Confession Bear. It sort of feels good to get this off my chest. My dad did this when I was about 2, so I didn't see him for a long time, about 10 years. My mum
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Confession Bear

Confession Bear. It sort of feels good to get this off my chest. My dad did this when I was about 2, so I didn't see him for a long time, about 10 years. My mum

It sort of feels good to get this off my chest. My dad did this when I was about 2, so I didn't see him for a long time, about 10 years. My mum is worried that he abused me (I'm a girl) but I don't really remember much of my childhood, like literally, it comes up blank, and to be honest, I don't want to remember. I'm 22 now and me and my dad get on great, but every now and again i remember what he did, and I can't look at him without feeling upset/angry/sick. I don't talk to him about it because I want to stay ignorant, and the reason I don't tell my friends is that they've met him and really like him, and I don't want them to be disgusted by him, not even my long term boyfriend knows, and I'm gonna try damn hard to keep it that way. But yeah, this has made me feel quite a lot better being able to tell the truth about this. Thanks FJ

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#25 - jasonhasnolife (12/02/2013) [-]
use the real confession bear faggot.
#41 - mrfumbles (12/02/2013) [-]
people change. look at vegeta for instance.
people change. look at vegeta for instance.
User avatar #42 to #41 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
You know...I like that, I like that a lot, thanks
#2 - anon (12/02/2013) [-]
im curious why tell this to people who dont give a **** , when telling your ACTUAL friends is the better idea
User avatar #3 to #2 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
That's exactly why, you guys DON'T give a **** , compared to if I told my friends they would probably give a lot of ***** . The one person I told when I was about 15/16 ended up completely avoiding me and hasn't spoken to me in years :/
User avatar #4 to #3 - shumdek ONLINE (12/02/2013) [-]
Then you really need some new friends, mate. If a really good friend of mine told me his dad had done the same, I'd just think "tough luck, anything you need?" And then depening on how good friends, and humour etc, maybe pull a joke once in a while. Humour helps a lot of problems.
User avatar #35 to #4 - schmuxy (12/02/2013) [-]
Don't forget this is also out of consideration for her Dad.
User avatar #48 to #35 - shumdek ONLINE (12/02/2013) [-]
Yeah I know. That's why it's always important to know the boundries of the person etc. And keep it between yourselves. No reason to go and spread **** about her dad for no reason. I understand completely, but sometimes it can really help the individual. But again, it really ******* depends on the person.

TL;DR Don't cross the line and help as much as you can. Be it humor, or a hug.
User avatar #34 to #3 - schmuxy (12/02/2013) [-]
Actually I completely agree with what you've done. Something like that would disgust a lot of people, so telling a bunch of people who don't really care is the safest way of telling someone.
#52 to #51 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
Thank you
Thank you
#53 to #52 - twistedwoodthing (12/02/2013) [-]
Any time, dear heart, any time.
Any time, dear heart, any time.
User avatar #50 - stipulateprism (12/02/2013) [-]
Reading through the comments would make it appear that most people on this site are assholes, nothing new I know, but I just wanted to say I am glad you could find some comfort in this. Venting to faceless people really does help sometimes.
User avatar #49 - toxicchameleon (12/02/2013) [-]
I'm glad someone finally used these meme correctly, rather than just thumbwhoring with something like "I not so SECRETLY THINK RELIGIOUS PEOPLE AR DUM!!!"
#47 - palindromia (12/02/2013) [-]
you should at least tell your boyfriend. if this long term thing with him becomes life term it wouldnt be fair to keep this secret when it could cause problems later on.

just my one and nine tenths cents
#28 - comradvlad (12/02/2013) [-]
OK I can make this work. Now tell me were he touched you while i get oiled up.
#18 - whydoesthishappen (12/02/2013) [-]
WE DON'T CARE
User avatar #32 to #18 - darksideofthebeast (12/02/2013) [-]
Thumb him back up guys!
#39 to #32 - randomwanker (12/02/2013) [-]
bitch
bitch
#40 to #39 - darksideofthebeast (12/02/2013) [-]
Cunt.   
   
Have a nice gif.   
   
 Also, you're a dumb bitch for thumbing him down, that's what he wants!
Cunt.

Have a nice gif.

Also, you're a dumb bitch for thumbing him down, that's what he wants!
User avatar #45 to #40 - randomwanker (12/02/2013) [-]
I didn't thumb him
#31 to #18 - granodd (12/02/2013) [-]
Comment Picture
User avatar #20 to #18 - Lintutu (12/02/2013) [-]
I care
User avatar #21 to #20 - christheace (12/02/2013) [-]
ME TOO
User avatar #22 to #21 - thebrownydestroyer **User deleted account** (12/02/2013) [-]
ME THREE
#26 to #22 - mistercock (12/02/2013) [-]
AND MY AXE
#7 to #6 - gagonmycack (12/02/2013) [-]
Lol coming from the account name "rarityrarityrarity"
#8 to #7 - rarityrarityrarity (12/02/2013) [-]
coming form the account name chokeonmydick
#9 to #8 - gagonmycack (12/02/2013) [-]
That's gagonmycack to you, buddy.
User avatar #10 to #9 - rarityrarityrarity (12/02/2013) [-]
I've made up my mind, pal.
#56 to #10 - gagonmycack (12/03/2013) [-]
I'm not your pal, friend!
#19 - thismustbeseen (12/02/2013) [-]
Bro, venting to the internet will not solve your problems.
#27 to #19 - anon (12/02/2013) [-]
What part of ''its good to get this off my chest'' and ''im gonna try damn hard to keep it that way'' did you not understand?
She does not want the problem solved, she wants to believe there is no problem to solve.
User avatar #38 to #27 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
Thank you for defending me, but it's not that I don't want to beleive there's a problem, I just like to think he's over it so we can move on with our lives, though that sounds selfish on my part I suppose :/

But still, thank you
User avatar #30 to #27 - kaiizel (12/02/2013) [-]
Because that seems healthy...
#1 - anon (12/02/2013) [-]
lel'd
#16 to #1 - sockswithsandals (12/02/2013) [-]
please shut up
please shut up
User avatar #55 - kalima (12/03/2013) [-]
At least he didnt expose you to those young girls... I feel for ya though, my mom and dad split when I was young also.
User avatar #54 - sardinez (12/03/2013) [-]
When I was 5 or 6 I got molested at my school by a senior, we had a trailer in this patch of woods by our track, and I was a naive kid and thought he wanted to play with me and the only recollection I have of the whole ordeal is him whipping his dick out all of a sudden and after that I remember nothing.. not sure why I never told anyone except a past gf and an old friend but yeah
#33 - chords (12/02/2013) [-]
my dad has schizophrenia , and was never in my childhood . hes done some pretty stupid stuff , of course not his fault but whats done has been done . so hes stayed in his room for 12 years , hasnt left once . i know how it feels to not have a father figure .
good luck with it OP
#29 - anon (12/02/2013) [-]
Mine is apparently a pedophile

This explains why there was no question about my Mom getting custody.
User avatar #23 - jammyz (12/02/2013) [-]
I had a close family member who did they same.

I understand 100% how you feel.

Only difference is, my relative is in jail now.
and I hope he rots there.
User avatar #24 to #23 - jammyz (12/02/2013) [-]
The*
#15 - anon (12/02/2013) [-]
my mother was flashed by a guy while she was walking home and he was in his car, she was about 13.
User avatar #11 - karson (12/02/2013) [-]
how young? like super pedophile young?


sorry if I'm coming across as harsh right now, one of my old neighbors was a pedo, and I always thought he was a piece of **** . I can't imagine what your situation is like.
User avatar #12 to #11 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
They were 12-13 I think, walking home from school and he was in his car. I don't like to sound like I'm making excuses for my dad, but he wasn't put on the sex offenders register (though for a while I thought he should have been) so I don't know if he's classed as a pedo. He (apparently) didn't have any sexual attraction to the girls, he just snapped and had no excuse for what he did.
User avatar #13 to #12 - karson (12/02/2013) [-]
I was going to ask more questions, but I'm sure it's a sensitive subject for you. How do you feel about him? My dad is a dick and I largely dislike him, but he has never done anything illegal like that. he's done some immoral and spineless **** , but never anything like that. do you want to forgive him? or have little to do with him?

I sincerely apologize if this is too personal for you to handle, but I'm just trying to better understand. If you don't want to talk about it, I'd understand.
User avatar #14 to #13 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
It's ok lol I only get upset about it if my mum talks about it.

This is all from my point of view, I have no idea what's going on in his head so I could be completely wrong.

He's very normal now, though my brother and I and my mum live away from him, have done from the very beggining of his weirdness. I forgave him when I grew more mature, when I was younger I hated him and was scared of him, even when we met him in a contact centre (a safe place for kids and their parents/guardians to meet under supervision) But I started to think that maybe he wasn't weird any more. He can be grumpy and snappy and pessimistic and sometimes when he's like that I remember what he did, but he has the best sense of humour and loves me and my brother unconditionally. We all (my mum included) have a great relationship with him, and I admit because I didn't see him for so long I'm a huge daddys girl. I feel like if I were to have kids, I would worry a bit, but I feel like I need to trust him or else he won't have a proper relationship with his grandkids.

I feel so sorry for the kids it happened to, I can't imagine what trauma they went through and I really hope that they haven't been scarred by it.

So yeah, I suppose I've forgiven him, and I hope to god he's normal, if he did it again I don't think I would forgive him a second time, but he's my dad and I love him.
User avatar #17 to #14 - karson (12/02/2013) [-]
yeah, I can understand your worries, and not that I know much about him or his life, but all signs indicate it was a one time deal. I don't think you'll need to worry much about your grandkids, but you may still want to play it safe.
User avatar #37 to #17 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
I think I'll always be wary, it's always in the back of my mind, but I've just got to trust him I suppose. Thanks for letting me rant to, it really does feel good to get it off my chest lol
User avatar #43 to #37 - karson (12/02/2013) [-]
it's cool, I would say I don't mind, but that's not true, I actually enjoy helping people and talking about their issues for some reason. Maybe I should be a therapist. I'm usually pretty bored here anyways. I know how it feels to hold something in, I witnessed my uncle's suicide this past summer and it ****** with my head pretty bad, and I never told anyone about it. I still kinda have some issues from it I think, since I used to be the loud class clown, but now I'm just quiet and hardly talk at all. I really don't know why. but I digress, talking to someone about it (even if just in an internet comments section) made me feel a little better about it all.
User avatar #44 to #43 - raiterra (12/02/2013) [-]
Same, cause I don't know you guys, you can judge all you like but I won't be bothered by it, not to sound cruel or anything, it's just easier telling strangers some how
User avatar #46 to #44 - karson (12/02/2013) [-]
bingo, my thoughts exactly. you can talk about all your problems without fear of judgement. if someone has positive comments for you, that's great and it helps you. And if some dick says something negative, hey, it's just some person on the internet, who cares?
User avatar #5 - cousin (12/02/2013) [-]
Sounds like a hell of a party.
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