaex
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>>#201289,
#201289 to #201288 - anon
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better start peddling, son.
#201283 - anon
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I absolutely hate the course I am on at university.

so far it has not been as advertised at the open days. I would change course but I don't know what to and I don't trust them now. I'm sure as hell not going home, sure I could get a job but then what?

what do I do?
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#201284 to #201281 - anon
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#201277 - youraveragesupport ONLINE
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I just need to tell my story, cause I don't know what's going to happen to me, and I need someone to know.
It started in July, I met this girl on tinder who I thought didn't really like me that much, but eventually, when we started talking more, I started falling for her. I even told her I liked her, which is weird for me, cause I'm a pussy. She said she had never even been in a relationship, or even had someone say that they like her before. The only problem was, she was incredibly busy and went to school 2 hours away. We met a couple months later, when we both had an opening, and I fell hard for her, and she said she did the same for me too. 3 weeks later, I saw her again, and we made it official, we were dating. It was the happiest I'd been in a long time.
It's hard to explain, but it all feels different with her, it feels right. When I'm with her, it all feels like it was meant to be.
It was hard on both of us though, not being able to see each other. I wanted to see her, and she knew I would have taken the day off work to see her, but she wouldn't let me. I finally saw her again on this past friday, and we were both so happy. I wished it wouldn't end, but it did. The next day, Halloween, she was at a party with her sister, who is always kinda weird around me. We didn't talk much Sunday during the day, but she called me and said she was ending it. I fell apart, I was bawling, sitting on the ground, trying to get her to reconsider. She was set in stone. It had always been about what was best for her, since I wanted her to have a nice first relationship, so I let her go.
Since then, I've gotten 2 hours of sleep, I've eaten hardly anything, and I can't bring myself to do much. I feel violently ill, and it feels like there's a literal hole in my chest. I've had to be on the phone with one of my friends almost all the time he's not sleeping or in class cause he's worried I'm going to hurt myself, and I've thought about it.
Last night, though, I did something stupid, I called her and begged for her back. I told her how I had been feeling, how I had had what I thought was an anxiety attack in class where I couldn't breathe, and how I had thoughts of doing something bad to myself. She compared me to the girl I was with before who had constantly threatened to commit suicide, and when she would do it, she would scream obscenities at me. I was turning into something I hate, and I'm so angry at myself.
I convinced her to think about it though, she said I just have to give her time, but I don't know. I'm scared she's gonna say no again, and I'll be back to where I was, and I'm really scared I'm going to become something I hate. I know, this is a fucked up situation, and the chances that any of you have an idea of how to un-fuck my life and me are slim to none, but it'd be cool if you did. I'm sorry for the wall of text.
#201382 to #201277 - kegget
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First break-ups are terrible for everyone, it's a part of growing up. I felt like dying for almost a year after mine, you'll get over it.
#201329 to #201277 - schurftinator
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these things happen and it feels horrible, I know. maybe delete her number for the time being so you can't contact her anymore?
distract yourself, do things you enjoy, hang out with friends, you can cling to these feelings as long as you want but that isn't going to bring her back. it's over, you got to move on, just take care of yourself.
#201282 to #201277 - rokkai
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break-ups are always sad and breaks my heart too. but this is life m8. like it or not, this is meant to happen in a guys life imo. maybe things turns out very well for you but im always skeptical about this "time" thing. but as i said, i really hope things go on your way. and it's okay to feel down after a break up. just drink, listen to some sad music, maybe cry but try to shake it off as soon as possible, and get your head in the game, good luck man.
#201273 - JHDog
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Falling in love with this girl, started dating this summer friends since high school (I'm a senior in college now) she lives 90 min away so I don't see her often. We text here and there and facetime almost everyday. She so busy and focused on her school, but I wish i could see her more. It's gotten to the point where i can't focus on school work. I keep thinking about her, how do I focus less on her and more on school/myself? Haven't dropped the L-bomb yet, feel like its too soon
#201280 to #201273 - youraveragesupport ONLINE
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The way I did it, and I don't know if this will work for you, but when I need to focus, I spend 10 minutes working out hard. As many push-ups, crunches, and wall sits as I can do for 10 minutes. It's hard, but I came back feeling more focused and driven.
#201285 to #201280 - JHDog
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I've been running (2 miles everyday) and lifting hard, I am focused as i'm doing but then the focus goes away once I calm down.
#201286 to #201285 - youraveragesupport ONLINE
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My other suggestion, which may or may not help, is whackin it before you have to work on something, and then having a big cup of coffee, keeps you awake and more focused in my experience
#201287 to #201286 - JHDog
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dammit! I appreciate your help, but these things i've tried :/
#201272 - anon
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I was just on FML and saw that one girl is pregnant despite a severe phobia of pregnancy because her boyfriend of three years lied about getting a vasectomy before they met and the condom broke. This absolutely horrified me as I also don't want children in my lifetime. I've only ever had one sexual partner and I am not interested in sex without love and at least one form of protection. But this is terrifying that you could love and trust someone for years and err on the side of caution and you can still get fucked over anyway. What are the odds of this happening? Is this something I should worry about happening to me? How do you know whether or not you can trust someone like that?
#201383 to #201272 - kegget
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There's always abortion.

But you're exaggerating.
#201276 to #201272 - schurftinator
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there is no such thing as odds for these cases. there are people like out there and you can just happen to have found the bad apple in the bunch who fucks you over, and you can never meet anyone like that. Nor can you ever know if someone will pull such an ill trick on you (honestly there's something wrong with a person who would do such a thing, and it doesn't have to be as obvious).
if you're that worried, always make sure that you are the one in control when it comes to anti-conception.
#201265 - thereasonableperso ONLINE
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#201258 - clubby
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so i have chronic laziness for around 6 years now how to do i get over it thanks in advance
#201274 to #201258 - yourinvisiblegf
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the more active you are, the more active you get
#201278 to #201274 - confusedasian
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#201279 to #201278 - confusedasian
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#201275 to #201274 - clubby
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#201264 to #201258 - cheastnut
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#201266 to #201264 - drickz
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Actually relevant advice. +1
#201256 - anon
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Is there any reason I wake up 1/2 hours before I should?

This has been happening to me for a while and it's annoying. I don't sleep more than I should, in fact, it's the opposite. Today I went to bed at 2, had to wake up at 8. Still woke up at 7, tired, wanting to sleep again.

Why does this keep happening?
#201271 to #201256 - dreygur
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Go to bed at 11.
#201255 - anon
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My gf of ~2 years left me 2 month ago.. she said I didn't do anything wrong and it's not my fault etc. that I was a near perfect bf, did everything one could ask for but she just "didn't love me anymore" and "there isn't always a reason for that"
I am really having a hard time accepting this. We never really fought, we always had lot's of fun together and I tried my hardest to make her happy. And one day without any warning she just sends me to hell, apparently for no actual reason. Doesn't that basically mean I suck so hard that even when I try my best I am not good enough? I just can't shake this off. I still love her to death and she seems to have forgotten me already..

I try to always learn from failure to improve myself but I fail to see anything here. I can't put a finger on the thing I supposedly did wrong. No one just ends a prefectly happy relationship for no reason right? So what am I supposed to learn from this? How the fuck do I get her out of my mind?
#201257 to #201255 - erikus
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Okay anon get a hold of yourself.

First, when a relationship ends the last thing you have to do is look for reasons to blame yourself. Wanting to improve is okay, but the worst time you can choose for that it's at the end of a relationship. Just have a little bit of pride and self-esteem and realise things are meant to end.

Okay now, about why she left you if you did nothing wrong. Well, maybe you did nothing wrong but that does not mean everything was alright. Maybe she didn't feel like you two were mean to be together, or got bored, or found a guy she liked most.
Now any of the things I said are not your fault, so don't worry about it.

The best thing you can do it's keep your head high, and wait for the pain to dissapear. Don't chase her, don't try to fix it and most important don't blame you for something that happens everyday, to everyone. Accepting things that we can't understand it's a great challenge and the best way of growing up, as we only get to understand much, much later.
#201259 to #201257 - anon
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I see your point and it sounds really good tbh, but I don't see how it wouldn't be my fault if she got bored of me.
#201261 to #201259 - schurftinator
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maybe bored isn't the right word, but sometimes you just lose that spark you had in the beginning and the attraction is gone. And that doesn't have to do with her, it just happens, and though you felt like she fitted perfectly with you apparently she didn't feel the same anymore.

And you shouldn't have to want to change yourself to accomodate someone else. You could do all sorts of stuff that she would want you to do, but then you wouldn't be happy in the end as you're not being yourself. And even then, the attraction on her side would still be gone.
#201262 to #201261 - anon
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So how the hell do I stop thinking about her?
#201263 to #201262 - schurftinator
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it takes time, but do other stuff you enjoy. hang out with friends, practice hobbies, even if you don't feel like it anything other than staying at home being sad and destracting yourself works