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#176634 - apoet (39 minutes ago) [-]
How do I explain myself?
User avatar #176641 to #176634 - amonahan ONLINE (3 minutes ago) [-]
try to sum yourself up in one word or one sentence. And don't use ANY things along the lines of "I'm kind, I'm freely giving, I'm positive." stay away from that. For example, myself? Above all else, I want to be the best father. (I have no kids) But what can you infer from that one sentence about myself? I make bad jokes, I'm caring and loving, responsible, and whatever else you think the BEST Father would be.
User avatar #176640 to #176634 - jokekill ONLINE (5 minutes ago) [-]
You don't need to.
User avatar #176635 to #176634 - tikitaco ONLINE (38 minutes ago) [-]
Depends on what you're trying to explain.
#176636 to #176635 - apoet (35 minutes ago) [-]
I guess it starts with the subject that I've made the bad idea to believe everything I do is connected to who I am. From that, what I do; what I think, what I feel, what I believe, what I see, what I hear and ultimately from that what I think I am.
#176638 to #176636 - redandgreen (23 minutes ago) [-]
I agree with it tikitaco. You should take joy where you can as well, don't be too hard on yourself
User avatar #176637 to #176636 - tikitaco ONLINE (34 minutes ago) [-]
That can be good, and it can be bad. Don't take everything so seriously, you know the saying "don't sweat the small stuff"?
User avatar #176607 - primeconduit (4 hours ago) [-]
I need some help long story short i took in a wandering cat around my neighborhood he is developing skin afflictions i made a fundraiser for him am I allowed to make content on here dedicated to him with a link to the funraiser
#176609 to #176607 - anonexplains (4 hours ago) [-]
You won't get banned for it if that's what you're asking.
User avatar #176610 to #176609 - primeconduit (4 hours ago) [-]
thats what I was asking alright I will do it then thankyou
User avatar #176606 - jazzd (4 hours ago) [-]
Has any of you guys some time to talk? I just.. I don't know, Im blocked, I just passed the last three hours looking at the ceiling. I have no reason to do anything...
User avatar #176642 to #176606 - amonahan ONLINE (2 minutes ago) [-]
What's up man?
User avatar #176616 to #176606 - sineztro (3 hours ago) [-]
What's up home?
User avatar #176622 to #176616 - jazzd (3 hours ago) [-]
I dont know man, i've been like that for a while. Like there's no point on trying if I'm gonna end up failing anyways.

Maybe it's just the weather, maybe I feel stuck in this forsaken town with nobody I get with, maybe Im just a sad loner and it cant be helped
User avatar #176624 to #176622 - sineztro (3 hours ago) [-]
Do you have a vehicle?
User avatar #176625 to #176624 - jazzd (3 hours ago) [-]
Nope, what do you wanna suggest?
#176626 to #176625 - anonexplains (3 hours ago) [-]
Enlisting in the military is a simple way of getting the fuck out of where ever you live.
User avatar #176627 to #176626 - jazzd (3 hours ago) [-]
Nah, Im stuck at uni, but I lost motivation, I dont know if I want to be a doctor anymore, I dont want to do anything
User avatar #176628 to #176627 - sineztro (3 hours ago) [-]
PM me the uni, but I was gonna suggest taking a weekend to go night riding in town
User avatar #176629 to #176628 - jazzd (2 hours ago) [-]
I think maybe I should go to my hometown and just do that, take a ride with my father's car.

My uni is in Spain, I'm trying to get a scholarship to France next year, I have the grades and all that jazz, but I had french exams last week and this one, and Im struggling just to go, I dont know how that will end.

Thanks for listening btw
User avatar #176630 to #176629 - sineztro (2 hours ago) [-]
Any time mi amigo (is that how you spell it in spain?) Sorry I speak Mexican Spanish so sometimes it translates weird, but yeah visting your parents is always a good idea espically if you miss them, you should call them before you visit so that way they can be ready to pick you up and everything
#176590 - hidanfangirl (5 hours ago) [-]
So, a few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend Jaden for mental reasons, but we're still very close friends. However, I keep having strong sexual fantasies about him, and I'm afraid to tell him because he's Asexual and he might see me as a creep if I tell him. Do you know any ways to make the thoughts stop?
User avatar #176643 to #176590 - amonahan ONLINE (9 seconds ago) [-]
Here's how I get over the break up "I want them back" deal. Just imagine them taking the most god awful, disgusting shit you've ever seen. I mean like he's angry on the toilet kind of shit. And the worst part? Most people have been in that situation. So it's real. It's disgusting. And you probably won't want to think of them any longer.
User avatar #176631 to #176590 - iridium ONLINE (1 hour ago) [-]
Here's the thing, a LOT of young people have strong sexual urges. It's fine to have the fantasies as long as you are able to keep yourself under control (and if you find yourself aroused you can just masturbate). You don't need to tell him either. Just find another way to channel it, and you'll probably get over it sooner or late.
#176593 to #176590 - redandgreen (5 hours ago) [-]
No. You should try and move on some how.
#176592 to #176590 - anonexplains (5 hours ago) [-]
Find another boyfriend. Sexual release via masturbation. Think about something else you like or what you're going to do with the rest of the day. Do something to keep your mind off it ie. videogames or exercising.
User avatar #176584 - marinepenguin (5 hours ago) [-]
My girlfriend of almost two years talks about marriage all the time. And I really don't plan on marrying her, or getting married at all for a long time.
User avatar #176608 to #176584 - focalanemo (4 hours ago) [-]
If she wants to marry you, and you don't want to marry her. That's a big problem in a relationship that can lead up to a breakup.
User avatar #176585 to #176584 - braveblue (5 hours ago) [-]
If you don't want to marry her at all then I'd suggest that you break away from her.
User avatar #176586 to #176585 - marinepenguin (5 hours ago) [-]
I leave for basic training this summer. I had planned on doing it then, but my desire to be single is starting to grow. Plus she is so head over heels for me that breaking up with her is going to be a massive struggle.
User avatar #176587 to #176586 - braveblue (5 hours ago) [-]
The sooner the better for her and yourself I'd guess.
User avatar #176588 to #176587 - marinepenguin (5 hours ago) [-]
It's not like I don't like her, she cool and we get along really well, I just don't think I love her, and I don't see myself with her long term. What's making this even more tough is our two years is this month.
#176596 to #176588 - anonexplains (5 hours ago) [-]
You can try telling her that you're not interested in marriage anytime soon. This will possibly make her reevaluate her relationship with her and she'll be the one to break up with you.
User avatar #176598 to #176596 - marinepenguin (5 hours ago) [-]
I have. She's asked when I was going to ask her to marry her. And I said, "I don't plan on getting married anytime soon". Which I don't. It crushed her, but she keeps saying that she hopes I'll change my mind. I highly doubt she'd ever break up with me. Plus that seems like a cheap way to end it.
#176600 to #176598 - redandgreen (5 hours ago) [-]
That would be a cheap way to end it.
User avatar #176602 to #176600 - marinepenguin (4 hours ago) [-]
Exactly why I wouldn't do it.
#176597 to #176596 - anonexplains (5 hours ago) [-]
reevaluate her relationship with her you
#176594 to #176588 - redandgreen (5 hours ago) [-]
That's a long time to be with her if you don't love her.
User avatar #176595 to #176594 - marinepenguin (5 hours ago) [-]
My feelings have seemingly faded over time. I used to be head over heels for her. We started dating in high school, people change I guess.

She has also been my first serious relationship.
#176599 to #176595 - redandgreen (5 hours ago) [-]
You should be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Just don't be a dick about it.
User avatar #176604 to #176599 - marinepenguin (4 hours ago) [-]
I don't really need help with breaking up, don't really need much help at all. I just felt like talking about it, that's all. I don't really have people to talk to about relationship stuff irl.
User avatar #176632 to #176604 - iridium ONLINE (1 hour ago) [-]
You really should. This isn't going to get better over time, and it's going to be harder and harder on the both of you.
User avatar #176578 - badsamaritan ONLINE (8 hours ago) [-]
I need to make a temporary forum/fanpage, whats the best NA free website creator?? Thanks
User avatar #176577 - landofbabe (9 hours ago) [-]
Hi, i play dungeons and dragons 4.0 with my mates.
One of them wants a dog companion or sth like that.
i fkin cant find any lists with companions only some mounts ;(

pls help
User avatar #176579 to #176577 - lordbrauner (8 hours ago) [-]
Use the monster manual, choose the size of the dog and use a wolf's stats with the corresponding size. That's what I do.
User avatar #176605 to #176579 - landofbabe (4 hours ago) [-]
ah thanks thats a useful tip. i just wanted to be sure that nothing like pets exists, thanks
User avatar #176576 - cazabrow (9 hours ago) [-]
do any of you guys know how to revert the format of FJ back to the old version?

Without the drop down menus, the scrolling content list and even the smaller content boxes on channel pages?

Not sure why addy thought these would be a good idea.
User avatar #176559 - theplatypusfarm (12 hours ago) [-]
So I live in Iceland but I'm in Thailand for quite some time and I really like this girl and she like's me back but she is in Iceland. So my question is if you where in her position would you wait?
User avatar #176569 to #176559 - amonahan ONLINE (10 hours ago) [-]
Depends on how long you're in thailand. Few months = yea sure I can wait. Few years = sorry mang. Ain't gunna work out.
User avatar #176571 to #176569 - theplatypusfarm (10 hours ago) [-]
A few months, thank you c:
User avatar #176567 to #176559 - sugoi (11 hours ago) [-]
I don't know you well enough to make that call.
Also I don't know if there are plenty of hot, sexy, rich and intelligent men throwing themselves at me.
User avatar #176573 to #176567 - theplatypusfarm (10 hours ago) [-]
I at least think I'm a pretty nice guy but i don't know what her situation is back home (about other guys). like what could do to make her want to wait?
#176581 to #176573 - redandgreen (6 hours ago) [-]
Send her postcards of where you have visited and Skype with her.
User avatar #176612 to #176581 - theplatypusfarm (3 hours ago) [-]
Thank you so much :3
User avatar #176558 - kingron (13 hours ago) [-]
Dear FJ
I love video games for many things, but why do I get that feeling that I do not wan't to continue the game. I mean seriously like I start the first five levels and then I got tired of it, even though I really like to play it, how do I shake of this feeling. PS the last game I finished is Portal 2
User avatar #176633 to #176558 - hirollin (45 minutes ago) [-]
i know that feel
can't play games unless im with friends. they are usually casual games. playing by myself is just completely unfun.
User avatar #176570 to #176558 - amonahan ONLINE (10 hours ago) [-]
Take some time off. Do something else, ANYTHING else. Even professionals need time off every once in a while.
#176563 to #176558 - minutes (11 hours ago) [-]
I know that feeling. I just stopped playing video games.
User avatar #176560 to #176558 - theplatypusfarm (12 hours ago) [-]
Is it like you look at the game and don't want to play it or you don't like playing it anymore?
User avatar #176561 to #176560 - kingron (12 hours ago) [-]
I don't like playing the game any more no matter how much I force myself and no matter how good the game is, it weirdly happens
User avatar #176562 to #176561 - theplatypusfarm (11 hours ago) [-]
Damn. Uhm try playing the game differently like try just fucking things up. I did that when I got bored of Fallout 3 c:.
User avatar #176564 to #176562 - kingron (11 hours ago) [-]
Hmmm, interestingly I did like games when it I just fuck around like in skyrim but I get pressured because my classmates are already far in their quest while I'm in here fucking around with a cabbage. Eventually I tried to go to the main quest and I got bored. Same thing happened to Far cry 3
User avatar #176565 to #176564 - theplatypusfarm (11 hours ago) [-]
hahaha, yea I tried also playing like a civilian in skyrim. i was cutting wood from 8-18 then i sold what i got and on weekends i would explore and maybe do a side quest c:
User avatar #176566 to #176565 - kingron (11 hours ago) [-]
wow cool, on far cry 3 I attack outpost using all kinds of weapon that burns or explode, and hell was it fun
#176553 - Tapacx (14 hours ago) [-]
Dear FJ I need some serious cheering up please.

At some point in my life, I'd discovered that the entire purpose of my existence was to make everyone smile and I've always been fine with that. I had always believed that other people being was what made me truly happy, and to an extent it did, but it just isn't completely fulfilling, y'know? And, in all honesty, seeing people around me being happy and enjoying their lives, it's been making me feel a heck of a lot lonely. I always come back home and sit in my room all on my lonesome and I've always had other things to distract me, like school or the internet or more recently work, but on nights like tonight, with me having to take time off of work and having seen every video that'll entertain me, it always comes back to how lonely I feel.

Having a girlfriend usually fixes this problem, but every girl I date has upgraded to a new guy and I just feel like the secondary character, who shows the girl where her true love actually is and it makes me wonder, will there ever be an instance where I can become the main character? I mean, I know that in order for someone to succeed, someone else must fail, but why is it me that has to fail everytime?

I just . . . I need like someone to cheer me up. A stupid cute picture or a great joke. Just anything. I've always been grateful for everyone and everything here at FJ. You've always been there to make me laugh and smile and I love you all for that. So please, just once more.
#176572 to #176553 - amonahan ONLINE (10 hours ago) [-]
Couple points to address here.
1) It's your life, and your happiness comes first. Making others happy makes you feel good for a while but it isn't a permanent fix. Do what makes you happy and do it. Help others when you know you are satisfied with your life.
2) You are the main character and you just don't know it. Every main character has had a folly or failure along the way; you're no different. Persistence. Pick yourself back up and get out there again. Keep trying.
3) Here is some funny
#176556 to #176553 - sugoi (13 hours ago) [-]
WebM of encouragement   
   
Words of encouragement   
Hey man like all good things it takes time, you'll find a girl that likes you eventually but there's two important things to keep in mind, one is that you always gotta keep your eyes peeled, heck your "soulmate" might be someone in your friendzone, the other is to keep your expectations and opinion of yourself slightly above nothing, that way you will be delightfully surprised when something amazing happens and less disappointed when something bad happens.   
   
Youtube video of cats*   
www.youtube.com/watch?v=lAIGb1lfpBw   
   
**Great joke   
www.funnyjunk.com/Miley+cyborg/funny-pictures/5366210/1#1   
Go look at the content first.
WebM of encouragement

Words of encouragement
Hey man like all good things it takes time, you'll find a girl that likes you eventually but there's two important things to keep in mind, one is that you always gotta keep your eyes peeled, heck your "soulmate" might be someone in your friendzone, the other is to keep your expectations and opinion of yourself slightly above nothing, that way you will be delightfully surprised when something amazing happens and less disappointed when something bad happens.

Youtube video of cats*
www.youtube.com/watch?v=lAIGb1lfpBw

**Great joke

www.funnyjunk.com/Miley+cyborg/funny-pictures/5366210/1#1
Go look at the content first.

User avatar #176557 to #176556 - sugoi (13 hours ago) [-]
Fuck you funnyjunk and your shitty smilies.
User avatar #176554 to #176553 - choobe (13 hours ago) [-]
Okay, try this one:
What's the difference between black and white jews?
The black ones have to sit in the back of the gas chamber

Also; if you want to become the "main character" you have to become assertive, if you let people exploit you, they will. Help people, but not when it takes away from stuff you want to do for yourself, also, get a life goal and try to reach it, or a hobby to dedicate time to.
User avatar #176544 - marioisbestpony (16 hours ago) [-]
Anyone know how to convert Youtube vids to .webm?
User avatar #176603 to #176544 - pokemonstheshiz ONLINE (4 hours ago) [-]
www.mp4.ee/

Convert to a variety of sizes and formats, webms being one
User avatar #176551 to #176544 - jedimage (15 hours ago) [-]
I use this www.clipconverter.cc/
Converts them into mp4s though, not webms. It's good enough for FJ.
User avatar #176552 to #176551 - marioisbestpony (15 hours ago) [-]
It's perfect. Thanks.
User avatar #176547 to #176546 - marioisbestpony (16 hours ago) [-]
I already googled it, I've been struggling with it for 35 minutes, I just thought that someone here might know and save me the trouble.
User avatar #176549 to #176547 - WhereMehSammich (15 hours ago) [-]
If you use the first website just follow the directions. copy/paste youtube link. click analysis youtube. choose format. name file(optional). start/download.
You should specify your problem and hopefully someone will come along and have an answer, rather than asking for someone to help you with a problem we don't know yet.
Hope this helps though...
User avatar #176550 to #176549 - marioisbestpony (15 hours ago) [-]
Will do. Thanks.
User avatar #176541 - corps (16 hours ago) [-]
Gameshow idea I just thought up:

Parent and kid are split up into two separate rooms. They can't see or hear each other at all during this time. The kid (the age of the child will vary) is then asked about various sexual questions and words where they then have to state what they think it means or what their thoughts are on it. Meanwhile the parent has to say what they think their kid will answer.

Thoughts?
#176545 to #176541 - anonexplains (16 hours ago) [-]
Too inappropriate for daytime tv, but not quite dirty enough for late night. It's a good idea for something like Adult Swim or some show that has random shit like maybe the old madtv. Can't really think of a show to pitch it to other than tosh.0. Also yeah I'd assume finding participants will be somewhat difficult.
User avatar #176542 to #176541 - sugoi (16 hours ago) [-]
Sexual harassment lawsuits.
User avatar #176516 - yanksfan (20 hours ago) [-]
There's a girl I work with and she's liked me for a little while now. I think she's very pretty and I think I've grown to like her even though we hardly talk. We've never really conversed with each other, just minimal small talk. I know she really likes me because she used to flirt a lot (she gave up because I wasn't responding to her), but I'm just way too nervous to talk to her. I get really uncomfortable when someone I know that likes me talks to me, plus I'm shy. I don't know what to do...
#176529 to #176516 - anonexplains (19 hours ago) [-]
Be a version of yourself that isn't a bitch. basically be alpha.
When they say confidence is key they ain't lying.
User avatar #176514 - hwangw (20 hours ago) [-]
I can't log onto FJ on my laptop, when I try it says request failed. I can browse as an anon but that's it. I can't comment or thumb either. I've tried clearing cache and cookies and reinstalling chrome but still nothing. Any ideas on how I might fix this?
#176530 to #176514 - anonexplains (19 hours ago) [-]
Try logging into a different account?
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User avatar #176496 - zerositnator (21 hours ago) [-]
Does anybody have the content on here about the dog that goes crazy when it hears "CHILD PORN"? I realize there is a youtube video and shit of it, but I need the content link.
#176493 - flixoe (21 hours ago) [-]
So I've been with a girl for two years (I'm right now 18 and she's a month from being 18), healthy relationship, no sex at all, I'm ultimate beta fag, etc. But enough about that. I've known that her parents treat her sometimes extremely well and other times like absolute shit and it completely pisses me off. She has come over to my house several times now bawling her eyes out because of how her parents have continuously yelled at her and her dad, especially, who has held her in place and made her look at him while he's screaming at her about how she's wronged them (not being a good member of the family, not doing her part, neglecting her schoolwork (she's in the top 5% of our class, so not even close)). She's being emotionally broken down by this and absolutely hates going back to her house, like cries when she has to go back over (and she's the strongest girl, emotionally, I know, so it's crazy to see). She can't confide in the rest of her family and trying to declare herself an adult a month before she actually turns 18 would be more work than waiting until she is actually 18. She has only told me about this and I, not really knowing what to do, am coming to you guys to see if any of you can help me with this. I considered a child abuse report but the only legal sense it has is that she's been emotionally (not physically) abused by her parents but there is no concrete evidence of this. I mean they're literally tearing her apart, and it breaks my heart to see it. And the child abuse report, if it failed, could easily come back to me, be received as falsified and land me in a miserable spot as well. What do FJ?
User avatar #176538 to #176493 - lordbrauner (18 hours ago) [-]
If she's almost out of there, give it time. If there's anything I've learned in life, it's to never burn bridges. Getting her some distance from her family will likely help both her and her parents come to realize that they care for each other a lot more than they let on. My parents and I absolutely did not get along. The day I moved out was sudden, as I packed up and left after a screaming match between myself and them. I remember my mom threw a glass at me as I left, and I heard my dad say "don't even bother coming back". I didn't, and I regret it because now I don't have a choice in whether I want to see them or not.

If she's held out this long, she can hold out just a little while longer. When the time comes, she'll get away from them, but the support system will still be intact should she ever need it.

Your role is to just be there for her when things get to be too much for her to handle on her own.
#176575 to #176538 - flixoe (9 hours ago) [-]
Thank you so much! I'll make sure that she knows I'm here for her whenever she needs me.
User avatar #176462 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
Just found out my girlfriend for over a year and a half had been raped multiple times by her neighbor over the past several months, she's called the police and everything, but I'm still in shock, confused, just upset with the whole scenario. The worst part is I had to hear it from her parents, because she was too afraid to tell me. I don't want to make things harder on her, but at the same time I'm gonna have a really hard time looking at her the same. Just.....advice please?
User avatar #176539 to #176462 - lordbrauner (18 hours ago) [-]
I think noneckcomics hit the nail on the head here. This is not something that you're supposed to understand or deal with, this is all on her. When she's ready, if she ever is, she'll come and talk to you about it. All you need to do is be patient with her and show empathy and understanding if her anxiety levels increase for any of the various reasons that will probably come of this. Support her, care for her, and when the time is right, listen to her. Don't push the idea, though. She needs to figure this out for herself before she can start to look for more external help, I think.
#176533 to #176462 - anonexplains (19 hours ago) [-]
Well if you wanna catch the guy and your girl is willing you can have her pretend to want more. Have the guy come to your house and then they get frisky then she says no and most likely he will keep going. Make sure to have it all recorded. Kick his ass before anything starts. All you need is attempted rape, then by circumstance he'd probably get convicted of the original rapes as well. After that he goes to prison and the inmates will either kill him or he'll be someone's bitch.
User avatar #176479 to #176462 - amonahan ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
Be a friend to her. Support her. Think about how much she needs you right now. Be there for her.
User avatar #176464 to #176462 - noneckcomics (21 hours ago) [-]
"I'm gonna have a really hard time looking at her the same" Why? You should be there to support her, not to judge or treat her any differently. She probably didn't tell you because of exactly that.
User avatar #176481 to #176464 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
I think I came off wrong there I mean I'm just very uncomfortable with fact that she was raped. This thing is So far out of my comfort zone that I have no idea what to do.
User avatar #176484 to #176481 - noneckcomics (21 hours ago) [-]
Remember, this happened to her not you. I wouldn't let her know you feel any worse towards her for it, if you do that it. Don't come across as self-centered, she isn't yours, she's a person.
User avatar #176491 to #176484 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
Alright man, thanks.
User avatar #176492 to #176491 - noneckcomics (21 hours ago) [-]
Good luck with it all bud, still not sure how she could get raped on different occasions, after the first event didn't she call the police...
User avatar #176495 to #176492 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
The guy was a neighbor and trusted friend of her family. He convinced her that no one would believe her.
User avatar #176498 to #176495 - noneckcomics (21 hours ago) [-]
So, like he's in jail now right? That would be my initial concern...
User avatar #176501 to #176498 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
No, he robbed them blind and disappeared off the face of the earth. This all only came to light after he started forwarding nude pictures of her to everyone they knew.
User avatar #176507 to #176501 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
In light of this news I really enforce what I said, please as soon as you can go see her in person and let her know you still love her and that the man who did that to her can't break her. She's still who she was before and she's still loved.
User avatar #176504 to #176501 - noneckcomics (21 hours ago) [-]
Dang, what an awful situation...
User avatar #176508 to #176504 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Yeah it is, and I feel pretty frickin powerless to do anything making it better.
User avatar #176509 to #176508 - noneckcomics (20 hours ago) [-]
Have you tried just asking her how you could help?
User avatar #176510 to #176509 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Yeah, she said getting to see me this weekend would help make things better.
User avatar #176512 to #176510 - noneckcomics (20 hours ago) [-]
I wish you two the best.
User avatar #176517 to #176512 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Thanks man. I just hope they find the fucker responsible for it all.
User avatar #176522 to #176517 - noneckcomics (20 hours ago) [-]
What comes around goes around, I'm sure he'll be dropping soap soon enough. Besides, such scum doesn't deserve to live rent free inside your head.
User avatar #176525 to #176522 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
I can't help it, I'm a worry-er. I fret over things.
User avatar #176527 to #176525 - noneckcomics (20 hours ago) [-]
Worrying has never helped anything.
User avatar #176528 to #176527 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
I know, all its ever done in the past is give me stomachs ulcers. I have no doubt in my mind this will give me one. But I can't help but worry about her, I love her.
User avatar #176463 to #176462 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
honestly. Just be there for her, and maybe don't touch her. After being raped a lot of victims don't want to be touched. Don't treat her any differently, that's most likely the reason she didn't want to tell you. Just be there to listen when she's ready to talk.

Why don't you think you can look at her the same?
User avatar #176477 to #176463 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
Because we're dealing with the fact that some filthy lowlife raped her, and this thing is so far out of my comfort zone I don't even know where to start. I'm Just confused and upset and I don't know what to think.
User avatar #176480 to #176477 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
She went to the police, she had to retell her story over and over, get tested for STD's , blood drawn and had a tiny camera shoved up her cooch for a rape kit. Seriously just support her.

The guy who did that to her is an evil piece of shit and he'll get what's coming to him when he goes to jail, the process won't be fast and they might not even convict him. Your girlfriend needs someone to lean on right now. Let that be you.
User avatar #176500 to #176480 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
I've done my best to comfort her over the phone. Told her she could trust me and talk to me about anything. Feel like Shit I couldn't comfort her in person, I'm stuck at college. Still getting over the shock of the news.
User avatar #176502 to #176500 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (21 hours ago) [-]
whenever you get the chance to see her surprise her with foods she loves (chocolates, ice cream, cakes) and movies. A night for you guys to just stay in and chill. A movie will let you guys spend time together while you don't necessarily have to talk but you'll still be close. Also I'd suggest giving her a giant stuffed animal of some sort. Something to comfort her when you're not around.

Tell me her favorite animal and I can see if I can find a giant version of it? That is if you're up for that. I think it'd be good for her, having something to squeeze and hug and to remind her of you. It's what my boyfriend did and we're also long distance dating.
User avatar #176511 to #176502 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
She likes horses. And anime.
User avatar #176515 to #176513 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Thanks. I think she would love that. I'll have to save up for it, but at least now I can feel like I'm doing something.
User avatar #176518 to #176515 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
I'm really glad I could help. Also just keep in mind you don't have to buy her things to feel like you're doing stuff, taking her on a pic nick or camping (if she's into that) are low cost dates and will still show you care
User avatar #176519 to #176518 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Maybe the picnic idea, both her parents are in really poor health, and they rely heavily on having her around, so it's hard to get her out of the house.
User avatar #176520 to #176519 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Well it's a good thing she has someone like you who cares for her . When you get the horse you should put one of your shirts on it. It's sounds creepy but the main reason girls steal guy hoodies is cause the guy smells great. We give them back once they lose their smell.
User avatar #176521 to #176520 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
She could have all my fucking hoodies man, just anything to make her feel better. I love this girl to bits, if I wasn't a poorfag in college I'd have asked her to marry me already.
User avatar #176523 to #176521 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
It'll take time for her to feel better. And seriously it's great that you love her, just make sure she knows it . But I do find it comforting to steal my boyfriends hoodies and wear them/smell them. Especially when the smell like him. So maybe she would to.
User avatar #176526 to #176523 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
Ok. I'll ask her if she'd like to borrow one.
User avatar #176531 to #176526 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
alright well good luck with everything.
User avatar #176532 to #176531 - secondlawprevails ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
Thanks. Can I pm you in the future as things progress? I feel like talking is really helping me sort my thoughts out.
User avatar #176537 to #176532 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
Yea of course. I'll add you.
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