Just be yourself. Like, look how I handle these questions;
-"Are you shy?"
No, I just don't want to talk.
-"Are you Ok?
I'm fine.
-"Why are you so quite?"
I think a lot.
-"Do you hate people or something?"
Hate's a strong word. People annoy me.
-"What's your problem?"
Go away.
See? Just embrace your hate and be a douche. You're going to end up playing videogames alone anyway so don't be bothered by what other people think of you.
Who said we hate? didn't you just said "hate is a strong word?"
I can see that conversation going nowhere if you put it together
Are you shy?
-No, I just don't want to talk
Why, are you ok?
-I'm fine.
Then, why are you so quiet?
-I think a lot
... Do you hate people or something?
-Hate's a strong word. People annoy me.
Geez, what's your problem?
-Go away
I knew it, you're not ok
can someone explain to me? introverts. I feel like this may apply somewhat to me, i have it where i will be sitting round with my friends and il just get the urge to go sit in my room for a while, like this compelling "i would like to be alone for a while", is this just average for most people?
same here... I go to school every morning, 30 minute break then work for 9 hours talking to hundreds of different people every day. It's a ****** nightmare and the bane of my god damn existence.
I stay up every night until 5-6 AM on my computer or working out or building **** because I can't function the next day without my alone time. I then wake up 3-4 hours later and repeat the same ******** . I only get 1 off day and I sleep until 3-4 PM because I'm so ******* sleep deprived and it affects my mental health. All of my friends have families and like 80+ hour work weeks now, so no close friends to talk to or have fun with to relieve stress. And how could you make new friends when you only have a couple hours 1 day of the week to hang out?
An introvert as opposed to an extrovert. Someone who is extroverted is outgoing and thrives when around other people. They have a lot of friends, and feel bothered if they don't.
An introvert is the opposite. They thrive when alone. They prefer quality over quantity when it comes to friends, and are rather more bothered by higher numbers of friends than lower ones.
The causes of either behavior pattern are many. Being insecure or having a lack of self-confidence can make one an introvert, but these are not the only causes. In fact, many extroverted people are just as insecure or lacking in self-confidence as the most reclusive people.
Causes for introverted behavior can range from emotional trauma and anxiety, to simply enjoying being left to your thoughts more than you enjoy being around others. The most common type of introvert is the one who has plenty of friends, and spends plenty of time with them, but for every hour spent in contact with another, they need two hours alone. While it is enjoyable to spend time with others, it is also exhausting to be in a social mode, and there are few solitary places where one can socially switch off. So they go home, go in their room, and relax alone for a few hours.
Most introverts can't completely relax when around others, and everybody needs time to unwind.
Not 100% true. Some extroverts are shy, like me. I'm really energized around a small-medium group of friends, but I hate being around a bunch of people I don't know.
> no sun or obnoxious bright lights everywhere
> everyone is stressed during the day, everyone is chili at night
> no waiting for lights
> no lines... ever
> no needing to deal with or talk to people
> perfect schedule if there's a party somewhere
True story:
>be me
>maybe 2 or 3 months ago
>friend i chill with invites me to a party
>normally i don't go (get invited to) parties but i decide to go anyway
>show up at 6
>typical ******** waiting for people to show
>been maybe an hour and this girl shows up
>go over and start talking to her
>not too interesting, but I can tell she'd be a great root
>start flirting hard so she gets the picture
>she interrupts me "wow look at that sunset"
>couldn't give less of a ****
>suddenly she is chili
>look around
>everyone is chili
>go home and play video games
So it was around 10 pm on a saturday 2 weeks ago. A true story
>left my house for the first time in a week to get the pizza I ordered (is cheaper when I don't have it delivered).
>ride bike
>hardly anyone on the street
>some guy cycles past me.
>he screams "Hey"
>Ignore him since I didn't think it was to me.
>He turns around and follows me
>think "Did I drop something? Nice of him to bring it back"
>he arives
>"why the **** were you looking at me like that? are you picking a fight?"
>Had to explain that I look grumpy when I'm neutral
>Guy drugged up and **** . Pretty scary
>Turn it around and thank him for making me aware that I should pay more attention to my facial expression and that this could come in handy later.
>Assshat has no idea what got to him
>"Well... eh.... don't do it again"
>"I won't. Have a good day"
>Think of 100 ways I could have murdered that bastard until I reach the pizza take-out.
The introvert extrovert specturm is weird to me, I believe I am an introvert, but at the same time I find myself engaging in extroverted tendancies.
I enjoy being with (Small) groups of people, I enjoy being on stage and working with people to put on a show for large groups of people, but at the same time I hate being boxed in in a crowd of people and will always try to find the edge of the crowd if I find myself in a group of people larger than say... 7.
It is just weird we tend to look at it in binary terms, either one or the other
once when discussing our relationship, i handed my girlfriend my phone with what i wanted to say rather than saying it. that's how much i resonate with the last one.
I've always been so weirded out when people ask my i'm not smiling, do people just smile all the time? all day ery day? or is there some hidden rule i never learned that you have to smile every minute you're with your friends?
That second-to-last one really gets me. I'll be minding my own business in a supermarket or something, and people come up to me and tell me to smile? I know they're just trying to be nice or something, but it's just... really? What, my facial expression isn't adequate for you?
Come to Finland. I rarely smile and have a resting bitch face, and no one has ever told me to smile. Really, why should you have a certain expression when you're somewhere where it's not necessary?
Well it can be very much mixed. I actually have mad "people skills" and often enjoy long conversations etc. The thing is when I have fun in company of people it can be greatest fun on earth and it still drains me like hell and even mediocre neutral alone time always recharges me. If I am for example denied alone time due to various reasons I go bonkers. I become agressive retarded squirrel on acid.
i don't know , depends on the food , I mean sex is effort and sometimes you have to interact with the other person after it's over ... the rest is spot on .
well people are individuals after all. you're free to think of us as anti social beta faggots while I'm free to think of you as a closed minded ******** . I only responded because I got triggered.