I'm so strong. . BEING SINGLE MEANS YOU' RE STRONG ENOUGH TO WAIT FOR WHAT YOU
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#9 - lech (12/04/2013) [-]
#21 - walmartysnextghost (12/04/2013) [-]
am I the only person that sees people obsessing over trying to find a relationship and just wonders why? I could see it being nice but I feel like the more you worry about it the more you're going to try to force something that isn't going to work or over react when it doesn't live up to your expectations. Nothing really bothers me more than someone asking you why you're single, like that's something you should try to fix instead of something that's just a simple fact.
User avatar #40 to #21 - lukap (12/04/2013) [-]
You need a person to love and have a romantic relationship in your life
Saying you don't is like saying you don't need a father or a mother
User avatar #47 to #40 - adu (12/04/2013) [-]
But.... people survive without one or both of those things all the time. I'd much rather have none at all than one that brings you nothing but suffering.
User avatar #113 to #47 - lukap (12/04/2013) [-]
How much of a ******* autist do you have to be to say relationships bring nothing but suffering . Have you ever been in one? Yeah sure there's a bad side to it but the feeling of being loved is worth it
User avatar #120 to #113 - marinepenguin (12/04/2013) [-]
Just becuase you are in a relationship doesn't mean it's a good one. I've seen dozens of relationships bring way more pain and suffering then any good.
User avatar #121 to #120 - lukap (12/04/2013) [-]
True, but that's not an excuse to abandon relationships at all
User avatar #122 to #121 - marinepenguin (12/04/2013) [-]
It's not, no. I've always been scared of the risks, but I'm currently in a relationships that's been going for almost 9 months. I've never been happier.

Just like anything else in life, there's a chance for success or failure, you just have to take risks and learn from your mistakes. Leading a life where you refuse to risk anything is leading a life full of regret.
User avatar #132 to #121 - adu (12/04/2013) [-]
Well, that's not what I'm saying at all. A mutual love and understanding between two people is one of the most beautiful things you can find in this life, I truly believe that. I was just pointing out the fact that being single is STILL better than being in a ****** relationship (not all relationships are ****** ). Yeah all of them have ups and downs, but if you're being manipulated by a significant other or are abused or neglected emotionally, then sometimes it's better without them, you know?
#141 to #113 - walmartysnextghost (12/05/2013) [-]
This was uncalled for
#140 to #40 - walmartysnextghost (12/05/2013) [-]
I respectfully disagree
User avatar #84 to #40 - laelaps (12/04/2013) [-]
uhh, ya know there are people who have lost their mother or father at very young ages and have gone through life without a major parent role in their lives, and guess what they turn out fine. Just as well and sometimes even better than those who had both parental roles. Your argument works against you, you don't need a romantic relationship just as much as you don't need a father or a mother
User avatar #112 to #84 - lukap (12/04/2013) [-]
Fatherless or motherless children usually have problems because of it.
Of course there's plenty of them who turn out normal but it would always be better for them to have one
User avatar #64 to #40 - revengeforfreeze (12/04/2013) [-]
Hahaha, what?

Are you serious right now?
#72 to #21 - anon (12/04/2013) [-]
I've wondered the same thing. I mean I'd love to be in a relationship right now and honestly i could be but I've got my job, education, and family to worry about a little first.
#37 to #21 - fecal ONLINE (12/04/2013) [-]
that's just plain old human psyche man. Always a good reminder of how much we are not logic creatures when I find myself or others bein ridiculous over trying to find or forget a gf
#53 - mrhazzy ONLINE (12/04/2013) [-]
Be me.   
Be 21.   
Be Virgin.   
Single.... for 21 years.  My parents think I'm gay, My mother is concerned why I don't have any lady friends. My father makes gay jokes, so he doesn't have to ask me to my face if I am gay...   
   
I'm straight.   
   
   
MFW
Be me.
Be 21.
Be Virgin.
Single.... for 21 years. My parents think I'm gay, My mother is concerned why I don't have any lady friends. My father makes gay jokes, so he doesn't have to ask me to my face if I am gay...

I'm straight.


MFW
#69 to #53 - larfang ONLINE (12/04/2013) [-]
I'm in the same boat bro, only I've managed to get lucky 3 times  all people I never even went out with     
   
I've had 1 real boyfriend, however we had a mutual break up, because he felt he had no "power" over me.  asswipe tried to tell me not to smoke or drink and tried to control different aspects of my life  And my parents started to think I was lesbian.    
   
Anyways, what I've come to see is that there will be someone eventually. You're just 21, you still have plenty of time to get out there and enjoy the single life. Trust me, relationships don't always lead to what you expect a relationship to be.
I'm in the same boat bro, only I've managed to get lucky 3 times all people I never even went out with

I've had 1 real boyfriend, however we had a mutual break up, because he felt he had no "power" over me. asswipe tried to tell me not to smoke or drink and tried to control different aspects of my life And my parents started to think I was lesbian.

Anyways, what I've come to see is that there will be someone eventually. You're just 21, you still have plenty of time to get out there and enjoy the single life. Trust me, relationships don't always lead to what you expect a relationship to be.
User avatar #78 to #53 - laelaps (12/04/2013) [-]
I feel ya bro, just turned 21 this week, girlfriendless my whole life also. While my dad isn't as blunt as yours is, I can tell he thinks I'm gay, just because whenever he makes a joke or statement that would be offensive to gay people he has to jokingly play it off and say that he really doesn't think that (essentially covering his bases since he suspects I'm gay). My mother really isn't involved or care about my private life.

Totally straight, just really enjoy single life, and am not girl crazy.
User avatar #128 to #53 - ryanburry (12/04/2013) [-]
Same here man. I just lack the confidence to approach and talk to females.
#55 to #53 - dabombmanater (12/04/2013) [-]
Exact same scenario as you. Except most of my friends are female (and taken) and it adds even more to my parents thinking im gay
#71 to #55 - mopeye (12/04/2013) [-]
Same here. Although at least I pretty sure my parents don't think I'm gay. I do constantly get bugged about not having any female friends though. By both parents, grandparents, and other relatives.
User avatar #58 to #55 - mrhazzy ONLINE (12/04/2013) [-]
It aint the bestest feel, is it?
#31 - jalthelas (12/04/2013) [-]
Why did I think of this?
User avatar #20 - hsm (12/04/2013) [-]
I know how to start a relationship but i don't know how to maintain it. It's like ''Okay you're my girlfriend and i'm your boyfriend. Now what?''
#35 to #20 - anon (12/04/2013) [-]
You can watch approximately 806 youtube videos on what we girls like/find cute. But if my advice means anything, when it comes down to it, just get to know her as a person. You don't have to agree on everything or have everything in common. You each have your own likes and dislikes, and not being glued to each other 24/7 makes you a lot less annoying to each other (and to everyone around you). Don't be boring-explore your city and go do **** . For presents, it really is the thought that counts (unless she's a materialistic, ungrateful brat but I'm hoping you have better judgement)-use what you know about her to help you find something. And I don't mean her favorite color or some weak **** like that-find out what she's passionate about, what makes her feel better when feeling ****** , etc. And lastly, talk to each other, not at each other. Communication is a BIG make-or-break factor. If you want to say something, say it or you will start to resent them (and they you). Hope that helped : )
User avatar #39 to #35 - hsm (12/04/2013) [-]
Sounds like a lot of work!!
#127 to #39 - theinfamouschad (12/04/2013) [-]
It is a lot a work. But the point is it's worth it, because the other person makes your life that much better.
User avatar #42 to #20 - huszti (12/04/2013) [-]
it's the opposite for me. we should team up
#44 to #20 - zyraa (12/04/2013) [-]
I thought so too, but when you're in a relationship it just comes naturally(when you fit together that is), watch movies, make delicious food, or just play games while she watches gossip girl, everyone wins.
I thought so too, but when you're in a relationship it just comes naturally(when you fit together that is), watch movies, make delicious food, or just play games while she watches gossip girl, everyone wins.
User avatar #45 to #44 - hsm (12/04/2013) [-]
I have been in two relationships, the entire experience was 'meh'. As i said i don't know what to do anymore since relationship is sort of an upgrade from being good friends i suppose. In my case the two girls i dated were both my long time friends. I was very natural with both of them being a friend and all but when the relationship started, i had no idea what to do and uncomfortable. Like we can't act like we used to, we're a level higher now, but it does'nt feel any higher. Stupid thoughts and paranoia follow.
User avatar #50 to #45 - helenwheels (12/04/2013) [-]
Wrong.
A girlfriend or boyfriend
Is just a best friend you get to **** .
User avatar #62 to #50 - douthit (12/04/2013) [-]
But your friends don't want to stop being friends if you don't feel like going somewhere, nor notice that they got a new haircut, or didn't buy them something and drool all over them on their birthday.
User avatar #133 to #62 - helenwheels (12/04/2013) [-]
If that's happening that means you did something and they don't know how to tell you what.

my advice? Cry.
#59 to #45 - zyraa (12/04/2013) [-]
Well, then it's another case. When you have been friends with them a long time before actually getting in a relationship I see that it can be a bit weird. Rule of thumb never try to go in a relationship with a long time friend, you either get friendzoned or it's just weird, as in your case, good luck dude.
User avatar #75 to #59 - hsm (12/04/2013) [-]
That might be it!!
User avatar #46 to #45 - hsm (12/04/2013) [-]
I know i'm in the wrong here, but that's my point. I don't know how to maintain a relationship but i am awesome in starting them.
User avatar #51 to #20 - gglai (12/04/2013) [-]
its probably because both of you ONLY like each other but you don't really KNOW each other. For example, with your best friend you never run out of things to do or talk because you know him, now a girlfriend is supposed to be even more than a best friend, think about it. This is why you have to be friends with her first and then from there, break out of the friendzone.
User avatar #49 to #48 - hsm (12/04/2013) [-]
Ain't that easy.
#89 - bluedwarf (12/04/2013) [-]
I didn't even need to open it
User avatar #17 - hudis (12/04/2013) [-]
Here's a question: Is it normal to simply not care whether you have a girlfriend or not?
User avatar #22 to #17 - ivoryhammer (12/04/2013) [-]
Yeah, I'm really indifferent about having a girlfriend, dating sucks, and I'm too ugly.
User avatar #18 to #17 - jopemon (12/04/2013) [-]
Yeah i feel the same way for a while now, people seem to keep asking about if i'm seeing anyone or whatever, but i just dont really care about it.
User avatar #29 to #17 - thisotherdude (12/04/2013) [-]
Have you never had the desire? Or have you come to terms with the fact your an ugly autist who will never have any change and has just stopped giving a **** ?

Because the second one is fairly common for men such as us.
User avatar #77 to #29 - daentraya (12/04/2013) [-]
Girl here. The trend is also found in female specimens, but in unknown numbers. Seizing to give dahms, ***** and **** is a splendid coping method, and now I cant really see the value of romantic relationship when a good solid friendship will carry you so much further without the additional hassle
User avatar #33 to #29 - hudis (12/04/2013) [-]
Well, I've had the desire and I've had two girlfriends, but nowadays I just don't think about it.
#88 - sphinxe (12/04/2013) [-]
So if you'e not single you're weak and you've settled for something?
So if you'e not single you're weak and you've settled for something?
#76 - scupper (12/04/2013) [-]
Tfw I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me yesterday.
Tfw I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me yesterday.
User avatar #79 to #76 - darksideofthebeast (12/04/2013) [-]
In what way?
User avatar #80 to #79 - scupper (12/04/2013) [-]
In what way he was cheating on me?

His friend showed me his messages on Skype, he was telling another girl that he wanted to be with each other and she just had to be patient. They also exchanged a lot of naked pictures.
it was our 9 month anniversary when I found out too
User avatar #83 to #80 - darksideofthebeast (12/04/2013) [-]
Should have invited him in your bedroom for sex and then ripped his cock off.

That's pretty messed up what he did though.
#109 to #80 - Chitzu (12/04/2013) [-]
Ohhh, I'm so sorry that happened to you. What a douche. I wouldn't ever want to be in your position... I'd flip so many 			*****		. So. Many. 			*****		.
Ohhh, I'm so sorry that happened to you. What a douche. I wouldn't ever want to be in your position... I'd flip so many ***** . So. Many. ***** .
#124 to #80 - thefriendlyduck (12/04/2013) [-]
I would like to choke this ("male") bitch to death. No pity for such people. I hope you get well soon, because this bitch isnt worth your anger and pain! It's good that his friend showed this to you, so he couldnt waist even more of your life time with his childish reckless player bitch games. One day he will get what he deserves, because beeing a bitch will be unhealthy someday. Somewhere is a real guy for you.

And however, having no boyfriend/girlfriend is better than having people like him. Keep your head up

User avatar #81 to #80 - scupper (12/04/2013) [-]
He wanted to be with her** Sorry.
#91 - sweetellie (12/04/2013) [-]
No, I'm single because I'm weak and I'm way too scared that I'm gonna get hurt  among many other things . Just because you're single it doesn't mean you're "strong".
No, I'm single because I'm weak and I'm way too scared that I'm gonna get hurt among many other things . Just because you're single it doesn't mean you're "strong".
User avatar #96 to #91 - iphraem (12/04/2013) [-]
yea, most girls under the age of 20 are like that
User avatar #97 to #96 - sweetellie (12/04/2013) [-]
Then why do most of them have boyfriends all the time?
User avatar #99 to #97 - iphraem (12/04/2013) [-]
well I know around 63 girls in that age and 5 of them have a boyfriend.. So I wouldnt say that most of them have one. yea I really counted them
User avatar #100 to #99 - sweetellie (12/04/2013) [-]
Oh, I'm just generalizing.
User avatar #101 to #100 - iphraem (12/04/2013) [-]
Do you know enough of girls in that age to be able to generalize?
User avatar #102 to #101 - sweetellie (12/04/2013) [-]
I'm not gonna sit here and count them, but most girls I know have had at least one boyfriend or they want to have one. (I only know girls because boys intimidate me)
User avatar #103 to #102 - iphraem (12/04/2013) [-]
I have some experience with girls ( yea even if I m a member of fj) and I do know that theres a BIG difference between saying you want a boyfriend and actually wanting a boyfriend. Girls say alot of things and dont actually mean it. Some even claim to have a boyfriend to seem popular.
#95 to #91 - zerolizer (12/04/2013) [-]
**zerolizer rolled a random image posted in comment #2806 at Friendly ** You need some Jesus.
#52 - mainerva (12/04/2013) [-]
I hate it when people force me to go on dates and get a relationship. Why can't some people just understand that i don't WANT a relationship yet. I WANT to work on getting a stable career and a secure future first BEFORE i even consider getting a relationship. Being in a relationship means being responsible, being able to provide not just for yourself but also for your partner and vice versa. If i'm not responsible enough to handle my own expenses or even feed myself then why the **** would i want to get a relationship where i need to take responsibility for both of us....

you have no idea how many times i've been called a lesbian just because i told them i have other priorities...
#56 to #52 - mrdrprofbraeden (12/04/2013) [-]
how the **** does someone force you to go on a date?
#126 to #56 - mainerva (12/04/2013) [-]
Well for one they trick me. They say we're going to a movie/client meeting/lunchout etc just us, the gang or me and my best friend, then bam they bring the guy a long and they leave me to fend for myself. Sometimes they just verbally force me to like just keep going on and on about how it's good for me.
User avatar #82 to #52 - laelaps (12/04/2013) [-]
I think this is the first time I have laughed at the doge meme, that pic is good. Also, my basic philosophy is happiness is something that needs to come from yourself, and its pathetic if you have to rely on other to make you happy. Committed to this idea, I have found ways to be truly happy with myself and by myself, the only problem is, this discourages me from finding a relationship because I am so content with myself and my life that I really don't want it to change so why even bother looking for a relationship?
User avatar #114 to #82 - lukap (12/04/2013) [-]
Humans are social creatures we need others to be happy, the only reason we are such an advanced race is because of our communication skills, If you think you dont need others to be happy you are retarded
User avatar #131 to #114 - laelaps (12/04/2013) [-]
okay, well obviously I'm not advocating complete isolation and incommunication as a way to achieve happiness. Obviously everyday is filled with hundred of human interactions so you technically need other to be happy. My point is you don't need a romantic relationship, bf/gf, to be happy. Humans are social creature I acknowledge this, but I have plenty of fulfilling friendships that satisfy this role, and I need nothing more to be happy.
#138 to #82 - mainerva (12/04/2013) [-]
I have slightly the same opinion with you. I'm kind of a socially awkward introvert so i prefer to be alone sometimes but i'd love to be in the company of a few good friends(which is around 3 or 5, anything more than 7 or 10 stresses me out) So you can imagine the pressure of going out alone with someone i barely know. Right now i'm happy with just having friends. dating... it really depends. I don't feel the need to have a romantic or sexual relationship, but that doesn't mean that if someone asks me out i'm not going to give it a try. But getting into a relationship is the least of my worries and i just wish people would stop making such a big fuzz about it. There's more to life than being in a relationship and getting laid.
User avatar #142 to #138 - laelaps (12/05/2013) [-]
True that, the problem is, it is nearly impossible to articulate that idea with out being seen as a neckbeard beta faggot who can't get a gf. It's rather annoying, and I might be bothered by it if I gave a damn about what anyone else thinks, but I don't so I'm ok with it.
#144 to #142 - articulate ONLINE (12/05/2013) [-]
lol shut up beta neckbeard faggot. I bet you just can't get a girlfriend.
#129 to #52 - Exar (12/04/2013) [-]
You won't really grow as a person if you don't have the pressure from a relationship at the same time you are working on getting a stable career.

If you can't handle both at the same time now, you won't be able to later. Having a stable career isn't an easy achievement. By the time you think you have a stable career you will have never dated anyone.

In the society we live in now, many people date until they find the right person. Going without dating until you're practically an adult may put you at a serious disadvantage especially when there are others who have been around the block a few times.

I'm not saying you won't have a stable career some day or you won't be successful dating until you are stable, but you're never going to know if you can handle both a career and a relationship until you actually try.

It never hurts to go on a date. You might find that a relationship makes you a happier person and you perform better at school and your job as a result.
#137 to #129 - mainerva (12/04/2013) [-]
I understand your point, i've always told them that if it happens then it happens. If someone asks me out on a date then okay as long as the guy isn't a creep about it or isn't forcing me to go then i'll give it a whirl. I just hate it when people force things like these to me like it's the most important thing ever and if i don't do it i'll never be complete. I'm fine with dating but if someone doesn't want to go out and get a relationship don't force them to (I'm not referring to you btw) . I don't like it when people start lecturing me about dating when i can see that they themselves aren't really credible source for relationship or dating advice since they can't even handle the relationship they're in properly.
#1 - cptmctavish (12/03/2013) [-]
yeah.... and in some cases it means, that you want to **** without the ****** relationship stuff....

mfw responsibillity in a relationship
User avatar #8 to #1 - nervaaurelius (12/03/2013) [-]
***** wants the pussy without the commitment. Nothing wrong with that.
#2 to #1 - anon (12/03/2013) [-]
That's either sad or dumb. Either you are afraid to grow up, or you're just a manchild
User avatar #3 to #2 - cptmctavish (12/03/2013) [-]
Just didn't found the right one yet.
Sounds gay I know, but that's why.
User avatar #4 to #3 - xolotyl **User deleted account** (12/03/2013) [-]
That doesn't sound gay
User avatar #5 to #4 - cptmctavish (12/03/2013) [-]
Are you anon?
If yes, question:
and what is sad/dumb in the fact, that you know what you want and act like it? I don't get it, please explain yourself.
#24 to #5 - anon (12/04/2013) [-]
Before your second comment I thought you were just one out of the many males out there in today's society that only looks for cheap relationships that leads to sex.

have no respect for those types of people so I commented without thinking, but hey it's FJ what did you expect.
User avatar #6 to #5 - xolotyl **User deleted account** (12/03/2013) [-]
That wasn't me, sorry
User avatar #7 to #2 - jackmanagan (12/03/2013) [-]
right. because in your youth you shouldnt party at all... every girl you bone, you gotta date seriously for years and/or marry. ******* neckbeards/legbeards
User avatar #10 to #7 - lolollo (12/04/2013) [-]
Or he's talking about the general disinterest in just viewing women as meat you can stick your dick in.
#23 to #10 - anon (12/04/2013) [-]
I thought people like you were extinct.   
*pat pat* maybe there's some hope after all..
I thought people like you were extinct.
*pat pat* maybe there's some hope after all..
User avatar #11 to #10 - jackmanagan (12/04/2013) [-]
theres a happy medium between being a man whore and disrespecting women, and being a lovey dovey douche that falls in love with any girl that touches his dick.
User avatar #13 to #11 - lolollo (12/04/2013) [-]
Point is the whole "If everyone can stop being dicks for like 5 minutes..." thing applies to this situation. To each his own, so long as we can stop making ridiculous assumptions about each other.
User avatar #12 to #11 - lolollo (12/04/2013) [-]
Yes.

You have a preference to have meaningless sex, and we have a preference to know a woman on an emotional level before we do physically.

We call you a manwhore, you call us loser virgins. It's a sad system.
User avatar #15 to #12 - jackmanagan (12/04/2013) [-]
i never said that. just calling out anon on him slandering cptmac on another preference. #2. i have a gf right now, we both understand theres a difference between ******* , and making love. out of respect for one another we dont screw around, regarless of our feelings on the subject.
User avatar #36 to #7 - seras (12/04/2013) [-]
Make the world a better place and kill yourself.
#115 - johrny (12/04/2013) [-]
"You sure don't wanna mess with me."
#86 - anon (12/04/2013) [-]
gah I hate this 'I deserve' business. No one owes you anything.
#85 - knightmrku (12/04/2013) [-]
Sorry OP
#60 - toiletpaperkid (12/04/2013) [-]
Oh So it means that I've been strong enough during all my puberty, right funnyjunk?
actually I had many opportunities of stop being single, but they were all landwahles. So I'm happy with never lowering my standards
User avatar #61 to #60 - hashtaghate **User deleted account** (12/04/2013) [-]
You should have taken the land whale, you2 would have been the perfect match
#43 - ponyplush (12/04/2013) [-]
Im weak , test failed
User avatar #14 - Aleafe (12/04/2013) [-]
i have alot of dances and **** coming up but with no girl and im kind of scared
User avatar #54 to #14 - badsamaritan (12/04/2013) [-]
Got two hands right? If so then you have two girlfriends.
User avatar #25 to #14 - snyder (12/04/2013) [-]
**** that! you see a girl and want to ask her, ask her. this was my biggest mistake throughout my highschool career. yeah you could go alone and maaaaybe find someone there, but **** it give it a chance. time to be all manly and **** , ill believe in you if you wont.
#68 - thisguyionceknew (12/04/2013) [-]
****		 guess that means I'm weak.    
   
More power to you neck-bearded 			****		 heads.
**** guess that means I'm weak.

More power to you neck-bearded **** heads.
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